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Heyy my names Julianne but a lot of people call me Jules. I'm almost 18 and a senior in high school. I made a column because I love helping people and its really easy for me to relate to a lot of questions because I've gone through a lot myself. I'm open to any question you have so feel free to ask me anything =]

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A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do.

youre not alone in this situation. a lot of girls feel uncomfortable in a bathing suit in front of people.. especially guys. we all have things were selfconscious about..but the trick is to not let anyone know youre self conscious. youre beautiful. and you have a boyfriend already so it doesnt matter what anyone thinks of you. go to the party and just be yourself and have fun and dont even think about how you look because if you dont pay attention to it.. nobody else will. theyll be jealous of how outgoing and confident you are :-) good luck and just be yourself.

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alrighty so i have this guy friend. and hes like my best friend in the whole entire world. no joke. and i really like him like alot. and my other friend whos a girl is his ex. and me and this girl are like really good friends. but when i told her that i liked him she totlly flipped out on me becuase she still liked him even tho she broke up with him. (i think she did it for attention but. whatever.) so then we were in a fight and shes like "havent you seen meangirls? EX BOYFRIENDS ARE JUST OFF LIMITS TO FRIENDS!" and i apologized over a thousand times. and then we made up and for like the past few months things have been fine. but then last night i was at a party with her && him. and she was like all over him. and then we got back to the girls house (it was a sleepover too)and she said she liked him. and i wanted to fucking kill her. she promied me should would never take him back or ever like him becuase she couldnt do that to me. BULL SHIT. so then last night she called him and was like "i like you alot." and before the girl who was having the party (the guys cousin whos my good friend) said he only liked her a little. but then he didnt believe her so i was sorta happy but then she was talking to him on the phone and i just wanted to kill her. she was being really mean and it just pisses me off because she knows how much i really really like him. and it would be weird to go out with him cuase hes like. my best friend. but still. im really pissed. and i wanna tell the guy how i feel. and same with the girl who is being a bitch. im not really asking for advice, but maybe you can help with soemthing? i dont know.

the girl who still likes him obviously can't make up her mind. she probably doesnt really like him that much but doesnt want any other girl liking him either. basically shes trying to make you jealous. dont buy into it. she doesnt own him and he should be able to go out with whoever he wants to. you should first talk to the girl and tell her that you thought it was really rude of her to do all of that in front of you when she knows you like him. and it was also not cool that she likes him again after she told you that she would never like him again. then tell her that since she said that you like him a lot and youre not gonna let her stop you from doing that. then its up to you to tell him how you feel so that he doesnt wind up going out with the other girl. if he knows that you like him he might like you more than her. but if you dont tell him how you feel about this he might make a mistake by going out with her again. if hes your best friend it should be easy for you to tell him how you honestly feel about not just him but the whole situation with the girl. show him the truth.

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ok i always feel like i'm comparing myself to this girl at my school, shes soo pretty and she has an amazing bf. She has the cutest clothes and she is just really really pretty and i always try to be as skinny as her or as athletic and i always compare myself to her and i don't know what to do to stop myself b/c this is not me at all and i need helpp quick i'll rate 5s for any thoughts!

I did the same thing with one of my good friends who every guy wants and is perfect. But I caught myself, and you did to which is a good first step. You need to realize that people arent going to see you as a better person for being a clone of someone else. You have to let people like you for who you are, and if they dont then theyre not worth having as a friend.

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there is this girl that acts like she likes me and askes me over to her house all the time. anyway when ppl make fun of me she will laugh right along with them. Is she a true friend?

she most likely has a crush on you. shes throwing you all the signs. when girls have crushes on guys they dont like to be the first one to make the move. so in order to get them to come to you, they throw signs. first theyre nice and make it kinda obvious they like you and stuff (like her inviting you to her house all the time) and if that goes good shell feel more comfortable around you so she can be more flirtatious. and most girls, even if theyre not aware of it, flirt by making fun of the guy or like hitting him. i hope this helps

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there is this kid in my grade that likes me, the only problem is that he is a total geek and i don't even like him as a friend (not because he is a geek though, because he is annoying)
Now he told everyone that he IS stalking me and that he likes me!
what should i do without hurting his feelings?

I have the same problem...only the person who stalks me won't flat out say it. You can use that against him. Try being forward, but not mean to him...maybe say "I know you like me, but I don't like you so can you please leave me alone." and if that doesn't work take it up a notch like "Back off...i don't like you" and if you're still having problems you can tell him you'll tell a teacher or parent that hes stalking you (you don't actually have to do that unless you want to) ... another good idea would be to avoid him as much as possible in the halls and if he does corner you just try to ignore him.. hope i helped

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Ugh. My best friend kelly thinks she's a really good singer. The problem is... she sux! She's also going to be in the talent show and perform a song. When she does, she's gonna be sooo emmbarrased aftwerwards! Everyone's gonna make fum of her. I don't know what to do, or how to break it to her!! Should I just let her be TOTALLY embarrased? Help!! Please!!

I would break it to her gently. Maybe suggest she do something else in the talent show like a dance or something she's better at. But if she really enjoys singing and wants to do this i think you should support her 100% and forget about what other people think. And if you really wanna help it might be a good idea to get up on the stage with her and sing and just have fun. People might laugh at you, so what? You'll probably laugh at yourselves in the end too. Hope i helped

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hey.. i have a friend and shes really sweet and all but my boyfriend was talking about her earlier this week.. im one of those girls that everyone comes to for problems and everyone tells me everything but this time what he said about my friend just got to me so much and thats weird because i can always keep secrets. lets just say that him and her when out before and he think she still likes him and he said "i bet she made up that kid so it will make me want her" i dont get that haha.. and he also said "the only reason she wants you to go out with him instead of me is because she wants me" and those two things that he said really got to me.. now dont get me wrong i really love him.. okay well i told my friend what he said because she slept at my house last night.. and she was like I HATE HIM OMG!! and stuff and im like dont tell him pleaseee. and shes ilke i wont.. but something tells me she will.. and if she does then that could ruin my friendship with her and me and my boyfriends relationship... i already know i ruined their friendship :'( .. i feel so bad and i dont know what to do.. please help

this happened to my friend recently...her boyfriend would always come up to her and be like "oh did you see her today..shes so hot" and it just really pissed my friend off...i know this isn't goin to sound good but my friend and her boyfriend wound up breaking up because this kept happening. if your boyfriend keeps telling you about this girl you should ignore him for a day or two and see if he notices. if he does thats a good sign but youre not done yet...you should probably talk to him and tell him how you feel about him telling you these things and see what he says...maybe breaking up is the best choice, maybe not .... as for your friend, you should probably encourage her and your boyfriend to talk this out. what's passed is passed and they both just need to realize that. hope i helped

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