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I'm Mary. I'm a sophomore in college and I love helping people. If you ever need advice or someone to talk to I'm here for you! Never hesitate to ask or message me. Hope I can help!
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ive been friend with Rachel for 4 years (since freshman year of highschool) she use to be a quiet nerdy kinda of girl and i took her in and she started to smoke weed and become her own person.
senior year we smoekd every day tofetehr and left school so much i smoked literlly evry day and it was so fun. we had the best adventures and obviously the worst of time sometimes.
our weed-phase leaked into the summer and we were smoking a lot but arguing more and getting on each others nrerve more and more.
we got into a fight and next thing i know rachel is ending our friedship. her therapist told her im no good for her (since ims ure she painted the most horriable picture of me to ehr therapist) and she wanst to meet IN PERSON to talk and basically end our frendship.
my therpist told me that wen she tells mer her side of it and tells me she feels im no good i shud say im sorry u feel tht way and end it to. we are going on the same program next year together adn i have so many friends going on it adn she has little to none so i have the upper hand but it just sucks that i look foolish if i try to fight for our frendship. i love her so much but just because her therapist says im bad she totaly flips and nees to give me a pseech in persont elling me we cant be firends.
is my therapist right in telling me that i should come out wit some pride and agreee to not be friends?
i feel so weird already agrreing to somethign that i dont agree with!
i wan tto be friends but celarly she has such a bad picture of me and htinks such awful things of me that im not fighitng a lso tbattle.
wut shud i do?
I know it may be hard that you've lost a riend, but maybe she and her therapist are right. You smoked weed, you took her in, then she started smoking weed. She didn't become her own person she started to become who you wanted her to be or at lease you influenced her, and not in a good way. You may not be able to see it but smoking pot is not a good thing, and it has obviously done a lot of damage. If you want your friend back you have to change. And even if you don't want to change to get her back, you should change to get your life back. Stop smoking and go to class. It doesn't seem like fun now but if you keep blowing shit off and doing whatever you want its gonna bite you in the ass later, trust me. Only you can decide what to do. Hope i gave you something to think about and I hope it helped.
At school I really don't have any good friends or people that I feel comfortable talking to. I never have anybody over for sleepovers and that sort of thing either. But, last year I had the most wonderful teacher that I wish was my age so that we could do all the fun "B.F.F." type things like sleepovers, the mall, etc. The thing is she moved away last June. ;( We write letters all the time and chat online, but I am just sad. It seems like my best friend moved away. I think the reason why I am so attached is because my mother and I have no relationship whatsoever and I have no siblings. How should I handle this situation? It is almost like the Matilda-Miss Honey ordeal, if you have seen the movie.
I understand how attached you must be to your teacher. It is hard to not have many friends and to not have a close relationship to your mom. I also agree that no one is too old to be your friend.
However there are some times when this kind of relationship can be appropriate. Now I know this probably isn't the case but if your teacher ever made you uncomfortable or took advantage of you physically or anything like that, that type of relationship is not okay and you should tell someone.
If it really is a Matilda-Miss Honey situation then you are very lucky that you and your teacher have such a good relationship. I think its great that keep in contact with her. Sometimes teachers can be very special and you can form long lasting relationships with them and that's completely okay and I know it must be hard to lose someone so close to you, but maybe you can visit her.
In the meantime i think it is very important that you try and make friends with kids your age. While your frienship with your teacher is wonderful, relationships with people close in age are important through life and I know how hard it is to make friends but always look for new opportunitys. Maybe tell your teacher how you feel, how much you miss her and ask for her advice.
I hope I helped and if you have any questions don't hesitate to e-mail me.
So i like this guy, he's going into high school and im going into 8th grade.(no problem, im going to be going to the same school) He took me to the 8th grade prom when my other plans cancled. He is even in my band class at school. He always listens to my problems and i help him with his. Both of us have shared about stuff normal people wouldn't and I trust him like he was my brother. We have a billion things in common and he is definately the sweetest guy i've ever met. My mom likes him too :) I talk to him about every day on myspace but i have no idea how to talk to him in real life! How do i know if he likes me? Most importantly, how do i be myself around him if i don't know what to do?
thanks,
alexa
Heyy, it seems to me that he likes you too but you can't know for sure unless you ask. You two seem like really good friends and its good to start out that way, you'll have a good foundation if things work out.
The only problem i see is when you were writing it seems like you two barely see each other in person, hopefully i misunderstood. Next time you're talking online(privately like aim, not myspace) you should tell him how you feel. You should tell him you want to be more than friends but if he doesn't feel the same way you'll understand.
It may be tough if you don't see each other a lot but if he really likes you, things will work out. Now about talking to him in person is something you can't really be taught. Practice is perfect! haha. you just have to try to relax around him and realize that he is a good friend and he likes you for who you are so you don't have to try to act any different.
