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responding to whitedestiny09... actually this guy is not my cyber boyfriend. we talk almost everyday w/ im because we're in two different places and that's the only way to communicate now. he's in college. its not like we've never seen one another and we don't really know about each other. he's a good, church-going guy and he respects me like i respect him, which is why its hard for us to see other people. this friend, him i still don't know that much about. just that he's nice guy and he's here. i probably should've mentioned that.
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ok, well, i'm sorry then. ^_^
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I have this friend who says that he likes me and he wants our relationship to move forward. He's a good guy and I do like him, but I am in a complicated long-distance relationship. We decided to try to have an open relationship, but I know he hasn't been with any other female because he's not like that. He's a one woman's guy and I respect that a lot and me... I want to be with just him. I should've known this distance thing would eventually catch up to me. Now, I'm stuck trying to figure if I should just tell this friend "I can't", "no" or if I should give it a try. We really like each other, but somehow I still feel like I'd be cheating eventhough I was told it was alright. I just don't know what to do.
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Ok, first of all, long distance relationships really don't last unless you knew the person a long time ago. It's ok for you to remain friends with this guy, but how do you absolutely KNOW he is telling the truth? There are so many hurtful people out there. You say you know what kind of person he is, but what is he actually doing when he is away from the computer? You don't know. You don't know how he treats his friends, his family, his pets, etc. You probably don't even know what he really looks like. I'm not saying that there aren't honest people out there because I am one of them. Maybe you could set up a trial period. You know, a few weeks to a month, and explain carefully to your internet friend that that is all it is-a trial period. Maybe you'll find that you like the guy from your school better than your cyber boyfriend.
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i cant stand being with my bestfriend anymore we've been close for like 9years now, since forever but she totally pisses me off very so often! like i can never forgive her for throwing things in my face while we were younger, also! she always like the guy i like, last year i told her i like this guy, then she went after him! but he didn't like her, he said she was too weird and not his type, the whole school knows about it, and yeah we have some really good times, but others shes a complete total female dog! i can't stand her gusts! i let her stay at my house after school every day because she lives far away and her mom picks her up at like 8 or 9pm, then a few months ago she told me she can just come and go as she pleases, its her decision that she could stay or not at my house, she acts as if my house is her house and she can come and go as she pleases, i convinced my parents to let her stay, my parents said if it makes me happy, so shes here, but she thinks shes always right about everything, so when she started to go to my school she became worst of who she was! she took all my friends away from me, dyed her hair like 10times to get attentions from others, and she disses only about EVERY guy i like, its soo annoying, i cant tell her to just leave after 9 years, im so confussed, she lies to everyone about her, making everyone at my school like completely hate me and choose her over me, im hurt realy bad of what shes done, and she makes her mother more miserable then anyone, she threatens to kill her self of she doesnt get what she wants, my parents dont like her at all, since we were younger my parents dont like her because she was a bad influence, i got soo sick of my friends staying over for sleep overs and everything and say how great or wonder she is,...she came over once to my house over the weekends and totally liked like bestfriends with my friends, and laughed at me,...she thinks she knows everything about me, well shes wrong i hate her, but i dont wanna loose her, advice please? (link)
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I was in the same dilemma a few years ago, so i know how it is. My best friend and I were like sisters, then she started acting like someone different. I know you don't want to lose this girl as your friend, but neither did i. It sounds to me like your friend is using power and control over you so she can get what she wants. Confront her about it, or if you're scared to talk to her alone, talk to an adult you trust first and have them call her over, so the three of you can talk. Tell her that you are hurt with what she is doing. You miss the old her, and your parents are fed up with her attitude. You do have a right to tell her you don't like what she is doing. Just don't do it in a mean way. If she still continues to act with a horrible attitude, ditch all your "friends" and find new ones. Remember, if someone isn't willing to hang out with YOU because they think someone else is "cooler" or "more fun", they don't deserve to be your friends at all. I found that out the hard way, but you don't have to.
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I would really like to make more friends people I can talk to. So how should I start making new friends? (link)
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How about joining a club or sport at your school that you enjoy? If you hang around people with common interests, you should be able to make friends pretty easily. You also have to be the bold one sometimes to say hello. Are there some new students at your school? Try hanging with them and see if they have anything in common with you. I hope i helped you out.
