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they would call me sarah, but it seems that people are afraid to address me by my name. i am a senior. i dislike a lot of things. i enjoy a nice hot medium mocha latte and smoke too many cigarettes for my own good. i have been in love. i love lights and colors. i am above the influence.advice
Soo, this year i want to be more outgoing, funny***, laid back. For myself, i just want to be happier. the thing is, i dont know how to be outgoing,funny, OR laidback! Honestly, i don't exactly know what they really mean or how to be them. How do i become these things? I hate being quiet,stiff,boring,and all of that. I'd justt like to say, i'm changing for myself, not anyone else. Any tips,help,thoughts,if you went through this?? 14/f, i'll be a freshman. thanks!
i think that most people have this freshman year changing stage where you need to find out who you are and you want to become who you want to be like and such and it's very frustrating.
i had this exact same problem, where i knw who i was, but i couldn't convey it to other people in school or at work.
i used to just watch people in the hall ways or talking in class and not even want to join in because iw as afraid of saying something stupid, or just becasue i didn't have any input.
eventually, i got comfortable with myself and started saying what i wanted to say. it was only becasue i was comfortable with myself that i got the confidence to do this. i started talking to a lot of new people.
in your question, you said that you didn't know how to be them.
right now, i want to tell you NOT to want to be them. i know who you're talking about, and it looks like they have a lot more fun and are happier than you. but are you happy with what you have? with your friends? becasue sometimes what's right for some personalities isn't right for another person's personality. it took me two years to understand that. that i was happy with my friends. i thought that i was just settling for what i had, but i realized that i was really happy.
i think you should just keep your eyes open, keep learning and it really will all fall into place. all of it. you'll learn more about yourself this year and the next then you ever have.
i promise, actually.
(and i doubt that there's anyone who hates highschool cliches more than me. i can promise you that, too. so don't just take it as one.)
I have a friend who is over weight and is always saying Im so fat!! Even though she kind of is I dont want to be mean so I say no your not.I dont want to keep lieing to her but I dont want to just say Yeah you are.How can I just make her stop saying she is fat and ugly without hurting her feeling.I rate high..PS If we say something mean to her she freaks out and says omg I cant belive you just said that.
Hmmm...The next time she says it ask her why she puts herself down all the time? Tell Her that you like her just the way she is. Ask her if she really thinks she's fat does she want to go outside and go for a run or fo situps?
What I have observed over the past few years is that when someone says they're ugly or fat(even if they're not), they want other people to tell them that they're beautiful. Most of the time they are insecure about their appearance and need reassuring. STOP ressuring her and offer her alternatives
okay well im a teenager and i live in Tampa florida.
my friends and i use to go to the mall every friday. pretty lame huh? yeah thats why we stopped going.
well since we stopped going there isnt really much to do around here.
does anyone have any ideas of what to do on a friday or saturday night? thanks alot.
I've been to Tampa and it's not all that boring!
you could:
Go swimming
Rent a movie and pop popcorn
Make Ice cream or go to an ice cream shop
go on a picnic
give eachother make-overs at of your houses
get your nails done...
Or just go to the mall and do somthing weird like only talk in british accents or somthing!
Be creative!
I think i'm in love with my friends sister, shes nine months older than me, and I just have been crazy about her for months! I want to be around her all the time, but the thing is there is no way that she could feel anything other than an okay friendship towards me, Its really frustrating... Any suggestions on trying to get her to like me back?
Hmm...you could be more flirtatious but if you already said there ws no way she'll like you as anthing else just accept that you two are just friends. It's a crush..it'll pass.
My brother's girlfriend is coming with my family and I to California for a week. She's 16 and will be sharing a room with me for 7 days. Im only 13 and me and her are kinda close but not that close. So how do I entertain a 16 yr old for a weeK? Like at night what do we talk about .. etc. I'll rate!
Just be yourself, talk about stuff you did that day, or your brother, or clothes or whatever. Usually girls WILL FIND somthing to talk about if they're in the same room. hehe.
Peace,
Artistegirly
are boobs really important to guys? should i be "showing some skin" to get boys to like me? girls are always talking about who they made out with at the last party..should i be doing stuff with guys to get more popular?
No, I wouldn't say "boobs" are impotant as you think. My parents are really strict and I wear nothing low cut or too tight and I have a boyfriend! To be honest I think I'd rather have a boy wholiked me for who I am, not how easy I look, anyway!
Another thing, not to sound prude, modestyis a GOOD thing!
:Peace,
Artiste