hey im jess im 15 im from coventry/england im a good listener and so my friends have told me im good at giving advice im here to help anyone that is just looking for some advice,i love helping people out and i try and do so the best i can and i hope my advice will help those in need of some help i have msn if people want to add me and ask me things then thats fine all the best to everyone jessxx
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my sister is such a fucking bitch, shesthe same age as me and she always finds a way to critisize me. about everything. literally. after it haappened. it makes me want to strangle her to death. i picture myself tying her to a chair and beating the shit outta her. i cant live with her anymore. she calls me fat, ugly, gay(im not), she makes fun of me because i have ADD(which i dont) and because i got a D on my report card ONCE! in my 1st year of jr. high. i cant stand her, i can hardley live with her anymore. help. 13 f (link)
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well have you spoke 2 anyone about how your feeling and how the way your sis is behaving is making you hate her, its not easy and trust me i no my sis is a few years older than me and she picks on me aswell but one thing you must rememba is DONT CHANGE YOURSELF FOR HER i mean the things she is picking on you about dont change them not for her and not for anyone okay if your gonna change you do it for yourself and to make you feel better not to make your sis or anyone else feel better cause she will find something else to bully you about and it will just get worse okay one thing you could do is talk to your sis not in a nasty way and i no you will probley want to cause of the way she has treated you but you have to be grown up about this ask her if she has a problem with you and ask her why she treats you so badly tell her how you feel and how she is making you feel maybe she is suffering from something and is just taking it out on you perhaps she is being bullied herself and she probley doesnt want to be the only person hurting you say that most of the stuff she is saying isnt true so it shouldnt get to you, you no what you are and who you are and no1 not even your sis can tell you otherwise hope ive helped
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Ok...my cuzin like loves me a lot and i love her too but she's like really attached to me...i mean shes fun to be around but sometimes shes really annoying....i dont wanna say that to her but wut do i do!?!?!? (link)
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just be honist say to her you love spending time with her but sometimes it just gets to much say there are a few days when you would like to spend time on your own say it isnt her falt it just that if you see to much of eachother then your gonna get really anoyed with eachother and could end up arguing and not liking eachother just say you need your own space maybe a few days a week where you both do different things hope my advice helped
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Everything about my mom annoys me!! When she eats a popsicle stick it looks like she's making out with it, she doesn't wax he bikini and its GROSS, she's so un hip (but thats typical in moms), and she's just weird. How can I learn to live with my mom? I'm only 13 so i have to live with her still!!! (link)
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well your never going to like everything about her cause you both like different things your young like to be in fasion and probly dress abit like your friends and she probly just likes to be different dont keep reminding yourself of the things you dislike about her remember the things you love about her everybody mum is different and thats what we love about them would you prefere it if she was like you, i no i wouldnt it would drive me mad, she will dislike some things about you but she respects you for who you are and you should do the same for her
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ok heres the thing....
im getting adopted and my parents have alot of trust in me...........
well iwent to my friends house and then i was goin with her brother and i did somethings(for the first time)
an now i think i might be pregnant!!!!
i dont want them to find out if i am but of course im gonna get fatter (if i am)
and u kno they will notice.
please help me asap????
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hey lets just calm down for a minute yeh just ask youself these questions
1,did you use protection?
2,have you been sick or been very nervious lately?
3,have you mised a period?
4,do you think telling your parents will help?