Things work out with you two and that i helped you out! If you have any other questions just lemme know; good luck!!! =]
Ok so my best friend has been through a lot this year. a little while ago i was pretty much her only friend then i got her reaquanted with her old friend that moved away who was also a very good friend of mine. now the friend that moved away,becca, has this brother that i really like. and she knows that and is cool with me likeing her brother. when i introduced the other girl sarah to all of them she started liking the brother. and she knows that i have liked him for a while. then this other guy came in and his name is john. he liked me and i kinda liked him but i still like the brother a lot more.and so i didnt know what i should do about my friend because i didnt want a boy to mess up a great friendship and i really want my friend to be happy. and i kinda thought that she might back off since she knows that i have liked him. so i decided that i will have john and she can have the brother. and now they are about to become a couple. and honestly im really happy for her but it hurts and i havent been around both of them yet and im scared that i might get jealous or that its just really goin to hurt to where i cant hang out with them. i guess the main thing that i feel is that my best friend came in grabed the guy i like and doesnt realize how that makes me feel. and i have helped her through alot of hard times. i have told her how i feel about him and she says that she will back off if i want her to but what friend would acctually tell her friend to back off. ok well if anybody can acctually understand this please help. sorry its confusing
Heyy, i understand your problem and don't really agree with the other answer you got.
I do think it is really nice of you to let your friend have the brother. It may not be that she doesn't care about your feelings, she may not know that you feel so hurt. It is good that you don't want a relationship to get in the way of your friendship. To prevent this, you have to talk to her. Tell her that she has to be more aware of your feelings.
Now depending on how much you really like this guy, you can either ask them to break up or just let her know what your doing for her. If she doesn't care or back off then she doesn't have her priorities straight and you should tell her friends are more important then guys and she better realize that.
I hope this makes some sense and that i helped. I really hope it works out for you, please lemme know how it goes! =]
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this is gonna be a long one, but please take the time to read it...
my best friend.. well we were best friends for as long as i can remember. she was the one i always went to, the only one who really had my complete trust. for some reason, this school year weve grown apart. we barely say more than two words to eachother in a day anymore. although we only have one class together, thats not it cause last year we had no clases together. we used to do everything together, and i miss her and the rest of her family. were so different from each other but that never seemed to be a problem until this year. we have different friends now, and another girl came into the picture whos basically replaced me. weve both changed but that doesnt mean we cant be friends. i have other friends and ive grown apart from many of my old ones too, but i cant stand to let myself just throw away a friendship that lasted over 10 years.. the thing is we tried to work things out since both of us know things arent the same anymore. this was about half way through the school year, we said we'd hang out and talk more again but it never happened. we basically spilled everything out so it wasnt just a pointless talk we had, we made it clear that both of us missed the other. i dont know why it didnt work. i kind of blocked the whole thing out of my mind until last night when i read a note she wrote to me when we tried to fix things. the first line says "i dont know what i did for you to not like me as a friend anymore, but im sorry." i read that line, which the first time i read had no effect on me, but this time i broke down. cause thats the thing, she did nothing and neither did i. it just happened and i hate it, i want to fix things for real. summer is coming up and if we dont figure things out soon maybe we never will.
i would be thankful for any advice whatsoever.. i need it.
Heyy, I understand your problem completely. I have had almost the exact same issue.
Usually, there is an underlying issue that causes two people to grow apart. For example (this is dumb) you were going out with someone she liked and she told you it was okay, but she really minded it.(or the other way around) Things like this, if not communicated could do serious damage to relationships.
I used to send notes to my friend and things didn't get resolved that way.
Your best bet is to go up to her and tell her that, you miss her so much and you feel like you have to make it work.
If she values the friendship as much as you, she'll agree and you guys should talk everything over that has gone on over the past year.
Hopefully, you'll find the problem and fix it.
Also, you may not want to hear this but sometimes people do grow a part and even if they want to fix it, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Don't get me wrong, you should try very hard to get your best friend back. but just keep in the back of your mind that it may not work.
I really hope I helped, and you and you friend get back to the way things were, I get what its like to be so close with someone and even their family. Good luck!
There's this girl, she's a jerk, I really don't like her, she flirts with my boyfriend, and like 5 of my friends boyfriends, and we're all sick of it, what do we do? We shouldn't have to compete with our own boyfriends, so don't say "flirt a lot" because trust me, WE HAVE. Please help!!!
Heyy, i know exactlyyyy what you mean. Believe it or not, you will meet a lot of people like this. In reality, this girl is probably flirting like this because she is insecure with herself and it boosts her confidence to see the guys pay attention to her. I mean, you kinda have to feel bad for it. I know it is insanely aggravating though.
If she keeps doing this to you and your friends one day you should go up to her and nicely (or she might think you're attacking) say something like, I noticed you like to flirt a lot with my bf and i would really appreciate if you would stop because it makes me uncomfortable. If she still doesn't stop just keep telling her to (maybe not as nicely the next time =])
Also, let your boyfriend now how you feel, chances are he'll understand and you won't have to feel like you have to compete with the flirter. Good luck! and Hope I helped!
i have a problem of getting annoyed with people way too easily. its how i lose half my friends b/c once you get on my nerves its like i dont wanna hangout with you anymore. then i get called a bitch and i seem to be losing more and more friends.. and maybe i am a bitch. help?!
Heyy, don't call yourself a bitch. I've known someone like this before. Getting irritated at someone easily may just be a phase for you. You have to remember that everyone has habits and things that will get on your nerves, you just have to keep hanging out with them and try to look past the small stuff. I mean, if you didn't talk to everyone who did dumb stuff, you would never talk to anyoneee. Haha, well, it's true. So try not to be so critical of the little stuff that other people do. Also, if a friend calls you a bitch to your face or behind your back, thats the friend you may not want to keep, or you should to talk to them and let them know whats up. So try to keep hanging with people instead of ignoring them, hope I helped!