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My best friend is avoiding me:(
We've been going to different schools for a while now and we've always been very close.
She has new friends now and I think she prefers them over me.
She completely avoids me online and calls.
I haven't spoken to her for about a week.
and it makes me really sad because I don't trust anyone and I don't have too many close friends.
I don't want to confront her about it because I already know what she will say. So is there anything I can do? (link)
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I know what you're going through, and I know it hurts. About a year ago, my BFF and I got into a major fight, and she wouldn't talk to me. I found myself calling HER. Going over to HER house. She never wanted to come over to my house. And when I did go to her house, I was ignored and left behind. I don't know if this will work for you, but I know it did for me, find a way to fill the hole. Find another girl you can totally gab with. Is there a new girl at your school? Try making friends with her. If your mom will let you, try finding a pen pal. If you want a pen pal, try this website: http://girlslife.com/index.php?id=49
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ok at my school, all of the boys used to like me but now they all hate me. i dont think im ugly when i look in the mirror, i dont feel ugly or look it. but to them i do. i try to be nice to them but their still mean to me. it feels good to be liked, and not even the nerds like me.
no one understands what im going through. my grandpa who is my all time hero is very sick and my parents keep threatening to put me out on the streets. my grades are suffering also. i just need a shoulder to cry on and i try to talk to someone about it but they just say oh my life is worse. i just need someone to tell me that everything will be alright. (link)
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If its THAT bad, you need to talk to someone you trust who won't be mean to you. Like a school counselor or therapist. If you need a shoulder to cry on, i'm very sympathetic and will listen to what you have to say. I'm so sorry about your grandpa. I will pray for him and hope he gets better.
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so my one "friend" pretends to cut herself.then she makes a big deal out of it when people ask to see her arms,implying that she cuts.she doesnt.she just wants people to feel bad for her.and she tells EVERYONE.from the people i know that have cut,they dont like people to know.its just really annoying because she gets all the attention for something that isnt even true.she makes tiny little marks on her arms with like paper.and then when i say that she doesnt,she gets all mad at me and says what a horrible friend i am.im not trying to be mean,but it just bugs me.how can i get her to stop being so annoying about it.oh,and another thing,whenever we get in fights,she always goes and says that she has to go because shes gonna go cut herself.how can i get her to stop?
please i need help asap.thanks. (link)
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It sounds like your friend is clamboring for attention. Is there something bugging her? A sick mom? A dad in Iraq? You should talk to your school counselor with her. Try to figure out what is really going on. Does her mom knows that she is faking cutting herself? One day, she might really cut herself. Like I said, talk to someone close to you to try to figure it out.
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ok, so before i get totally into my question, i HAVE to add this, cause it will be important: im still trying to figure out my sexuality. i like girls but im not sure.
ok, onto my question. today in fourth block me and my friend thuy(girl) were talking. we just met this year. well she asked me if i had a boyfriend and i said no. then she was like well do you want me to hook you up with someone, and i just shrugged my shoulders. then she was like what kind of guy do you like, and she started saying like sweet and cute boys, athletic, and the whole time i just shrugged my shoulders. and she was like would your parents be mad if you dated a black boy? i was like no.. then she was like an asian boy? again i said no.. then she asked about white boys, i was like what do you think? then she was like do you like girls, and i mean i cant tell her yes, so i was like no way. then she grabbed my arm and i was like i think your cute and i like you or something like that. then we both started laughing and she was like im kidding. then my best friend was texting me and i got my phone to text her, and she was like who are you texting, your boyfriend or girlfriend? i was like i dont have one... then i turned back around to talk to her and she was like do you like asian girls.... and i was like as friends? yes.. and as soon as i said yes she was like as friends. she was like you should have let me finish my sentence.
thats basically it, but i dont know what to think. was she hinting, or just kidding around?? i dont know... help? (link)
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It sounds to me like your Best Friend thinks you're going out with Thuy (if that's her name). What I think you should do is somehow make your sexual preference clear. Do you like boys or girls or both? Once you have that figured out, figure out whether or not you want it to be private. If you decide private, make it clear that you don't love girls. If you want it to be something that only your girls know, that's cool. I'll tell you, one of my friends is Lesbian, and i'm the only one she's told. Let me know how it goes, Ok?
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