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My friend is hanging out with my old friend. my old friend is into bad things like sex and stuff. I don't want my friend to be around those kind of people.
Friendship: a very delicate thing. The only way to have a successful one is to make sure communication is clear on both sides. Unfortunately, you don't have control over who your friend hangs out with/what they do. However, you are allowed to have an opinion & share it with them. Bring them aside one day & tell your feelings. A good friend will listen & take them into account, even if they decide against what you want. Good luck hun!
OK I like this Boy and hes really nice we used to be boyfriend and girlfriend then someone came up and he didnt like me any more(this was a while ago)then two days a go i found somone else i like and now i cant deside who to like.Well schools starting soon so my qustion is should i like one of the two guys i was talking about befor or wait till school starts to meet new guys?
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Big Flirt
If I were you, I wouldn't make any comitments for now. Wait until school starts & you'll be able to really compare guys & make a great decisian. Good luck! ♥
How do u do all that with your colum? like change your username with all of your questions still there?
I have a paid account so I was able to change my username & then it changed on everything but kept all my old settings. For more information on Paid Accounts: http://advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php
My friends all turned on me and now im alone. It's cool sometimes but when something big happens or when Friday nite comes I'm lonely. I have a boyfriend to talk to and I still have a few friends that im not close with. What should I do?
I'm sorry you're going through this. I reccomend trying to get close with the friends that you have. Invite them over or to the movies. If you show them what a great person you are & be yourself then maybe you guys will start hanging out more. Also, try to spend alot of time with your boyfriend & show the friends that turned on you that you don't need them. Good luck hon! ♥
Me and my best friend have been best friends for ages.but now i feel she is going off with another girl.If i talk to her about it she goes your my best friend not her,but yet she still goes off with her.
what shall i do?
Unforunately, talking isn't all that should be done. When you talk to her, don't just talk but TELL her. TELL her how you feel. TELL is the key word here, hon because then she'll know. Say, if I'm your BEST FRIEND then why do you always run off with her? Be nice but firm & let her know you're hurt by this. It's better if she's aware & can talk to you about it. Good luck hun! =)
I used to be so outgoing, I would just totally be me, and go crazy and everyone loved me for that. But now I'm like constantly tryin to be popular and I'm to afraid of what people will think if I go back to my outgoing *personatlity* Any tips on how to go back to being the true me? I'Ll rate Lots
I think you should definitely be outgoing again. You know you've been trying too hard when you can't figure out how to be yourself again. I have a guide to "being popular" that is located in my advice column. It'll help you be yourself & climb the social ladder! It's located in the 'FAQ' section of my 'About Me' column. Hope it helps you out hon! ♥
Ok so today is my sleepover little gathering for m bday. Only three of my bff are coming, what are soem things we can do?!All girls'
13/f
Here are some of my favorite sleepover activities & maybe you'll like them too:
-Makeovers
This has GOT to be the best one. Take turns pampering eachother: makeup, clothes, etc. Then take a camera (prefferably digital) & have a mock fashion shoot. Take pictures of eachother (crazy ones, cute ones, chic ones) then upload them to your computer. You can make up fun captions for each one, share them with your friends or make a collage to give each girl as a party favor.
-Charades (to the extreme)
To give your party a playful edge, play a giant game of charades. Take out a bunch of crazy jewelry, makeup, clothes etc & have each girl break up into a different room (bathroom, bedroom, closet even). Have them choose a movie & get dressed similar to a character in that movie. Then have a blast guessing which one each girl is from.
-Truth Or Dare (the NEW version)
Truth or Dare is of course a very cliche`d slumber party game. But YOU can go the extra mile & make it CRAZY. If all your friends have their cell phones on them then it will be EXTRA fun. Play around with the game making it dares only, team dares, truths only, etc. One of my favorite dares is to have one girl sign onto AIM & tell all of her buddies on her list something crazy like call them a "sexy burrito" & see what their reaction is.
-Karaoke
Bring out those CD's because once it starts, it won't stop. Play around with good, ol' fashion karaoke & host a "Sleepover Idol". Who'll end up as the best singer of the night? & who should never try to hit a note again?
-Goss Toss
Probably my favorite of all sleepover games, make up gossip about the people you know. Such as "Bob marries Cindy & they have triplets". You won't believe the stuff you'll come up with by the end of the night.
-Communication With The Dead
Sit in your bathroom (in a circle) with the door shut & all the lights out. Do this prefferably around midnight to make it extra creepy. Make up chilling chants & attempt to talk to the dead. This is pretty much a "play along" concept & should be used only if you're friends are good sports.
