Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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Age: 14
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what can I say to my parents to convince them to let my boyfriend move in. He is a little older then me but sense they wont let me move out with him I really want him to move in here. I love him alot and I get really emotional at night when im not with him and me && him have talked about wanting to move in together.
So what are some things i can say to my parents to have them let him move in? (link)
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Hey. Well first of all you are to young to have a say in letting your boyfriend move in unless you are at least 18. But still, if you are still living in your parents house at 18 they have the say. Once you turn 18 you can move out but I would move somewhere really close to home. Also, even at 18 you are very young to be living with your boyfriend. I would wait until you marry or at least get engaged. Just remember to be responsible my friend :).
Chrissie
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um im 14/f
um i dont need like advice its like more of an opinion
*me and my mom dont really talk like we should i dont avoid her though i just dont like tell her things going on in my life its just always been like that i want her to be involved in my life more but how should i let my guard down ? (link)
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Hey. Well just try talking to your mom. She probably wishes you guys could talk more too so you can start out by asking questions. Try to keep the conversation going. I was told that asking a lot of questions can really help you start a conversation. I mean don't go crazy but I'm sure it will help. Then if she answers try to fit in what's going on in your life and just show her that you really want to talk more. I'm sure she'll understand :). I hope this helps and please give feedback.
Chrissie
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14/f/virginia
i am planning on running away from home. possibly to my dad's house. but are there like any laws that can stop me from doing so? like can i get put in juvy if i do run away and get caught? i cant take it in my house anymore. i just cant. i got to get out of here and soon. (link)
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Hey. Well running away is pretty serious buisness in which I would never reccomend. It will probably worry the people you live with to death and it could be dangerous. I wouldn't do it. Call your dad and tell him you want to live with him. Or talk to the people that you live with and tell them how you feel about what's going on. But don't hurt their feelings (unless they're treating you badly or cruely), but if they're not I would let it pass over and talk to them about it. I hope this helps and please give feedback.
Chrissie :)
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my brother has this thing that he has to be better than me in everything i do. for example we were in a arcade and they had that basketball game where u shoot the balls and i got a higher score than he did and he didnt show it but i knew that it bothered him that i beat him in basketball.. even hate home when we are playin like horse or something he gets mad when i keep gettin them in and he keeps missing also i have been hip hop dancing for 6 years and my bro always has to try and show off dance moves in front of me even tho he cant dance that good and he's like ha i bet you cant do that and i just play dumb and say no i cant do that.. i mean its soo annoying that he has to compete in everything i can do... what should i do i mean its so dumb for a 19 year old to compete with me and im only 14 its kinda pathetic
so what should i do about it??? (link)
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Hey. A LOT of people have a problem with competitiveness and I know, it's very annoying! It also makes you feel as if you have to compete back sometimes, right? Or just pretend that you're bad at something so you don't have to hear him act all upset, mad, or angry. Well I would talk to your mom or dad about it. Now they may feel bad because it's their son and may not make you feel any better because they love both of you so much and wouldn't talk about either of you to the other one. Obviously, right? But they may help out and have a talk with the both of you :). Another option is talking to your brother about it and telling him exactly how you feel. He will probably get really angry but if you don't do this it may never end. Next time you're about to play a game with him say no thanks because every time we play a game and I win you get all upset and I don't want that. He may continue to insist that you are going to play but it will lessen his desire to act all upset. I hope this helped even if only a little and please give me feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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Well, you see, I have a really messed up mom. She tries to make me and my sister hate my dad. They are divorced. And she is making are lives suck because she wants to make my dad mad. I think she smokes, but she supposedly quit like 2 years ago and shes been smoking behind our backs. And I have no idea what I should do. (link)
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Hey. It sounds like your mom is really angry and upset with your dad but your right, he is your dad. But I don't think your mom is messed up either she is really just hurting inside and this helps her cope. Talk to your mom about what she's doing and tell her that it upsets you when she talks about your dad that way just like if it was the other way around. Don't acuse her or act mad because that will just make her feel really bad so just talk. About the smoking. She is probably doing it behind your backs because she really cares about your opinions. I would also confront her about this but only if you have evidence. Just say mom I know you're smoking and it's really upsetting me and I love you so much so this is why I'm telling you. Smoking will make you sick. Try to get her some help and she may protest but it will be better for all of you in the long run :). I hope this helps even if only a little and please give some feedback.
