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I wish i had best friends but i dont. I want to be friends with certain people but i dont know how to fit into heir group.

Try not to worry about "fitting in". If you act naturally, I'm sure you will attract people. It would be easier to give advice if I had more information, but I'm sure that you'll do fine. I hope you find some good friends soon :)

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My birthday is coming up soon and I was just wondering if anybody had any ideas on what we could do for fun...I'm turning 14 if that helps at all!! =) I rate for good ideas!! =)







signed,
Birthday Girl

Rent a lot of movies (that's what I usually do), get a bunch of junk food, and have a sleepover with a few close friends. My most successful birthday parties ever were like that, hehe.

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ok well me and one of my best friend got into our 2nd fight ...and we made a promise to eachother that we wouldn't fight for something stupid(our golden promise), and it happend, she asked me to be her friend and i said no, and i have no clue why, i really wanted to be her friend, but i just didn't wanna seem easy to jus let it go, cuz i've done that b4 and my other friend took advantage of me, and kept doing it and then i finally stuck up for myself, and i dont know wat to do w/ this friend, i mean i love her so much and we have been friends so long, and i wanna talk to her and become friends with her again, but ...i don't know wat to do should i just i-m her and ask her to be friends? and uhmm, wat if she says no? wat do i do? i'm gonna feel like an idiot=( please help
Love,
?some1?

I say you should tell your best friend about your ex-friend who took advantage of you. Explain why you said, "no" when she asked to be friends again. Tell her that it was simply because of a bad past experience and not because you truly don't wish to be her friend anymore. After that, I guess you could say something like: "So, yeah... That's why I said no :\ But I really do want to be friends again, if you're still willing to give it another go?"

Hope that helped and good luck!

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All my friends are so much prettier and skinnier than me, and it lowers my self esteem. They are always the ones that get all the guys attention, and I hardly get any. I know it shouldnt matter at all, but it still bothers me. My friends dont treat me badly or anything, but im always worried that they are secretly thinking lower of me. Any suggestions on how to quit becoming so jealous and to stop thinking Im not good enough for my friends?

I know what you mean. However, keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Guys have a variety of tastes in ladies and I'm sure that you'll find one (if not more!) who prefer your looks over that of your friends. You may even have some secret admirers ;)

I'm sorry if this did not fully answer your question, but it's all I could think of to say.

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