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Ok so me and my bf of 4months had our first fight a few days ago and part of it was about me not talking to his friends when we're hanging out with them. Im really shy and i just find it hard to talk to people i dont know that well. So if i dont talk to his friends they end up thinking i hate them but i dont. it just takes me a while to open up to people. So my question is how do i start conversations with these people and get to know them better, like join in conversations when i dont know what or who their talking about.
I just dont know what to say to them.

Love, Jess

I am shy my self too, people say it can be rude but I say its hard to think of what to say and not say something wrong that will defended them.

What I do, I smile my hello or wave and I ask them what they like to do for a hobbies, career, work and school (major) those are great topics for any one to talk about.
Once you know what they like or dislike then you might know if you and your bf friends have in common.

And if you can’t think of something else to talk about then join in the conversations.

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Almost all my friends buy their clothes from this popular clothing store called Stitches. They have great clothes there but I think they're too expensive. So, almost all my wardrobe is from Frenchy's (I'm sooo lucky there!) Anyways, sometimes my friends buy the same shoes or clothes as each other and they freak out at each other.I always tell them to chill and its their fault they buy at a popular store. What can I do about this?

there is really nothing you can do.If i was them i will call up my friend ask her what she is wearing at the show or whatever we are hanging at and descide what we wear that night, so we wont show up as dorky twins.

they cant tell each other off because they like the same style , i mean right now there is a girl buying the same shoes and /or shirt too and they arent friends. i mean there is no clothes shop only for a particular person really. and sometime we borrow some clothes from one another, (but e never give it back)LOL


i hope that i helped.

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my friend is masically the coolest one in our little "group". Anyways, everyone loves the expressions she uses. She says things like "OH BABY" and "come on noww". Anyways, are there any expressions that I can use that are kinda cute/clever/funny? THANK YOU SO MUCH. %% thanks %%

Dammmm!
Lets get it started
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Nicesss


IDK, sorry i tryed

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hey. well there's this girl, we'll call her ...lauren. well in eigth grade we got into a fight. [yes, a fist fight] well, the thing is that she didnt even know me when she wanted to fight me. (she was the one who wanted to fight me, she punched first and so i hit back) and she won. but, she like.. sat on me and i couldnt get up and she talks about how stupid that is to do that to someone because its unfair all the time. anyway, sorry for rambling. but, she hates me. Honestly, i don't know why. I'm not one of those girls who does things and someone would actually have a ligit. reason for it. she just...hates me. i mean, in class i dont talk. and out of school we have NEVER talked, not even for a second. well, besides the fight.. but that wasnt for very long. lol. she's always soo nice to me- but behind my back she talks about me. anyway. i dont want this to escalate into a fight again because i have to focus on my studies. [like, seriously] I hope someone can give me advice on what to do whenever she does try and talk about me. do i just ignore it? do i stand up for myself? and how would i be able to do that without getting into a fight with her. if you met her, you'd know what i meant. shes the type of person who gets mad at EVERYTHING. please help & thankyou in advance.

I'm a person who gets pissed off and annoyed easyly. but lauren should not be a kid about it. she should talk to you or you talk to her.
my friends know i get tick off easyly but they mess with me for fun. but when i'm mad at them they know when to back off to gvie me my space. and then i'll go up to them when i want. you should probably do the same. Lauren should be a grown up about it to let it go, i really dont see any thing wrong what happen or why she made a big deal about it, cause i always fits fight with my pals and its only for laughs.but just give her space wait for her to go to you. if she doesnt respon well then ignor her cause she seems to be weasting your time cause u worrying about it and you dont need to if someone not serious about you and her's friendship.
hope i help.

