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My "friend" and I were freinds for a long time, but then all of a sudden she started acting all differant when we went to new schools. She doesnt talk to me and when she does, she is only there to accuse me of talking behind her back or accusing me of making fun of her, or accusing me of judging her, which i am not. She is always drinking and always smoking, and always wrapped up in her new friends. I dont want to be her friend, but i dont want to make things awkward between us...i mean the other day she accused me of talking smack about her on the bus, and asked me via. comment on myspace. but in the bitchiest way possible. I repeat, i dont want to be freinds with her, but i just want to make things between us not hateful and wishing the other were dead, sick, etc...whenever i pass her in the hall she glares at me evily. so please help (link)
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Wow.
This sounda bit like what I went through 2 years ago.... not as harsh, 'cause my ex-friend wasn't evil or anything, but she did mean things and then said she apologized even though she didn't....
Well, after we weren't friends anymore we were sort of mean....
but I felt really bad, so I told her that I was sorry for being mean, but I didn't like it when she was mean to me. And that although we'd had some fun times, it wasn't worth it to me to get my feelings hurt by her. I told her that I didn't want to be best friends, but we could still be kind and civil.
It was probably a little more detailed, but that's pretty much what you should tell your friend.
That you don't want to hurt her feelings, but she's been hurting yours and you think that you've drifted away from each other. Be sure to say that even though you're not friends anymore, you don't have to be enemies.
I really hope this helps, 'cause that's what I did and it worked for me.
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Okay, I have no idea what to do. I found out yesterday that my bff is cutting and doing drugs. She has cuts ALL OVER her arms and stuff and it's really scary. And she told me that she's been doing drugs but didn't tell me what. I talked to her and shes acts like it's no big deal. I mean, her brother recently was diagonosed (sp?) with cancer and her parents are getting divorced so that may have something to do with it. But I really don't want to find her dead one day. I need help. What should I do? (link)
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OK, first off- I'm praying for you and your friend, ok?
Tell your friend that you're really worried about her because drugs can kill her, and the cutting looks scary. Voice your concern, and tell her that you really wish she would stop because most people who do drugs & cut end up going too far and you don't wanna lose her.
Reassure her that if she ever needs comfort, you'll be there... she doesn't need drugs and she doesn't need to hurt herself.
This is a really heavy subject, and sometimes nothing helps, no matter what you do.
She's obviously going through a rough time and she doesn't know where to turn.
I am definitely going to be praying.
Sounds like your friend needs the love and shelter of God.
Just tell her that you're worried and that what she's doing is hurting you. Ask her to stop.
And please, keep me updated.
Hope this helps
God bless
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Why doesnt my friend hug me back? or/and why doesnt she hug me? i remember in high school we all gave each other hello and goodbye hugs, we dont do it any more. i only do it when someone leaves far away on a trip and when they gave me a gift. but my friend victoria hugs me when we gave each other giftsof a thank you hug but Jane doesnt. i hug her for giving me a gift but she doesnt do it back, and when i give her a gift for her brithday she didnt hug me thank you like she use to in high school. does she hate me? or what?
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Maybe she diesn't like hugs, or the closure makes her uncomfortable.
Next time you hug and she doesn't hug you, say, "Do you not like it when I hug you? Because I can stop if you want. I didn't realize you didn't like it."
and then see what she says
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in 5th grade i was friends with a group of people.
lets call them clique #1...
we were a pretty tight group..
but then one of the people got mad at me in 6th grade,
and it was a real big fight.
so i became great friends with a new group..
lets say their clique #2...
ive been great friends with clique #2..
ecpecially my two best friends in that clique.
"kristina" and "elsie"
now, clique #1 and me have been hanging out again.
they have been so sweet to me and i love being with them along with clique #2.
the thing is.. clique#1 thinks im replacing them with clique #1.
about 4 girls from there called me and told me they miss me.
kristina is so mad at me that she took me out of her top8 on her myspace and put the guy i like first.
also.. she hasnt been talking to me and she's telling all her friends how sad she is.
i'm so hurt by this.
ive been crying for a while.
i cant pick between groups and theres no way i can hang out with both of them together because certain people from a vlique dont like certain people from another.
i seriously have no idea what to do.
