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I am 23 years old. I have a daughter who is about to turn six ( I was 17 when i gave birth to her) and i am 3 months pregnant. I have never been married. I would like to let you know that my advice is genuine. I have been through alot in my life. From childhood problems, relationship problems, family problems. I have done my share of experiencing with drugs and alcohol. I have had suicide thoughts as a teenager. I have autistic triplet brothers and a sister with multiple sclerosis. I have not seen or spoken to my father in 12 years. I hope that i can help you and will do my best.
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What iif yur best friend likes the sayme kid as yu do!?! whta do yu do0? im so0 confused riight now! i made out with this kid last night nd so0- did she!!!!...uhh ii dont no but she went to his house 2day nd who nos wuht! i new him for such a long time 2!! - he wanted to get wiht me so0 mii other friend who was there hooked us up! but i was getin tired nd didnt feel to good so0 mii bess friend went nd made out with him right after me! :( ... i dont no wut to doO! uhhh sum1 plz help me i rate good!!!! thanx
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Even though shes your best friend, theres a competitor in everyone. She may feel like she has something to prove. And your guy friend is probably hanging out with her because shes very willing to do so. HIs true colors will come out. IT might be a good idea to NOT show interest in him, just in case hes a player. If he really likes you then he'll prove it. Just be careful. Even the people you know can be cruel.
What does one do when their best friend has a new best friend? We used to send letters to each other and we signed them "your best friend, -------" Now this best friend is hanging out with one of those people who is known for clinging to people. I've been this person's best friend since I was only 5 years old. What is the smartest thing to do?
If this best friend of yours is a true friend, then she will not forget about you. If you are not spending as much time with her as before because of this "new best friend" than you need to talk to her. How do you feel about this other friend? Is she nice? If so, then give her a chance. If this other friend has a problem with you and is trying to break up your friendship than you need to point that out to your best friend. Hopefully she will see that. But my advice is to be friends with both. Spend time with them both. Have you ever heard that saying, "twos company, three's a crowd"? Well its not true. I have 2 best friends. My sister who is 2 years older, and another girl i have known for 7 years who is the same age as my sister. I couldnt imagine my life without either of them. You said this other girl (girl right?) is known for clinging. Maybe she just needs a friend. Try it. If this girl becomes a problem, then discuss it. I hope this helps.
Hey!! Ok My best friend like getz jelous or mad or sumin wen i hang out with other ppl and stuff n she fights wit my bf like sayin we should be tighter n that me n her should hang out more than me and my bf but i think thats tru 2 a point but wenever i do sumin wit sum1 that doesnt have her in it but she leaves me out sumtimes but i dont say nuttin so wut should i do??
Having a best friend, is having a "serious relationship". I know it sounds weird but its true. You label someone as your best friend because that person is someone you can confide in, someone you trust with your secrets, someone who will always be there for you no matter what. But just like when you are in a serious relationship with a boyfriend, you need a little space. And if she has issues with this, then she needs to know that she is not acting like a best friend. She might feel left out but you said that she does stuff without you also so why is she making such a big deal about it? Talk to her. Tell how you feel about it. Hopefully, as your best friend, she will understand
ok well me and my(guy)friend both like each other but we are not going out.(long story) but he said that he wanted to kiss me and then asked me what i thought and i said idk. and i still dont know. but i dont want to say yes and i dont want to say no. cuz if i say yes then we will end up going to far..and ill end up getting to close and dont want to get hurt. but if i say no then i might regret it. and one of my friends went on vaca for two weeks. the guy i like and her both liked eachother b4 she left. then all this happend and me and him held hands at the movies adn stuff. she will be back soon and idk what will happen.he might go back with her. i need some advice on what to do. im so confused..please help.
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Before you jump into anything, wait until your friend gets back from vacation. In the meantime, let your guy friend know your concerns. Hopefully he will be honest with you. If he is sincere and he really wants to be with you, go for it. We all have to learn from our mistakes. It might be the best decision ever.
Lately my bestfriend has been acting all weird on me I mean me and her are so cool with each other but all the sudden she pops out with I've sopposly changed i am acting all weird but i dont see what she means and i think she thinks that i have a crush on her bf(i think cause i use to like him)but i dont and i dont know how to get that through to her.
