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hi so my mum saw some girls clothes in my room and thinks i have been wareing them (i have not worn them they are my gf's she left here) what do i do or say to my mum

Thanks People

That's halarious sweetie!
I can so picture this on some tv show :p

Just tell her the truth and that you were tempted but you like your own clothes just fine ;) (just kidding obviously)

x T ;p

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my cousin is a good girl who has a lot of friends, is popular in school and gets great grades. Shes hanging out with this one girl Jenni who is a complete slut (but shes ugly as hell) and is getting Jackie(my cousin) to talk to these older boys on myspace. Shes talking to this one kid whos 17, dropped out of Highschool, does drugs, sells drugs, and has sex. Apparently he came to her house once with pot and a condom and was talking to her outside, but no one knew it ever happend. Me and her are really really close and i am always trying to protect her but now shes growing up and doesnt want me to protect her. shes lying to me about ahnging out with boys, even when they are boys in her own grade who i dont mind her haning out with. I dont get why she is doing this stuff. I try to talk to her and she tells me she is not going to talk to him anymore, but then i find out from her friends taht she STILL is talking to him after she PROMISED she wouldnt anymore. It really concerns me. Especially this weekend, becaue today is the year annivarsay since since her dad killed himself.....
im worried that shes going to make the wrong decisions. what should i do?

this is a private matter that needs to be handles by you or a professional (dont get anyone involved who doesnt need to be). she might be pressured by her friend to be with that boy. but you need to get through to her that this is dangerous. that guy can go to jail and if the police catch him with her then she could actually go to jail to. you need a serious talk with her. how shes in danger and makeing poor decisions. dont talk to the boy by yourself it could be dangerous. you dont know what he'll do if he gets mad. (all the more for your cousin to get away from him)

~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~

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My parents always take their anger out on me.
My dad has been doing it for years, so I've gotten used to it.
Lately, my mom has become irritated with my dad,
and it seems like every day, she finds something to yell at ME about,
when I know she's really mad at my dad, not me.
She'll yell at me about the dumbest things like having too many files on the computer.
A few hours after she yells at me, she apologizes,
and asks if I accept her apology, which I don't,
because I think that's unacceptable that my parents can just take their anger out on me.

Do you think I should talk to my parents, or at least my mom about this?
I really think we need to go to family counseling.
Or should I just try to accept the fact that my parents get angry sometimes and need to do that occasionally?

talk to your mom first. then set your parents down for the big talk. tell them how you fell and that what their doing is wrong and they need to stop. family counseling is a good idea and the fact that you thought of it shows how mature you are and that your serious.

~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~

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This is a question for teenage girls. My daughter and I have always been very close. She's always been very open with me and willing to share things about school, friends, boys, etc. Now that she's 13, though, things have changed some. Sometimes I can tell she's upset about something, but when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't want to talk about it. I realize this is normal, that she wants some privacy and doesn't need her mom butting in on everything. But I also know it sometimes helps to talk about things instead of keeping them inside. I want her to know that I'm here for her and that she can tell me anything. Should I keep trying to get her to talk, or should I just leave her alone and hope she'll open up if she needs me?

your right she shouldnt keep things to herself but no offense but a mom isnt the best person to go to. counceling wouldnt help because its just telling her that you want that information even if it means getting a total stranger to get it out of you. be patient. encourage your daughter to go to her friends house. kids will tell their friends the secrets and whats troubling them more. DO NOT get too invasive. like go around her room searching for more info. thats the WORSE possible thing to do. if its troubling your daughter that much she'll crack on her own. just watch to see for any unfamiliar or even scary behavior.

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My boyfriend and I just bought a new home and we had a housewarming party over the weekend. We had a friend named john and a niehgbor we never met before hanging out touching, groping, problem is they are both married. His wife was at home with the kids, and he went to the neighbors house and slept with her. My boyfriend and I were stunned. He has been married for 10 years and his wife is sweet and pretty, neighbor girl 25, he is 38 and she is UGHHH! What do I do if I am talking to his wife in the future?? He is a dog and I am digusted. To tell or not to tell?? By the way he was pretty sober and never mentioned anything about marriage problems in the past. My man and he just went to vegas a few weeks ago and my man said he was well behaved.. what gives?? are men this disgusting after all?

