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Hi my name is Sabrina. The worst thing in the world is dealing with a problem on your own. It may lead you to confusion and even leave you without a solution. It's always better to hit up someone else's opinion on things and help you see that there is light at the end of your problem. I have been through alot of things in my life, many more than you could probably count and I am only 18. I have learned alot from my expierences and still deal with some of the issues that I have before. I know how difficult life can be, it puts so much stress on you trying to be as perfect as you can. But you have to know that being you is as perfect as you can be, it just takes a while to finally notice yourself for who you are when your so distratcted by life. Anyways, anyone feel free to contact me I am just here to listen and hopefully shed some light on your problems. It's my passion to make people feel better about themselves.
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Depending on what it's like, a song can change my mood or outlook on a situation from moment to moment because that's just how I am. What are some good songs that make you feel mellow and chilled out or happy. The songs themselves don't have to be happy or sad...just how do they make you feel? Please give me some names of good songs. (link)
Christian music


If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins (link)
God told us homosexuality is wrong. Its is sinful, god created man and woman to create life. Its in gods word, and he said anyone who goes against his word does not obey him and he said they belong to satan, they may fool you and be the nicest people, but you can still go to hell doing good deeds and thinking good thoughts, if you dont obey christ your lost.


I don't know what I am inside, or what to do. I believe in god and jesus and stuff, but I don't know if I'm scared to go to hell. I don't go to church and I don't know what waits for me at the end. I want to find out what I really believe in but I don't know how. This may sound strange, but I feel like I have a connection, not to god, but almost like being psychic. I need a way to find my spirituality. (link)
There is a hell. Its alive and waiting. I know its scary, but the truth is if you believe in Jesus and that he came and died for all your sins, and if you live for him and do his will and have a relationship with him there should be no fear for you, accept him into your heart and you will find him, he told us to seek him first and you will find him. I will pray for you, and pray for yourself, hell is a scary thought, and its real whether people tell you or not, sometimes satan can get into the minds of others that they dont need god, that they should resort to other things to make them happy, like others religions or people, etc. Those are all false, and jesus said he is the only truth. Satan is tricky he wants you to believe there is no hell so you think you can do whatever you want and live as evil as you want without consequences, but you cant!!! Just like here on earth when you do something bad there is always a consequence, at the end of your time you will be judged according to your works, and you will either enter paradise or enter all of hell. You make the choice, choose Christ.


I've heard people talking about what happens before God returns. I've started reading the bible, but I haven't gotten that far where it tells you about it. I know that it says something about locusts and maybe hurricanes, but I don't know the details. If any of you have read it, what does it say happens? (link)
There will be a second comming, it is for the future, Jesus took his apostle John and showed him what the near future would look like. For the day or hour we do not know, as in the bible it states that no one will ever know the day in which christ is comming again to save this world and save those who believe in him from hell. Jesus didnt say that the apostles would see it, you never ever know when. But there are signs in the bible as to when its getting close, and from my reading i think its comming closer, God doesnt know time, to him a thousand years is like a blink of an eye, and it states that in the bible too. It says there will be numerous things happening in parts of the earth that we simply think is just nature, but its God wrath overcomming this earth, like the hurricanes we have had, earthquakes, etc. Also you should read Countdown to Jerusalem by John Hagee, it tells about the war on terroism and how islam wants to wipe israel(gods chosen people) off the face of the earth, and god said anyone who messes with israel will not enter the kingdom of heaven, god said he will destroy them, and the people who are helping to destroy are russia as well. Islam also hates america, and it has been said they have been planning nuclear weapons for the past 20 years, and have just now started the process in making them, it also in the book talks about electromagnectic blankets, which they are working on now to send to america and it would shut off everything, all electricity, no cars would run, no would could communicate, no refrigerators or anything. You should read it, scary, but true, Gods word is everlasting and ever true. Those who go against it are destined for the lake of fire.


