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How do I gain my parents respect after I've messed up
Ok, last night I went over to my neighbor's house for a birthday party. I ended up getting shit faced and came home at 9:30. I've already messed up and have been recently arrested with possesion of Marijuana and I had court on wednesday for that reason. Well... I came home, and my step-dad told me I was drunk. I refused to admit that I was intoxicated and my mom just told me to go in my room in sleep it off. For some reason which I don't know, I refused and started getting violent. I started hitting him in the face and my mom just kept saying stop it. They went outside and my step-dad went over to the place to see if they were the one's that supplied me with alcohol. I guess I came outside and jumped on his back and started clawing him because he had gone over there, in front of my neighbor. He threw me on the ground in my house and told me to sleep it off... Now I'm never the violent type and I would never want to physically hurt my step-dad, but I totally fucked up and I don't even remember doing any of those things. I feel like the worst person and daughter on the earth and I don't know what to do about it. I am so sorry for what I had done and now I don't think my neighbor's will ever talk to me because they think I'm a complete phsycho. On top of that... I told my boyfriend, who I love most in the entire world, that I was doing community service hours that night. Now I'm afraid my neighbor is going to tell him what happened last night. I've fucked up royally with my boyfriend before and I'm on my last chance. If he finds out, I'll never see him again. I can't lose him, and I don't know what to do because I'm pretty sure they will tell him. Please help me out, I am so ashamed of myself and I need someone to tell me how I can fix things.
Brandi
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hey!..ok..i agree..you seem to have a little bit of a temper problem!..but this problem can be fixed very easily..or hard!..now you need to talk to your mom and your step-dad at seperate time!..talk to your mom frist and let her kno that you are going to talk to your step-dad,then tell her that you are sorry for the sihap and you promise taht it will never happen again!..make sure to tell her that you love her and that you will quit everything!...((smoking marijuana and drinking, etc.)).when you talk to your step-dad..make sure that you tell him how sorry you are..and that you never meant for that to happen!..tell him that you are very sorry and tell him also that you are quitting everything... make sure and let both of them know that you love them very much, and thatyou wil do anything it takes to gain their trust bak!...
noe for your boyfirend..if he ask you abot it..tell him everything that happened..and include that you didn't kno why any og=f that happened!..tell him that you are quitting anything that could cause you to have temper tantrums and that your so sorry that they had to witness that!..tell him how much you love him,..and if he lvoes you he will really understand!..i hope that this is helpful!..
♥ danerox
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Alright, you have a little issue going on there with your temper.
Here's what you can do.
Your family will always remain your family, even after what you did. You try to approach your step dad and talk to him in the most calm and soothing manner, make sure you're sincere.
And try to get along with everyone.
Then, you really should stop drinking or smoking MJz, at least for the time being, until you're sure enough that you can control yourself.
Drinking and smoking Mjs are usually enhancers for happy times, not a stimulant for temper outburst.
As for your bf, do that change for real this time around. If he loves you, he'll understand the phase you're going through.
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What has been done cannot be undone. You need to face the consequences with humility and accept responsibility to those you love and those you have hurt. I would say that a lot of apologies are in order, but it goes beyond that. You obviously are having a hard time controlling your behavior and temper. Drinking is never an excuse for violence. What are you trying to escape from? Drunkedness and drug use are primarily used to dull pain, and that is what you need to confront in yourself. You say that you are ashamed of your behavior, but are you ashamed enough to stop? Some people have to hit "rock-bottom" and it might be lower for you than this...do you want to continue down this path? Yes, you are jeopardizing your relationships, reputation, and freedom, but you are also putting your life at risk. Does that mean anything to you? I ask, because although losing things hurts, it will not be enough to stop your bad behavior if the hurt inside you is so painful that you still are willing to do anything to numb yourself from it. There is counseling and help available to those that seek it, but you have to really want to take control of your own life and own up to not only your mistakes, but the underlying reason that you are acting out.
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