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I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this??

It is great that you worry about your brother, but this is truly his concern. If he is gay, it is up to him to convey that news to your parents. As for your parents reactions, even if you could predict them, there is no way to change them. I sincerely hope your parents will be more accepting than you are assuming when your brother, if your suspections are true, confronts them.

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My parent's 25th anniversary is coming up. They are going on vacation and everything, but does anyone have any suggestions on what I could get them?

Cool, a well thought-out decent question for once. Buying presents for your parents is always rather difficult, especially because of the age gap. You should get them something they would both enjoy, or something you could enjoy as a family. An excellent idea would be a scrapbook. And it doesn't cost a lot of money either. Buy a plain scrapbook from a crafts store, and fill it with photos and quotes and other miscellaneous tidbits that apply to your parents. Parents love stuff like that. :-)

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My semi formal is the same night as my Dad's dinner for winning employee of the year. I didnt go to my semi formal last year and a boy that I really like might ask me to the semi.. What do you guys think I should do? ( They're at the same times too!!)

You sahould go to your father's dinner. He is your father, and will always be your father. He is more important than a high school boy. However, there are alternatives that you can take if you like this boy so much. You can explain to him that you can't go to the semi because fo your dad's dinner, but that you would like to see him on a date some time. Or, you could possibly even take him to your father's dinner! But either way, don't ditch your father. He won Employee of the Year, which is probably very hard to earn, and you should be there to support him in his achievement.

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Recently, i found my dad constantly going to chatrooms and talking to random ppl like he likes them better than my mom. every day he would be doing this but once my mom got home, he would close out of them. i dont know what to do. my brother knows about it too, but i dont know if i should tell my mom. please help....:(

If he is just chatting right now, it isn't exactly a threat to your parent's relationship. However, if it grows into something more, it can become very dangerous, and I highly suggest that you talk things over with your mother before that happens. It is always good to contain situations like this instead of ignoring them because they can escalate and become worse very quickly.

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my mom and dad separted and now i live with my mom and her boyfriend in missouri. my dad still lives in iowa and i want to go live with him but he doesn't have a permanent place to stay yet. and thats y my mom won't let me move with him. do u think that is fair?

Yes that is a very fair decision. The fact that your father does not currently have a permanent residence is a decisive factor if you want to move in with him. Have you ever been evicted? It's not pretty. Trust me. Wait until he gets settled and then talk things over with your mom.

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