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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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I have to write a paper comparing and
contrasting my best friends. I thought it
would be a great oppurtunity to start with
a friendship quote. My problem is that one
of my best friends is a guy, and the other is
a girl. Most quotes are too girly to work
for both. Does anyone have any sites or
specific quotes that would be appropriate for
school and for my paper? Thanks!
it looks like a lto of people answered your questions but today i was looking for friendship quotes for a graduation gift i was making and i thought you might like a few (dunno if you read thes ones already):
Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.
A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are half-cracked.
“This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life.”
“Friends are God's way of apologizing to us for our families.”
Every single day I feel like I'm fighting with my mom. And it's starting to get really annoying and old. And usually I'm not the one that starts it... she is. For example, I try my hardest to get a good grade. I get an 80. Then I get yelled at for not trying my hardest even though it's my toughest class. She tells me I'm a failure and that I'm in trouble when I go to college. We fight about things like doing well in a sport. She tells me that i should have passed the ball when i shot it and stuff like that. She tells me clothes to wear and how to do my hair. I know being 14 fighting with parent is normal... but is there such thing as over fighting? I don't know what to do anymore and it's really bothering me and kinda depressing now...
Thats how my mom and i are and im 16 now. Things go from fine to worse and now even more worse since i have to start college apps soon. Your mom doesnt understand that being a student nowaday is a lot more stressful than back then where you didnt have all those SAT and SAT II requirements and schools were less rigid about who to accept and whatnot. You are not a failure and you wont be 'in trouble' when you get to college. A lot of people have issues in the beginning of college since they're still going from high school to college. Your mom needs to realize that she's demanding too much of you and that she should stop pressuring you so much. It's your choices and your decisions and she shouldnt believe that she has a say in EVERYTHING. other than the fact that shes your mom, there IS a boundary line between what she wants from you and what you can actually achieve. Talking to her might not help, but when she starts going on about what you should do and etc, try ignoring her or responding in short apathetic phrases that she cant argue against [like 'ok' 'fine']? Sometimes it'll just make her even more angry, but if you dont fight back she can't really go on. Theres the chinese proverb that two hands can make a clapping noise but one hand is silent (bad translation) but yeah. Just dont start screaming 'just shut up' like i do. It doesnt have a good effect; it might make her go quiet in shock, but what comes next is worse. dont be depressed because your mom is piling her expectations on you. It's your life and your decisions; dont let her try to make it her life too.
Hi
Im new to this, so i dont know my way "around" in here yet so im sorry if this is a dumb question. In answering my question you mentioned " the person below me is just Wrong" I saw no other response to my question. Do you remember what it said? Id really appreciate it if you could remember.
Thanks again
Distressed Daughter
Oh hi. Someone else posted before me about how no one would waste their time and even try to read your entire letter.. that's all i remember but there was something else. It was a really stupid 'answer' and didnt even answer your question. I'm assuming the person deleted his answer then.
My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.
The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).
I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.
My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.
My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully?
the simple answer would be to fight back. and it doesn't have to be physically either. Tactics and strategies come into play here. The saying 'safety in numbers' come to play in here. If your son and his friends make sure there are at least two people together at one time, it would be harder for the bully to pick on, right? Also, your son should try standing up to the bully and even though standing up might lead to worse results, it doesnt hurt to try right?
if my advice was really bad, here are some websites that might help:
http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/bullies.html
http://www.ncpamd.com/Bullies.htm
http://www.safechild.org/bullies.htm
these are just some... if you want to find more, you can go to google.com and type in 'dealing with bullies'.
hope i helped!
Well my brothers girlfriend is like, a total whore. And I'm not just saying that. I have a really strong hunch that she also likes my brothers best friend. (Whom I like, but that means nothing.) The other day, he was here, and she came over, even though my brother was sleeping. Then she went out to get ice cream with him, and didn't ask my brother to go. THEN, she asked him to visit her when she goes on vacation, and not my brother. I realize that this shouldn't be any of my business, but I find it ridiculous that he's still with her when she's already cheated on him once. Plus, my older brother who's 9 years older than me told me that he heard some stuff about her from some people that he didn't like too much, and he'd have to have a talk with the other brother. I know they must have had that talk by now, and I know that he looks up to him, but they still haven't broken up. Even if she is on vacation. Really, I just don't know what to do. I need help. I hate the girl and I don't want to kill her, so I need ways to:
1) Not kill her.
2) Get my brother to break up with her.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Uh... you definitely don't want to kill her. it's a capital offense (or whatever it was)... you should definitely talk to your brother about it. Since you ARE his sister and you're looking out for him, he might listen to you. so it'll definitely be a good idea to tell him.
also, since your other brother already talked to him, he should be more inclined to do something about it since you also realized shes not as great as she seems and it's more than one person now. If your brother doesnt listen, you and your other brother should use peer pressure! But then again, you can always be so rude and annoying that she'll break up with him to get away from you... but that ought to be a last resort or something. :) hope i helped, if not, feel free to message me!