Chrissie
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my dad told me i have to get a job before i can get my license and a car. but the problem is i dont want a job and here lately he has been takin me to look at cars. i always try to tell him i dont want a job and hes like well i guess you wont be driving. but i dont understand WHY he wants me to get one, hes always tellin me about how if i want to go to my dream college (texas), well ANY college, then i have to get a scholarship. how in the world does he expect me to get one if im always going to be working? i play softball so of course i would have to probably quit just so i would have time to do my school work. i mean i have explained this stuff to him and he doesnt get it! i get out of school at 212 and practice starts at 230, and i dont get home til about 5, and i barely have time to finish my homework now!! and the last thing i wanna do is give up softball, but i want to drive WITHOUT a job!! can someone give me ideas on how to convince him?? (link)
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Hey. Well first of all cars are really expensive so it would probably be hard to just get you a car. It would be a lot easier on your dad if you got a job. Also, you said you don't even like softball that much but you probably wouldn't have to quit anyway. Is softball practice on weekands to? If not work weekands. Try doing your homework at different times instead of times you're used to. If you want a car you have to learn to be responsible and getting a job and helping your father pay for the car wouldn't hurt. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but, it's true my friend :). Get the job and it will help you :). If you REALLY can't fit it in talk to your dad about it and tell him how hard it will be. Please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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ok well my dad isn't getting enough money here so he wants me and my brothers to come with him and my mom to saskatchewan and cheak out some greenhouses(thats were he works) and if he likes them we might move and if he doesn't like them then we don't move(yay) but if he does like them what do i do tell him i don't want to move and im not gonna or what
HELP PLZ!!!!! thanx
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Hey. I know moving is probably a really tough thing to do and that you really don't want to because it will make you sad. But, if your dad isn't getting enough money where he is now you could lose your house anyway (I know this sounds a little drastic but it's true) and then you would have to move! First of all, I would talk to your dad about how you feel though and at least you can feel like you tried. Heck, it may be a great new beginning for you and your family and you can always visit your old town :). But talk to your family about how you feel and maybe even you can research new jobs for your dad so you don't have to move :). It would show that you care and it may make a difference :). I hope this works out my friend and that my advice helped somewhat so please give feedback.
Chrissie
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Hey everyone. I'm back. With another problem concerning this Italy trip. Incase you dont know the story, my history teacher is taking a few students on a trip to italy possibly during spring break but my mom will NOT hear of it. When I asked her why she said because we would be leaving the country. Plus with the things going on with teachers now-a-days. She thinks my teacher is like..some pyschotic rapist. She doesn't even want to hear what I have to say. She doesnt even want to give it a CHANCE! It's just an automatic NO. I understand leaving the country and going near the middle east is probably not the best or smartest idea right now. But i dont see what the issue is. We'll be in Italy and Greece. I dont know what i can do to change her mind. I thought about talking to my teacher and seeing if he would be willing to meet with them sometime this week or next to talk with them about it. but that might make things worse. I dont want to aggravate my mom because then she'll say no and leave it there. but i want her to understand that i really want to do this. I just dont know what to do! ugh :( does anyone know of something i can do or say that will get her to listen to me? (link)
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Hey. Italy is really far away and I deffinitely don't blame your mother for saying no straight off the bat. I know this is exactly what you don't want to hear but please just listen. Your mother probably loves you so much and if anything happened to you she knows she would feel so much guilt. Even if she's acting strict this is the reason. Because she loves you. I know it would probably be really cool to go to Italy but (now this is going to sound really morbid), what if the plane crashed? What if you got lost, or if the teacher was a physco? Your mother would feel terrible and she probably feels bad you can't go but the worries take over and I don't blame her. Once again I know this probably isn't at all what you wanted to hear (I know I'm 14 lol) but I just want you to know that your mother is doing this because she cares.
P.S. If you want to try something that may have a 10% chance of working out try seeing if your mom or someone in your family can go with you. Then your mom would feel a lot better if she especially, could go. I'm sure your teacher wouldn't mind and if he did then that's not normal. It may be embarressing but don't be embarressed, the other kids would probably be thinking hey, why didn't I do that? And yes, she may still say no because that is A LOT of money for her ticket also but it's worth a try :-).
Please give me feedback and tell me how this works out my friend :-).
Chrissie
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