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Okay so me and my best friend can barely even have a normal conversation anymore. We are apart of the same religion and she almost always brings something up about it and it makes me really uncomfortable talking about the subject. How can I explain this to her? I've told her that I feel uncomfortable but all she says is that she's trying to help me.
P.S. Please don't tell me to stop being her friend. Thanks :) (link)
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You could try bean dipping. Hopefully, she'll eventually get the message. Bean dipping is basically just redirecting the conversation to something else and sticking to it. So for example:
Her: "Blah blah blah and that's how I feel about (religious thing)"
You: "That's nice. Hey, did you hear (artists) new single?
You can bean dip with various other topics. Try talking about music, movies, actors, hobbies you both like. Unfortunately, some people either just can't read social ques or they can but will ignore them and keep insisting on the subject.
You've already told her that the subject makes you uncomfortable. As your best friend, she should honor that and not bring up the topic anymore. It's pretty rude of her to ignore your comfort level and continue on bringing it up.
If bean dipping doesn't work or you're interested in finding other polite but tactful ways of getting her to stop, I suggest checking out this forum http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php
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So i hacked my friends facebook account 5 times in a row and i did something pretty bad to the girls he likes, but they both forgive really easily and they did. Then for mistake i tried hacking his phone.. And ruined it by making all his information disappear. Though after he ruined my pc by turning it off and on by the button and not on shut down. When i skyped him he started insulting me and saying that he would beat me up, i know he cant because hes too scared to do it, i just said and replied to him to do beat me up... So?? What should i do?? If he starts beating me up should i fight back or do nothing?? (link)
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What you did is so wrong, "friends" don't do that. You are not a friend. I also find it hard to believe your "friend" ruined your computer by turning it off with the button and not using shut down? I can't even count how many times I've done that in my life (even if it isn't recommended) and my computer was fine afterwards.
As for the fighting, he has every reason to be angry with you but physical violence is unnecessary and won't solve anything. Talk to him, tell him you're sorry and you don't want to fight. You're the wrong one here, you should fix this.
If by chance he (or anyone) DOES take a swing at you, get away and find help as fast as you can. If you can't, the obvious answer is to defend yourself.
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Any quotes for fake friends? (link)
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http://www.aimgirl.com/talk/index.php?showtopic=26579
Or
http://www.friendsquotesland.com/fake-friendship-quotes.php
Google 'fake friends quotes' for more.
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Oh my goodness. Our (my roommate and I )friend is very nice, but not really to other people. she's pretty, too, but she smells! Before we go out, she will take a shower, but she still stinks! We thought it was just us, but we met these nice boys and one liked her. Well, we became good friends with them and the boy told us that he stopped talking to her because she didn't smell good. How do we tell her? We don't want to embarass her or let her go through this without knowing again. AND she is kind of defensive in a way......
Thanks! (link)
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You just have to sit her down and be like
"Dude, you're amazing and we love having you as our friend. And we REALLY REALLY don't want to be rude when we say this, but you don't smell too good"
And take if from there.
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Okay, so I am a 10th grader. Last year there was this girl in one of my classes. Like we weren't friends or anything. Apparently she's pretty popular but i dont know and i dont care Like I've talked to her about school things.. and I think like general things.. like occasionally but I wouldn't call her my friend, at all, lol. Like i dont know how but she looked me up online on some site and found a few nicknames I have that I wrote on it. and I was wondering why she looked me up in google in the first place.. I still dont have that answer. So she was like thinking it was embarassing and stuff when she said it during class, probably,.. when it wasn't. there were like 3 other girls with her in that posse.. well like a class-posse. one of them was just a follower.. essentially a tool. she's on my bus and she bugs me.. people who are like that, sheep, bug me. the other like she was the type of girl like im sure she was making fun of me and also one girl in the class i'd talk to.. i guess i can call her my friend but we're really different and i dont like a lot of the things she does.. but she was someone to talk to in that class basically. we used to be closer but she changed. then there was one other girl.. er.. i forget what she did, but she was there too, lol. ANYWAYS, the main thing is the first girl i was talking about. okay so that was last year and i havent talked to her since.. and then all of a sudden this year she keeps randomly saying hi to me in the hallways. usually when shes around friends. like i have volleyball after school and she has cheerleading so its usually then and she like says "Hi/hey [mynamehere]!" and its like totally unexpected. and i check to see who's saying hi to me and when its her its like wtf cause im not friends with her or anything.. like it catches me off guard so i just act like it didnt happen and ignore it. like today i was in the middle of class taking a quiz and she like does it again in the hallway too when she was in a diff class. like i dont know what to do. like i cant just ignore it.. like if she truly wants to be my friend which shes currently failing at then i dont get why she'd do that. but im assuming shes just trying to make fun of me or something so how can i put an end to this? i dont want to have friends who do stupid sh** like this anyways. i like when people are straightforward. like i was going to send her a message on facebook but i dont know what to say or anything.. or should i say something IRL instead? please help me guyssss. thanks. (link)
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Her and her friends probably find you attractive.
