15/f
to make everything short, my ex began courting me again and i said no. but being a human & having those "weaknesses" for the sweet stuff, i kept talking with him even though i knew i shouldn't. my mom ended up finding out that he was courting me and that i didn't tell her. i know it was wrong for me to keep talking to him because i made it seem like he still had a chance with him. well, the problem is that my mom told my dad, and my dad is crazy strict! i have no idea how to face him. any help? thanks!
i know this is hard for you, but your'll just have to talk to him about it. you say he's strict? well i rekon, if he loves you and trusts you enough then he should know that your'll do the right thing in the end. if you confront him, he might think that that's very brave and adult of you to do that... but maybe not. there's lots of possibilities for you, but don't wonder about the worst. you should definatly confront him with this.. and tell him you knew it was wrong and you wont do it again. i think this all depends on how well you get on with your dad even though he's strict.
you could maybe say to him, 'dad, could i talk to you for a second please?' and go from there... maybe he'll know what your wanting to talk about, who knows unless you try.
good luck - hope it ges well.Ox'
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So, I don't actually believe my Father hates me, but he's deffinetly not like he usto be. He says I've grown up to be a bitch, and all this stuff and he's always accusing me of things I didn't do. He's accused me of stolen beer, messing with the thermostat and missing packs of ciggerettes- when I have two other older brothers who smoke, and drink! I'm 14, I don't drink, I dont smoke, I don't steal I don't anything and my Dad always yells at me. When I ask him for political help for my homework like the war in Iraq, and Isreal and Arabs he yells at me for being soo stupid I don't know, well that's why I go to him! So he can shead some light on the situation and explain things to me. I dont know why he always yells at me. Last year he had a heart attack and hasnt quit anything that would help him- so yehh I usto be horrible with that yelling at him all the time, and just being horrible. ive stopped swearing at him, but he doesnt give me anything to work with. I want him to be there, but he doesn't wanna be. I cook dinner for him, and he always complains that its cold or something and I always say "Well it didnt stop you from eating it" or " If it was so unbareable you couldve heated it in the microwave it's why we have one!" So I know thats being rude, but come one I cook WAY better then my Mother he should be happy! I want him to be, I want him to stop yelling at me all the time, I want him to care about my school day and be there for me. But he's not. He never will be- It's not fair that my brothers do all this stuff and he doesnt do anyything but I forget to start the dish washer and he'll hold it over my head for like years... I am crying right now because it's so hard living here, and putting up with him. I dont know why he doesnt love me enough to quit smoking and I dont know why he doesn't want to walk me down the ile with I get marride. I cant explain why he's always angry with me! Never his sons because they could get arrested and he wont care. And you can say he expects more from me, or whatever. But I wont buy that. If he really truly cared he'd wanna be here and hed want to hear about my day and tell me he loves me but he hasn't. maybe in 3 months..
He hasnt told me he loved me, or that he appreciates me in anyway. And I cant talk to him about it because he wont listen..
I dont know what I did to make him be like this, but I wanna fix it. So he wont be like this.
I can't honestly give you the best advice but i saw your question and that you need help so i'll give you that. You can't blame yourself, it's not your fault at all. You just need to calm down and try thinking about it and mabe your'll come up with something else to try.. Mabe you should talk to your brothers..? Your mom..? or even talk to some of your friends at school or one of teh teachers you liek at school that are good with advice. the best thing is to talk to people about it and espessialy talk to your dad. There wont be a relationship unless you talk to him. I know he shouts but mabe your asking the wrong questions that are making him react in the way he does. I think you could try not to cook dinner all the time unless you ABSOLUTLY HAVE TO, becuase if he's always complaining then why doesn't he do it himself? [mabe you should ask him that when you next cook..?] You should probably ty and hang out with your friends more and see what they say and try be away form the house unless your doing homework, but you could ask your friends if you could go to one of their house's and do homework together..? I'm just trying to think of things that you could try and do and mabe it'll work. Mabe stay away from him sometimes.. mabe talk to hmi sometimes.. but don't be affraid. Confedence and Talking are key to a healthy relationship.
I hope i helped a little bit and Good Luck for teh future. Come talk to me if you have anymore problme reguarding this same subject. xXx
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ok. im 16 years old living with overprotected parents. im the type of teenager that does real good in school & never gets into any type of trouble. im the nicest girl you will ever meet. but when it comes to going out with friends & things like that im not allowed to. [im not interested in any guys at this point either.] i get everything i want, but that. i tried & tried talking to my parents about it but they never listen to me. all they do is ignore me or do whatever they can to do to not talk about it. i mean im not the type to go out & drink & do drugs. i have too much ahead of me to ruin that. but theres times where i think of running away & doing whatever i want. i just want to b happy like the rest of my friends. they take pictures & i see how much fun im missing out on. i mean its my life & i dont like having my parents telling my how to live it. sometimes i think of giving up but thats not me at all. not only that, it affects me in every way! the last place i would ever want to be is at home. i rather be at school where i dont have to fight or argue with the ones i love. basically i love my friends more than my parents. my question is what should i do with this situation of being overprotected? [help plz.]
I'm not sure that i'd eb an 'ok' person to answer your question but i saw it and was interested and conserned. i'm a pretty honest and down to earth straight forward type of person so hopefully i'd suit this question? :)
I see that you've already talked to your parents, but mabe you need to try again and mabe re-phrase what you say...
you should try something like.. 'mum, can i please go out with [whoever] on saturday?' and if she replys like.. 'aww no you can't, i'd rather you stayed here' then you should say 'but i'm missing out on all the fun with my friends.. it's not fair the way they can go out and i'm stuck here missing out on it all, i'm missing the fun in Teenager' something like that... it should work i guess but that's what i'd do.
You should definatly NOT get angry, depresed or stressed because that's probably the worst thing to do.. mabe you should ask your friends what you should do too? mabe they have a good way to talking to parents if they're always aloud out..
i'm not sure if i've given good advice here but i've told you what i'd do and i hope it works and Good Luck to you. xxxx
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ok boy boyfriend has a little sister , shes 6 ;
ok just now shes starting to sleep in her rom which is across from her brother [ boyfriend ] & she usualy sleeps with her mom and dad . But now sence she " says " she sleeps in her bed , she always gos to justins room and he lets her , he lets her stay up late and he holds her and everything . But i dont think he should keep doing it because he's going to mess her sleeping up for school and everything & he shouldnt baby her like he does because she's going to get use to it & how is she going to learn to sleep in her 0WN bed if she always crys and sleeps with justin ?
am i right or am i wrong ? beacuse he gets mad when i say he shouldnt do that .
thanks
I think the other person has a point, but i think you are right because at the end of the day, she can't always just cuddle into Justin, she has t learn how to sleep in her own bed. I'd probably get an adult involved.... unless you are one.. :S
But i hope it goes alright for you. x
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13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what?
Hi,
You haven't done anything wrong at all, i think u did the right thing but sometimes, the right thing is wrong. Now it was very ver very bad of your mum/mom to look into your diary because it is yours and you have the oNLY rights to look at it and to write in it, but you still should've just talked to your mom/mum but still, it was OKAY, don't get all worked up about it because if you do you could make your self ill.
Good Luck!!
Don't hesitate to ask me for any more advice.
Love Jess xxxxx
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