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Is God real? I'm a raised catholic, but I for about 2 years now I've felt atheist/agnostic.

How do you know it's YOUR god that's real? What if there are many gods? what if there's a goddess?


just give me some proof.

because a lot of times i feel guilty for not being religious and i feel like i should be religious. But I don't want to save myself for marriage and I masturbate which makes me think that I shouldn't be a christian! Can i still be a christian even in spite of those 2 things?


please just give me advice.

I am not a Christian however I can answer at least part of your question. I know that you have been raised a Catholic and that you will believe that there should only be one true God as many religions believe. This statement has caused a lot of fighting between religions which I do not believe that any higher being would want.

My opinion on this matter is that no matter what religion you belong to, you believe in the same higher being, whether you call him God, Allah, Buddah or whatever. So try not to worry about that so much!

As for masturbating I don't think that you shouldn't be a christian for doing this - you are young and exploring your own body.

As for the whole saving yourself for marriage - I think it is very very important to wait until you are in a longterm, loving, secure relationship before taking this next step and if that means you wait until you are married then so be it however, you will know when the time is right for you and if it's before marriage then as per your religion ask God for forgiveness.

I hope this helps.

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About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question!

Honey masturbating is not wrong - you are young and exploring your body.

I am not catholic however I have a friend who is a Reverend and I once asked her if masturbating was a sin and whether or not ALL sins were forgiven.

She told me that all sins are forgiven if you are truly sorry (which I believe that you are).

She also told me that many a bad thing had been done in the name of Religion (for example the Crusades where thousands of people were killed or the Spanish Inquisition where many innocent people were executed as heretics) and pointed out that in those instances that the commandment "thou shalt not kill" had been broken over and over (I am sure that you will understand that if you are Catholic this is a very very important commandement to keep) however, she said that even though a commandment had been broken those who were truly sorry were forgiven and accpeted into heaven.

I really hope that this gives you some peace of mind.

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i know what believe in but i dont know if there is a religion for that.

i believe in a higher being of some sort, but i dont exactly know what it is.

i do and always have believed in reincarnation, that when you die, your soul lives on until it has reached peace with the earth.

i believe the body should remain clean and nothing unnatural should go in it. like that's why i dont believe in taking most medicines.

i believe that everything happens for a rason, whether it be good or bad.

i pray sometimes, i just dont know exactly what i pray to.

does this sound like a religion you practice or know of?

what do you believe in?

In short - you basically believe in the same things as me and I would class myself as a Spritualist.

I think that all religions fundamentaly teach the same thing: be a good person; be good to one another; live a happy life.

I myself, do not feel the need to go to church, mosque etc to feel close to the being that I believe in however, if, as such you want to belong to a specific religion or faith you may need to research some of them thoroughly to find one which encompasses all of your beliefs. In all honesty, I think you have drawn on quite a few.

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Sometimes, I predict things without knowing I predict them. For example, when i was walking into my tv room I was thinking about the movie karate kid and I did a karate kid kick (i'm strange) then when I got to the tv room a band was talking about the movie Karate Kid. I didnt even hear the tv before I got in. Or maybe i'm thinking "i like the name luke for a boy" and a mom nearby with her kids has a kid named luke and says "luke". This happens alot! Is it just a really big coincidence or might I be physcic or something?

Sounds to me like you may be intuitive however, if you are interested in psychic ability it may be an idea for you to research it more and perhaps, if you decide that you do have psychic ability to try and progress it.

I know that there are a lot of non-believers out there - some people just find it plain scary but let me explain - just because you are psychic does not mean that you can predict the future!!!

I am descendent from a line of mediums/psychics and am currently developing my skills however, it never has been and never will be my intention to profit from my gifts.

As for being on TV - who would want to be pestered by ever single person you met saying "tell me the lottery numbers" or "will I ever be rich".

Things like Tarot cards are meant to be used as a guide to your life and can let you know of influences which will come into your life but ultimately, every decision that you make in life will take you somewhere. It's all about choices!

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What do you say to someone who you love dearly when a member of their family dies? I'm sorry doesn't help I know that, but I feel like all I'm doing is just being next to him, not really helping.

There is nothing that can be said to ease someones grief however, just being next to them CAN help immensely. Just to know that you are not alone and that there is someone ready and willing to listen or wipe away tears etc is sometimes all that is really needed.

I will say one thing though - when my Father died I found it frustrating that people didn't talk about their own lives or feel that they could share good news. It felt a bit like the world had stopped which in itself was much scarier in a way.

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i need some help....anyone know of a protection spell against curses?

First of all, you need to believe in curses and be readily willing to accept them for them to be able to work.

When someone believes that they are cursed they send out negative vibes about themselves and then the Universe sends it back to them and bad things start to happen like sitting on your glasses and things.

Tell your boyfriend to start thinking positively about himself and his life and you do the same for him and I am sure that you will find that he is not cursed!

