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Hey!

I'm Jacky. =]

I used to have a pic of me up but now I don't because that one was really old but I'll be getting a new one soon.

I was born in Augsburg, Germany although I've lived in many other places because my dad was in the army and right now I am currently living in Rochester, Minnesota.

I hate the weather here.

I wish I could move back to Germany because I love it there. All my relatives live there.

I'm sane here because I have my friends and family.

I'm pretty optimistic most of the time unless someone gets on my really bad side and I try to be positive. It's hard sometimes.

I love to give people advice. I'm pretty good at that.

I play soccer and tennis. I'm pretty athletic and I love to dance. I used to be in precision. I also love to sing.

I'm pretty outgoing even around strangers but that's nothing new. Haha.

If you want to get to know me more just IM me on aim or something or if you need advice just ask anytime because I'm on daily.

Thanks lots!
Jacky.

advice

Ok, so my friend has become serious with her BF. AND SHES COMPLETELY BETRAYED WHO SHE IS!!! Shes like super perky and totally self-centered all of the sudden. She used to be super nice and caring with a bit of goth-ness to her. Now all she can talk about how happy/lucky she is and completely ignores my problems or anything i want to talk about. I know she loves her BF, i'm not saying they should break up, but how can i tell her about this without looking like a bitch?
This Perky Narcissist is not the girl who used to be my friend.
I want my friend back =(

Ugh.
I know how this is.
I've been threw this with plentyy of friends.
Thing is, not much you can do when they're 'in love'.
Yes, you can talk to them about it.
It's just the way they're reacting because they think they have the best thing in the world.
Just talk to her about it though.
She shouldn't think your a bitch, just tell her that it's upsetting you because you feel like you're losing the way your friend is over a boy.
I'm sure she'll understand if she's a friend.
When you fall in love, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about.
I'm sure you even do, but I'm sure everything will turn out fine. :]
And trust me, when girls get a boyfriend they like so much, they'll definetly act more perky and self-centered.
It's just a girl being a girl.
Haha.
I hope I helped hun! :]
If you need anymore advice, just ask anytime. :D

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One of my best friends is in the relationship i think is bad.He is going with a 16 year old girl whom he tells people 18 or 19. He is 22. First of all when he is around our friends he says things about her like "that b!@#$...." or "she's so stupid" But around her its "hey baby or sweetie" At the same time she has on her profile that she loves him very much but wishes he loved her the same. Just last night they were talking on the phone when he says here talk to (me) I froze I didn't want to talk to her. Dont get me wrong shes a sweet girl and all. I just don't think that they are right for each other. I don't want to say the wrong thing and ruin our great friendship.

Ooh, so your best friend is going out with a youngin?
Hm.
Well, if he calls her bad names behind her back, I think that's pretty rude, he seems pretty two faced in my opinion.
If I were to tell you my honest opinion, I'd say that the relationship isn't right because of him, from what I'm hearing that's he's calling her.
But I don't know the details, so I can't really give a suggestive answer like that.
I'm just saying.
But, if you want to be honest and let him know you don't think the relationship is going right, go for it.
It can't hurt.
If he gets pissed, that's his deal.
There's no reason why he should, just explain to him why you think that.
I hope I helped! xx

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13/f

me and my bestfriends has been friends for a long time ! i would totally be a different person without her.. but for some odd reason.. she stopped talking to me, and i aimed her after i called her cause she didn't pick up.. and she never answered on aim. she was typing.. but she didn't enter anything, she js backspaced and didn't say anything.. then my older sister got mad and aimed her up saying why is she ignoring me and stuff.. but i told my sister that shes gonna get more mad.. so she said "don't tell mary that im aiming you, she doesn't know." and etc. finally when i commented her myspace.. i told her i was sorry for whatever i did that i got her mad at me.. and she put "............" and i said "are you mad?" and she said "should'nt you know if im mad or not?" and i said "okay, your mad.. can we talk about it?" and she said "i don't know HOW to talk about it." and i said "tell me what happened?" and she said she doesn't really wanna talk about it right now. idk what to do.. i didn't talk bad about her.. she treats me so well.. theres nothing bad to talk about.

my friend says that i should js give her some time and ask her again later.. and i told her when shes ready to talk about it.. aim me.. but she hasn't yet..

SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE !

It's alright, I've been in the same situation.
Maybe she's sensitive?
Maybe you did something to her that you don't remember doing that you didn't think was that important.
But if she's gonna be acting like this..
Your friend is right.
You should just give her some time and ask her again later or wait until she comes to you.
I'm sure everything will be perfectly fine between you two in no time.

I hope I helped.
=]

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I've got this amazing friend, John. I always joke around with him and everything with him and my best friend, Deanna, over the computer, but when it comes to actually hanging out.. it's a different story. While Deanna and I constantly are together, John only seems to want to talk to us when it's either conveniant for him, or when it's not in person.
For example, John, Deanna, our friend Alex and I all went to the movies to hang out. Well, Deanna, Alex and I all had a great time. We talked, laughed and everything, but John seemed to just completly be concentrated on the movie only, and when he wasn't, he was texting with some of his other friends. He pretty much didn't talk to us all until one of his newer friends met up with us at the therter..
He has made all these new friends, and I'm fine with him having friends, but he seems to be forgetting Deanna and I. He also seems to be more arrogant, because all of these girls happen to be alot prettier, and more popular than us.
He's just seemed to change.. and I really miss the old John, who I used to be able to joke around with, not having to worry about confrontation.
And I'm not flipping out all of a sudden, either.. This has been an on-going thing, and I've talked to him about it a few times. I don't pin blame or anything, but he's still not getting that he's not being the kindest person lately..

Please tell me what I should do.. I know not to push him away or anything, but.. what do I do to get everything like it used to be?

Thank you in advance, Sam

I've had a similar situation..

Well If you've talked to him about it and he still doesn't get the memo then maybe he has changed and moved on.

You can't change time. Maybe you liked the way he was before but you can't change him back either.

People change and you have to deal with that. I mean you still have really good friends and I'm pretty sure their will be more to come.

But since he's not understanding or seeming to care about how you feel about him acting like that then you should just move on.

Telling him over and over and over is not gonna make anything better since he's hear it before so it's not like it's gonna get any better.

So just move on for now and try to think about more important things. I'm sure everything will go well for you.

Good luck. =]

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I have a serious crash on this guy, and I think he likes me somehow, too. But I have bf, and he has gf.
We were both at this dinner, and nothing special (romantic) happened. We chatted and laughed with other friends there. Just like always. And end of night, we hug and said goodbye to each other.
When I got into my car, I got a text message from him. There's nothing special about what the msg said, just normal "good night" msg. But he never sent me txt msg before. And I just saw him 5 mins ago. Why did he send me the message?


That could mean anything. Maybe he could like you?

That's why you ask questions. You should just ask him if you're curious about it.

But normally if he just text messages you 'good night' and he's never done that before, it could be a sign but before you make any moves, I'd ask to be sure that he does like you.

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Okay
Im going to get straight to the point.
i REALLY like my best friend...we'll call him "joe"
he's nice, and down to earth, and funny...and
needless to say hes absolutly gorgeous.
so here's the problem..theres this other girl, we'll call her Beth.beth is one of those girls who is very concieted..and thinks everyone likes her. and she keeps pestering joe about going out with her...already. its been 2 days since joe and his ex broke up. he told me that he didnt see himself dating her..and didnt want to go out with her.

so now that i know Beth is out of the way-ish..i want to kind of make it a little bit more obvious that i like him in "that way". because i've liked him since the first day i met him(no lie) and all these other girls that are all of a sudden interested...werent interested at all untill he got thinner and changed his style...completely.

how can i go about winning him over more, and making him see that i would be just as good a girlfriend to him as i am a friend?

were both going to concert tomorrow with friends...any suggenstions would help tons!

thank you so much :DD

-15/f


Hah wow I've been through this before too. =]

Alright well if girls are chasing after him for right now you should just keep it on the dl for liking him.

If he likes you he'll chase after you instead of you after him because it a guy's work to come to you.

So just wait to see what happens. You can drop hints and stuff just don't ask him out or anything because you don't want yourself to look desperate.

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