-Scary Movie
On the topic of frights at night, rent the scariest movie you can find at Blockbuster & watch it really late at night with the lights off & door shut. It'll be a spooky good time.
I know some of these games are a little silly but hey, I'm 13 too & I still have a fabulous time with my friends goofing off. Have fun & happy birthday!
Okay, for everyone or anyone who answers this, I really want a good answer. So here it goes.. My best best best friend is moving..because her divorsed parents are getting back together. and she seems fine with it. Our town (i dont want to sound posh about this one..) is a pretty rich town, homes go up to 1.1 million. and so her mom doesn't want to pay that kind of money for a house. Its so scary, because we are so close, I don't know what to do!
signed,
best friends for n/ever?
I know what you're going through. When I lived in California, I had to move cross country to Florida & leave my best friend in the whole world. It was hard & I knew that I would have a difficult time adjusting. It's natural to feel sad or worried about things changing. Changes are scary. I suggest spending as much time as possible with her. Also, try to plan something to celebrate the change. Make a vow to stay in touch & maybe even give eachother a little something so that you can think of eachother often. It's the little things that count. Good luck & if you ever need anymore help, feel free to let me know. ♥
ok... so i know this is going to be one of the dumbest things you've ever heard... but... my best friend.. idk she doesnt make me feel very good.. she does things that cause me to cut myself.. and she steps all over me.. i bend over backwards to try and make sure she's happy and everything.... but she just doesnt seem to appreciate me.. i'm a really pure hearted girl.. and it's gotten to the point where she could slap me and say she hated me and i'd still love her.. kinda like when you hear about those guys that beat there wives and they stick arond and dont rat on there husbands.. i know its dumb.. but idk... im not happy in life... she's made me weak and insecure... she swore she hated this girl amanda....those two hated eachother for the longest time... and now its like nothing happened and they're best friends again.... i hate it.. and all of my friends say to just forget my bf because she isn't worth it.. but no one understands how hard that is for me..... i know i shouldnt stick around... but gosh.. its so dang confusing.. please help me anyone!
5's to anyone that helps...... :'(
Hey sweetie, I know exactly what you are going through because I just got out of the exact same situation. How do I feel? Pretty relieved. Life will never be the same.
Basically, you have to make a choice that will change everything. It might hurt at first, maybe not. Sounds like you are just as loyal to her as I was to my best friend. I tried to stake it out for as long as I could but it ended up catching up with me. I turned to my mom & she gave me advice that I want to share with you...
Anyone that makes you feel degraded, hurt, scared, unloved, unappreciated, pushed aside, un-needed, unimportant, or drives you to self harm, they are not worth it. You have to decide whether you would rather live a life free of pain & sorrow without her, or go on living the same troubles WITH her there.
I know you're having alot of trouble making this decisian & that's what keeping you from deciding but you really have to choose. You deserve way better then someone like. I wish I had a friend like you that was that loyal. Anyone would be lucky so I suggest finding someone who will treat you kindly.
Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to ask, I'm here for you ♥.
Ok i am moving...and i live in one place and im moving to another and im only moving 10 or 20 mintues away and all my friends are really sad!Im not gonna be going to there jr high next year either... and i dont know how to react to it can you help me!!??
I've moved many times in my life, once across country. I know you're going through a tough time & it may take awhile to adjust. There's alot about moving that causes sad emotions to erupt but some good things too. It's natural for your friends to miss you. Things will be different for them once you move. Even though you're not moving far, you'll be at a whole new school & there will be new challenges awaiting for you. I reccomend assuring your friends you'll keep in touch with them. Tell them how close you'll be & you'll come visit alot. Explain to them how much they mean to you & how they will NEVER be replaced. Suggest that you spend some quality time together like a sleepover or a spa day. Also invite them to come over once & a while when you move & talk to them on the computer & phone. Just keep the friendship going & everything will be fine. Good luck & have fun! I hope you have a great new experience at your new school & if you need any more help, feel free to drop me a question in my inbox. ♥
I have a friend you always says she's really depressed. At first i really was worried and i belived her to the fullest, but now its like she does it only for attention!! I hate it! She wont even eat anymore! I try to get her too but she refuses to! I dont know how to act around her anymore, cause she always takes everything the wrong way, Please please please help!! I'll rate high i promise!! I just dont know what to do!
You've been doing what any good friend would. Trying to get her to snap out of it. I understand what you're going through. My friend acts the same way to get attention. I know it's probably really hard on you, especially since you know she's not for real. The only way to get her to stop is that she sees she's not getting the attention she's after. Just leave her alone for a while & don't pay attention to what she's doing. Then she'll realize that it's all a waste because you're not there telling her how much you care about her & urging her to get better. I know this is a hard on you, hun but I know you'll be fine. Good luck! If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me =]
Well i have this friend lets call him fred... Yesterday i was talking to fred when i found out that he had tried to kill himself tree times already... but the worst thing is he is only in 7th grade... what can i do to help him? please help..
