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Holla playaz! haha... well this is my advice site, some ppl say that i give good advice, other's say its crap.. but i'll let you make ur own opinion on that in the future. Ask me anything!!!!! I luv all yall!
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OK, I have this friend and I think she likes the same guy I do. I'm pretty sure the guy likes her too, but both of them deny liking the other one. It's pretty obvious they do. But anyway, I don't want them liking eachother, because if they end up going out then that would put me in a really akward position, being that she's my best-friend, and I like the guy and all. I don't want to be mean to her about it, so I just laugh at the situation, but I don't want to anymore, it's really bothering me, but I don't knwo what to do about it. Sorry this isn't in "question format" but I can't think of any other way to word it.
Maybe your friend is denying it because she knows it could/is hurting your feelings because she knows you do like the guy. Does the guy know that you like him? Maybe he doesn't know so he doesn't really realize what he's doing. I think you should just tell one of them (i recommend your best friend) how you feel about it. There are other ways to say it, so that you won't come off mean. Just tell her what you told me, that you would rather them not like each other because you don't want to be put in an akward position as a result of them going out, or whatever. I think you get the point..hopefully?
I really hope this helped...
Love, Arielle
See i ahve this friend and she like sometimes like when she is at a friends house like she is so mean to alot of ppl. What should i like tell her or waht should i do???? Please help me!!!!
I think that you should ask her about it. Maybe her friend is influencing her to act that way. The best thing that you can do is just confront her about it. If she still doesn't stop then maybe you should stop talking to her for a while, so that she knows she is making you angry or upset.
Hope this helped.
Love, Arielle
ok i have a friend who gets all mad at me all the time because she thinks that ive changed and idk how ive changed or even if i have so i tried to act like i did when she first met me and she seems happy but she doenst talk as much as she used to and never really tries to hold a conversations what should i do??
Does she think that you've changed in a bad way or in a good way? My personal opinion is that she should be happy with you, no matter if you change. She needs to learn to accept that people change and there is nothin that she can do to change that. I think that you should talk it over with her, if you haven't already. If she continues to act this way, I'd tell her that she can either accept you the way you are, or not be friends at all, because no one is worth faking for. You shouldn't have to pretend to be someone your not just to please one of your "friends"
I hope this helped, lemme know how it goes.
love, Arielle
hey all of this stuff really helps thanks. so yeah i think she has because i start conversations and everything and she acts nice so yeah. thanks for all ur help..
No problem. Thanks for asking me. If you ever need any help again, i'm here!!! Much Love, Arielle
ok well I have asked my friend to do that but she wont.. so i dont know what to do about that.. maybe if i asked her directly. but if i did she probably would say she doesnt or something.. yeah thats what the problem is that she might not want to be my friend cause of some stuff shes told me in the past.. yeah but what do u mean start a conversation. i try as much to talk to her online and at school and be friendly and everything.. yeah this helps a bit. thanks.. any more advice?
Start a conversation...like, just talk about general topics. School, sports, ...or just tell random and completely idiotic stories, lol, that always helps. If she is being friendly back to you then she probably put some of her bitterness toward you behind her. She's probably realized that she didn't mean some of the stuff, or that it wasn't worth arguing over. I hope that this helps, sorry if it doesn't. Let me know how it goes. Love Arielle
hey whats up? its me again.im not really sure if this girl knows i want to be friends with her. ok well i dont really know how to tell her that i want to be friends and put our arguments behind cause she doesnt really like me.. that much at least.. or i dont know .i want to know if she wants to be friends but i dont know how to find it out. yeah maybe she does feel ignored by me but im not sure.. yeah i want to come foward and become friends but im not really a talkative person i just keep my feelings to myself. and she does too.. please help.
Maybe ask one of your friends that knows her or that is friends with her to ask her if she likes you or not. It's not the best way to find out, but at least then you'll know and that way she'll have at least the idea in her head that you want to know and she'll want to know why. But according to what you said, she keeps her feelings to herself, so that might become a problem. She might also want to be friends with you but because of past arguments she might not want to go back on her word of disliking you. One way to come forward is just by starting a conversation, if you two don't talk much then this will also give her a signal that you want to start talking more, ya know? Well i dont know how much this will help, but i tried. Let me know how it goes.
hey.. well lets see my problem is that i have this so called friend.. shes cool and all but she doesnt really like me. cause certain reasons having to do with my boyfriend. but anyways.. i was wondering how do i show this girl that i really want to be friends with her cause i like her and i want us to have a friendship. i want to be friends but idk if she is willing to try and see that i am a nice girl .. sometimes we act as friends and we hang out and i buy her lunch and we laugh about stuff and everything but other days she just ignores me .. idk what to do. please help..