If you want to discuss this more, please feel free to email me.

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Okay... well I'm not trying to get any religious views, or have anyone change my mind or anything like that... but I've always had a hard time figuring out what to believe in. I went to a Catholic school when I was younger [only cause it was right down my street though, haha] and neither of my parents are very religious... infact, they hardly are at all. But I never know what to believe. Like, I don't want to not believe in God... cause if there even is a "Hell" I don't want to go there and burn for all of eternity haha. Now, I don't really think there is [well I'm not even sure what to believe... there's so much I can learn about] but what if there is? I'll never know for sure. So basically, I'm just always worrying about things like that and I never know what to think =/ now don't like, try to call me stupid and naiive or anything, cause it's not my fault that there's 9857285 religons. Usually I just try to live my life being a good person... cause there's really no religon that looks donw upon that... That's what my mom always says anyway. "If there is a God or a whatever, as long as I spend my life being a good person, I'll be fine" So that's what I try to live by. [religon-wise]. What do you think?

I definitely agree with that....I guess in a way you can call me a spiritualist because I do believe that there is a being however many people call this being different things.

Your Mum is right as all religions, when stripped down to the fundamental message, are the same - be a good person, be good to one another and live a happy life.

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I'm thirteen and I guess you could say i'm Catholic. My family goes to church every week, but I don't even feel good when I go. I feel like it's all a big lie, God and Jesus and Heaven and Hell. I mean, I think to myself, it seems kind of unreal that when you die you go to this wonderful place with God and if you don't follow all the exact rules of christianity, you go to hell with evil Satan. So you are telling me if I tell a little lie, or say "Oh my god" once, I have to burn in the depths of hell in my after life, if I don't go tell some priest all of my business and ask god to forgive me? Don't tell me that isn't true, because the 10 comandments say that. That brings me to hell. Out of the billions of people on earth, a fiery, hot place may not be scary to some. Maybe sitting in a white room with a set of rainbow blocks infront of you for eternity is hell, not being able to do anything else. But then, all of a sudden out of nowhere I get scared that that might be real, and all of a sudden I believe in god again. Can anyone help me out here? What should I believe in my situation. OH! And if you give me some quote from the bible to explain your answer, I swear I will ignore it because I can't stand that.

First off - there is no definitive answer to your question. Ultimately you will decide what you really believe over the course of your life however, I do believe that there is something after we die. To explain my full beliefs here would take forever and sound more like I was preaching but if you want to ask me anything then feel free.

I have always believed that if you try to be a good person then that is what matters. Everyone in their life will "sin" however, I do not believe that it is essential to go to church and confess these sins to a priest or whoever. Is it right to say that only a select few can talk to God/Allah???? I think that if you know that you have done something wrong then you can ask the being that you believe in for forgiveness or tell them that you are sorry!!! I don't believe that God/Allah etc would turn his back on anyone.

I think that God is all around us and even in ourselves and free will makes us who we are.

If when you die you are truly sorry for anything that you may have done in your life then I think that will be good enough for God/Allah etc.

It doesn't matter which religion you follow, I believe that every religion teaches the same thing when stripped back to its fundamental message: be a good person, be good to one another and life a happy life and to say that if you have done just one bad thing in your life, like tell a little lie, that you will not be forgiven and go to hell is just cruel!

No religion should rule and keep followers by fear. Again, I am back to free will. It was given for a reason.

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Does anyone know any free online physchic sites that are free.

Not so much a free psychic website but tarot.com may have some of the things you are looking for.

I am decendent from mediums/psychics and have been learning to read tarot cards so if there is anything that you think I may be able to help you with please feel free to email me - I will try to answer any question you have but cannot promise anything. I will not charge you for anything. Basically, I just need to practice - any feedback would be gratefully received should you decide to email me.

Take care!

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hi, well my freind has been having family problems, and today he told me that he prayed a lot to god, to sort it out and what not, and when he got home, he told me that they were sorting it out, and it was getting better. is this the work of "the allmighty" or just a quencidence, because im not fully persuaded? what do you guys think? thanks

Now this is a tough question!!!

It really depends on your own religious views.

I guess you could call me a spiritualist however, I tend to draw from many different religions as ultimately in my mind they all teach the same thing, be a good person, be good to one another and be happy and therefore I have never felt the need to go to church etc to be close to God, he is always around - even when you think that he has left you!

Even people who don't believe in any being "speak" to someone/something in times of trouble.

I would never say that any religion is wrong. Ultimately I believe that whatever the religion people follow, they believe in the same being.

It is my belief that in life you get what you give. For instance, your friend had been praying for his family to work things out, therefore he would have been sending positive energy out relating to his family. I believe that the Universe, God, Allah or whatever name you would like to use sent back this positivity to his family in abundance.

Hope this helped.

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