I had a friend just like Fred. We weren't very close but I ended up helping her in the end. Maybe you can do some of the things I did so you can help your friend. For starters, we'll review some background information about suicide attempts. Most people try to kill themselves because they don't feel as if anyone cares about them & are very unhappy with their current life. You could help Fred out by talking to him & telling him what a great friend he is. Suicide is a serious situation & there are 2 ways that a friend can help out. One is, like I said, hang out with him & make him feel loved & needed. Let him know that if he did kill himself, you would miss him. The other thing to do is to tell someone (an adult like a parent, or someone you trust) about his condition. They'll be able to talk to him about it. Communication is the best way to go! In fact, you could even be the one to sit with him & have a talk about his feelings. Good luck & if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox. =]
Ok well me and my best friend both like the same guy!!and like its big time like,so u cant stop liking him.hehe confusing i know.and so like he was saying he wants to "do stuff" with me then he turns around nd says he wants to "do stuff" with her adn tells her not to tell me because he doesnt want to ake me mad.and like we just want him to pick one of us because its getting like jealousy.but if he picks one of us then one of us will get jealous but we want him to soo like hehe whta do we do??????thanks soo much and ya i know its a little confusing! 14/f
p.s. i really really like him!
I've been in this situation too many times to count. I'm going to give you the best advice possible. It's going to be the total truth. This boy is playing games with the two of you. If he's saying he likes you then turning around and saying he likes her then there is obviously a problem. It's not worth your friendship. If you really like him & want this to work out then one of you is going to have to confront him & tell him to pick. You'll have to choose whether it's him or your friendship. If it helps, talk to your friend about it. Just a warning, friends are forever but relationships end. Good luck though! Sorry if I sounded stern it's just, I've watched some of my great friendships end because we both liked the same guy & picked him over eachother.
my best best best friend in the whole world since kindergarten is turning into a big JAP! she has so many fricken juicy hollister abercrombie etc clothes its soo annoying. we'll call her sally. so i'm not the most popular girl in the world but i'm not a complete loser. i'm a little ditzy and crazy and dorky but thats who i am. thats how all my firneds are. she doesnt seem to accept us though. all she cares about is being popular so she doesnt even say hi to us anymore. she doesnt care when we leave, and she follows her rly popular friends around. she doesnt hang out with me and my other friends anymore. its like she doesnt care that we exist. but shes so fun and nice when shes not busy being careful about being popular. i want her to be the same sally she used to be. over last summer, she started changing alot and getting much jappier. i didnt say anything--i didn't think it mattered. it's gone too far now-- what should i do?
Sorry this is happening to you. It happens to alot of people because others change & you can't control it. It's sad for girls to desperately want to be popular that they forget about their true friends but it happens. Let me tell you a secret about the in crowd. Whenever they take in "fresh meat", it never lasts for long. Unfortunately, you're going to have to make the decisian whether you want to accept your friend again once she comes crawling back to you. If I were you, I wouldn't. She's not a true friend & you deserve better than that. Show her that you don't need her & don't act needy at all. If you prove that life goes on without her than she'll start thinking about things more in depth when she realizes she's not needed. If you need any more help, let me know :).
ok..I've known this guy for about 9 months. Ever since i met him, i've liked him a lot. when i told him i had feelings for him, we went out immediately. we were crazy about each other until another kid, *nick* started hanging out with me. i dumped the guy for *nick*, which i knew would be a huge mistake. the other guy was heartbroken, and to be honest i was too. i went out with *nick* for about 2 week then broke up with him because i still had really strong feelings for the other guy. so then me and the other guy went back out with each other for about 2 weeks total and then he broke up with me. He was the first guy i actually cried over. so now hes going out with another girl and i feel like a piece of crap because i still REALLY like him but i dont think he knows it. It's killing me how much i still like him and i've tried so hard to see other guys but NOTHINGS working..I REALLY NEED SOME HELP!!
First of all, that's how he felt probably when you dumped him first. But don't worry, I'm not going to be mean & lecture you. We all make mistakes & I'm here to help you out :). I would go up to him & tell him that the two of you really were meant to be together. If you can't talk to him in person, try doing it online or over the phone. Tell him the truth & be as gushy as possible. That way, he can really see the love you have for him. Guys like to feel needed so if you apologize for breaking his heart first & make it seem like a huge mistake then he'll feel that you really want to get back together. Good luck!