if you answerd yes to 2 or more question then there is a big chance your pregnant but just think if you didnt use protection then you could have something more then a baby im sure you will be fine but you cant sit there a keep saying what if or am i FIND OUT go and get a pregnancy test and get checked out and do it soon cause if you are and its to late to tell your parants cause they have noticed then they will be very mad with something this serious you will need someone there with you so find out if you are and if so tell your parents straight away dont leave it till its to late
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in a month i have to live with my sister because i have no dad and my mom has 1 month left ...im only 14 and i just found out my sis smokes weed and shit wit her ex(father of her kids)....i found that out say last week...now today her kids (1+3) were in the car and she ran in the house because she stopped by for a lil quick visit and out my window i heard my nephew cryin so i ran out there and her car smelled of weed and i know her ex was in the car previously because ..well thats not important but it was horrible and i kno her ex is gettin her into all this shit bc she neva used to be like this til she met him i just wanna figure out a way to like get him away from her like have some of my friends as old as him to kick his ass or sumthin..........plz help me figure out a way to get him out of the picture i cant have my neice and nephew go through this... (link)
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right dont do what some people are teling you to do saying you cant do anything you have to let her realize the truth on her own thats stupid and it could end up killing her kids you cant wait there is no time these kids need to be loved and protected there in a horrible situation and you need to put a stop to this explain to your sis what this is doing to her kids and this isnt the way she should be bringing them up she needs to understand that this so called father of her kids and lover of hers is setting a bad example and is killing her and her kids he is a bad father and she needs to get rid and turn him in she wont do it willinglee or alone so you need to be with her every step of the way she might feel alone without him but she has got a family thats there for her and two lovely kids that need to be looked after she needs to be there for them and to be a strong mum she doesnt need this worthless man she has her family she has you and she needs to understand that tell her your not going to let this go bc its wrong and its harming people and if she doesnt join with you and put a stop to this then you will have to end up calling social services its the best way if you ask me bc if there mum decides to stay with this man and to carry on treating her kids this way then she isnt a good mum she is worthless just like him and she doesnt deserve to be a mum to them kids
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My brother is 26 and is a major drug abuser? Does any one know oof any rehabs we can take him to (also counseling because he wants to kill hisself). We dont have any money and we are in the LA area of Calif.? (link)
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erm well i dont know any rehabs myself but maybe you could check it up on the internet type it in on www.google.com or something im sure there will abe alot of help on there and i dont think it will be alot of money either all i know about the drug rehabs is frank you know the little talk the frank cards you can get but i dont know if you have to pay or not so the best way to go about it would be on the net im sorry i couldnt be anymore help i will try and find something out for you if you like
all the best
xxjessxx
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i cant cope. My mom use to be an alcoholic my dad use to beat my mom my mom us when she was drunk adn now i love to get drunk because ut gets rid of my troubles and i dont know where to start. I looked afta my sis and mbro when i was 9 and now my moms clean and moved out of my dads house i dont know where start i love my drink but dont want to go the same way as my mom. I hold a chip on my shoulder but dont quite know to who and dont know wot to do about it. Please please help. Vicki x (link)
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i think youve been very brave so far and your good enough to want to do something about it and im glad of this because its something to say youve got a problem but its another thing to do something about it so well done and well done to your mum aswell for coming clean anyways i think the best way for you if you dont want to go down the same path as your mum is to speak to your mum about it she's been there and she can help you stop or cut down on your drinking maybe you could get some counciling because alot of people drink or take drugs because they are hiding and running away from there problems so counciling is a good way to deal with these problems and not block them out you see if you face your problems then you wont feel the need to drink anymore because you will have nothing to run away from hope ive been some help
xxxjessxxx p.s you can always come to me and talk if you feel the need to
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My name is Jack and I'm 22. Sorry if this is long but I really need the help. I recently found out that I have a 15 year old half sister named sarah. I've been searching for her for a long time and I finally found her. Well when I first saw her I noticed that she had scars on her arms that I think were from cutting herself. The more I talked to her the more I noticed something was wrong. At first she wasn't saying much I figured that was normal I mean she had never met me before and she had just found out that I was her half brother. I've been seeing her everyday for about 2 weeks now and she still seems really nervous like she's almost afriad to get to know me. I've also been trying to meet my father but evertime I go to see him she comes to the door and says he's not home even though his car is there. I asked to meet her mom and she said that she wasn't home either. This goes everynight. Well this afternoon I stopped by without calling first so sarah didn't know I was coming I wanted to surprise her. I heard yelling so I tried to see what was going on but the door was locked. I stood there for 5 minutes before my sarah came to the door. She looked like she was limping and seemed to be in pain. She said that she was going to a friends house so she couldn't go with me today. I asked about her parents again and again they weren't home. Well after she left I went in the house I saw that my father was drunk and her mother was too. I think they could be abusing but I just don't understand why she would hide it. I'm really worried about her. She's a really nice kid and I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to form a relationship with my sister and I don't want to ruin that. Getting to know my father isn't that important to me right now because I've found something better. What should I do to make sure that suspicions are correct? and don't say talk to her because she won't tell me. Also if she is being abused would it be a good idea to turn her parents in even if she doesn't want me to? I'm thinking about asking her to come live with me but I don't know much about 15 year old girls. Would having her move in with me be a good idear or are there other options that will be better for her?
