...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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I CANT GO TO ANOTHER WARD THAT EASILY FOR WHAT I WAS EXCOMMUNICATED FOR WAS BASICALLY IM LIVING WITH A GUY THAT IM NOT MARRIED TO AND YOU KNOW HOW THEY ARE ABOUT THAT I DO WANNA GET BACK BUT MY LIFE IS A MESS RIGHT NOW IM TRYING TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT WISH ME LUCK (link)
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No, I do not know what you are talking about, Ive never heard of someone being excommunicated from the LDS church. Did you not read what I wrote when I said, a knew stake? Go to a different building.
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hello i have written times and have received some good advice so i hope i get some again
here is the problem i wash everyday but i want to smell wonderful all the time i am an overweight person i use soap deodorant and some perfume but there are times i could smell better can anyone tell me some secrets to smelling good all the time this really bugs me especially in the warm weather i would like to smell shower fresh all the time i am working on the weight if anyone knows of any good products i would appreciate it thanks (link)
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Its this thing I like to call, deoderant :-)
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ok, 4-h is having a camp out of town. my grandma is afraid i'll get homesick. and she doesn't trust everybody. Life is such a drag! She says I can't go unless she is a chaperon. My friends get to go. I told her that they get to go. She says I'm the boss and you're gonna listen to what I say. (i live with her) My friends' dads are chaperones and one's mom is a chaperon. I told her that and she said I'll think about letting you go. I askedmyfriend what were the odds of my grandma(who is 63) of becoming a chaperon. She said 0 out of 10. What do I do? Please don't tell me to wait because i already have waited and asked her about every 5 days. She keeps saying I'll think about it. I know that means no. If you have the odds of her becoming a chaperon or even the chances of me going please tell me even if its stupid. Im desperate! If u nowhat i should do tell me that, too. thanks. :) (link)
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Have your grandma meat some of the chaperones that are going. Maybe she'll consider having you go. Be extra helpful around the house and be nice to her. Let her know that you are very responsible and you wont get homesick.
Hope you go to camp!
-shay
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hi im the same person that wrote u guys about how i hate my mother ok she is always complaining on how she gives up everything for me and she does stuff for me which is bull shit she she always is teling me im so ungratful and i hate it when she calls me a little bitch and she is always telling em, to shape up my shitty attitude which is not shitty help me (link)
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Your mom Im sure isnt saying any of that for no reason. Even though I agree that she shouldnt be calling you a bitch. Tell your dad.
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here's the story. im a lesbian, but my family has yet to find out. they have no idea and i want to tell them, but i cant. i know theyll still love me, but i know how much of a disappointment that will be for them(my parents). ive made them happy so many ways, and they said theyre proud to have me as their daughter. and they keep talking about when im going to be a mother some day, and how excited they are because they know theyll be grandparents one day, but thats where i know im going to disappoint them. because theyre not going to get to see their grandchildren.. because.. there wont be any. i REALLY dont want to disappoint them, but i know i will once they find out that the family line ends with me (since i dont have brothers or sisters). so i dont know what to do, i dont want to force myself to be straight, but i dont want to let them down also. i really dont know what to do, ive cried over this situation so much because i can picture their disappointment once they find out. (link)
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Maybe you can adopt one, even though I am one to disaprove of "gays" and "lesbians". Not meaning I dont like you though, I just dont like it. Anyways, think it over for a wile. Adoptionion is always a good thing.
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My oldest daughter's biological father lives in a different country and we haven't spoken to each other since I was 19. I am now 30 years old. I let my daughter use my maiden name in her birth certificate but have indicated there who her real dad is. I've been married for 8 years now and my husband has been great to my oldest daughter. My dilema right now is should my husband legaly adopt my daughter so she could have his last name. My daughter sometimes says she is the only one in the family that has a different last name and that she doesn't look like her brother and sister. She already knows that her father is different from her brother and sister and I told her that it is not important that she uses a different name but what's important is how much her dad and her siblings loves her very much. I just wanted to get opinion if it would matter if she changes her last name or not. (link)
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You should ask her. My older brother and sister have the same problem, they have a different dad than I do. I know that my sister really doesnt like her last name and would prefer mine, but it all depends on the matter of opinion. Also ask your husband if he would be willing to adopt your daughter which Im sure he'll be okay with.
-shay :-)
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my parents got divorced a year ago and ever since my mom has always been trying to do stuff with me. My only free days of the week are wednesday and sunday..and now she wants to have dinner both those nights. I feel like everything I do with her is scheduled. What should I tell her to make it not feel like she had to make an effort to see me? (link)
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Is that a bad thing? If she does something with you she obviousley has the time. Dont think so much, just be thankful.
