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Well the school dance is TODAY. and I haven't decided if I want to go. My friend really want me to go because she doesn't talk to anyone else. But I don't want to spend my money and it not be a fun dance. But it seems that EVERYONE is going this time but when I went to the dance most of them didn't go. So the poin is I don't want to waste my money if it's gonna be a bad dance and I don't want my friend to be by herself.
P.S. I didn't do my extra credit that my dad wanted me to do so I also feel guiltily for goin to the dance without doing my extra credit. (link)
Well I hope its not too late to answer this, idk when youre dance is going to start. But first, before the dance maybe you can do some of your extra credit, or just do it tomorrow. And itll only be a bad dance if you make it one. You need to get hyper and get happy, drink some monster, listen to some music and get pumped and then you go in there with your friend and dance your ass off! Sure it might be awkward at first but when you get into it its fun. Just go crazy with your friends and have a good time. I think itd be worth it to go just make sure you go all out or go home. Or else it might suck. So yeah make it awesome, but if you really dont feel like going then just ask your friend if she wants to hangout with you instead and you guys can go to the next dance if youre up to it. So yeah have fun


My bestfriends name is Kaci, she's like a sister to me. Over the summer I basically lived at her house and I call her parents my other mom and dad. Recently our friend Katie got her license, she's not the best driver. Me and Kaci were in the car and she brought up Katies driving and was talking about how she shouldn't have passed behind the wheel , I agreed and said I feel like I'm teaching her when we are in the car. The next day Katie and Kaci didn't say a word to me, I wasn't sure why so I asked around. My friend Anna said at dance class they were upset about me saying something about Katies driving.. I asked Katie the next day and she told me Kaci said I was talking bad about her and blamed everything that was said on me. I told her what actually happened and everything was fine until Kaci found out she had been caught lying. So now they are both mad at me.. Is it worth trying or should I just walk from the drama? (link)
Walk from the drama. Its really not worth it, it just wastes time. I used to have a friend who did that crap but once I found out about all the lies and all the crap she started , I left her. Friends are supposed to support each other and have fun with each other and go through life helping one another. Not lying and starting crap. Drama is stupid and you dont need someone in your life causing it all the time.


I know , it kinda does but am just,disappointed :( (link)
I know I'm sorry :/ but even if something did happen, don't worry. Maybe it was supposed to happen for you to see who your real friends are or if you should move on to other people who wont do this to you...but remember you still don't know what happened , it could be innocent. But ya never know.


Hello. Well one one my friends went to a club in friday night. That night the guy i like and do things with was in that club aa well. My friend already knows who he is. Well saturday comes and,she texted me and told me ima send you a pic not to good and not to bad. She send me a pic of him sort of like dancing. Am like "ok"? Then in the night i was with her and i asked her "What was he doin in that pic"? Shes like "idont know i think dancing"..then she tells me i danced with him because a guy was bothering me trying to pull me to dance and he saw it so he pretended he was my.man & we danced o.o am just there.like jumm ok , so then i told her we stopped talking. After i left her house that saturday night i text her and told her i was gping to his house, she asked me" he called you" i said "yes" even tho it,was,a lie. Then,she,goes Yoo dont telll him i told u i was dancing with him..i asked her whyyy dancing its nothing and she tells me , yes i know but you know how guys are, they get mad over anything. This is weird idont know what to think :( (link)
Uh well I don't know what's up with your friend. Either she's lying or something else happened that she's not telling you? And if all they did was dance then I don't understand why she's just making a big deal out of it. You should talk to her about it and ask why it's such a big deal and why she told you in the first place. Or you should just talk to the guy about it and asked what happened that night. If it really was just dancing and you believe that then maybe your friend is just a drama queen or something..but if something else happened and your friend knows you like this person then you should make her tell you what the eff happened and tell her off for betraying you like that. I hope that helps!


So, my friend wants me to hangout with her tomorrow (Friday). She says that we were gonna tell her parents that were going to the movies (lieing), and have some boy pick us up..idk what to do. She said were gonna drink. Were 15 years old..I just dont feel comforable. What should i do? (link)
Just tell her you dont want to and suggest you do something else instead, like actually going to the movies. And if she doesnt want to then just cancel and do something else. She should understand if you dont feel comfortable with it. &Don't let her pressure you into anything you dont wanna do.


