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Putting your question out there for people like me to answer does not give you the right to bitch at me if you don't like what I have to say. And for God's sake, am I the only one who is sickened and disgusted by all the thirteen-year old sluts asking questions about sex? I think I'm going to have to give up those kind of questions, it's all just too painful. So many children in that generation are turning out RIDICULOUSLY IDIOTIC.

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18/f here-does anyone know a really good deoderant to use? Not for smell, but to greatly reduce sweating? I have to change my shirts all day because they keep getting wet, it's gross and embarassing. And if no one has found one off the shelf, is a prescription one expensive, do you have to see a doctor (no insurance) or just ask a pharmacist? Deoderants I've tried are secret platinum soft solid, and adidas smart technology. And botox would be too expensive (it's supposed to stop excessive sweating). thanks guys.

Hm... I use Lady Mitchum (it's antibacterial yay!) You might want to talk to a doctor if it's really horrible, but you might want to try someone with baking soda in it.

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i'm not trying to sound mean or anything...but i'm not 10...i'm 15...yeah it may sound werid but i didn't start using the shit till now cuz i was fucking scared...call me a lil pussy all u want but i'm jst letting you know!

LOL. Okay. ... Okay.

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ok i like kind of jst started wearing tampons...n the 1st couples time that i have changed it didn't hert...but know it's starting to her...i don't know wat but it is...i wear lights so it want hert so bad when i pull em out but it does....is the a reason y it herts

Maybe it's because you're only ten years old. You should wait a couple years to get used to your body and the way it works, before you start trying to use tampons again.

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I'm 13 years old (turned 13 last month), and i've always been kinda flat chested. I just started growing a little, and it's kinda weird. are there supposed to be like little wrinkles or anything on the nipples... can someone tell me what to expect? thanks.
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OMG lol. Honey, you've just hit puberty, congrats. Don't worry about being flat-chested until you're sixteen or seventeen, because by then you're really not going to be growing much. You've still got some growth spurts in you. But if you're curious to know how you'll turn out, did your female relatives have flat chests or big boobs? It doesn't count if they're fat or have implants, but you should be able to tell from pictures of them in their teens and twenties.

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Well, I'm a vegitarian. Ever since I stopped eating meat, I've had a horrible appitite. All the sudden I'm never hungry, and when I eat, I sometimes feel as if I'll just puke it right back up...what's wrong with me? I'm not anerexic, I'm just a vegitarian. I think I might need to give it up...

Oy, going vegetarian can be hard. I did it once, and I got pretty sick, and I lost a lot of weight in a short amount of time. What has probably happened is that you suddenly cut down a LOT of what you eat by taking the meat out. Suddenly, you're eating a LOT less than your normal amount. Your body's gone into hibernation, only without the six month beauty sleep. Here's the deal. You don't have to give up being a vegetarian, you just need to make sure you eat enough food with protein and get all of your essential vitamins and minerals. It might be a little slow getting yourself used to eating a lot again, but you don't want to get sick or anything. If you find yourself in need of protein and you don't feel like eating a lot, go for a spoonful of peanut butter... But I suggest the creamy kind. I don't like chunky.

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(Sorry, I wasnt sure what category to put it under) Ok, ever since 5th grade I really started to hate my life. I mean, this large group of girls were doing petty things and were lying to the principal. Alot of people hate me. I lost 25 maybe more, friends. I cant take it anymore. My friends are starting to ignore me and "snub" me! Im starting to feel very depressed and lonely. My self-esteem is 2. Not alot. I cry myself to sleep. My family life isnt any better. My mom is SUPER paranoid, so I cant tell her anything. My dad wont understand. My mom wont let me go over to my friends house and such! Please help!
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Aww. *pat pat* Now, I'm not speaking out of my ass when I tell you that I know EXACTLY what this feels like. All I can tell you is, it gets better. It sucks now, but it ALWAYS gets better. I promise you that high school will never be this bad, and that you'll have friends who actually matter. Your current friends are a bunch of bitches, and you feel free to tell them that if they don't stop acting like a bunch of backstabbing whores, then you really don't need those asshole sluts mucking up your life. If your friends treat you like shit, the only thing you owe them is a good tongue-lashing. Unfortunately, I don't know what you could do to change how people are treating you. The only thing I DO know is that, no matter how bad it gets, high school is infinitely better. And before anyone mentions that high school sucks, I would kindly point out that it's a love-fest and constant party compared to this kind of middle school experience.
If you want to talk a little about it, you can PM your email address to me (I won't put it anywhere public) and cheer you up a bit about the future.

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If you don't mind me asking, what is so great about spa days? I don't mean to sound like a prick, I am just curious. Perhaps they can help me as well.

Spa days are good times, my friend. Basically it's an excuse to take a day off, relax, and be pampered for no reason other than to feel good about yourself. They're great for relieving stress. It doesn't matter if you go to an actual professional spa, or if you spend a day with your best friend relaxing and doing your nails- it's just time devoted to yourself.

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Sometimes, I'd say about once a month, I'll wake up unable to move or speak, all I'll be able to control is my eyes. During this time I can't control my breathing either, my body is still in automatic mode. After about 10-30 secs of focusing on moving a single part of my body, I'll be able to move my entire body again. My mom who's a psych student says that I wake up during a certain stage of REM sleep; though I'd like another opinion. Has anyone been through this, or does anyone have any insight as to what this is?

Well, seeing a doctor about it won't hurt, if it really bothers you, you can look it up on Google or in the library and find out if there's been any other documented cases like your's.

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My friend who i really care about cuts his wrists. I went to his house and he did it right in front of me. I felt so sick. I asked him to spot and he just keeps saying he cant but he will try. But he keeps doing it. And i dont know what to say or do. He said that i cant tell anyone and if i tell his parents and they try to send him somewhere he will run away. I dont know what to do. Help!!!!!!!!!!!

He wants attention. He's manipulating you emotionally, and that is wrong. Tell him to cut that shit out, because if it wasn't about hurting YOU, you wouldn't be involved. If he persists, which is likely because he sounds like a dumbass, tell his parents. It's more important that people who care about him know than the stupid little shit-fit he'll throw your way, and if you care about him, you'll notify his parents immediately.

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i stayed home today cuz im really sick..and like my face has gotten SOOOO dry from it like around my nose and under my chin and under my eyes..does neone know somthing that'll help? like hand lotion? but isn't that for ur hand..and i kinda need somthin that'll work fast cuz i got skool tomorrow well thanx

Exfoliate when you wash your face. And, really, "Vaseline Intensive Care for Hands" really works well on your face in tiny doses.

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my mother and her whole family are white. however my father is half & half..(black/white)
..everyone in his family is white, except for his father.(my grandad) so..what am i? half/half? or just white? and if any1 knows, what percentage of each would i be? :) ty!

Well, I think the first thing you need to do is pick up a math book and go to class once in a while. This is the sort of thing that you'll learn once you hit fourth grade.

Think of it this way.

Mum = 2 halves white.

Dad = 1 half white, 1 half black.

2 + 2 = 4

You are one quarter black and three quarters white.

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