Okay, tonight, my mom got really mad at me. Like REALLY mad. And it was all over this stupid box of macaroni that she asked me to make for dinner. I read the instructions wrong, and thought that you had to let the water boil for 10 minutes before putting in the macaraoni. So anyway, she flipped out on me. And started screaming. And she slapped me twice. And i really wanted to hit her, but i didn't, i just grabbed her wrist's really hard. So she flipped out on me contiunously, and after i made dinner, she went on to say "i dont even like this crap anyway" and didn't eat all of it.
This isn't the first time she's done stuff like this and i dont know how to deal with it. what do i do?
Did you try talking to her? Maybe it's just a huge misunderstanding between you too? That's how my mom is with me sometimes, though it hasn't been over cooking macaroni yet. If talking to her doesnt work, try not to fight with her. Just do what she wants and until she's pleased, then dont deal with her after that. The best way is to talk to her and let her know how you feel, unless thats her nature, then you somehow get your mom to a psychiatrist (however you spell it). the worst thing to do is to fight or yell back (as i've learned) because it only makes things worse. i hope i helped at least somewhat and if you still need help, feel free to message me.
I have a wonderful grandmother. She is the most kind, wise person I have ever met. She has 4 children, one of which is my father. Another one is named Tary. She is unemployed. She was married and had 3 kids (2 twins and a girl). Anyways, when her husband died, Tary had nowhere to live because she and her husband did nothing. So, my grandmother offered her to live with her. Not a good idea. They completely take advantage of her and I feel so sad for her. She's a pushover, and her back has been bad for years =(. I've told my cousins (Tary's children) how lucky they are to live in my grandmother's house, and they simply said, "It isn't her house. It's our house too." Tary doesn't pay my grandmother anything for food, bills, or gas.
My grandmother is slowly getting poorer. She lives in a bad neighborhood, so she sent the 3 kids of Tary to a private school. They all failed in it, though, so they have to go to public now. Also, Tary's twin boys' birthday was a week ago. One got a cell phone, and the other got an iPod, and they're both 13! They probably didn't even say thank you. =(
My dad and his other siblings have talked to my grandmother about it and she denies it all. If I bring it up, she'll be upset. I just don't like seeing her go through this.
What do I do?
if your grandmother wont do anything about it, your father and his other siblings should, since it'll only do her good [as far as i can tell]. Have you tried talking to tary? If she isnt willing to listen, then your father and other aunts/uncles will have to do something about it. Even if your grandmother gets upset if you bring it up, you have to sooner or later. tell her its for her own good and that you guys are all worried about her.
OK My bro. is the same age i am 13. he seems to think boys are stronger than girls. But i showed him off. and beet him at like 15 different things. so my question is which do you think is stronger boys or girls.
this is a really debateable question. supposedly, guys are physically more stronger thang girls because of genes, though that's not always the case. It just depends on the guy/girl in the situation. Sometimes girls can be stronger, sometimes guys can be.
Okay, so everyone works now in days and i want to work so bad. im 16 years old and i dont want to be asking my parents for money no more. so i ask them if i can get a job but they keep on saying NO because im still young and still am in school. they dont want me to be behind on credits but i really want to work. what can i do so that they can change their minds about me working and getting my own money?
well first off, so many high schoolers have jobs. If you can assure your parents that if you work, your grades and stuff wont go down, maybe they'll think more about it. But you should point out the benefits of having a job. For example, you can buy things using the money YOU've earned, not your parents money [so they cant complain]. You can learn how to manage your money wisely and it will help when you go to college and beyeond. Just point out the good things about getting a job and make sure they know that your grades wont drop when you get a job :)
ok so my parents seem to be having a lot of problems lately. like i was reading one of my moms emails and she was talking about how she's in a marriage crisis and she feels like she's not being a good wife and stuff...my dad tries to kiss her and hug her and stuff my mom acts all defenseful! it makes me so mad cause my dad brings her flowers and everything randomly and she doesn't even act like she cares!! im freaking out cause i'm afraid they're going to get a divorece and i dont know if i can handle that.. can anyone please help me deal with this cause i can't think of anything else but this!!
You should sit down with your parents and have a talk; tell them that you're worried. Talk as a family and figure out what your problem is before trying to solve it. As parents, they have the responsiblity of taking care of their child and handling problems in the family. If all comes to worse, you should advise them to see a marriage counselor.
I don't know whats wrong with me, i get mad so quickly but only when im with family or the people im more comfortable with, it seems like my mom and dad are never happy with anything that i accomplish, i just want my dad to pay more attention to me, but he's always siding with his girlfriend on everything and it makes me feel like shes more important, i get mad sometimes and slam my hands down on somethin and have even broke a few things (not of great value) i just wanna know what i can do besides count to 10 cause i just get even more mad by the end of that.
Don't even count to ten; take a deep breath, dont' say anything and see if you can just go to your room [if it's ok at the situation or not] You could try holding in your anger until you're by yourself maybe in your room or something?
Try punching a pillow or something [be careful of the fluffy stuff thoguh] or ask your parents if they're willing to invest in a punching bag for you. Don't punch walls! My friend did it and it left a hole.. he didn't even mean to hit that hard.
