well im 16 and im gonna put myself in your shoes. now what i would do (and i still do know)i would still be friends with both. i have friends all over. one is a nerd but shes so nice and funny and everyone else agrees, a couple that a super popular and my friends in my group:the popular nice friendly athletic group. but if i had to chose i would chose clique 2. the reason why is because group one got mad at you, talked about you, were mean, ect. you know this will happen again most likely and then you would have ditched your clique 2 group you wont have anybody else and group 2 would be mad at you for ditching them. especially your 2 best friends and thats a another reason to pick group 2. the 2 best friends you have made. are you jsut gonnaa ditch them for your old group just because they are suddenly being nice to you again?? How would you feel if one of them did that to you? it wouldnt feel good. You can still talk to them but i think its better if you stick with group 2. Like my mom told me about these girls that were my friends, then turned on me, and then started to be nice to me and they would do the same thing again: they are too wishy-washy meaning they go back and forth to much and cant make up their minds on wether to be friends with me or ditch me and i would cry because they would be mean and i was in the 4th grade. she just said stick with the group you are now. its better this way and all the friends i made that were so much better. thats how your group one is. any sec. they could turn on you all over again. just like she replaced you on myspace. also you can talk to them about it. explain how you feel toward eachother but you dont wanna ditch group 2 and please dont ditch group 2. i have had friends do that and it hurts. it makes you feel worth less and stuff like your not good enough and obviously gets you angry.but next time you guys have an argument you need to work it out. dont just blow it off. you gotta fix it.but once again i would pick group 2 because group one is way too "Wishy-washy" and could turn on you anytime. they are not that trust worthy and i would know from experience. well i hope i helped answer your question and send me another anytime. email me to tell me how it goes. scdgirl288@yahoo.com. good luck on the choice you make.

what i do i always try to make them laugh. thats my thing. i give them hugs and tell them that it'll be okay and it wont be that bad. they just want some comforting. thats about it but make them think of something that gets there mind off it but not totally off subject and random. give them hugs and tell them it'll be ok. thats about it. ask her if she feels better and make sure she is through the. thats all i have. good luck.
bluebell78

I say talk to him first because you dont want him to hate you before you talk to him. tell him how you feel. your worried about him and that your scaring him. tell him what it can do to his body and his breath and teeth. tell him you can get cancer. this may encourage him to stop because he may not know what it does. then explain to him why you want him to stop. if you can try to take away his cigaretts. if you cant then dont try to. after you tell im give him a day. have friends keep an eye on him to see if he is still smoking. if he is then tell his parents or talk to your parents first and see what they say. you may feel like your doing the wrong thing but your really not. he may "hate" you for telling but your helping him and he knows it. dont feel down on yourself. and if you dont want to tell him face to face then call him on the phone or email him or IM him. he may be mad first but then he will feel really thankful for having a friend as special and caring as you. it shows that you love him (in the brotherly way and knows he can count on you) well i really really hope i helped. if you have anymore questions please feel to email me anytime at scdgirl288@yahoo.com

i hate saying this and im not being against you or anything but i think its a bad influence and stuff to be around a guy like that. move on. find someone better for you. but if you want to keep the one you have then call him and stop by his house and stuff. mail things to him. email him. call him stuff like that. hope i helped. feel free to email me at scdgirl288@yahoo.com

just be nice. just go up to some people and make a little conversation with them and then ask if you can hang out with them. respect everyone. laugh. just go up to them and introduce yourself. just be yourself and juat say hi. its not as hard as it seems. im not shy but i kinda get shy when i talk to someone i dont know. i just push myself just to go over and say hi and then i week later i have made one new friend. its fun too. so i hope i helped answer your question as best as i could. if you need anymore advice you can ask me a question ao email me at hsmfan15xo@yahoo.com if you like. GOOD LUCK!!!

Bluebell78

i know that you have talked to your friend but talk to her again. tell her that she is scaring you and that you care about her and want her to stop. if you prob have done that before then try it again and tell her how much you mean to her. secondly YES you should tell her mom. she can die. cancer or anything. she needs help and if you cant get through her i bet her mom can that way she can sign her up for one of those camps to get people to stop quiting. try buying your friend some patches and just ask her to use them for just a little bit but make sure you tell her mom. thats her daughter and i would want to know what would be going on with my daughter too. talk to her and see if she can talk to her. i hope everything changes and she quits. you should get some of the most people who care about her like family friends and you and you all get together and talk to her and ask her to stop and each one of you tell her how much they love her and how much they love her. try that and see if it does any good. Good Luck!!

when you have to make new friends just go up and introduce youself to some girls you think are pretty nice and ask if you can hang out with them and then your relationships will grow and stuff. just go up and talk to some people who you think are nice. just make a little conversation with them and be nice and respectful then you can ask if they wouldnt mind if you could hang out with them. now if you wanna keep intouch with your old friends well i ask for their email and their phone number and i call them on the weekends and see whats new. we still hang out alot and stuff to and this is what you can do if you want. ask if you and one of your friends would want to go see a movie of something or ask if you guys want to go shopping. so there you have it. i hope i answered your question as best as i could. if you need anymore advice about friendships feel free to ask me anything or email me- hsmfan15xo@yahoo.com. good luck and hoped i helped!!

i dont think your friendship would end over that. if your best friends with oneanother and it is you guys have a strong bond nothing will happen. he will just have to understand that you just like him as a brother and nothing more. or you can tell him that you feel the same way and just explain to him that your not ready for a boyfriend right now. you want to concentrate on your responsibilities and work and everything thats going on and he should understand that you want to take care of your responsibilities. nothing will happen to your friendship though. if he does he may be like a little shy to talk to you for turning him down. i would be afraid. he will just have to understand and get the picture. you'll be ok. i wish u luck!!

Bluebell78

i was just like that when i was 14. im over it now. anyways just go up to him. hes just a person like you and me. start little by little. first just go up and say hi. when your done its like glad thats over. then later when you see him ask him how hes doin. then ask later when you see him like hey got anything special goin on this week and just work your way up. i understand your shy and i dont think that your upset about the way you look. you just arent used to talking to your face to face. you know what. if he comes up to you and starts talking to you face to face. dont be scared. hes your friend. talk to him like how you would talk to your friends even though hes a boy. just face your fear. i know its really hard but just try that. when he talkes to you face to face make up and excuse and then work your way from there. thats all i can say. reall yhoped i helped and i want to know that i helped you. and if i didnt help so much im sorry. but there you go. just make a method or something. if you hav more questions please ask me or email me at hsmfan15xo@yahoo.com

No i dont think you should give up your relationship up about a boy but i know what you mean. sit down and talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel. tell her you dont enjoy and and would like to tell him that its not nice and stuff. just talk to her on the phone and tell her it hurts and have her talk to her boyfriend. hope i helped!!

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