hi..my name is dana!....i heard about this site from a friend!...i love to give advise so i decided to get a profile!..i hope to give some great advice..and i probaly hav gone through some of the same things tht ya'll hav so i hope that my advice helps...
**DaNa**
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Location: houston texas
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Age: 14
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Ok, last night I went over to my neighbor's house for a birthday party. I ended up getting shit faced and came home at 9:30. I've already messed up and have been recently arrested with possesion of Marijuana and I had court on wednesday for that reason. Well... I came home, and my step-dad told me I was drunk. I refused to admit that I was intoxicated and my mom just told me to go in my room in sleep it off. For some reason which I don't know, I refused and started getting violent. I started hitting him in the face and my mom just kept saying stop it. They went outside and my step-dad went over to the place to see if they were the one's that supplied me with alcohol. I guess I came outside and jumped on his back and started clawing him because he had gone over there, in front of my neighbor. He threw me on the ground in my house and told me to sleep it off... Now I'm never the violent type and I would never want to physically hurt my step-dad, but I totally fucked up and I don't even remember doing any of those things. I feel like the worst person and daughter on the earth and I don't know what to do about it. I am so sorry for what I had done and now I don't think my neighbor's will ever talk to me because they think I'm a complete phsycho. On top of that... I told my boyfriend, who I love most in the entire world, that I was doing community service hours that night. Now I'm afraid my neighbor is going to tell him what happened last night. I've fucked up royally with my boyfriend before and I'm on my last chance. If he finds out, I'll never see him again. I can't lose him, and I don't know what to do because I'm pretty sure they will tell him. Please help me out, I am so ashamed of myself and I need someone to tell me how I can fix things.
Brandi (link)
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hey!..ok..i agree..you seem to have a little bit of a temper problem!..but this problem can be fixed very easily..or hard!..now you need to talk to your mom and your step-dad at seperate time!..talk to your mom frist and let her kno that you are going to talk to your step-dad,then tell her that you are sorry for the sihap and you promise taht it will never happen again!..make sure to tell her that you love her and that you will quit everything!...((smoking marijuana and drinking, etc.)).when you talk to your step-dad..make sure that you tell him how sorry you are..and that you never meant for that to happen!..tell him that you are very sorry and tell him also that you are quitting everything... make sure and let both of them know that you love them very much, and thatyou wil do anything it takes to gain their trust bak!...
noe for your boyfirend..if he ask you abot it..tell him everything that happened..and include that you didn't kno why any og=f that happened!..tell him that you are quitting anything that could cause you to have temper tantrums and that your so sorry that they had to witness that!..tell him how much you love him,..and if he lvoes you he will really understand!..i hope that this is helpful!..
♥ danerox
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ALright. A fiew months ago I was sent into a mental hospital to get help for my depression. Now every time I get angry I am threatend by people saying I will go back. It really scares me because the hospital was so bad I am terified to go back. My parents are also threatening to send me into a hospital for an eating dissorder.. what should i do? (link)
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okay chickedee
lookie here.....in order for all this nonsince to stop.....you have to get a hold of your self...and give yourself a big confidence boost..........you need to learn that an eating disorder is not gonna help you solve any of your problems.......and your parents threatening you is just there way of showing you that they care........they really dont want you to go back ..........but they care about you and they want their baby doll to have the best......they think that by telling you that they are gaining control and that way you dont overreact........well your parents seem to care about you a lot especially for sending you to a mental hosp......it seems as thoug you dont see that they love you and just want you to be happy.....well im not exactly sure if my advice will help you any.....but if it doesnt i trust that you will make the right decission!! well i know that youll do hte right thing .........ttyl
**dAnA**
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I'm bi and I decided to tell my mom but now I really regret it because I think she thinks I am weird now. She acts really different around me. What should I do? (link)
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hello ..........look ...........it doesnt matter, if you think that your mom is treating you dif. then that isnt your falt...........you are who you are and if your mom cant except that then thats her problem......just continue being who you are and doing what you do...trust me you will survive...........i know that you do love your mom and trust her .............but if she cant except you than thats her problem......like i said continue being who you truley are and doing what you would usually do ............dont ever change your ways because of somebody else.
- DaNa-
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okay this is a big problem. My cousin Kim who is really important to me got married for the second time to this guy john. Well, before this my cousin and I were really close even though I live in Ny and she lives in Pa. we always wrote to each other and called each other and all that. I guess I should tell you that she has four kids, her two oldest are from her fist marriage and then the third child christopher is from this guy that she was dating before she married john and then she just had nicholas with john not too long ago. Anyway, I just found out that he has been beating on christopher and he has bruises all over him and he tells him to go to bed cause the boogey man is going to come get him and he is only 3. well my cousin's mom noticed the bruises and her husband went and talked to john about it and after that the kids stopped going over there to be babysat. Then I found out that john kicked my cousin down the stairs when she was pregnant with nicholas and he has hit her and thrown stuff at her. also they got in a car accident, my cousin, john, christopher and nicholas. and for some reason I think it was planned, cause john was driving. I don't know what to do. I am so worried about her and I have tried emailing her and writing her a letter and I haven't heard anything back yet. I can't call her cause I don't have her phone number and pretty much noone in my family does. I can't get a hold of her sister. I am so worried about her and all I think about is the next phone call I get will be saying she's dead or seriously injured because of him. HELP please. (link)
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okay.looks like you've got a serious problem on your hands!oki dokie ,so looks like youhave really gone througha lot trying to get to her ,well. first things first,do your parents know ,if they dont definatley tell them.
