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Hiya, my names Claire. I'm 16 and I live in England. I live with my dad, my older brother and my younger sister. I have a pretty complicated family situation, so although yours may not be the same, I can probably replate to something of the confusion and hurt people with broken families feel.I'm a Christian, and I guess that is reflected in most of my responses to questions. Compared to some people, I've had a pretty good 16 years of life so far, not huge amounts to complain about. But there have been times when I've really needed to rely on God to pull me through and he's never EVER failed me. I trust his promises completely, and I depend on Christ with all my heart
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Well my brothers girlfriend is like, a total whore. And I'm not just saying that. I have a really strong hunch that she also likes my brothers best friend. (Whom I like, but that means nothing.) The other day, he was here, and she came over, even though my brother was sleeping. Then she went out to get ice cream with him, and didn't ask my brother to go. THEN, she asked him to visit her when she goes on vacation, and not my brother. I realize that this shouldn't be any of my business, but I find it ridiculous that he's still with her when she's already cheated on him once. Plus, my older brother who's 9 years older than me told me that he heard some stuff about her from some people that he didn't like too much, and he'd have to have a talk with the other brother. I know they must have had that talk by now, and I know that he looks up to him, but they still haven't broken up. Even if she is on vacation. Really, I just don't know what to do. I need help. I hate the girl and I don't want to kill her, so I need ways to:
1) Not kill her.
2) Get my brother to break up with her.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Ok first up, I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater." Everyone deserves another chance. No-one is perfect, and we all rely on forgiveness from friends and family at some point.
Anyways, in your situation, I see how hard it is for you to trust her... You obviously feel protective of your brother and don't want to see him get hurt. In any situation, communication seems to work best. I think there are a few options here...
1) Talk to your brothers friend. He might be completely shocked to hear you say that your brothers girlfriend might like him! He'll be loyal to your brother if they're mates, so will most likely do his best to stay out of her way. Alternatively, he might get all defensive and tell you to keep your nose out or something, in which case you could be more suspicious that somethings going on between them. In this case, I would say then go back to you older brother and tell him what you have found out.
2) Talk to your brother yourself. If both his siblings have talked to him about this, he might listen more. Just be calm with him, don't make any accusations, tell him exactly what you think, and that you realise you might not know the whole picture, but this is what it seems to you.
3) Talk to the girlfriend. Again, try not to get angry with her, although she will be angry with you. Just express your point of view and ask her for an explanation. Be aware that if you choose this option, your brother may well be angry with you when he finds out.
Whatever you choose to do, stay calm!
Hope one of these helps, God bless. xxx