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what i'm i supposed to do when my friend (its a guy)keeps telling me about all of this perverted stuff his g.f is doing and it makes him mad? i told him if its gross not to tell me, but he did anyway. he is the most sensitive guy i have ever met and idk what i should do. i hate to say it but almost everyone from his town are slutty, including his g.f. i tried to tell him that it probably wont work out but he really likes her. and every time i talk to him, even if i dont ask him he spills out his entire life. he's really nice and i want to be friends with him, but i dont want to be his therapist. what should i do? (link)
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just try to be his friend first and answer his questions. You can help him with his problems without being his therapist.
And try to warn him about his girlfriend, dont be mean about it, just try to talk it out with him.
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ok.... so im 13/f and at school my bestfriend started hanging out with this girl that i got into a fist fight with and became bestfriends and then she got mad at me cause her boyfriend said he liked me instead of her then she got like almost the hole school against me and started calling me a "fat ugly cow" and that "i look like a side of a cow" and started wrighting on the walls about me i love her like a sister and all but is she really my friend (link)
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ummmmmmmm, no. real friends stick with you when things get tough, and it sounds like she just got bitchy. I hate to say that, but thats what it sounds like.
Just let the insults slide off, see if her bf, or ex, either way, actually likes you or not, and take things from there.
Just leave her alone. You may love her like a sister, but thats not how she loves you.
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Me and My sister's neighbor are friends. We started out really slow then over spring break she just can;t stop hanging out with me. I mean everytime, which i like. But I feel she giving me these mixed signals like she wants to be more than friends but when I asked she says no which i know she is lying. But she has alot of drama and I found out today, she is pregnant by her best best friend and she having an abortion!. which i don't believe and she don;t wanna be with him. I feel she wants to be with me because she is alaways around me and always flirting, touching me sexual but wat to do??? She even told me she would like to be with me but she can;t! HELP!!!!! (link)
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sounds like this girl is quite complicated. I think that it all comes down to if you want to be with her. I dont know if the pregnancy thing is a rumor or not (you didnt say) but regardless, even if she is, you already said she doesnt want to be with the guy, she wants to be with you.
Just slow things down, and try to talk to her about it. If she does like you (really like you) and she's not just flirty, then you take things from that. Its up to you.
I wish you luck man.
--Brandon--
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Okay I have an ex boyfriend that won't get the hint that I am in a loving relationship., well today he decided to call me and was mad because I might be pregnant. Well anyways he told me that he still wants to be friends and everything he just didn't want me to tell him about me and my boyfriend. Which it's hard to do, because I love him so much. But what really upsets me is that we were supposed to be friends, when he just told me tonight he doesn't care what I do, but that he still loves and misses me and wished he could have me back, what am I supposed to do? Keep being friends with him, or tell him where to get off at???? (link)
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I agree that he needs to move on, but completely avoiding him is running away. You really need to sit down and talk to him about it. or at least over the phone. Once you try to talk it out, then you can block him and avoid his calls. I just think you should give it a head-on approach, dont run from him, if he's even semi-important in your life, you need to try to remain friends.
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hey, well.. you said that you'd be willing to help me with my problem, so here it is.
14/f.
mmk, well I knew this kid, who was like my bestestestest friend ever. like, i asked him for help with everythinggg. & he always looked out for me. & then eventually, we dated. for a couple months. then, he broke up with me, but a couple months later, we were best friends again. & it was like we were dating. but we never made it offical. considering, i just had gotten out of a bad relationship at that time, + i wasn't 100 percent sure if i liked him & only him completely.
that all happened in 6th grade. [ i met him in like 4th grade, & we became like best friends at the beginning of 5th grade.]
so anyways, 7th grade rolled around, me & him were still the best of friends. & i was like wow, yano we've been friends so long, most girls i know dont stay that good of friends with guys for so long. so then, at the end of 7th grade, in the summer, well, i have a sliding glasss door in my room, which leads out to my deck, & like, its confusing.. my house is like on a hill, but anyways, its really easy for boys to sneak up there.. & stuff. so i had alot of visiters during that summer, most of the boys that i didn't really care too much about. but then, my best friend [the boy] was like omg your so hot. & i'd so wanna do you. & i was also talking to my old best friend at the time [well she was still my best friend then] & i was like hes tottaly kidding right? & shes like oh yeah deffinitly. so i kinda played along with what he was saying. but then he got all weird. like he was like, do you love me? tell me you love me. & i was like wtf is he high. & he just kept saying stuff like that. so then, he was like ok im comin over. & im like.. its kinda late bud? & he was all like it would be fun. & i was like whoa nooo. & he kept insisting. & like, it wasnt like him, for awhile i didnt even think it was him. so hes like, hayley you said you loved me. & all this stuff like that. & i was like, idno i was starting to get mad. so hes like..whatever i'm coming over."
so he came over alright. & i was like, well you should've known before you walked here, i wasnt going to do that. i'm only 13. i'm not a slut. & all this stuff. eventually, i told him to go home. he ended up being really mad at me. we talked for a couple months longer, & then, that ended that. he like tottaly just stopped talking to me, completely.
& i was like so upset. because i then felt like so wrong & guilty. i mean, i didnt know he was being serious. i never thought, that he actually would have came. i never knew i dont know. so then now, i go to his school. hes in like 5 of my classes. & my lunch period. so i see him alotttt. & he looks at me alot. like alot. but he hasnt talked to me yet, & i've been there for like 2 months. & so, also, some of the kids he hangs out with, like hate me. & stuff. &thats not fair, because he basically twisted the story. saying i liked him & everything.
so, now its basically screwing things up there too. like there like, oh wait.. your that girl?
so, i don't know what to do. am i suppose to go up to him apologize? or should i just forget it?
& its like so confusing. because people though keep walking up to me. & theyll be like, wait you dated him? yeah, he always talks about you, in a good way. so like i don't know. i feel weird going up to him & just being like hey.
what should i do? i cant just forget about him. & i'm always feeling so guilty. how do i make it better? & show him that it wasn't my fault, that i didnt know. (link)
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ok, well for one thing, you have no reason to apologize. You didn't do anything wrong. Like you said, you're 13, not a slut. You had no way of knowing he was serious and I don't blame you for playing along either, I do that with some of my ex's and they seem to enjoy it too.
I think you should go up to him and make an attempt to talk to him about it. Neither of you have really forgotten about it and he may have just felt emmbarrased that it happened or pissed off that things didnt go his way. Regardless, you should try to talk to him civilly about it and if he does lay on the "what do you mean," act then just try to get him to talk things out with you.
If he won't then at the very least you gave it a try. He has 5 classes and a lunch with you so im kinda thinking that he'll have to talk to you eventually.
And as far as him changing up the story, thats crap. If he cant tell it like it happened then he must be either ashamed or embarrased at the way he acted.
I really hope that Ive helped u, and im thoroughly interested in this. If u want to try to explain it further or comment on my suggestion, then just put it in my inbox. Id be more than happy to discuss this more with you.
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