once your parents know (or already know)insist continuelly until you get the answer that you want ,demand that you go see your cousin and make sure that she is okay,or get a family member that lives close by your cousin to go and make sure that she and he kids are all okay...if that works and yet your cousin and her kids are still being abused,call the cops and tell your cousinto get a restraining order aginst John.......do the best you can to get a hold of your cousin..i know that you can do !
love:)&hearts
dana
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Is it the stupidest thing to want a baby when u had a miscarriage earlier on in the year, when earlier in your life u had bad things going on with your dad but knowing your mum would give you full support, having the bestest boy friend in the world u’ve been with him for a year and just wanting something to fill that hole in your heart you just want something more to love.. at the age of nearly 15..? (link)
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it is definatley not stupid!...you probably ust want someone to care for and to take care of, that is never wrong!...your fifteen and have a life but if you want someone to care for and to be in that life with you thats aokay!..(on the plus side if your mom is okay with it , go with what your heart tells you to do ,you'll make the right choice!)
love&hearts
dana
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I'm 17 and a senior and I have a serious problem with my dad. I have an older brother who doesn't live at home any more, but when he did, he wasn't exactly the best student. I remember every time interums or report cards would come out, I would hide up in my room listening to him crying as my dad screamed at him. I don't know everything that my dad did, because I never saw it, but I only remember my mom sticking up for him ONCE. He would always tell anyone who would listen what a loser my brother was and how he would never amount to anything. The first time I got a C in math was when I was in the 10th grade. My dad screamed at me and then told me to get out of his face because he didn't want to look at me anymore. He gets pissed off at little things, has thrown chairs across the room and has no clear desire whatsoever to control his anger. He has never hit my mom, little sister or me but he yells a lot and my mom hardly ever says anything to him. He's trying to force me to go to the college he wants me to go to by threatening not to give me any financial support. For a while, I was cutting myself because he made me feel so worthless, but I haven't done so in over two years because my mom walked in on me once. She doesn't believe me when I say I think I'm really depressed. My brother was diagnosed with chronic depression and my dad flipped when he found out because he doesn't believe in psychology, which is the field I want to go into. I really hate him and am sick of putting up with him and I don't know what to do. (link)
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first...you need to talk to your dad.....if you think that will cause problems,then i suggest you dont....what you need to do is tell him your worried about him...and ask if anything is wrong....take him to church confessions,ask him to try to confess his sins,while you are in the room....try to get a hold of a therapist, you and your mom talk about it,the therapist,and tell her you are worried about your dad and want him to go to a therapist for anger mangement...if that doesnt work write back...i know that you will do the right thing....you are a strong smart young woman...and you diserve the kind of life that teens are supposed to live...i know that everything will be alright!
love :)hearts,
dana
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sorry if this is long but i REALLY need help. my parents have been planning to get a divorce for the longest time.. but my mom is really scared of my dad thats why she never did.. but shes finally going through with it. however we seriously think my dad has pyschological problems.. hes been in a great depression after he lost his job, years ago. their selling the house and my dad isnt going to let my mom have a penny from it. he wants to win the house.. and hes said that he'll fight untill death untill he wins the house.. he said he doesnt care if my mom has 100 lawyers.. she still wont get any share of the house. my dad is trying to sell it and he has everything under HIS names..and he has another account that he doesnt use.. so can he really win the house??
hes hit my mom before and me and my siblings.. hes not letting my mom use the car so she has to ride a bike to work.. and he hid her passports and everything.. my mom got a lawyer.. but today they were arguing again and my mom had to call the police because my dad was threatening to kill her.. but he denied it and the police couldnt do anyhting. he also taps into the house phone and listens to everyones phone calls, which is an evasion of privacy because hes convinced that my mom has cheated. one night i had to sleep with my sister in my room, locked, with a knife underneath my bed. were all terrified and we know he is going to do something crazy.. because there is something pyschologically wrong with him..sooner or later hes just going to snap.. because NOONE is on his side and hes going to lose custody of us and everything so hes crazy.. we have to do something before it gets worse..my friends mom is telling us to get an order of protection and get him taken from the house.. but if we do that will only make things worse and he will probably try and kill my mom if he comes out.. PLEASE HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!
by the way i live in new york so the laws may be different. (link)
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dont be afraid whatever you do ....i can tell you are strong especially for even talking about it.....you wii do just fine in this situation i promise..you should definately go to some sort of authorit outside friens or family...the police or CPS....if you are to contact the police make sure they dont tell your dad until the day of the"trial"...tell the police you wish to contact CPS...whatever you do ...do not call the police or CPS from your house.... if your dad taps into the phone lines then you never know what might happen....go to a friends house one day SOON...talk to your mother before doing any of this though...tell your mother not to be intimidated...she should play cool.....if your dad does hit you or a sibling....immediatley contact someone of higher authority...you should try to get a restaining order or something of the matter for the men-time...be aware and warn your family (besides your dad) of what you plan to do...or what your plan is...you are very smart and strong...you will do the right thing..i promise you and your family will be safe...if you need any more advice you know where to find me ..I'll be here a'waiten'...later
:)hearts
lots of love
dana
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