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Q: Is it normal for internet friends to last for as long as 6 years or longer? Do they usually end up meeting after a while? I have a friend who met this girl on Runescape when he was like 11 and they're still friends; he's 17 right now. I remember my internet friends only lasted a few months at the most...I just ended up changing my address and forgot to tell them...
Internet relationships are like real life relationships in the sense that some friendships last a few months and others last a few years. It all depends on how well the two people in question mesh.

Most of my online friendships last a few months. But there are a few that have lasted years.

I have this one friend, we have never met - she lives in Colorado and I live in Pennsylvania but she's one of the people I'm closest with. We chat, text, and talk on the phone. We have eachother's addresses - we send eachother birthday and Christmas gifts. It's weird to think that I have never met her because I feel like I know her so well, and I've seen so many pictures of her and her family that it feels like I see her all the time.

That type of online friendship is rare but it does happen.


Q: im going to have a party/sleepover but i can only invite 5 people, but i know 6 that i want to invite, so theres that problem. also, none of the six are friends with each other, what should i do???????

please help soon! i need to send out invites!
Ok well you should try to do a list. Which friends do you think will get a long best, also think about how important they are to you. Who have you known longer, who do you think is a better friend, etc. It sounds hard, but it shouldn't be, you only have to get rid of one of the names in your list, instead of 8 or something. Maybe you should keep the person you don't invite in mind for the next time you do something like this, and then she'll be the first one you DO invite.
Hope this helped.
Good luck, and have fun :)

Q: I Had this friend Taylor, we met eachother when in the fourth grade. Taylor is really fun to be around, and really pretty. I always felt bad being around her, but our friendship was always so great. Will when middle school came my parents divorced, and i had to go to another school then the one Taylor's gone too. We were friends into the 6th grade the whole year we talked everynight, we had a few sleepovers. Her parents ending up divorcing too, and that it made it harder to have sleepovers, but we Always talked on the phone, always. Then i got into the 7th grade, (would be the grade im currently in) we were friends, for awhile.. then around halloween last year (still in 7th grade) we stopped talking, she blew me off for our halloween plans because i never answered her calls, but it wasent as if i was being rude, i wasent home and she knew it.. She knew i had family issues and i went away for the weekend, but i made it back intime to go with her. And she blew me off. Then our every day phone calls became, less and less and they just stopped all together. around christmas (last year) she called wishing me a marry and christmas, and she also said "Your probably mad at me" in the phone call. which i got 2 weeks after christmas due to, i wasent home for christmas i was away on vaction. I felt bad and wanted to call back but i have nothing to say to her, i really want our friendship back. But i dont know if she wants it back. and she doesnt have a computer, so theres no way i can just AIM her. And im way to shy to call.I'd have no idea what to say.. I mean what if her mom picks up the phone or something?
Also note were both Female, and 13.
UPDATE:
I'm terribly sorry that she didn't want to continue your friendship, obviously she isn't worth it. I don't want you to feel bad, you did all you could do, and you don't need anybody like that in your life. I'm very proud of you for picking up that phone, and for expressing your feelings. You can consider me a friend. :D


If she's that special to you, pick up the phone and call her. Don't let pride get in the way, and loose her, you'll regret it for a looong time. Trust me, I speak from experience. I haven't talked to my ex best friend in 2 1/2 years, and I still cry at night, wondering what went wrong, what happened between us. I wish I would have done something about it, instead of just letting it go. The more time passes by, the harder it will be to do something about it. If you keep thinking about what you should do, next thing you know it'll have been so long, you figure what's the use now. Don't let that happen! Swallow your pride, ask her what went wrong, at least then, if it turns out you guys still aren't friends, at least you can say you tried, you wont have this feeling of unfinished business inside you.