well the truth is some men have that little somthing inside them that makes them want to do stupid things. just thankful you found a good one. i think you need to tell the wife. but do it privately. talk to the guy and the woman who cheated (seperately). you should tell how you feel about this whole thing. and yah sure the guy has been sober but who cares. if people just went around doing bad things and then acting sober that shouldnt replace what they did. sober just means their sorry but still needs to be punished. he wasnt sober when he was sleeping around! and that slut needs a big talk to. tell her that she messed up a relationship thats been good for 10 years. and dont be afraind to get harsh. their both adults they can take it

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my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and my cousin traci always bosses me around and she's 15 years old and if i don't do what she says she says she won't speak to me again what should i do?

well she is only 15 (thats 3 yrs younger than you). you shouldnt be intimadated by what she says. she wont actually not talk to you ever again. and if shes so bossy maybe some time off from hearing her being bossy is what you need. just do whatever you want and if she has a problem then she just needs to deal becaus its her own personal problem


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13/f

The whole school is going on a field trip to this lesiure place called Holiday Hill. I was planning on wearing my new bikini but my parents won't let me. I'm not going to be the odd-one-out wearing a 1pc or tankini. I was planning on wearing it or changing into it there but is there because of this, but how can I talk to my parents about this? What do I say?

i know how you feel. parents just tell you that their trying to protect but idk bout that. anyway go on the field trip and change there. then change back. they'll never know. you might not like lieing but if you dont want to be the only one then i sugest changing. but first ask your parents why they feel this way.

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SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!im 14 and when i was born my mom put me into a foster home(couldnt take care of me)(i have 9 blood brothers/sisters) and when i was 4 i was adopted and given to a great family.the problem is the adoption people said that they lost the photo album with my mom/grandma/and me in it.my foster mom had baby pictures of me but when i left she wouldnt give me any of them because she was mad that she couldnt keep me(leagal reasons).the youngest pict i have of myself is when i was 4 right before i was adopted(school pict) but i really want to see baby pict of me and also pict of my mom/grandma.for some reason my parents get mail from the adoption adency(its like a bill)and i was curious so i took one.i have the name of the agency(also a guy that i think might have helped with the adoption) and the adress but i tried to look it up on the internet and couldnt find anything.i dont live any where near the agency because i moved.i just really want my baby pict! you dont know how it feels not to know what your blood mom looked like or what you looked like when you where a baby.it hurts when i have school projests that requre me to bring in baby pict and im the only one without any!please help if you can!

well this is dealing with legal documents that were lost. and if that agency lost them then that shows there not organized. but it seems that you need an investigation plot. call the agencies and get all the facts. i dont know if you could sue them (you should talk to your foster parents about that) get the agency to give you the name and adress or any information on your real grandma and parents. if the agency doesnt have all the answers demand to speak to the manager. do whatever it takes to GET THOSE PICS BACK! hope u get them back Lovey =)

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my name is Rachel and iam 18 and i smoke and i get the ciggerates from my cousin but the thing is she didn't know that i got them from her until this morning and now she is pissed off at me becouse when i was 17 she let try smoking becouse i was curious and wanted to know what it was like but she made me promise to never do it again so i promised her i wouldn't do it again but now she won't even speak to me becouse she's mad becouse she thinks my mom'll find out that i started smoking at her house and won't let me come back anymore and she thinks i hate her but i don't .I don't know why i wanted to smoke i didn't know it would make my cousin this mad at me becouse we've never even had a fight before in my life becouse we used to be so close like sisters.I don't think she'll belive me if i tell her i'll quit becouse i told her i wouldn't do it again the last time and i lied to her and went behind her back how do i regain my trust and not make her mad at me anymore i hate when she's not speaking to me what should i do?


urgent!

well if your sooo close why isnt she talking to you. and smoking is never the answer. it causes lung didease etc. i think you should really sit her down and talk. drug counseling is good but kinda extreme plus yor parents would find out. well lieing was your second mistake and you should make it up to her. keep trying dont give up. call her, email her, or get her face-to-face. really this all sounds baby-ish and you should tell her. your younger but your willing to talk it out and explain. she on the other hand is like 'well ill just give her the silent treatment and shell learn her leason'. no thats not the answer and almost never solves the issues.

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