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I told my best friend something that i didnt want anyone to find out, and she tells someone i dont think i can trust her ever again should i?

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wow, tough situation. That has happened to me before too. Just confront your friend about it and tell her that you didnt want anyone to know and the fact that she told someone upset you. You can probably still trust her, just be careful of what you tell her. And if you talk to her, she will probably understand and respect your trust more. Good luck, hope I helped.

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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ok so i liked this guy for a while and i had one class with him this year ..i could never get myself to talk to him at school..but we would alwaus talk on AIM ...well he now has a g/f thats like 19 and hes 15...so i tried to get over him but i cant... now one of my CLOSE friends likes him ...well everytime we talk about him she gets really sad (b/c she knows he has a g/f) ...idk most people say he just uses his g/f for sex ..but i feel really bad for my friend and i think i still like him..what should i do?


thanks

he must be using her to get her in trouble with the law as well. (hence her being over 18 and him under 18) just move on, if he ends up likeing you andh e wants sex and you dont want sex what good is it right? so move on
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My friend and i have been best best friends since we were about 4 years old... same school, lives down the road, you know. then she left public school in 6th grade for private & i ended up going to the same private HS as her in 9th grade. since i knew only her there i just wound up hanging out w/ who she did (which were annoying, prissy, catty, gossipy, fake girls) and eventually she got tired of their crap, so she ditched them. but i still hung out w/ them so in the process she was ditching ME. so then i ditched them but not for her, i just needed to & i'm GLAD i did. but she STILL won't even talk to me. on the bus we used to sit & have nice long detailed talks and now she doesn't even ackowledge me at ALL accept when her "new" friends aren't on the bus. i never EVER said anything to get her upset or mad, and even if i did, she should give me the decencey to TALK to me about it FIRST since we're BFF, right?? i don't get it, and i already lost another BFF this year & losing her hurts a LOT. i don't understand why... i don't know what to do. should i forget about it and just leave it at "we grew apart, that happens" or talk to her (w/out pissing her off) and work it out... or something else? ahh PLEASE help, i miss my best friend! =(

don't give up on your friend. It might just be a misunderstanding. Like maybe she thought you said something about her but you didnt. Something like that. Just confront her about it. If she's your best friend then it will be worth it. Let me know if you need anymore advice :) Hope I helped!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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well the last month i have been thinking about cuttin because me and this kid nmed ryan*MY LOVE*
have been fighting. i told one of my friends and they told my school counsler. my school cons. called me down and we talked about everything.. now im seeing a theropist witch im happy about.
but the other day i cut R in my leg..and i cut 4 lines kinda small on my leg.

last night i was talking to ryan on the comptuer and he said he would die for me,he loved me,he hates kelly(his EX)
and today in his profile he put kelly-i love you.
i asked him what was up and he said i dont know.

but i have been down that rode plenty of times..when ever me and him fighting or ingoure eachother he puts that in his profile,to make me jeoulse.(he told me it was to make me jeoulse)
soo i dont no if he is lieing about the kelly thing or serouse because i wanna die i cant live my life with out him i love him so much.
but i dont no if he makes me cut,trys to get me jeoulse
should i be friends/love him?

but if i dont talk to him i see his name on my budydlist and i see him in school and dont say anything i wanna cut.what should i do?

Please do not cut. Nothing is ever so bad that you need to cause physical pain to yourself.

As far as fixing this situation you and Ryan need to sit down and have a one on one talk about everything that is going on in your life. Tell him that you need him more than life itself and that you want to be with him for as long as possible.

When you talked to him last night, did you respond to what he said? Or did you just sit there and say ok. Because if you told him that you felt the same then he has no right to be putting "I love Kelly" in his profile.

Overall I think you just need to talk everything over with him. Hope I helped.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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ok so i have this friend, who will remain nameless. anyway we used 2 b like uber close and talk about everything. Now all of a sudden its like shes trying 2 replace me or some10, she treats me like im not there and talks 2 me when its liek convient 4 her. I try 2 talk 2 her about it but she never realy listins. Ill ask her like ok are you avoiding me and she says no, but then leaves. I decided that i just have 2 make her listin, and like in person say what i need 2 say and just find out whats going on. Am I doning the right thing? please help this is my really good friend and i dont wanna loose her.