So there for she's probably going around telling her friends she's friends with you.
And to 'prove it' she's starting to talk to you in the hallway, ect.
I'm a girl, and used to have a best friend like this, and the guy could not stand her.
And she used to do this too make, basically trying to make me jealous.
^Take that into consideration.
But the only way you get probably get her to stop is to tell her to back off and just to not talk to you.
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my friend copies everything i do. like, i will make up a word and she will use it all the time after she hears me say it. or i will wear sweats to school and the next day she will wear sweats. my mom said don't look at it in a negative way look at is as she looks up to you but i hate it! my outfits are my style and i dont want anyone taking it. nobody reply "just talk to her and tell her how you feel" because she is the kind of person where you can freak out on her and she will just laugh or she will change her attitude that day and then go back to her normal self the next. help, please! im at wits end! (link)
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Had the same problem in like sixth grade. Only it was a tad bit worse.
You may not like it, but I found the only way to stop it
Is to stop being friends with this person.
Cut off all comunication.
Tell her you're no longer going to be friends with her, then ignore her.
Eventually, she may get the hint and stop. She may not.
I understand how utterly annoying this is.
And there may be better ways to handle this.
But this is how I did, and it worked fine.
I now talk to this girl again, but we are no where near as close as we used to be.
Keep that in mind.
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so yesturday my best friend started to ignore me. i had no clue why, so i asked around. today i found out that another friend told her i said something like she was giving out blow jobs or sumthing like that, but i didn't i was joking around with a friend and she got the joke. but then she told someone who didnt take it as a joke. i even told my bestie that and she thinks i'm lieing. also she and my boyfriend are good friends and im affraid that he'll break up with me over this whole mess. i need some advice please. what should i doo?!?
*female age 13* (link)
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Tell her to grow up and stop acting like a child.
If she doesn't believe her 'best friend' then she's ignorant.
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I have 3 best friends that I spend all of my time with. However, I'm the only one that has a job, and they don't respect that. They're always asking me to pay for them, to drive b/c "I have gas money", they always ask me to call in sick to work to hang out with them instead, and they get mad if I don't want to stay out late b/c I have work early in the morning.
I'm not trying to be a party pooper, I just don't want to screw up my job. What should I do? They don't seem to get it when I talk to them about it. (link)
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You're going somewhere in life, they're not.
You really need to put your foot down.
You're mature and responsible, obviously they're not.
Tell them no, if they don't have money, they should would.
Stop paying for things, you're not their mother.
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Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks. (link)
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OMG
I was in the EXACT same delema
If thats how you spell it...
Anywho, my friend...lets call her Tina, always did EVERYTHING I did just like your friend
But she lived in a different town as me
She moved away a few years ago and we wrere firends over the phone and she would come over sometimes.
But after years of her INSANE-NESS I was through with it
She was basically stealing my life right out from under me
What I did was
-Tell her what she was doing and how I felt about it
She stopped for awhile but then it started up even WORSE
So then I did this
-I told her I'm not gonna be her friend anymore ad then blocked EVERYWAY that she could talk to me
Though, this is easier for me because she doesnt go to my school...
But try it
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