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well the thing is my best friend likes this guy but she wont admit it and he like one of us we r not shur which one of us he likes better but w.e and i kind of like him to but i dunno what to do what shood i do??

your "best friend" should be the most important person to you besides ur family, of course. has your friend always been there for you? i think its wrong to get with ur bff's crush especially if you're not sure if you like him or not. if you really cared for her, let her be happy.

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Ok I kind of like this guy and he likes me ALOT. But his friend is his bestfriend they are like brothers ! But wow does he have a way of making me attracted to him. What should I do because I don't want this other guy to hate me. He is super cool and I would LOVE to stay friends with him, but what if he gets mad and neeeeeeeveerrr talks to me again? Please Help !

ok from what i understand, u dont want to hurt your friend that is ur crushes best friend? if thats the case, you need to talk it out with your friend. friendship lasts longer than a boyfriend and if you are serious about staying friends with that guy, you should talk to him, let him know whats goin on. he'll understand.

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I move here about 11 months ago,and i made friends. Everything was good until the ending of the year. My friends became friends with this girl,and she seemed to make them not pay attension to me,not that she didnt like me,she just would push me away. And i got all sad about that.Well i gave up being there friends,i dont know why.I've been longing to move back to my city and my mom said she would.I keep avioding my so called "frineds" here any only playing with the ones from my old city. I find it easyer to have fun. But there's this grudge and i dont know why i have it,im starting to get really depressed and longing to move back everday. How can i fix this?!!? (no matter what i am moving back though...my mom is decideing and if she cant find a house im going to live with me dad when he moves to my city)

i'm sorry that girl took your friends. it happens all tha time. try making new and different friends. or if not, all you need is one good friend and that would help a whole lot. dont think about wanting to move back. keep your head on the positives of this place first because you want to make ur current location as comfortable as possible. i hope everything works out ok

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My best friends in the world, Kayla & Bridget are always good to me. But lately, Bridget hasen't been. She hangs out with a lot of other girls who are mean, and doesn't act like her old self. I have no idea what's going on, and Kayla is away to New York for the WHOLE summer and i miss much [i live in virginia]

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as time goes on, people change. i'm sorry about bridget. some of my closest friends recently blew me off also. maybe she needs a change in her life. talk to her and ask her what's going on. if she keeps blowing you off for other girls who are mean, let her make her own mistakes. sooner or later she'll realize what a great friend you were and come back to you. but for now, back off a little. there are a lot of people to hang out with and talk to. if you want you can email me at: azns4evr@yahoo.com my name is linh. and if you need anything i'll be here.

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alright well i like my best friend, not a lot, just a little. Anyway, he likes this girl that goes to a catholic school and shes a total bitch. she acts like shes perfect and she has it all good, you know? well anyway, so my best friend likes her and my other friend told her, well we got into a fight ((me and my bestfriend)) cuz he blamed it on me but it wasnt my fault. anyway thats fine so now in her profile the whole things dedicated to her boyfriend and she did that right after my friend told her about my best friend liking her, and when he reads that hes gonna be really hurt.. i dont want him to get hurt, but it seems like w/e i do i cant help.. any ideas?

talk to him. tell him whats really going on. he shouldn't get mad at you if he was really your friend. but i understand that he likes this girl. so just let him see the site. he will get hurt but you gotta let him make his own mistakes. then he'll FINALLY know that you'll never lie to him. hope all goes well.

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Dear amazing people,
One of my best guy friends who I just happen to like is gonig out with this girl...lets call her Shelly. I over heard her talking to her friends about wht shes going to do friday because they dont want to invite my guy friend (alden). I heard her say I can go to 1 and 2 but not 3 and I think she meant base wise. I wanna tell lden but it would break his heart and he would proably think I was lying what do I do??

definately tell him. i used to have bad feelings about my best guy friend's girlfriend. i told him and turns out she was cheating on him. me and him are closer than ever. we both made a pact that we would listen to each other open minded and never lie to each other. if he was really your friend, he would take your concerns to heart.