Hm...When you try to talk to her just dont ask her if she is trying to avoid you. Have a true one on one conversation with her about it. Find a good time when you can have a good long chat with her. And tell her how upset you are getting about drifting apart, and that you really don't want to loose her as a friend because thats the last thing you want to have happen. If you find a time when you have plenty of time to talk, then it should be ok and she wont walk away. I hope I helped and if you need anymore advice please feel free to leave another message.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think?

Um...the last night of Chanukkah was last night...sorry. Just give her the gift and write on the card "Happy Holidays!" I have a bunch of Jewish friends and they are totally cool about it. No worries ;)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Well i al tried tlking to her she just runs away. I guess i better just give it up huh?

When i say talk to her, i mean sot her @$$ down in a chair and make her listen to you. Its only fair to you because you did nothing wrong.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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okay hi its me again. Well i think it was peer pressure 2 but i have been talkign to her thro emails an stuff and she just gets madder. I have asked her why all the sudden this just happened i mean the day before we had ben best friends! But yea i guess i jsu have to get over it huh.

beccers_boo

yea, im sorry. I dont know what else you could do. the only way to actually get through to her is to sit her down and directly tell her how you feel. Tell me how it goes. Hope I helped!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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whats something i could get my friends for christmas thats cheap and easy?

Well, i got these cute little bucket things from target for $1 then filled them with candy. It was a cheap, but at the same time somewhat thoughtful gift. Target is awesome for stuff like that. Check it out.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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besides cd's and money what do you get a girl for her 15th birthday?

Gift cards are great. And then something small to tie onto the side of it, like a cute keychain or something like that. Jewlery is good too. Like braclets.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Okay well i posted the question about my best friend dropping me lieka can of beans. Well yea she used to have this really popular friend who she told me wasnt friends with her anymore. But then after she stopped being my friend shewas back being best friends with her again.

-beccers_boo

Yea, it is definetly peer pressure from your old friend. You need to go face to face with your friend and say "hey, what happened to you? We used to be really tight and then you just dump me off? what is that about?" If you need anymore help please feel free to ask. And i wish i could help more, but the only thing to really do is to confront her with it.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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I recently lost my best friend ever... for the stupidest reason... well she didnt tell the whoel reason someone else did but she doesnt know that i know. She acts as if i messed it up but it was really all a set up... to drop me like a can of beans. She was only my friend beause she pittied me. But it just doesnt seem right. I mean we had just had the best time ever shopping. And then bam its all over. I dont know if it was peer pressure or if he really did jsut plan on dropping me. I cant get over it. i have tried 2 hard but it is really hard.

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It definetly sounds like peer pressure. Has she been hanging around new people or anything? Please leave a message in my inbox with more info and i will be able to help you.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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i just got a boyfriend and im really excited cuz i like this guy a lot! but now my friend feels left out now that i hav a bf n she doesnt.....i mean she could get one if she wanted to, bur she doesnt want one, but shes acting like a betrayed her! what am i supposed to do?!

Hi
No worries. Your friend should be happy for you. Instead of throwing a pity party for herself. Tell her that she can get a bf and that she should go for the guys. But if she says "no no..." just be like well you can get a guy but if you dont want one then i guess that makes sense, right? It will kind of confuse her and make her realize, oh i can get a guy i just choose not to. Plus if she isnt happy for you then thats just silly. If my friend got a bf, i would be bouncing off the walls for them, in fact i did that recently. Lol, but thats because im a dork like that. Anyways, but my advice to you is just to confront her about the fact that she can get a guy. Im SURE you guys are good enough frineds to be able to talk about anything. So good luck and leave another in my inbox for more advice. Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Downy~*~*~

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what would you consider as a slut?? me and my friends act like complete sluts but then they get really pissed off at anyone who calls any of us a slut. ive stopped taking it as an insult when people call me a slut. i don't know what to think! plz help.