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hey, i'm 14/f and in 9th grade. =] and this is my story.

i always seem to make really good friends then somehow distance from them, then I cant talk to them anymore and now everything is so awkward. this has happened 3 times but there's only 2 girls i want to be friends with again.

i used to be best friends with a girl (I'll call her "Ellie") in 2nd grade to 5th grade. Then, we kind of drifted..and now I really want to be friends with Ellie again, but I have NO idea how to go about it. We havent talked in like 4 years or the entire school year, but now we share a class and I know she notices me because we've made eye contact but neither of us says hi..which is kind of awkward

I'm shy as hell too, but it can be rude. if you want to be friends with them see what they like, hang out and tell them you want to be friends again. and if they dont keep in touch its not you its them. you need people who respect you of who you are. i found friends who are just like me but differences of course. and we became great pals like sisters. anyways. you need someone who likes who you R dont act like them or try to like what they like because you will weaste your time you need the right friends and to find them well, try to study with unknow pepole, talk to people in a club that you might like (art,music,fashion ect)in those school clubs things and you might find someone.

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hey. sorry if this is really long but I could def. use some advice if you have any. I had this group of best friends in fifth grade lets call them Rachel Jessey Jennie and Hannah. Anyway we were inseperable. Then in sixth grade Hannah moved to live with her mom and we threw her this big party with good luck gifts, cake, the whole thing. At first we kept in touch but once Hannah started making new friends she slowly stopped talking to us. Like especially me and Rachel we call her all the time and invite her places but she always has an excuse but then she can always hang out with her new friends. She blew off my birthday at the beginning of 7th grade year (this year) and at first when we started asking her what was up she was nice but today I found out she blew me off this weekend for one of her new friends Jaymie and she got WICKED mad at me for bringing it up and she kept saying oh I`m sorry I have a life and I made new friends blah blah blah and Rachel totally agrees with me and Hannah says that I`m the one that changed and that makes me really mad because I think I`m the only one that stayed exactly the same. What do you guys think. Any help would be great. ♥

That is not true friendship. i'm friends with only three people and i knew them all my life. they are my second family and i might be moving also. but i made a promise no matter what i will keep in touch. i hate when people do that to others and i dont like how hannah treated you. she needs to realize that you can be friends with old friends. anyways she is not wroth your time, dont worry about someone that is not worring about you. it breaks your heart and dont make it wrose. Rachel seems like a good friend stay by her side and with your other pals.
Hannah might miss that and she comes clawing back dont take the BS cause she all ready lost her good friends.
hope i help.

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my bestfriend recently hasnt been talking to me...and i tried talking to him about it and he just blew me off...

should i try talking to him again? it doesnt seem like he even listens...

what should i do?

did you ever made him mad? ask if he did. wait for a week or so and call him up and ask again.

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Hi. Lately I've been feeling like I've been growing apart from my friends and idk why... it seems like I'm always the one making plans with any of my friends and it really sucks. Most of them have boyfriends now that they hang out with 24/7 and I don't, so I'm hanging out with them less, or so it seems.
I've just been really bored and lonely lately and I know that's stupid because I do have alot of friends...but for the past 2 weeks I've just been home bored most of the time and I don't have any plans unless I call someone; no one is even making plans with me.
I hate this lonely feeling, it's pretty depressing. Why do I always have to make plans with my friends instead of them making plans with me? Now I have a week off from school and I don't want to just be bored the whole week or have to make all the plans? :-( :-(

I will hate that if that will happen to me and it might. but listen dont worrie they will realize that boyfriends arnt they only thing in the world. my sister made a mistake by always going out with her bf and not her friends. now she has no friends but her bf and they arnt working out well. talk to your so called friends, people have to make a equle amount of how much time they hang out with someone.(like they hang with you the other day and then they hanr w/ their bf the next)

they dont know how you feel so talk. or if the answer "oh no dont worrie we are still friends lets do something the next day" then they call "oh sorry i have to do somethin bla blah blah." then they become flaky on you. Now that is not a real friend. dont stay in your house moody all day show them that your alot of fun too.

just say "if your flaking on me then whats the point of being my friend, you just waest my time worring about our friendship and you dont even call cause blah blah ect." basically show your feelings how much you care about them.

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