Thank you in advance
Jack (link)
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i say follow your instincts and let her move in with you youve got nothink to loose in fact your gaining a little sister and dont worry if you have problems with bonding with her there are some bonding classes you and your sister can go to im not saying that she is or isnt being abbused because i dont know her i dont know whats been going on and your dont really either so remember to be sure on what you think before you do anything that could turn out to be nothing but im not saying just leave it you need to find out whats been going on becuase if she is being abbused then it needs to be stopped dont go asking her all questions straight off your a stranger to her she hardly knows you she needs to be able to trust you before she says anything so dont put any presure on her she is only young and is probly scared of being on her own so you need to ensure her that she isnt alone and your always there if she wants to talk say you will do your best to help her and if her parents are abbusing her then you can end it but all she needs to do is speak up hope ive helped and if you want to ask me any questions then go ahead and i hope everything works out
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my dad broke my coller bone da ova day but he says it was an accident which it was. but now when we have an argument he will say he break something else of mine but i dont know if hes joking cause he looks seriouse ive told my mom and she says hes just joking but she ent der when he says it because he dont say it round her. what should i do is he joking or what can any one help. (link)
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hes broke your coller bone once he can hurt you again if he was messing around or not and if it was an accident you need to tell someone for this accident never to happen again your dad should have never done something that serious to you in the first place what caused this so called accident to happen and you need to be sure that it was an accident hes been thretening you with nasty coments about what he did so it seems like he is prowd of what he done and he isnt sorry at all and if he says he will break something else of yours then hes probly right he probly will so to stop this from happening you need to confind in someone else not just your mum perhaps other family members and only be around your dad when there is someone there
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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me (link)
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you dont have to think of anything great to say i mean just be there for her you dont even have to give her advice just support her and comfort her she has lost someone close to her she needs all the support she can get at this moment just tel her your there to listen if she ever needs to talk and your there if she ever needs a shoulder to cry on
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my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be. (link)
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no there is nothing wrong with it, with some people it just doesnt hit them till later on that there never coming back people deal with death differently and some people just dont take it in they think it hasnt happend and when they finaly realize it has happend then then get upset my dad died when i was 5 and i didnt really understand, but now i do and ive grown up abit somtimes its hard and i do have a little cry like when i see things that just trigers it all off but its good to have a cry and to get out all what your feeling maybe you should go to rd4u its a group where you can go to and talk to someone about the loss of your dad u dont have to but its a choice i suggest u make
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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.
I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.
When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.
Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.
After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.
My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.
My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.
Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.
So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?
[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]
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i no this must be hard 4 you to see this happening to your sister and it looks like your the only person to care about what is happening to her have you tryed talking to your sister about how you feel perhaps she is hanging around with the wrong people or maybe she just wants to grow up to fast ensure her that she has got her whole life to grow up and there is no rush about it she must do things at her own time and her own accord only when she is ready to, tell her she doesnt have to be forced into anything she doesnt wana do and your there for her if she needs anyone to talk 2 ask her if there is anything wrong and is she being hurt by anything let her no she isnt alone and you will always be there for her there must be alot of strange things going on in her head so dont be nasty about it
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