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Hey all! I'm 15, almost 16 *August 5th* and I go to Utica High School. It's a decent school, but living in Michigan is a downer seeing as we have the most sporadict weather ever. But, I still love it. I wouldn't move if I had the chance. =) Anywho, I love Forensics, It's my biggest hobby I probably have. And no, it isn't CSI or any of that stuff, it's Competitive Speech, but not like debate. I do the drama portion of it. Haha. I also love to sing. It's my dream to grow up and sing for a band for be solo, far fetched, but I can dream dammit! I like anybody who can make me laugh, and hate people who are 'stuck up' and 'serious' all the time. People need to learn to let loose, you know? I'm also a Christian, because God is effin' cool. He's cooler than you, remember that. Also, highschoolers really need to remember : "Save yourself for the one God saved for you." There are so many sluts in my school, it isn't even funny. Rather sad if you ask me. Other than that, I'm a pretty normal teen.

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My friend is coughing blood and i looked it up and i know what causes it. But she can't really aford going to the doctor and i am sorry for her. Is there any way to help? She is one of my best friends and is a PenPal.

The only way you can help her is get her a doctor. If she can't afford it, there is always Medicaid, a health insurance for people under poverty. If it's as serious as it sounds, wouldn't you rather her being alive then dead?

Megan

GOOD LUCK

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i have this friend...

because of some situations that happened last year in school ive lost most trust in her. but we have a lot of fun together. one part of me wants to forgive her for what she did and then another part of me wants to forget her and not trust her again.

what should i do?

Losing trust in a good friendship sucks, it really does, and you're feeling like you can never trust her again for whatever she did, right?

Well think of it this way. Everyone deserves a second chance. Now, you don't have to tell her whom you secretly like, or which girl in your math class you think is ugly, just be a friend. A normal friend.

Slowly, the friendship will gain back the inertia it once had, and you'll be able to grow to trust her again.

Remember, grudges are not healthy. If you "Forget her and not trust her" ever again, you'll always be thinking in the back of your mind, "I wonder how -insert name here- is doing?" And you'll see her at school or what not and think about her. The easiest thing you can do is forgive her. It's better that way.

You're never going to feel any better until you begin to heal for what she did. But let her know she has boundries. Tell her that you'll be her friend, but the trust you and her once shared is deminished and she is going to have to win it back.

Hope I helped,
Megan.

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Once one of my friend told me she cuts herself.
I was very worried so i told my bets frined. Now we arnt bf anymreo and she told everyoen saying "Alex told me Danielle cuts" not daniele is mad at me and evryone is clalign me a gossiper What do i do

Sounds like your ex-best friend is the gossiper, and perhaps you should point that out. And Danielle shouldn't be mad. The reason she told you is because she wants help. She may tell you she doesn't, but people who cut themselves don't tell others unless they want help. Give her help.

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I have this one really good friend, and let's call her Jane. Jane and I met last year, when I came to her school for a gifted program. Jane and I became kinda friends, but I made a best friend that I'll call Kristen. It's a year later, and now were all good friends. But on the bus the other day, this girl I'll call Sam bad mouthed my friend. I asked Kristen if she liked Jane, and she said no not really. Jane is a really good friend of mine but I don't know what to do?

Not all your friends are going to like eachother. Just kindly ask them not to talk bad about Jane when you're around.

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13/f---i have a "friend" named jensine and she used to be real nice when we were like 5th 6th grade- you get it... well she doesnt really have that good of a personality and people say that none of the guys like her in her school. she is really guy crazy... and she has been acting like really bitchy lately and i'm sick of it. she knows that i like this guy... his names fabian i know weird name but he's hot. well, she knows about it and said to me have you asked him out? and i said no so she says good, you better not because he'll say no -all she does is like put me down. i've known fab for a long time and we've always been like friends but not really good friends. jensine is weirdly jealous. i've already like *stopped* being friends wit her a couple times, but she always says shes changed and we'll hang out again. what should i do? should i start going out wit fab n leave jensine bc of it or wut? i dont know... i'm confused! thanx in advance... i rate high sorry this was so long its just a confusin thing!
XoBRITTANYoX

Brittany,
Alright, this Jensine girl is craving attention big time, What you need to do, is give her space and let her have her attention with someone other than you. This girl doesn't sound like she'll change. I think you should go out with Fab, and tell Jensine that if she puts you down one more time, you will not be friends, and you mean it this time. I know it's hard to let someone go, but you have to do it. She isn't a friend. Trust me. She probably wants you around so she looks cool or something which she obviosly isn't. Don't hurt her feelings mind you, if she is as unpopular as you make her out to be, she might just want a friend. Be nice, but firm.

