Hey im a pretty nice person who needs alot of help im a little messy with my life so it could be polished a bit but i love to help people and im pretty good with advice so im told so yea..
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Age: 15
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Ok, this is a pretty unique situation, I doubt someone's been in it before, but here we go:
my friends G (a boy) and K (a girl) are friends from college, who I hang out with occasionally and we always hang out in between classes and stuff because we all have the same major. So we are not best friends, but we are pretty good friends.
well, G and K had a thing for each other... they have been very good friends for about a year and a half, and officially dated for about a week... lol although they acted like a couple the whole time they've known each other (minus the physical stuff). The reason they didn't actually date is because G (the guy) changed his mind and decided to keep the friendship. Well since then, things are a little weird between them... they still talk and hang out, but there is tension at times.
Well, this summer G is going to the beach with his family and has invited me to go with him (just as friends of course). He isn't inviting K even though he is better friends with her, because things are akward between them like I said. We are just concerned that K will be hurt or mad at me if I go to the beach with him. She knows we are just good friends, but usually when we hang out, it's all 3 of us. what do you think? Should I ask her about it and see how she feels? Or should I just not go at all? How should I ask her anyway?
G has already said she doesn't care how she reacts because they have a "messed up relationship anyway" so he said it's all up to me and how I feel about it. I'm 20/f by the way! thanks!! :) (link)
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I think you should just go i mean its an awesome expirience but tell her and tell her that yuo hope shes not mad and maybe make plans with her when you get back
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So this girl who was suposed to be my BESTFRIEND ratted on meh and my closest friends for drinking. Now I lost my best guy friend in the world and im never aloud to talk or see him again. my parents have a restraining order on him and Its killing me because I love him so much and would do anything for him..
Im not sure weather I should forgive my so called "bestfriend" or not...
what do yu think i should do? (link)
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Your Best friend was playing her role perfectly fine..she was looking out for you.. by making sure you were..safe.. she probobally didnt want you guys to drink and drive and hurt yourselves becasue the first thing to go when you drink is common sense. Yes you shouldnt just forgive her but thank her to maybe she saved your life you never no what might've happened if there was a next time really soon. You should talk to your parents about the restraining order, maybe compromise because i dont think thats fair.
hope i helped
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Ok as corny and stupid as this may sound.
I have a banquet on Saturday where we dress in formal and afterwards we dance.
Ok here's my problem, I can't dance. And I especially do not know how to ask my best guy friend to dance without it being akward. :|
Any ideas?
[Sorry if this is in the wrong category] (link)
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haha i have been taking dance lessons since i was five but that prolly wont help the situation... just ask him to dance hes your best guy friend so its okay to be yourself ...just make fun of yourself be all hahai dont no what im doing lol but hey come dance withme im su re hell want to dont worry just joke around and have fun with it!
-Tawny
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I am over my ex, and I have fallen hard for another guy. We have been broken up for over 4 months, (we were together for almost 3 mons., and saw each other all the time at school+outside) but it doesn't feel like it has been that long ago since we have broken up. Even though I'm over him, is it normal to want to avoid watching him move on? I haven't started dating anyone yet so that may be one reason. Plus, it's not really the girl he has moved on with even though she is completely different from me. I just want to know if anyone has felt this way too, and how to deal with it. Why is it hard to watch him date someone else when I'm over him and I know I have no future with him (nor do I want to)? Plus the fact that I have fallen for someone else. 17/f (link)
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Yea dont worry its totally fine..its like you dont like them in love ways and you hardly talk to him as friends but you dont want to see other girls and him together. yea its perfectly normal us girls have it all the time..in time you will learnt o let it go and it will go away try not to think about it and its all be fine
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My best friend has been kind of mad at me for a while now. Not like angry pissed off and doesn't talk to me; just kind of like hurt, upset, can't talk to me. I asked him to tell me what I did and he wouldn't. He's been kind of mean to me (well I think he's being mean but I know it's just because of whatever I did) and I really couldn't stand it. I've known him almost all my life and I can't have him act this way towards me and not tell me why.
So today I went to his house and told him that I'm sure he has a good reason and whenever he wants to talk to me about it I'll be there but until then, I don't think I can be friends with him. He told me that he just couldn't talk to me about it just yet and that he understood that I don't want to be around him and that he could talk a break from me too. So after that, I left.
I don't know if I should have done that now because I feel really bad about it. Should I have done that? What should I do now? 17/f (link)
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Well you cant just be mad at someone becasue they wont tell you there problem i mean i no you accidently did it but i would try to find out on my own and apologize..i meanyou werent going out so why would you need a break? remeber a break could be a long time maybe a permantent one dont let the door close on this he is your best friend is he not?......think about some things and ask him let him no you are truly sorry if you want him back..sometimes we cant always be right we have to accept what we did and see if the ones we extremly didnt mean to hurt forgive us
Tawny
hope i helped=)
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My 2 best friends [who arent even that good of friends with each other] went out last night with a few guys and this girl who are considered cool. My friend invited me to go, but I didnt want to because i wasnt exactly invited by the others. So my best friend went and asked my other friend, and they went and had a BLAST. they then had a sleepover afterwards and couldnt stop repeating how FUN it was. It got me pretty pissed, and they left a message on my fone saying that they didnt think we could be friends anymore because we get in to many fights? Im not sure if they were kidding but I dont know what to do. My friend is really not that social, but over AIM last nite she basically told me that she was sooo cool becuase she is friends with them and im not. what do i do. i need advice. (link)
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Well ohkay the thing is i have friends who can never be happy for me when i tell them good things, and when i dont they get pissed. they always put me down and brag about everything they do. if this sounds like your freinds i suggest you make new ones..i cant get out of my situation an di am miserable. they want to make me jelous but it doesnt really work it just makes me feel like they dont care about me..they also take advangtage of me..i would give it some time and dont talk to them maybe let them no in a type of way that your hurting becasue of what they said. find a new group of people to hang out with at least for a while you may find you like them alot better...
dont end up like me i have no real yfriends and everyone i hang out with is completely rude...and i have depression dont let this happen to you
Tawny
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One of my best boy mates (lets call him adam) was going out with this girl (lets call her Tia). I had known Tia for a long time before Adam met her, but she asked him out, and they were inseperable.