Hi. I'm 13/f
My problem is that My mom is really into christianity and all that stuff, but lately I've been getting into witchcraft.(yes, I know the bible says it's an abomination against God) My mom doesn't know, and so she still takes me to church with her every sunday.but whenever I'm in church, I feel like I'm getting a lecture or something like that. She's so into it, she sent me to private school because of the "Moral Values" of it. the truth is, all the kids there are pretty much the same as they would be in public school. We all cuss, some of us smoke and a few of us drink.I mean, I believe in god, but I also believe in spells. I've seen them work before and have succesfully done some. I'm not really sure what to do. Any help??? (link)
Hello. You may feel like your being lectured because you allow yourself to think that its going to be boring before you even give it a chance. Maybe the church your at isnt right for you, you could always find a different one or talk to your mom about it, if not that then read the bible, let that be your guide since it is God's word, and dont let anyone fool you into another source of faith, God is truth, he is the way and light. All other things come from the devil himself, like wicca, and some people might be offended, but I am not ashamed of the gospel. Spells are the devils work, you are either against God or for him, but you cannot believe in god and do the devils work. Please email me at cornblade@cs.com and ill help you much more, this is your soul on the line, and i want to help!


Who told you about "thoughts from Satan" lol. I bet you the same people who told you to give 10% of your paycheck to them too. And then they will probably say I am from Satan for writing this. What a sad thing. Take responsibility for your own thoughts, don't place the blame on Satan. (link)
Satan is real. We do make our own decisions and thoughts, but satan can come in and play with our thoughts and mind. It's all biblical. And no no one told me this and I didnt pay them anything. One day you will see when you die what is real, and what isnt, the only truth ni this universe is that jesus came down and died for all our sins so that we may be able to be forgiven and we may have a chance to get into heaven, and this life is but once and if we blow it we choose our destiny to spend an eternity in hell with satan himself, and everything in the bible that jesus promised is comming true. The end of the world could be any day, any hour, we never know. I suggest you take a look.


17/f

is it wrong to think lustfully about others? i mean i can understand if it gets 2 be a constant thing and you objectify them, then its bad.. but is it really that bad 2 have inappropriate thoughts if its only ocasionally? please help

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It is wrong to think this way, why?? Those thoughts are from satan and if you do not resist those thoughts you are buying into satan, sure those thoughts will come into your head because satan wants you to sin, but if you can block it out in the midst of it then your doing Gods will, as it says in the bible.