-shay :-)
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i am so confused. i have never met my father or any of his family. My mom has told me the story of how they met and has given me a picture, but that just isnt enough. i want to go to sacremento to find my family from his side. should i travel across the country alone? who should i tell? i dont know what to do. where do i belong? (link)
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Well you should first of all ask your mother for permission. Same with your fathers. You shouldnt travel alone though. Go with some family.
-shay :-)
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My brother william always seems disapointed in me. i really dont want him to be dissopinted in me, but i just dont know what to do :( im not really shure if anyone can help me, but i would really like it if someone would just say something about it (link)
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Well since I dont now why hes disapointed with you and cant really help you there. Be nicer to him or make better decisions.
-shay :-)
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ok here i sit a 14 year old teenager crying cause my mom just came in telling me how disapointed i made her and dispointed was only a nice term for how i made her feel cuase to her i am acting like my step sister (lazy) and she said now me and my mom are going to have the same relationship they have - none - i dont know what to do cause 1st of all i love my mom to death and dont wanna heart her and i want to have a relation ship with her 2nd its hard for me to grasp when i need to do something untill its to late today after dinner i washed my dish and walked away from the sink and my step dad starts washing then after i say i was going to go up stairs and then i realized that i should clean up the kitchen after dinner so i asked should i and my mom answerewd no iun the most bone chilling cold voice and then she came up stair and said all the stuff about my sister does anyone no how to get my to like me as a person again and not just cause i am her daughter (link)
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What? You want to know hoe to like yourself for who you are? Well I guess you could start by doing some activitys to boost your confidence and raise your self esteem level.
-shay :-)
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See grandma and me and mother got into a fight and they told me they decided to ship me off to school as they put it. I talked to mother about it and she also wants to send me to school but i dont wanna go I like homeschool even if it is loney having no friends and im scared if i got to school Ill get talked back beind my back and have no friends. what do i do? (link)
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You got to shape up. Act better around the house and seem more helpfull. Try to lower your voice tone and be as nice as you can be.
-shay :-)
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well i used to live with my step mom. she was very abusive in many ways (ie) telling me i was worthless, throwing things at me, forgeting about me all kinds of thing she once made me stand in a corner from sunrise to sunset for 6 days straight but im getting off topic...im now no longer living there i was able to move in with my father who i realized that i wanted to live with after i could see through all the brainwashing done by my mother.... now its been a few months since i last saw her let alone talk to her...yet after all of the pains she has caused me i keep trying to reachout and make contact with her. i called her to wish her a happy new year and merry christmas and she never called me back to even say hi. yet im still filled with a conpulsion to call her once more and try all over agian. each time i do this im thrown into a depression that is hard to get out of. should i keep trying to reach out or should i go about it another way. please help
lost in fl. (link)
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If youve noticed your mother doesnt respond to your calls maybe she doesnt want to talk to you. So this is your step mother right? If so there is no need to keep in contact. You and her have no blood relation. If this is your mother your talking about definetley try back a coupple more times.
-shay :-)
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I've convinced myself that just because the rest of my family smokes, doesn't mean I will. But most people I know say "you never know if you're going to end up smoking yet"
I always tell them "I promise you I'm not going to smoke" and they tell me I cant make a promise like that. Hardly anyone believes me. A few people do but that's not enough. I could start smoking anytime...so when is the right time that they will believe me? When I'm older? I'm still young, and if I'm not smoking now...I'm not a smoker, so why can't I just stay like I am.....NOT A SMOKER. I know a lot of people say that they're not going to smoke and some of them end up smoking, but I'm not one of those people. I counted how much money my family would waste altogether with the money they spend on cigarettes all combined....and thats like 50,000 a year!
That's messed up.
I'm not going to smoke because I already see the way my family struggles with it. It breaks my heart that they're controlled by a poisonous stick. What should I do? Do you think I'm going to smoke just because the rest of my family does? I'm not the kind of person who gives into peer pressure...and I've already turned an offer for a cigarette down.
I'm about to take all their cigarettes and flush them down the toilet...that's how scared I am for them, and it's going to waste a lot of their money, but that will just teach them a lesson. (even though most people say that a if you take their cigarettes away, it will just make them want to smoke more, well I'll make sure they dont) Should I? I'm so confused...and sorry for the length. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Believe it or not I know just how you feel. You dont have to listen to all of the negative people telling you that you dont know if you will start smoking or not. Who cares what they think. Listen and follow your goal. Oh and dont flush your family's ciggarettes they'll get real pissed and you'll get in trouble.