Well...does she know that you want to be friends with her? Maybe she doesn't know that your friendly gestures are meant to mean "lets be friends" instead of "..i'm just bein nice." If you reallllllly wanna be friends with her, start a conversation with her, either in person or over the internet, about how you would really like to be friends with her and that you just want to put the past fights/arguments behind you. You say that sometimes she just ignores you, maybe it's because she feels ignored by you, but yet, doesn't want to get into your business by asking questions or whatever. Do you ever try to talk to her instead of waiting for her to come along? Maybe this is the kind of situation where YOU need to be the first one to make the first move towards a friendship, or she'll never even second think it. All i can really tell you is to try all of that stuff, but most importantly be yourself, don't try to be something you aren't just to become her friend, because no one worth that. Love Arielle
I used to be best friends with this girl who is now hanging out with other people all the time. That's fine with me, but every time she has a problem with them, she talks to me about it and I try to give her the best advice I can. But then as soon as she solves the problem, she goes straight back to them and I don't find out about it for days until I finally ask about it and she says something like "oh, ya, about that...we're friends again". She also tells me about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is and believe me, I understand all about stress. But then when I need to talk to her about something involving me and her that is bothering me, she gets all defensive and acts like I'm being snobby, when I'm really only trying to talk things out. I hope you can help me! :D
Girls our age are odd about friendships. One minute we hate a girl but the next we're the best of friends. Don't think to much into how she goes straight back to her friends. It probably was helpful that you gave advice to her, and you should be proud of that, unless of course, you were trying to end their friendship...for whatever reasons you may have. It sounds like you're annoyed that she "tells you about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is." She's just confiding in you so don't take it to personally, be happy that someone feels that they can trust you that much, but if it's getting to much for you, then ask her to please stop talking about it for a while and start a new conversation about a lighter subject.
Now...there are two types of girls these days.
1. doesn't like to start anything so avoids confrontation
2. doesn't give a shit if the whole world knew about every single argument that they had and spread EVERYTHING around
You're friend seems to be like the first type of girl, she doesn't like to start anything so she avoids confrontation. Girls like this tend to be defensive and pretend like nothing is wrong, basically, they are in denial. If they are saying stuff about you, then they are obviously not happy about yourself. But then again, think more about how YOU'RE acting before you go and blame HER attitude on something other than YOU. Because you CAN be the cause of it.
Let me know how it goes. Love Arielle
hey thanks so much.. this really helps.. well would u count this as something between my guy and this girl that they use to be best friends and he liked her and all but they never really went out cause they were to shy to ask each other out.. well hopefully we will turn into friends cause shes really cool and everything but she just doesnt like me very much cause she wants this guy and im going out with him.. and about the part of dnt bring the guy around her so much thats kind of hard cause my guy in school walks me to all my classes even the bus. and wen we hug or anything it makes her mad.. but i really want us to fix our friendship. any other advie?
this question was in my feedback, i'm guessing it was Stacy?
Who did you hear their "history" from? Because it may be that it was something more than that, which causes the bitterness. Maybe there is something that one of them isn't telling you, and they don't plan to, but don't take it personally. It may be hard for them to "relive" it. She probably doesn't WANT your guy, she may just want his friendship back. I know from personal experience that when one of my guy friends goes out with a girl, they change a lot and they grow more distant. That may be the only problem. About them not being able to be apart, maybe just keeping general conversation, not acting so.."lovey" around her. Yeah i know it puts limitations on you and your guy, but trust me from personal experience, it does make her feel uncomfortable. I hope this helps, Love Arielle
hey.. my name is stacy.. i need help. well lets see there this guy i like alot and i started going out with him. we have been together for 2 months or so now.. and this girl that i want to be friends with hates me cause she likes him.. what can i do to get the girl to like me and to accept that me and this guy are going out cause i want them both to get along.. thanks bunches.. Stacy
This is a difficult one to answer. I've been in a similar situation before. The only thing that you can do is just be nice to her, start a conversation or something. But try your best not to bring him up around her, because there will be some or a lot of bitterness there. She might be shocked at first if you haven't gotten along in the past, but if you keep on trying, you could eventually turn into friends. If there has been anything between them (your guy and this girl) in the past, that may make the situation a little harder to cope with for her. Just make her feel like you WANT to be friends and that you aren't just doing it to stop the fighting in between you and her. I hope I help, let me know how it goes!!!