It sounds like she is trying to make you feel bad about once liking her boyfriend. Maybe her boyfriend likes you to and she senses that. She might be insecure about her relationship. Maybe spend some time away from her, let her cool down. Then have a talk with her. Let her know that you are her friend and willing to talk to her about anything. good luck!
hey some of my friends are doing this thing when they all gang up on me and its really annoying and im not sure if they r my friends still and a lot of ppl say 2 just hang out w. the guys bc none of them r like the girls (talking about eachother) should i or just play it cool and stay w. my "friends"?
That depends on how your friends are making you feel. When they gang up you, are they singling you out? Or do they gang up on your other friends. Don't let them belittle you are make you feel bad. If they are your true friends, then talk to them. Let them know that you are not amused by their games. If they continue to do it, drop them. You are better than that. Don't put up with it.
Ther's this guy I like at my school. We flirt back and forth all the time but its a joke we made a couple of months ago. Just about everyone at school knows I like him. In fact, I'm pretty sure he knoew it to. Some times I sit by him at lunch but he kinda ignores me. I wanna tell him I like him but he just to go out with all these slut girlfriends who would make out with him anywhere. and well if i do tell him and we start dating, I don't want to be compared to all those other ex-girlfriends. Should I tell him??
Keep him as a friend. If he is dating girls who are "Sluts", then they dont have any respect for themselves. Keep respect for yourself. I think it would be a good idea to let him know how you feel, because it sounds like you are good friends. I am sure he will give you his honest feed back. If he wants to hook up with you, than you need to ask yourself if you can be strong enough to let him go the first time he hurts you. I only say this because it seems like he hasnt has a steady girlfriend for a while. As far as feeling compared. Don't worry about what others think. You know whats up. Thats all that matters. Good luck!
i met this guy back in february and i liked him right from the start. i had never had a boyfriend before so i was very innexperienced in flirting and stuff. everyone started asking me if i liked him and stuff and i kept saying sure. but then someone told me that he liked me and i was sooo excited!! i really didn't think he did tho cuz he didn't act like it or anyhting. and now my friend likes him!! i seriously can't tell when someone is flirting and i missed my chance!! how can i be better at communicating without putting myself on the line?
I was the same way. I was labeled as quiet and shy...and i sucked at flirting! One of the hardest, but most effective way of flirting is eye contact and smiling. And that is because eye contact proves you are interested. A guy likes a girl who will listen. Have you ever been talking to someone who constantly looks away? Its not very reassuring. Also, smiling is like natures prozac..like the sunshine. And its contagious. Another thing, that i have known to be effective is a wink. If you notice a guy keeps looking at you, and you are interested, wink at him. If you are unsure of whether the guy is interested, then strike up a conversation. Something simple. Even if it sounds like a line, and might not be true, tell him he looks familiar. ask him about school or where he works. If he likes you, he'll keep the conversation going. About your friend, well, what can i say, friends like to compete. Its a given. But let her know when you are interested in a guy. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
ok this weekend i got my hair cut and i went by myself this time when usually i go with my mom. well my hair person is a guy. and idk who to tell ive only told 1 person and they said i should tell my mom but im so scared. well neways he was talkin bout my tan lin efrom my bikini and then he started lookin at it and he pulled my shirt down and by bra out so he could see my whole boob and i tried to pull his hand away but he grabbed my hand and pulled my shirt down even more. i dint knwo wut to do cuz hes a big buff guy and i was scared to do nething. we were the only ones in there so i couldnt do nething. then he kept grabbin my boobs and he unzipped his pants and told me to look and i told him that i didnt want to and he still did. then after he grabbed my chin and kiss me on the lips like 5 times. and hes like tell me u would do me if u were older.. (im 15 hes 32)and i tried to turn away again and he grabbed my chin and said look at me in a mean controlin voice. i felt so uncomfortable and idk who to tell. idk if u would call that molestation or wut. and its horrible bc i cry all the time now, its been 2 days since it happend. and everytime i wash my hair i remember it and i start to cry bc i was gettin my hair done when this happend. im so scared to tell my parents. what should i do????
plz help me im so scared
Tell your parents! If you are uncomfortable doing this, talk to your school counselor. What he did is not just molestation, its assault! And very ilegal. Rember that he could be doing this to other girls. Stand up for your rights! Your voice will be heard.