I'm sick if her. She was a really good friend to me. But then, she started showing me her true colors and being a bitch. She manipulated people then back-stabbed them, but everyone still falls fall her tricks. I tried telling some of my friends what she really did to them but in the end they still believed her and called me a liar and a bad-mouth-er. I saw it with my own eyes how mean she was and how selfish she was. She expected everyone to go her way and always pushed the blame to someone else when she did something wrong. Just because she's cute and popular everyone sticks to her. I'm sick of all these and I just want to let everyone know what an ass she is. But I'm afraid history will repeat itself. What should I do? Or should I just stay low and let them have their own retribution? I feel sad when I see them being tricked by her. I'm in a dilemma so HELPPPPPP!! :( (link)
I know exactly what you're going through. The same thing happened to me and it's horrible seeing good people get screwed over by her and fall for her tricks. But ya know what if they won't listen, then they'll just have to learn for themselves. You could try explaining things she did to you again and how she hurt you but if they won't listen , they won't listen. & be careful cause the people u warned and r still friends with her anyway might not be very good friends either. Cause theyre not considering your feelings or listening to what your saying & if my friend said someone hurt her & not to trust them then id listen and be careful, not blow it off and call them names ya know? Well anyway u could try again but its up to them & if they wont listen then just let it go.


im a 13 year old girl me and my best friend have been bffs since 4th grade and she knows that i say stupid things without thinking like alot but she still gets really mad like i kissed her boyfriend pissed off at me when it has happened so many times before she sohuld know that i dont mean it why is she still getting mad after all these years (link)
Well it mightve been cute in 4th grade, but as your getting older shes probably starting to realize that its not cool anymore and she doesnt want you to do it anymore. If she gets mad about it now, instead of questioning why she's getting mad all of a sudden , you should be considering her feelings and not do it anymore. You shouldnt kiss your friends boyfriend anyway, thats just messed up, even if its a joke. And with saying stupid stuff, just think before you say it or talk to her about it and let her know youre just joking and if she still doesnt like it then just try to stop.


Hello, I am a female, 18 year old college freshman. My best friend is an 19 year old guy. I have known him since 3rd grade. I love him but not in that way. I had a big bio exam today, he is majoring in molecular biology, so I have been talking to him a lot lately so he can help me out with studying. We video chat and he wrote things out for me and everything and would not move on until he knew I understood what he was saying, since he knows me so well, he knows when I seem confused or confident in what I'm doing. He also showed his face on video chat, saying he normally doesn't but for me he'll make an exception. He usually goes to bed at 11, he stayed up for the past three nights texting me or video chatting me helping me study until 2 in the morning. Aside from helping me study, we like to get frozen yogurt together, he comes to my house to pick me up and we go to our froyo place, eat and then just stay there and talk for hours. That's the weird thing about us, we can be anywhere and have fun just talking. We don't hang out all the time, he's usually busy with work and such or we're both at school but I think that's what makes it so much more special when we do hang out because we don't see each other so much. When we do hang out, though, we do really chill things, watch movies, make food together, get froyo. We know everything about each other, I know that I can trust him with whatever I have to tel him and vice versa. Even over texting, he can tell if something is wrong and he will not let me talk about anything else until I tell him what's wrong. I was on video chat with him last night doing last minute review, when he was about ready to go to get ready for his three hour lab, he got all motivational telling me that if I study the rest of the night and get at least four hours of sleep, I'll be okay. When we hung up, my roommate looked at me funny and I asked her what was up and she said "you guys are basically married without the sex" and I asked her what she meant by that and she said it's cute how we are together, she wishes her and her boyfriend would be half as cute as me and my friend. She said she thinks that the idea of us being together would be so good but we push it to the back of our minds so we don't ruin what we already have. It's funny that she said it like that because all of our friends in high school said "everybody knows you two are each other's soul mates, except you two!"

I guess this whole speel was painting out our friendship to you so that you can tell me what you think of us. I know everybody thinks that guys and girls can't be friends but we have been friends for eleven years, we barely talk to the other kids we went to elementary school with yet we still talk almost everyday. But we've been friends for eleven years and nothing has happened yet. Nonetheless, what do you think? (link)
You and your friend have such a sweet and strong relationship and if you are both happy with it then don't feel like you have to do anything about it. If you both only think of each other has friends then just stay friends and don't worry about what other people are saying. If one day you do want to take it a step forward and be with him in that way then do it. Just follow your heart and do what you want and don't worry about it now if youre not ready or if you dont feel anything romantic towards him. If you do then talk to him about it and ask him what he wants to do. If you two just wanna be friends then just be friends. Nothing needs to happen if you guys don't want it to, and its not weird. Just enjoy yourselves and do what you wanna do. And yeah. Hope that helped!




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