-shay :-)
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Okay, so I have this friend who is gay. And he really wants to tell his parents, they said they'd love him not matter what, but also, they don't approve of gays too much. I'm thinking of talking to them myself, but then he might get mad at me. So I really don't know what I should do, or what he should do actually. I told him to wait until he moves out to tell them, but he said he might feel guilty for doing that, letting them think that he was straight for 18 years or so.. then all of a sudden breaking the news. What should I do? Talk to his parents for him, or just leave it to him? And if I leave it up to him, can you give any advice for me to tell him? Thanks! (link)
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Well this is his decision and it is what he wants, but being homosexual isnt always a great thing. I know his parents wont approve, but theres nothing YOU can do, but HE can.
-shay :-)
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Here's the situation:
I am a Baptist. My in-laws and my husband are Methodists. My husband and I attend a Baptist church. Under most circumstances, I don't pay attention to denominational differences, because I think we're all going to the same place anyway.
The problem is that my in laws, especially my mother-in-law, have made it clear that they don't like the fact that we're going to the "wrong" church. Earlier we even suggested that they could come to church on Christmas Eve with us, and my mother-in-law burst into tears and ran out of the room.
Evidently, the fact that I am not a Methodist offends them deeply. I don't want to join a different church just to please them, though. Any thoughts on what to do that doesn't involve hurting everyone's feelings? (link)
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Okay if your in-laws cant seem to accept your religion dont go to their Cristmas Eve thing. That is a day you should enjoy yourself not sit in living tortur. Tell your husband that maybe you, him and your family (Your children if you have any) can go to a little dinner somewhere to anjoy your day before Christmas. Happy Holidays!
-shay :-)
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hey this isnt a question but i got a 160$ dress for 35$ great deal huh its so cute it is like a dark red at the top then it goes toa dark purple then to a black and it has black beads all ova it and the back part is an open back with these beads going straight across then it hangs down kinda hard to tell ya exactly
anyways its for the skol miltary ball and im goin wit my best friend kate
(no im not bi lez or anything) but i really wanna go wit nick or todd but ow ell
*******happy********
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WOW!!! Sounds like a nice dress!! Hope you have fun at the dance!!
-shay :-)
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yes im 13 and it means that life gives u hard times but people come along mostly your friends and they help u through it no matter how hard of a time and friendship can withsatnd anything (link)
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Ahh thank you. After I sent my response I read a few more times and sort of got the message. I grew to respect it more. You are great with poems!
-shay :-)
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ok my older sister is such an @$$ she makes things up and makes me bad
she makjes it look like she is the perfect one i mean i am not jelous but i need some combacks anything will do (link)
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Older sisters always want to make themselves look perfect in front of there little sisters and I should know. Do it all the time! Well you should try blackmale. If you know some grub thret to tellher friends. She'll be eat'n out of your hand!
-shay :-)
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My parents were divorced about 7 years ago. I am in my 30s. I feel like the holidays are a job because we have to go so many different places in one day, and worst of all, eat.
I wish I could rent out 2 adjacent ballrooms and have Christmas. It stresses me out. I have tried saying, ok, your house for Thanksgiving and your house for Christmas. This year I made Thanksgiving dinner, but my father forgot or just didn't bother to care. I did visit him the Friday after, which was fun. Mom and brother did come. Brother is also making the grand rounds with his family.
How could this be easier other than purposefully being out of town? (link)
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your holidays should not feel like a job at all. Holidays are a time to spend relaxing and staying out from work. If you feel like renting out ballrooms do what you feel like doing. You can visit with parents any time.
-shay :-)
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I am a 29 year old married woman with three kids. I just found out that I am pregnant and my husband and I have agreed that I would have an abortion because we couldn't afford to have another child. We are already struggling to raise our three kids. I am so confused and depressed right now. I am scheduled to have my abortion next week though. If I continue with this pregnancy that means I would have to stop working and money is really tight right now. We are actually living pay check to pay check right now. The other side of me wanted to continue having this child. And it really hurts me so that I have to do this. My family and his family would be so dissappointed if they learned I'm preganant and I doubt that they would be willing to help. If you were in my shoes, would you do the same thing? Am I wrong in doing this? (link)
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It doesnt matter how much money you have or dont have an abortion is a loss of a life. Its like a murder if you think about it!Do not abort your child it is wrong!
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