Well...people tend to call people what they are. People call me a drama dork. And thats what i am. If you dont ant to be called a slut than dont be a slut. Plain and simple. Also, the definition of a slut would be someone who gets around a lot, if ya know what i mean. Also someone who just puts them self out there like they are the next britney spears (dresses like they are saying "screw me") sorry if that is hard to take, but its the honest truth :/

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Ok, I am definatly NOT the type of person who gets jelous over the dumbest things. But right now I am. My best friend found love. Yes, she is actually kinda young,but she (I can tell) is in love. She talks about him the way a fiance would talk about her future husband. It makes me feel like no one acutually likes me. likes or loves me. How can I tell if someone loves me? Boys at my school won't go and admit it. So are there signs? Plus my friend is spending ALL her time with him. Or if shes not with him...she TALKING ABOUT him. I HAVE told her that it would be nice not to talk about him (in a nice way) and she said she wouldn't do it as much but she is! help

I know what you mean. And the thing is you can't just go for the first guy you see that likes you. Yes, you may be very jealous of your friend but you need to wait for the perfect guy to come along and make you happy. So don't just go for a guy who randomly admits he loves you. If you wait it will be all the better in the end. About your friend, she's probably just in a phase. She will still love him but she wont talk about him to much as time goes on. And if she does just change the topic or try to. And if that doesnt work then just try talking to her again. Hope I helped and good luck!!!:)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Why do people try to ruin other people's lives just because they are jellous of them? Its so mean!

Well...because they are jealous...that's exactly why. They are just envious of what you have. Some people just aren't as fortunate so just be careful what you say around others...

(um...that was a tough question...hope i helped somewhat...sorry if my advice sucked :P)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Why do girl go behing other girls back so much just to hurt them?

Everyone has their flaws, and everyone can be a b****. But if there is someone that is bothering you by talking about you then confront them about it. Trust me, it will all work out in the end. Hope i helped and if you need more advice let me know :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Ok, I have this friend who I've known since like kindergarden, and she started to hang out with the people who I absolutly despise. They (I'm sure of) are using her, just to get back at me. Becasue they hate me to. So one of the girls she is haging out with, started to call me a Lesbian because me and my friend (who is a girl) were walking down the hallway locked arms (which I think is harmless). So my friend started to belive it. I thought she knew me well enough to know I'm not. I love boys I flirt with boys not girls! OMG she got me so mad. Well anyway the rumors stoped because I set everyone straight, but my firned is acting like nothing happened! She didn't even apoligesed to my face! How am I supposed to deal with such a back-staber!?. Plus I don't want to loose her as a friend. But right now, we are kinda on the edge of ending the friendship! PLEASE help!

You just need to talk to her. Sit her down and tell her how everything is to you. How they are using her and how you are worried about your friendship with her. if you have known eachother for so long then I;m sure she will understand and see what you mean. You may get in a little fight but very doubtful. if you need anymore advice leave a message in my inbox. Hope I helped and good luck!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.

wow...This is a very though situation. Tell her that if she does that he is going to end up either a. using her more or b. leave her in the dust. Also tell her that condoms work i think 85% of the time. And believe it or not a lot of people get pregnant even when using them. Tell her that waiting until she is in love is better than now, Also say that having sex with him is not going to make him like her more. It is just going to make him USE her more. This is a very tough situation as i said, and i wish i could help you more. Leave a message in my inbox if you need more advice. I hope I helped and good luck.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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well..my friend is being really annoying..recently a guy has hurt her..and all she does is talk bout him and its getting very annoying..im tired of hearing about it..i dont want to be mean and tell her to shut up..but what should i do?! help me please!

Well,you dont have to say "shut up" just tell her how ya feel. Tell her you are sorry that that happened to her but she needs to let go. If you arent up for saying that then just change the topic. Hope i helped and good luck :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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