Good luck,

AskMegan

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its my friends birthday on sunday.. n im going to her party saturday to sunday.. i have no idea what to get her!! shes a punk girl who likes soccer.. so if u could give me ideas thatd b great!! i'll rate u!!

How about getting her something soccer oriented. Like, maybe some Hip soccer-ball earings, some cute socks (Every girl loves them) And then maybe some jelly bracelets. Those are awesome. Or, you could get her a soccer ball, and decorate with like names of her faviorte bands, and her name, and stuff like that. Just be creative with whatever you do, because i'm sure she'll love it!

AskMegan

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i have a friend lets call her janis. janis has been acting really strangley lately. like leaving me out of our three person group by talking about classes she has with the other person so i cant really say anything, judging everything i say, constantly talking about things like global warming and other things like that to sound smart. I always thought she was smart so she doesnt need to do that kind of thing. the other day she even said something about mt.kilamanjaro but spelled it kilamanjari and i corrected her and she said she typed it that way just to see if i would catch it. i have another best friend jared and he was an old boyfriend of janis last year, she never acted like she was that hurt that he dumped her until now where now she acts like he killed her mother. anyway when she said that thing about kilmanjaro (sorry this is really hard to follow )was online and after she said that i told her she wasnt acting like the old janis and signed off. now she won't even look at me. what should I do? I want my old friend back....:-)

You need to tell your friend, what you told us-you know she's smart, she dosn't have to pretend.Ask her why she is flipping out about an old boyfriend, when they broke up long ago. Just ask her why she is having a sudden change of heart in everything.


AskMegan

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Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels?

What a person says when they are drunk, can be over exagerations of whats really going on. When he said "I want to f*ck her" he most likly meant in sober-talk, that he likes you, and when he said "she'll be pissed at me" he probably meant, you'll be dispointed in him.

Seeing as how you're best friends, i'm sure he knows that you're disapointed in his actions, just let low from him for a while, make sure you let him know that you don't like the drinking, and espically talking about you when he's drunk.

Don't tell him you're dissapointed in him, because i'm sure he already knows, considering he is your best friend, and best friends know a lot about eachother.

AskMegan

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I like the icon on your site..the Jesus one..do you know any sites that I can find christian icons? thanks

Yes, go to www.iconator.com and go to the search bar. Type in "Jesus" or "Christian" or something to that affect. Jesus will get you a lot of icons.

Good luck.

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You see, I used to go down to my cousins house and I would stay the night there because one of his friends moved in with him because his mom is a crazy bitch, so he was like and adopted cousin. But now my cousin still lives at home and my adopted cousin moved out with his girlfriend, who is really nice and all, but now i barely see him. I used to be able to call him on my cell phone because he had a cell phone, and my home phone cant get long distance, BUT NOW my damn phone is turned off because my dad had a cell phone and he used his ALOT so the bill was like $400 so now he has to pay this, or i cant call him, so now i feel bad about not calling him, or even going down there. I cant go down there becaue of my knee sugery i had recentally. I just love my adopted family members so much and now i cant even see them or talk to them....WHAT SHOUD I DO

This is going to be a short answer, because i'm at school, but I think msybe you could call him on a different phone? Like your friends phone or something?
Thats all I could think of, or help your dad raise the money to get his phone fixed.

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Haha, you got that story about the rubber duck off an e bay thing how it was possessed. I know cause I'm just as big as a loser and I read it as well.

=)

Yeah! Haha I did!!

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..okay i know this is really long but i really need advice!! well this girl is one of my best friends..she tells me everything..well about a month ago she told me she was going anerexic, because she thinks shes fat! She is really skinny..!! I told her not to because she is really skinny and that is sooo unhealthy..and its stupid! She doesnt believe me whenever i say shes skinny..she just thinks im being nice whenever im really not! Everyday at lunchtime she would get a bottle of water..and if one of the teachers made her eat she would go to the bathroom and throw up! One day i followed her without her knowing. Well I didnt know what to do so I went to the guidence counsler..and told him what was going on..well he called her mom..but didnt say i said anything. i am not sure what her mom said.. so my friend found out it was me because i was the only one who she told. and i didnt know that! so she got mad at me and i appologized and we made up..and today in school she said she was doing it again?!??!?! i have talked to her a million times but its not working! i dont know what to do! i already told the consler the last time she did it..what should i do?! please help!!

....The thing is sweetheart. You can't stop her from doing what her mind is set on doing. Best thing to do is talk to her mother in person. You may ruin your friendship with her, but you'll most likly save her life. Don't hesitate. Do it now.

Drop one in the inbox.

AskMegan

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