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If they're really your friends, they should not make you pick in between them.
Sit them down (separately) and tell them that you love them and want to be friends, but you want to be firend with the other one too. Tell them how much ya'lls friendship means and that THEY don't have to be friends, but if they make you choose then you're not gonna be friends with either one of them
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Last night, I went out clubbing with my best friend and some other people, including a guy friend of mine, I'll call him "Brian". Brian has always told me that he's bisexual and I'm cool with that and we get along great. He's always treated me like one of the guys, but last night, he got pretty drunk and he started touching me inappropriately. It wasn't anything particularly sexual, just holding my hand and putting his hands on my waist, but I was really confused. I'm not attracted to him or anything, but it's got me really confused. It was just the alcohol talking wasn't it? My best friend also said he held her hand as well. (link)
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His "bisexual" thing might be a lie to make girls believe that they don't have to be afraid of him doing anything to/with them.
He's probably just a player, out looking for sex.
Stay away unless you want to get hurt, is my advice.
♥
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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ok I have a boyfriend and everything. but I want to get my 2 best guy friends something for valentines day. because they're sad and loney cause they dont have girlfriends, and i just want to get them something so they feel special. my question is, i just want to get them something small, something nice, that says i care. I STILL WANT SOMETHING WITH THE THEME OF VALENTINES DAY, but nothing with hearts or anything that would make my boyfriend jealous. any ideas? (link)
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I agree with a funny card.
But I was definitely thinking some chocolates (In a regular box, if you wish)
and a big smiley face or something really nice.
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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hey i'm a guy and have a girlfriend, i love her and everything. i was wondering...i havn't asked her yet, but would it be a bad thing if i sent valentines day cards to my friends that are girls? some of them i'm really good friends with and i wouldn't want to do it if it offended my girlfriend or let her think the wrong idea. should i just ask her about it, or am i over-analyzing things? i am getting my girlfriend a gift, but would it be wrong to send a few cards to my friends as well? what do you think, thanks in advance. (link)
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First, make sure you'd only be sending the cards to your girl friends as Just Friends.
Then, make sure you ask your gf about it, telling her that you really love her but you have some friends that are girls too and don't want them to feel left out. And if she doesn't feel OK with you sending Valentine's to these ladies, respect her if you wanna keep her.
Wishes,
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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My friend doesn't live in the same city as me--in fact, it's quite far from where I live. I barely see her anymore. We hardly ever get to talk to her on the phone or online. Lately, I've been missing her a lot. I'm not sure if she still even considers me her "friend." Sometimes I wonder if she still cares about me, because she never picks up her cell when I call... Is there anything I could do?
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Keep on trying to call her and if you do reach her, tell her that you feel as if she's been ignoring you lately and that's making you sad and you wish she could be around a little bit more.
If you get her voicemail, leave a message saying you "really really really wanna talk about something important"
Hope This Helps!
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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i dont know whats up with me but lately i have been really sad i dont know why i want it to stop but everytime i think back on stuff i get really sad and the school year is coming to a end and none of my friends are goin to be together and also i get a attitude for w.e my mom or dad tells me to i hate being sad for no reason how can i stop being sad (link)
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You might be depressed.
Try cheering yourself up by always being around people, laughing, and doing all the things you like to do. Also tell your friends and/or parents so they can spend more time with you.
If nothing helps, tell your parents or a trusted adult that you are depressed.
They will help...
Best Wishes!
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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alright well me and my friend got into some trouble at the mall cause she convinced me to steal a shirt and i did and got caught and they asked her if she had anything and she did but she lied and said no then they asked her if she had anything to do with me and she lied and said no so i got into trouble for her. and ever since then which was on Tuesday - last week, we have been fighting but like i made this modeling thing and we were talking about it and i kinda miss being friends with her. but i promised my mom and my friends not to be friends with her because she got me into trouble. i need help. i dont know whether to not fight with her and have people dissapointed in me or to just give up on her.. ahh please help =[ (link)
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Okay, I know you miss her, but think about it..... she convinced you to break the law and then ditched you.... is that what a REAL friend does???
My advice is to stay true to your promise and not be friends with her but find someone who can be a true friend.
Best Wishes!
~**~Kalada Leigh~**~
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