Hi,My name is Beck and I am 23 years old. I am currently attending a RMIT dental school in Melbourne Australia to get my qualifications. I have been with my partner for nearly 6 years now and have been married for 1 of those 6 years. I love to help people in any way that I can. Please don't be afraid to ask me a question.
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Please help! My best friend has all of a sudden since she got back from her clubbing holiday started seeing this guy. I know he isnt right and his family do drugs and it wouldnt suprise me if he did aswell, my friend doesnt see any wrong in him and is going on dates with him thinking hes 'sweet' and caring. Im not jealous its just since she came back from her holiday she still acts like shes in ibiza, trying to get with all the guys. I dont know what to think/to do. your advice please... thank you!! (link)
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I think the best thing to do is support her in what she feels. You can tell her that you are worried about her and to be careful but don't tell her what to do. She will eventually see something different in this guy she's seeing and end up breaking it off with him. You will have to be ready to be her rock. Eventually she will also get bored of her party life and go back to her normal ways.
Hope things work out
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to start off i am 15/female.. but okay, so i have liked this one kid for like.. at least 2 years now and he knows.. so anyways i will probably ALWAYS like him but that has really nothing to do with what im asking.. but anyways, almost a year ago i met this other kid and im pretty good friends with him now, but him & one of my friends have been going out now for almost 9 months.. and since ive spent a lot of time with him & what not im starting to like him more and more.. but its only SOMETIMES that i feel like i like him.. i feel wierd just typing this, but when im around him he just always makes me laugh & im not sure if i just love him company or if i actually like him.. i dont know what to do.. ahh its wierd.
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Ok. So you may wanna tread carefully there. Since your mate is also dating this guy I would suggest to not mention anything, otherwise you may lose your friend, and from experience at your age, a friend is better then any boy. Normally it comes out to a teenage crush but in the end I know you will make the right decision.
Good luck
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my friend, lets just call her stacy and i used to be inseperable. we were best friends, we would hang out everyday, cuz we were neighbors so we could. anyway, lately shes been hanging out with a popular girl, lets call her lily. so stacy has been hanging out with lily, and its really sad cuz she never hangs out with me anymore. and a couple weeks ago, she said she didnt want to be friends anymore because i was "clingy" and i wasnt clingy at all! but now we are kind of friends i guess, i mean, we talk and stuff. bt i just looked at her AIM profile and im not in it she has all her other friends except me. and shes not friends with any of her old ones, except me and i guess were not bestfriends anymore. and not she is really popular, and she ignores me during school, and lily is more important to her than i am. and, shes just not the same old stacy anymore. i want my old stacy back! i miss her so much! please! i need help! (link)
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Don't waste the time trying. She has obviously become snobby and "lily" would have been the cause of the problem by telling her not to be friends with you or anyone else not in the popular circle. You could attempt to take her aside and tell her how you feel but I doubt it will do anything. Unfortunately popularity becomes tempting and gets into your head too much. In the end it will be stacey who comes crawling back to you begging for your friendship when lily finally rejects her. I have seen it before and its not pretty.
Hope i helped
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one of my good friends is a lesbian, she acts like she likes me alot ( like bestfriend) and then other times she ignores me for like 2 weeks and today i hung out with her friend "boy" and "she" told him he should of told me to leave and not hang out with me caus im stupid, i think she was just jealous because she asked me last week if i liked "boy" and i said idk. anyways i absolutly love the girl when were friends, but when shes not friends with me and says bad stuff about me like she doesnt care about me at all, it makes me feel bad, and i dont want to seem desperate to get our friendship back, so i dont say anything about it, i feel like shes pushing me around and she said i was easy, i guess because i keep wanting to be her friend again but i dont know what to do (link)
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What kind of a friend is that who runs hot and cold on you all the time. In my opinion I feel she isn't worth the agony. You need to find out why she is bad mouthing you. You are human too. She may be angry that you have a different sexuality to her. Any friend who drags you in the dirt is nothing but a backstabber.
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Alright, popular question here, haha.
Well, schools started and we all our assigned in certain areas, and of course, since everyone sort of has their friends already, much of the people sitting around the group I'm in aren't much for conversation since we're all strangers to one another. I mean, a few of them know eachother and it's hard to get into a conversation with them since they're talking about things I don't know about. Any advice on how to talk to them better and get to know them?
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Well the first thing you need to do is approach them and introduce yourself. A small introduction can meet alot to just one person. Once you do that they will start talking to you and most likely ask questions about you.
Good luck
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sorry in advance that its a litlle long
ok so...my "ex boyfreind" and i had dated for a little more than a year. and then one night. i was just kind of thinking out loud and i said something about sometimes i think about being single. not like thinking about breaking up with him...but just thinking. but he said that if i really meant it when i told him that i love him then theres no chance that i would want to be single. but so blah blah. we yelled at eachother for a while. and then i decided wel...i need to figure some things out. so we "arent dating" right now. but i told him that there is a chance we will go back out in a while. but the problem is. a. i dont know when that is and i dont know if it will be soon. and b. he is like going crazy. like its killing him that we arent dating.
so i dont know what to do. because i feel bad making him wait, but i cant go back out with him right now because it doesnt seem fair, and i just dont really know if/when i want to date him again.
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One thing you should realise. There should be no obligation in a relationship. You have thought about being single which normally means you may not be ready for a relationship at this stage in time. I think you need to ask yourself whats really important in your life. Your feelings or your so called boyfriend.
To go through the ps he is getting a major case of the green eyed monster. It is not fair to put you in that position. If thats how he feels then is he really worth it?? I say NO!!
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ok well i havent seen my friend maggie in almost an entire year (she goes to a different school), and i'm going to get one of those paper things to invite her to my homecoming so we can hang out and stuff and she can meet my friends and when i told my friend alyson she was like well then im not going because you'll have her and i was just like okaayy and i kinda shrugged it off.
then she kept talking about it (alyson) and today she was like "yep im not going to homecoming" and i was like "oh" and she goes "since __ will be hanging out with __ and blank with blank and so on and youre taking maggie so whatever" and i was like "well im not taking her to homecoming with me, shes just coming alone with me, to hang out with us, and its not like i wont talk to my other friends and stuff you know?" and then she suddenly was like "i have to go. bye" and i was all quiet and then i was just like "what the hell?" and shes like i have to go. and i was like "why are you pissed? " and she goes "i'm NOT pissed" and i was like "so why do you have to leave all of a sudden then?" and she goes "cuz." and i was like "fine bye." and she hung up!!!!!!!!!
i have no idea what i did and its really pissing me off because i didnt do anything! and when i said the thing about maggie comnig and i would still hang out with other friends i wasnt even bitching it was just a "hey its nice weather out" kind of tone to my voice so i have no idea. and she was the one who kept talking about homecoming. i just dont see why. if you have any ideas? thanks and sorry its so freaking long! lol
and ps. i dont think it would matter anyway if i did talk to maggie the whole time! i havent seen her in a year and i see alyson every single day at school! gah!!!! (link)
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You need to talk to alyson and make her realise that maggie is your friend too. If she wants to be stubborn thats fine. But there is no reason for her to act the way you said she did. Reassure her that you are still her friend and tell her that maggie would really like to meet her.
I hope things work out
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