What I hadn't told Adam was that Tia seems to use boys a bit, as soon as someone else comes along, she dumps her current boyfriend. I couldn't just go and tell him, they were so happy together and I didn't want to spoil anything.
Recently, Tia met this other guy (lets call him sean), and dumped Adam straight away. I can't believe it, cos Adam is so sweet and kind, i suppose he can easily get walked over though.
He treated her better than any other guy did.
Its just, he's so devestated, and I want to know how to make him cheer up. So, anyone got any ideas? (link)
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hmm haha well i am a girl so im not too sure of ome boy stuff..but hey im sure you can pick him up onhis feet gain..get a buncha guys together and show him what its like to be hanging around with his boys who have his back..instead of being tied down with a relationship for once... go out and maybe along the way you can meet some chicks and if hes ready who nos!! maybe he'll get right back into it all..the crazy world of love! lol also keep giving him compliments and make sure he doesnt blame himself for the breakup
hope i helped
Tawny
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15/f. my best guy friend recently admitted to me that he has a major crush on me. however, i see him as a brother (and he has remarked that he still sees me as somebody that he can talk to). he and i have talked about how we're always going to stay friends, even if we have feelings for one another because we have a really good friendship. he also asked me if i'd like to go with him to a banquet next year as friends, and i said yes. my only concern is that now things are going to be awkward between us. how can i let him know that it's perfectly fine with me if he likes me, and how would you feel if you were in his position? (link)
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You can let him no by definatly just telling hi it seems like you guys can talk about everything together! which is awesome, if i were him i imagine being a little dissapointed that i like you and you not liking me back but i would remeber the promise or conversation we had about always staying good friends even though one of us liked each other because we were better that way! so there ya go Go for it!
hope i helped
Tawny
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ok so.. theres this school dance tm which i kinda told my friend "Lucy" that i would go to. but i don't want to go anymoree. it's going to be so lame, no one's going and she'll just be w/ this other girl the whole time anyway. the reason she wanted to go was bc of this guy, and now he's prob not even giong. the same night is this dance at an all boys school that would be SO much more fun to go to (if you have tickets) or i would just rather hang outt. the dance is going to suck though i think - what should i say to lucy? should i just suck it up and go (would it be to mean for me not to)? or should i tell her ... ? thanks ill rate 5s. (link)
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Well i would say do what you think you would be happier doing...unless this is some huge for your best friend and she needs you then maybe you should consider going for her its only one night it cantbe that bad, but if its nothing to her and she barely cares if you go or not..do something fun with your night even if it is just sitting at home watching movies and eating popcorn:)
Tawny
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well i have asked a question on how i can be more outgoing cause its affecting my ability to be able to make friends. well i try to be interesting but no one seems to like me. like i see people in the halls at school saying "want to come over my house" or "Want to go bike riding" no one ever asks me that, is it because i'm boring? what can i do to make people want me as their friend? and how can i keep friend? i am really desperate for help. :( i have like one kind of best friend and she never even asks me to do stuff! she doesnt even invite me to her parties! and please dont say "why dont you ask THEM" (link)
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I dont no if i will be much of a help but i cant relate extremely or closely i find that im always wishing i was more interesting or talkative and i find that am always putting myself down...for other people it looks so easy when they try to hangout with someone but when you try they all look at you like your a freak from some other planet..almost like your invisible and noone cares. I also find myslef at home all the time its like i have nofriends that like me...and i always ask what is wrong with me? but i think you should just try to talk more be compltely yourself and dont hide in the corner like me and be unnoticed because then you reall feel invisible so try to be out there and fun and mainly just talk more thats how you can be more outgoing, dont be afriad to show them how you are and if they cant deal with it i think its time to find new friends...trust me i think i need new friends too except for the fact i live in a small town and i have nowhere else to go:S if that a case with you then just throw a movie night at your house or plana huge group activity that everyone will want to do then they might want to hang with you more often
-Tawny
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i gotta cutting problem im 15 and a gurl and a few of my friends are getting mad at me for it. ITs so hard not to cut though like when im cuttin i dont even care cuz im so mad and its gotton really bad. Like im afraid that one of these times im gonna get so madd im gonna end up killing myself cuz its like i just dont care but the next day i really regret doin it. I'v tried everything i could think of to stop but nothing works. SO my question is does anybody know ways to stop cutting (link)
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The reason you Cut yourself may be a way for you to express your anger and you welcome the pain because you no its really there you want to feel it ...i think you should try to take out your anger in a different way..try writing poetry it works for me and sometimes i look back at them and i understand my feelings a little better.. also try to stay in a posotive mood like do something that makes you happy i hope i helped =)
-Tawny
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