Hi everyone! Im 14 years old, i live in Sweet Home Alabama. I love playing basketball, going to church, and hanging with my friends. i also love the computer/internet. I am a Baptist Christian (if you need to talk about anything pretaining to christianity or whatever IM me) and im willing to share about my faith. Hope you enjoy my column!
Im sick of school (middle at least) i cant wait till this summer when i go to the beach and hang with my friends and my family. If you ask a stupid inapropriate question, then im gonna give you a stupid inapropriate answer.
Im not like most guys. (no, im not gay) I dont like fire or fireworks. Im not perverted or nasty, im not looking for a girlfriend. im not the kind of guy who looks at girls butts as they walk by, i dont care how bug your butt or boobs are. i dont care what you look like, im happy with smart, funny, good sense of humor, and someone who enjoys life. I just enjoy life, i dont care what people say or think about me. i have plenty of friends that love me, and thats all i need. My family is really good, but im not perfect, i have my problems and imperfections.. but im living. Living a great fun filled life.
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ok well i have been best friends with illy,cassie for at least 4-3 years each.. latley now that were in high school and everything they always group up.. and i feel like ok .. should i walk away or just go with them... im never a follower.. i cant stand that, but illy has a boyfriend and her boyfriend obviously like cassie better than me.. the reason is i have no idea ! i mean her boyfriend doesnt bother me, but at times he does.. i dont know how to explain it.. any ways all last week i was dealing with alot of family problems, and both of them knew that.. so i wasnt all in a very good mood to talk even though i still did.. friday comes along and cassie and illy have planned to go to this dance recital at our high school, they didnt even invite me to go.. but i wanted to go any ways so i asked my good friend brittany if she wanted to go... so me and her went ! we got there and brittanys friend steven had already had our seats saved and about 3 others that if any of our friends showed up could sit there.. well i saw illy , cassie 2 rows in front of me.. i called illy to ask her something and cassie picked up the phone.. i said if they had plans to hang out with eachother afterwards and if we should all do something tonight.. cassie said no then hung up pretty much right away before i could ask if they wanted to come sit by me and britt.. cassie texted me saying ' why didnt u sit by us ' and i explained that steven had me, brittanys seats saved and that i wasnt really invited by them to go any ways.. she kept saying ' whatever ' so i finally said ' you know wut cass, this whole week you've been really bitchy towards me, not illy '.. and she just replyed thats pretty sweet.. and im like are you mad at me and she just said ' id rather not answer that ' so i was pretty much like forget it.. later that night through text i said i was sorry for whatever i did but it wasnt a good week for me until today but then u had to go ruin it by being a bitch to me for no reason..
... so now she said last night she wasnt mad @ me.. but she ingorned me completly today and when she was by me and illy she just talked to her..
i have no idea what to do, should i just ingore her ? or what ? please help.. ill rate ! (link)
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it sounds as if cassie is happy that she got a friend and she doesnt want to loose that friend and she doesnt want you taking her friend away. just ignore her.. and actl ike your perfectly fine and dandy, hang out with other friends.. she will get jealous eventually..nd if she doesnt.. you dont need her anyways, and if illy is a good friend she will realize what cassie is doing and she will come back to you. judst ignore her basically.. but sometimes all a person needs is someone to stand upto them and tell them straight how it is. some people dont see their problems.. so its up to us to let them know. :)
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My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input? (link)
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i think, if yall are friends it shouldnt matter, and besides if its the same color then not too many people will notice, unless it really stands out. but like, my friends would just laugh and if someone said somehitng to them about it theyd just laugh more. yea, they should suck it up. and if they cant its just immaturity. its just a dress, its not the end of the world.
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my friend is goin out with the guy i like and my other best friend likes him. how can i win him over the other 2?i rate high.
p.s. the other 2 girls are mad at me for certain reasons (link)
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is this a game? if not you made it sound like that. if the guy is going out with your friend, then he likes her. and if he likes her, then he must not like you. you cant make a guy like you, he likes who he likes, and its not a gamed to be played. and i dont htink i would want to loose my friends over a guy. a guy that you probably wont marry anyways.
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I was friends with this girl named Tina for a whole grade before we grew apart. REcently, her mother died from cancer, and whenever I saw her after that she acted like she was fine, so I always made sure to act cheery and bright around her, and to pretend as though it never happened. My other friends all tell me I'm heartless and pretending like it never happened to her is just going to make it worse. What do I do? (link)
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i have a friends whos mom recently died. but its different for everybody. both you and your friends are right. dont go out and say stuff about her mom dieing though, that will deffinetly make it worse. and everytiem your around her you cant act all sad and scared in a way, it will make her think about it too much. but you do need to be there for her, if she says somehting about it then you need to talk to her. be a friend. keep being cheerful, get her mind off of your mom, so she can have fun.