I don't want to offend anyone with my questions but theres just so much that doesnt make sense about god and religion. i really do want to believe but i dont understand somethings and it makes me think god cant exist becaus of these things that dont add up.
firstly evolution. humans evolved from apes, there's been loads of scienctific evidence and documentries about it and you learn about it in science. But the bible says adam and eve were the first man and woman, so according to religion evolution cant have existed, well not in humans anyway.
If god is so great and loves us all, why does he make people suffer? i mean even highly religion people. the pope sufferd loads before he died and he's about as religios as people get, so why would god make him suffer?
Also, if god is so great and loves us all, why does he send people to hell? i know some deserve it but surely he wouldnt want anyone to be sent to hell for eternity?
This last point is not something i thought of, it's something that was talked about on the radio but it makes you think. There are lots of religions, but if any, only 1 must be true and the rest of them are lies. people must have made some religions up because some say theres only 1 god, some religions have many gods and all different types of beliefs, so they cant all be true. i hope someone can help me, because its so confusing and i honestly do want to believe.
sorry, if i offended anyone, i really dont want to. its just so confusing.
thank you x (link)
God doesnt make people suffer, we make people suffer, the devil makes people suffer. This world is full of evil, God is all good. God is perfect. We as human have doubt, doubt is evil. Doubt therefore makes us test our faith, the doubt is one of satans tactics to get us to stray from out faith and believe all this mess in the world, he wants to get inside your mind and change what God gave you so you will die and spend your eternity in hell with him. He lies and cheats and tells you things you want to hear to get you with him eventually. Its hard to resist him, but you can if you hold truth in God.
Doubt is not something God puts in us. The bible says God gives every man a measure of faith. God has placed in our heart, but the devil tries to negate our faith by attacking us with doubt. Doubt is an exact opposition of God's word. It is important for us to know God's word. If we know the word, then we can recognize the devil is lying to us. Be assured he lies to us in order to steal what Jesus purchased for us through his death and ressurection.
It's not that we don't have faith, it's just that the devil is trying to detroy our faith with lies. God placed dreams and visions in our hearts. Satan tries hard to get us to abort our dreams and follow his ways. One tool he uses is doubt, unbelief. Both of those work against the mind. Faith is a product of the spirit. The enemy doesnt want us to get our mind in agreement with our spirit. He knows that if God places faith in us to do a thing, and we get positive and start to believe that we can do it, Satan know that then we will do damage to his kingdom.
The best advice in all this, to be strong and hold faith is that when a storm comes into your life, be prepared! Very often the storm in your life will cease as soon as you quit and give up. The devil brings storms into your life to intimidate you. During the storm remember that the mind is the battle ground. Dont make decisions based on your thoughts, for those thoughts could be the lies from Satan, check with your spirit, your heart. WHen you do, you will find the same vision that was there in the beginning that God gave us as I mentioned earlier.
Many of you might say, doubt is a choice. SO true. You can choose to belive or not to believe. Faith though is the gift from God, so we KNOW in our minds we have faith. Everyone does, even people who dont believe have faith in one or two things in their life. But the true natural faith was always planted in our minds from the moment we were made by God. The fact that we have the choice to believe is the devils warfare tactic against our minds. Unbelief is disobedience. In disobedience in our life leads to failure and lessons learned, but disobedience in God leads to an unsuccessful tormented mind. It keeps us from doing what God has planned and experiencing true peace in our life with all our problems.

Another thing doubt can do is put this question in your mind "They say there is a God, but what if there isnt?" That is doubt. That is the devil talking to you, he wants you to play that thought over and over, he gets in deep and filsl you with more lies, like "well if there was a God this wouldnt happen..etc etc." Its all a lie. God would never give anyone in their life anything that he hasnt planned to benefit them or reward them in heaven with. In this question you will not have peace, no one knows truth because we hide from the truth because it scares us, the devil scares us and he will lie and cheat us to get us to be with him. Learn to live in your faith and be strong in it, do not fall into the deception of the devil. God has a great life planned for everyone, dont let the devil destroy it from you.







First of all, let me clear the air. Im a sexually active 20 year old, Ive never been married, and I personally see nothing wrong with premarital sex, or sex in general.

But.

I have many friends who are Christian or Catholic, and they are (in my opinion) anywhere from sexually repressed at best, to afraid of and disgusted by sex at worst.

I cant really talk to most of them about it, simply because its a very uncomfortable subject.So I pose the question to the masses. For those of you who are religious, what are your views on sex, and why?

Thought provoking answers might get my screen name for further discussion, if you like. Any answers that sound something like

"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"

or outright flames will get a 1. (link)
I am Catholic. Pre-martial sex in my religion is looked at as wrong until married. But I have had sex before, with one person only and that's my boyfriend whom I know I am spending the rest of my life with. I don't see a problem with having sex if your ready for it and you love the person your with. If you think that you two are meant to be and aren't married yet then I don't see a problem. Sex is a part of a relationship, its not everything, but it fits right in there, and I think before you get married you should explore things with your partner and make sure your 100% sure you want to be with them. Now, I am not saying test the sex and then decide if they are good enough. Sex shouldn't determine if you love someone, it should let you know afterwards how strong your feeling progress for them. As for me, after sex with my boyfriend I feel so much closer to him because we already have a special bond now, that when we have sex it grows even more. So I respect people who have at least found someone they love to share such an intimate moment with.




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