Trust your heart, do what you feel is best, and good luck with whatever you choose, and let me know what happens. :)

Q: I hooked up with my friends ex-boyfriend. They were going out for 2 monthes and she broke up with him but she may still have some feelings for him. I hooked up with him the other night. Should I tell her? I don't want to risk losing her as a friend since she is really close but I don't want her to find out from someone else if other people happen to find out. Please help! thanks
Well you have to think of it this way: How important is your friendship with her? If it's that important you have to tell her, and you have to ask her for permission, if she doesn't want you to date this guy, then you have to make the decision. Are you willing to jeapordize your friendship for a guy, or are you willing to give him up if you have to for the sake of friendship? Regardless of your answer, you have to tell her, if she's that important to you she deserves to hear the truth from you and nobody else. Just think about what your next move will be after you tell her, and think about all the possible ways she could react.

Good luck :)

Q: Well, here's my situation. I had a best friend, and we were VERY close. We started growing apart during the summer of 2005, and the last thing I hung out with her was probably some time in September. We rarely ever talk anymore; even in her myspace it says on one of the surveys, "Have any best friends: No" or something like that. As much as it hurts me, I'm starting to get over it.

This situation has left a scar, though.

I am starting to get paranoid about my friends. A friend could act weird, and I freak out, wondering if I did anything wrong. If a friend doesn't talk to me on AIM or call me enough, I start wondering, "Oh man, I must have said/done something wrong to make them do that." Even if a friend talks to another person (If the other person is a friend or not), I get kind of jealous. I don't mention it to my friends, but it sure is a problem for me.

If you've ever grown apart from a friend that you still cared about, you probably understand what I mean.

What should I do to get over this paranoia? How can I get my old life back and just enjoy spending time with friends without worry?
I hate to brake it to you, but if your scar is as bad as mine then you'll carry it with you forever. You wont be able to help the way you feel, you have to inwardly push those insecurities aside. A lot of times, I lay awake in bed, and think about my ex best friend, and I start to sob, but you know, I cry it out, and then I remind myself that I was the BEST best friend that I could be, and that if we aren't friends anymore it's not because of anything I did, it's because she didn't appreciate me. Maybe you should try telling yourself that whenever you feel like your going to loose another friend because they haven't spoken to you in a few days or something. And you got to just make sure you don't close yourself off because you're scared you'll get hurt again. Be yourself, as long as you do that, you are NEVER to blame if someone stops talking to you.

I really hope this helps, and I'm truly sorry for your pain.

Q: Being Shy is a problem. A BIG problem to me atleast. I havent always been like this. I used to be in the "popular" croud and do everything they would. When highschool hit i am no longer friends with any of them. I can't even go up to any of them and say a word. Its killing me. Its making me lack in friends and i miss all of them.

Help me please! What can i do to be back with them?
What can i do to just talk to anyone!

When Im with my boyfriend, Im all open with him till im around his friends. Then I just sit there. They think i dont like them and thats not it. Im just WAYY TOO SHYY!

i comment well to if you help me!
Well I know about shy, because I am extremely shy. Sometimes, you have to face your fears, and just take a deep breath and relax. Now I'm not saying to go up to strangers, and start a conversation because if you're anything like me, you're going to find that very difficult. But you could go up to your boyfriend's friends and say hi, ask them what's up, is there anything new. You know, tell them, that you don't have a problem with them, that you're just really shy, I'm sure they'll understand, they may even try harder to include you in conversations.

As for these girls from middle school, remember that you once were friends, so go up to them, talk to them, if they want to be your friend that's great, if they don't, well forget them. They're probably shallow, and just remember to never pretend to be something you're not to impress people, it's just a waste, if you have to do that to be accepted, then they will never truly accept you. True friends, will be your friends no matter what group you are in.

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Hey everyone, so it's been a while since the last time I was on here...A LOT has happened w/ my life. But I am back, and I'm here to help as always. So any questions I can help you with, please don't hesitate to ask, I will answer them all as honestly as possible, and if I can't answer something I will tell you that I can't, I will NOT give you false information or lead you on.

Also, and this is something I want everyone to know: No matter what I, or anyone else advices you to do, at the end of the day it should be your decision. We're only here to give you perspective, it's up to you to decide whether or not it is the best thing to do. (That was my little disclaimer :D) Feel free to contact me anytime, day or night.

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