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Well I'm an honest, down to earth girl who like's to have fun! currently I'm attending college and hope to graduate as a nurse in four years. I love helping people with any issue, giving advice to people who really need it makes me feel good and nice inside. I guess i would say that i can more relate to love/relationship, education, and family issues since I've gone through allot. so if you have any problem or just a quick question dont hesitate I'm here to help!

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I am so ashamed of my Dad! He is SOO Gross Acting! I want to have a friend over (Amber) for a mini sleepover but I am imbarrassed of him! He makes these Hawking Noises! (lol) and it is SOOO Gross! I Don't Know What She Would Think! He Is Fat and Ugly and I don't even like to be around him! So What Do I Do About This HUGE Problem!!?

All I'm going to say is he's your father and you need to learn to respect him and change your attitude. i cant believe you would say those rude, nasty things about him, so what if he does those things you say he does .that's not good enough reason to hate him. my god this generation of kids don't know the meaning of respecting your elders especially your parents. I donâ??t think you should even care what your friends think. come on he's your father he raised you, he hasn't really done anything to you to justify your view on him. I've gone through so much with my own parents good and bad but i would never in million years say or even feel the things you just said about your father. my advice to you 'get your priorities straight'.

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i just got back from california and i saw my whole family on my dads side which is alot . including my bro. who i am in love w/ now thats all i think about . i mean he is so cute and perfect. is this normal ???
love

Ok ewww your own brother!!! I don't care if he's your stepbrother come on girl he's your brother maybe its just hormones.. your just growing and it normal to have feelings for the opposite sex you just need to understand that thinking this way about your brother is not a good, and healthy thing to do. ok.. just go looking some more and you'll find someone more attracting and try to forget about your brother ok?? I don't want you committing incest or anything!

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hey! i,m 13 female and i want to say that i think my mom wishes she never had me because she often excludes me from stuff, she lies to me alone, she never spends time with me, and she told me herself that she cared about my brother and sister more and she told me that if i wasnt as smart as i am now that she wouldnt still be proud of me! i just want to know if i am just over looking things or does she really not like me? please help! 5's to good answers

wow! I don't think parent's know how much of an effect their word can do to pre teens. I'm thinking that she said this when she was mad. some people let there anger get the better of them to the point where they say such things. if those words are effecting you so much to the point where you really think she meant it, then you need to talk to her seriously I'm pretty sure she'll regret what she said and tell you she didn't mean it. but if not then talk to your dad about it, or even your siblings. they'll help you talk to your mom or they'll talk to her them selves.

hope things get worked out!
syireen

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I find myself caring way too much about what other people say, especially when it comes to my family. Last night I cried myself to sleep because two of them had said something nasty about my boyfriend -- which I should be used to, since they've loathed my boyfriend from the day I met him four years ago and they've made no secret of it. I really can't go on like this, getting upset every time they say something nasty to me (not just about my boyfriend, anything). What are little tricks you can play with yourself so you don't care quite so much about what other people say?

When I get pissed I usually go against everyone head on. next time they say something mean confront them and show them your pissed. be like "what's your problem honestly" "what did he/or i do to you guys?" then if there still like that be like "you know what i don't even care what you guys think, I'll go out with who ever i want so get used to it" then go to your room and try not to cry. if you cant help it and you need to cry don't let them hear you, and talk to God remember he's the only one who understands you the most. keep telling your self you don't care what they think. eventually your family are going to see that their words don't effect you they'll decrease the mean remarks. remember it takes energy to be mean and nasty they have to except him eventually i mean if you've been together for that long I'm sure you love him which means he's not going any where.

hope things get better
syireen

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Ok, this question is what i'd probally call an original.

its actually quite simple

a while back i was dating this black kid ( and i saw black bc this was a main problem )and he was freidns with my brother, and so he was over my house often, and my mother knew him

we started going out, things progressed, and my mother found out, she said things like he just wanted to get in my pants, hes a street kid, he doesnt' get good grades, and alot more things, but even though my motehr said she wasn't racist i felt she was ( she also said that my rep could get ruined )

i didn't really care what people thought bc i loved him, but eventually he moved away, and i had a rough time

main point : my mother ( finally ) bought me thongs in the summer 05 =]

i likeed thmm alot and everything, but my mother ''heard stores'' about me and him, and then one day she came in my room and took them..

at first i was confused, and i still am
she NEVER told me why she took them.which made me extremley pissed

its been MONTHs now, and i even asked for them back probally 2 months ago..and she said no!

it really pisses me off, its hard to explain

do you think theres a way to get my mother to give them back? its hard to konw bc i don't know why she took them
anything would be apprecited though

thanks in advance

I for one have to diagree with the person below me i mean my god! what mistake did you make? (going out with a black boy?)come on whats the problem with that? if my parnets found out i was dating a black guy they wouldn't give a shit what his color was they'd give a shit that i was going with a guy in general maybe if your mom dosn't want you dating in generel then i would probley understand. as for your thongs just get new ones unless your not working in that case i'd sneak in her room and look every where untill i found them then take em and where them for god sakes there just underwear! sorry for being blunt but seriously your mom cant seriously think by you wearing thongs that your gonna go and fuck black guys all the time!!

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I was at my friends birthday party which was in an indoor swimming pool. I was wearing a Tiffany ring that my mom had gave me for my birthday last week. I forgot to take it off and when I got home I realized it was missing. What do I do if my mom asks me about it?

just tell your mom you put it somewhere in your room and you'll get it later. then go back to your friends house and try looking for it. if you still cant find it buy a another ring that looks like the old ring. or buy your mom a big present and beg for forgivness!!

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i was just wondering how old do u have to be to be able tolike get your own apartment? because i dont wanna live at home anymore and like could i go on welfare or something??

14/f

I think 16-18 not quite sure, so maybe you should move in with a friend or relative till you can get your own place.

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So basicly sense I was little ive been vergbaly and physicly abused.. and I really cant take it anymore I have gotten to the point i feel so low about myself I could crawl in a corner and hide for ever. I have reported my parents and so have other people but nothing has happend. What should I do now?

Someday something will happen and no one will be able to fix it. Im scared

You need to take control of your life and move out! i mean if its a seriouse as you say it is then you must protect your self from both emotional, and physical pain. Im sure your constanly unhappy with everything, and that not good. If you have any friends,relatives or anything then you should move in with them. if this is not possible then get your own place if your of age hopefully.

Best Wishes!
syireen

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okay well i have something really big to tell my parents and im not sure how to tell them. well i really want to tell them that i want to have a baby (16/f) everyone says i should but i really dont get along with my parents.. well its not that we dont get along its just that we arent that close. should i tell them now or should i wait till have a bf that i have been dating for a while because i am currently single. i know eitehr way they are going to flip but i dont want to screw things up. so how do i tell them and when?

I personally think your too young to have a baby right now,are you sure this is what you really want i mean really?... well if you are then i would suggest, if you know your parents are gonna freak out then maybe you should move out and live on your own, then you'll experience paying rent,bills, and all the other things that come with being a grown up. If you can handle that and you still want to have a baby, then start dating more and i guess have your baby. BUT! at the very least give your self another year or two and see if you still want a baby ok?

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