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i dont want to choose between my friends bc i love them both. i have 2 of the closest friends in the world. if i do something with one of them, the other one will get mad and say "oh well your leaving me out a lot and i feel left out" and all that and then i go over to the other one and hang out with her for like 12 minutes b4 the other one comes over and says "oh well your leaving me out a lot andi feel left out" so i do things like go to the movies with both of them and if i lean over and say something like "this movie is awesome" the other one will be like "YOUR LEAVING ME OUT AGAIN! WHAT ARE YOU SAYING TO HER?" so i talk loud so they both can hear me and boom...."DID YOU SAY SOMETHING TO HER THAT YOU DIDNT TELL ME?" and im like "NO!" so.....this goes on and on and on and on! im tired of it! I love them both to death but they are sooo annoying!!! I always do things with both of them at the same time and they just keep nagging me!! helpppp.

have all three of you tried to be friends? look, if they really cared about you, they wouldn't drive you nuts like that. honestly, they seem to be acting like a bunch of babies. i mean this isn't kindergarden. tell them to grow up. its ok to have more than one friend. i'm sure they have more than one friend too and you don't bug them so tell them to stop bugging you!

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I'm having this b-day party on saturday (bowling) and they're will be about 15-16 ppl there. and 2 of my friends HATE each other..i mean HATE...and i love them both to death and i hate choosing between the both of them, i'm afraid that they will start fighting and stuff like that. question is, what do i do if this happens (i've already tried talking to them both) and second question is, how do i choose between the 2? b/c i love hangin out w/ both of them i just can't do it at the same time. thanks in advance!

they don't HAVE to talk to each other. let them talk to their friends. let them talk to you. just don't let them talk to each other. and hun, if both were TRULY your friends, they wouldn't make you have to choose. if they were really your friends then let them be your friends. they don't have to be friends with each other. good luck with everything.

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okay well i like love my best friend, he means everything to me, but the thing is i dont wanna like him. i mean, he knows i like him, but he doesnt know how much. i like cant ever stop thinking about him, hes everything to me. i would give my life for him. i have a boyfriend right now, but i still love him. how can i get my mind off him?

unfortunately sweetie, you can't help who you fall in love with. give him a chance to see how much you really care for him. as for your boyfriend, let him in on the news. its not fair to either of you that you love someone else. better sooner than later. good luck.

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Hi im 14 and a female, see there are these really mean group of girls at my school and they ised to be all my really good friends until 8th grade they started acting ;ike they were rea;;y cool and stopped talking to me. i asked them what was wrong and the act like everything is just fine. Then they went behind my back a nd told everybody some rumor about that wasnt true. My mom says there just jealous of me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do?

hun, there is nothing wrong with you. they just THINK that they are better than you. they're growing and getting hormones. thinking they're beautiful, but the honest to god truth is, your mother is right. they are jealous. they have nothing better to do in their pointless lives than to put down people. they think their superior to you. the reason they talk about you is to make the school think you're a bad girl so they seem normal. they say all that garbage because THEY are insecure and the only way to feel better is to put you down. forget those girls. you can do so much better than them and you deserved someone worthy of your friendship. good luck with everything.

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Okay... I'm 16 and theres this guy ive liked since the 8th grade, in 7th grade we were sort of close. Im now in the the 10th grade and Earilier this year i sort of got mad but not @ him i just sort of blamed it on him. This was september and he hasnt talked to me since except once and thats only cause i was dating one of his friends. Hes like one of my best friends and i hate the fact that hes not talking to me how would you get him to talk? I appligied tons of times and he wont except it. What should i do?

if you apologized a million times, and he still won't forgive you, he's obviously wanting this to happen. he wants you to come crawling back begging for him to take you back. this is what he wants. to see you need him. but don't. there are lots of other great guys who will actually listen to you when you try to talk. take care.

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