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I am completely obsessed with my friend. I moved to where I am now when I was 12, just before 7th grade (I'm now 15 and in 9th grade). There's this one pretty, athletic 'popular girl' that I saw and befreinded. We became friends, and I had her spend the night at my house and all- I also became friends with her best friend, and had both of them spend the night quite a few times. I thought everything was going good, but in January- it was then I noticed that neither of them had ever invited me to spend the night at their houses at all. They had never invited me to do anything, or ever called me. I thought in time they would. At camp that year, it was terrible. They had friends there they ignored me for. All of them would sit on Her bed, leaving me alone on my own. I tried to get them to notice me, sitting their alone, with no luck. When we were all setting up chairs of where to sit, they all got seats and didn't save me one, and I sat alone behind them, trying to blink back tears. The next year at camp was the worst so far. She and her friends ditched me worse than ever the intire time. It was a nightmare. Well, in late July, I confronted her on aim. It was terrible. I was all like YOU ALWAYS IGNORE ME AND I JUST GOT TIRED OF IT and she's all 'you should have told me'.anyhow, few months later i watched her and her best friend with some others walk off to go do something, while i watched trying HARD not to cry. its now like 6 months later, and i have new friends but all lyrics of every song i write is about her. every song i hear is about her. every day at school i think about her. every night at home i think about her. in everything i do, i think about her. i can't help it. i dream about her. i don't know what to do- i thought i was over her before, but i guess i'm not. i just want it all to be over.
I guess I'm so obsessed with all the pain she caused me because I've never had a boyfriend and so I've never had my heart broken. But she, she taught me how to bleed. I think about her more than any other person. I even dream about her, I dream that we're friends, best friends, and she laughs with me and throws her arms around me...
I just can't take it anymore... How can I get over this? How can I make it STOP? (link)
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this is kinda weird. it almost sounds like love in a way. you must have really wanted this girl to like you, to notice you and to be friends with you. i think you should just completely focus on something else, try finding an even better friend. but it really does seem like love, you cant stop thinking about her, you dream about her, and so on... i dont know... you need to find out what it is thats making you not be able to get your mind off of her. find out who you are in the inside. let your mind wonder.
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Hey guys ok well .. two of my 'so called best friends' have just like .. ditched me & come up with excuses of why they hate my guts. One of my best friends [not one that hates me] i dont really know if i can trust but everything seems to be fine. But in the past we've had a number of fights and they might be like ruining our friendship. She says everything is ok though. And for my one, true best friend.. she has always stayed true but the two friends who hate me are like trying to turn her against me. I dont think they'll ever be able to though, we've been best friends for like, ever. I just want to know what I should do. Should i make more friends? Im really the shy type, so it would feel pretty awkward for me to just start talking with new people. I will appreciate ANY advice. Thanks soo much (link)
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if they dont like you anymore and they are mean to you, they arent worth your time. if you still want to be friends with them find out what the reason is they dont like you anymore. and if you find out, see if you can do anyhting about it. if that doesnt work, just ignore them and stick with the people who actually like you.
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I have a really good friend and i can talk to her and yadadada yea well we can do stuff like talk u know she is like my BFF. But there is this other girl she is really good friends with her and i dont realy like her but yea she is okay but ne time my friend hangs around with i feel like i dont need to be there becasue she always gose to her and not me. What should i do? (link)
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you cant force anyone to be better friends with you or to talk to you about stuff. its just the way people are, nobody is perfect, dont get mad at her about it. it would be okay to tell her how you feel, but dont be too harsh. just keep being her friend, dont complain about her not coming to you. some people just clcik... and your friend and the other girl may just click in that area. you can be there for her in different areas of her life, mabey to just be a friend, or give and incouraging word.
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One of my old friends' never talked about guys. Like, we would be on the fone, and i would be talking about the guy i liked, and shed kinda just, "push away" the subject. She always said she never likes anyone, and she dosent think that anyone is "cute" or "Hot". I think thats kind of weird. Then one day, we were talking online, and she told me she was a lesbian. It was really awkward, and i really started to believe her, and then when i saw her the next day at school, she was like "omg that was hilarous last night! i was joking!"....I dont know but this kind of looks strange to me..Any ideas on why she might not like to talk about guys? oh by the way..i dont want to talk or ask her about this. thanks! (link)
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when she told you on the internet, she was emotionaly upset, and she really needed to tell someone about it. shes really confused about what shes feeling. then the next day when she said she was joking, she decided it wasnt time to tell anyone yet, that she wasnt positive that it was true.
all of the ^above^ is if she actually is a lesbian. if she isnt then she just hasnt gotten into guys yet, give it time.
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I moved here in 6th grade and I've always wanted to be popular...So I tried hanging with the white popular people and it seriously was HARD work!! Each year, things got better..and now I'm at that point where we'd be better friends if I'd invite them over (I haven't invited them over yet because I'm embaress that they will say that my house is small compared to theres..or that they will make fun of my lifestyle..and everything) I'm now in 11th grade..and I really want to be friends with these people..I don't think I can keep a close relationship with them if I never invite them over...I'm just very embaressed of the way I live...Compared to them, I'm so much uglier and poorer..and they're rich...Please don't judge..Thanks (link)
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if they care what you look like and what your house looks like, they arent true friends, and he long run, they arent the friends you want, no matter how popular or fun they are. you need to find friends that will like you for who you are, not what you look like and how you live. and just enjoy life, dont worry about what other people think.
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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oyu did the right thing by walking away... you know, if she thinks shes better than everyone else, then she need to be left alone, and eventually she will realize she needs you again, and that she needs you as a friend. but have you talked to her about it? she may have something that is bothering her, or have a problem at her house with her family or something.. and she just doesnt want to be hurt. i dont know, but some people dont know how to deal with stuff liek that and all they really need is someone to talk to.
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