Talk to your dad and explain to him that you just want him to pay attention to you. If you've already tried talking to him, and that doesn't work, try asking him to just hang out with you or something, just so you guys can get closer and he will actually listen to you.
I really hope i helped, if not, just send me a message or something ^^;
My mom just kicked me outa the house ... what am i suposed to do to get back?? or just do period??
How did you get on a computer? Anyway, that's irrevelant. Why did she kick you out? Did you guys have a fight or something...? Try talking to her and if she wont let you in, trying going to a friend's house or something until your mom calms down enough and lets you back in? Or you can do the desperate thing and try to break in... I wouldn't advise that though.
i just got back from california and i saw my whole family on my dads side which is alot . including my bro. who i am in love w/ now thats all i think about . i mean he is so cute and perfect. is this normal ???
love
Uh... Falling in love with siblings is rare... but not unlikely... and it's not really normal. Sorry.
Well I'm 16 and female.
Well I know that it is somewhat expected that siblings will be jealous of each other but how long is it supposed to last? I have a sister who is slightly less than 2 years younger than me and I have been jealous of her ever since she could walk. She is always the pretty one, the athletic one, the funny one, the outgoing one. She even got a boyfriend before I did. My sister and I are basically complete opposites and we don't get along. I've always thought she was perfect and I was nothing. She always gets asked to dance at school dances while I sit in the corner and cry. Maybe I'm just a bit too emotional. My mom says that in many ways I'm better than my lil sister but I don't believe it. Is there any way for me to stop being jealous of my sister?
wow. you and i seem to be going through the same thing. That's how I am with my younger sister [though not that much]. I wouldn't be surprised if your sister was jealous of you for some traits you have. It's like the term "The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill". You see all her good traits, but you dont see your own. I find that even though my sister does seem better than me in almost everything, there are still some things that I'm better at than my sister. I think your mom is right, there are many ways in that you are better than your sister. You just need to open your eyes, stop comparing yourself to your sister, and find the good qualities within you. They can be anything from being more kind, being more understanding,e tc. Think about it a little and I'm sure you'll find some great things about yourself :)
My gramma passed away a week ago. As a grandkid, i recieve 2000 dollars. I hafta put most of it in the bank, cus my parents are making me. The rest of it, which is probly about 300 dollars, in mine to have. Any ideas on how to spend it? Im a girl, but it doesnt make a difference cus i dont like makeup and brand name clothes and stuff. Any ideas are helpful
sorry about your grandmother :(
Hmm... if i were you, i'd save it and use some of it for christmas gifts :P but other than that... you can pretty much buy whatever you like.. or think you need.. books, cds, you can donate some to charity... there are a lot of ways you can spend your money, some wise and some not. You should save up though and get something special for yourself like a laptop or portable dvd player XD something you can treat yourself to that you normally wouldnt be able to.
Ok well see I am a 13/f and my dad like hits me all the time with like eather a wooden stick or his hands or whatever he has in reach and it usually leaves bruises.....and like he always tells me when he does it that I could never call the police and get him in trouble because he will just say that it's his way of "punishing me". And like I always ask him why doesnt he just ground me or something else and he always says that he thinks this will work better.....but I really don't think it does. What should I doo?? Is this considered abuse or not??
thanxxx
Yes. I would say that's physical abuse. definitely. You should tell your mom [if she doesnt know about it] or someone you trust, or even a school counselor. Things might get hectic from then, but it's for the best. Your dad says "it's his way of punishing you" but his way is wrong. There are better ways to punish people then by beating them. Beating people doesn't work better, it scars them and causes emotional damage. Tell someone and tell them soon.
My brother just broke up with his gf of almost a year and isn't sure if they'll get back together. For a while people (my mom and dad, family friend) have asked if he likes my friend Nicole because whenever she's over they joke around a lot and he teases her. I've talked to her about this and she has said she doesn't like him like that...it would be weird because he's my brother. He says he doesn't want to date her but he likes her and is attracted to her. This really upsets me because she's my BEST friend. He thinks I'm being immature and that Nicole really does like him. Help!
Your brother says he doesnt want to date Nicole, yet he says he likes her and is attracted to her? Doesn't that contradict just a 'little' bit?
As a sibling and friend, you should talk to someone about it [parents probably]. Make sure they know that he's interested in Nicole and tell them how you feel about the issue. See if they can talk to your brother for you, though talking to him yourself is a better idea. You should let your brother know how you feel. He has no right to think you're being 'immature' for caring about your friend. If he still doesn't get the fact that Nicole doesn't like him, have Nicole talk to him and tell him that she just wants to be friends [or whatever she wnats to be with him].
13/f OK my dad can be so moody somtimes. Like a moment he'll be happy and fun and stuff and the next if I do somthing wrong he'll be all mad. When it comes to boys its really bad. I live right next to these boys who im friends with and somtimes he'll be like ok go ahead outside with them and then another time he'll be like tell them no I dont like you out there with no boys and I hate because I don't get him. And I can't talk with him because I know I can't talk to him about everything and I dont like writing him letters. How can I get him to trust me with boys because it's not like I do anything with them. So please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wow, either your father is really over-protective or he's just paranoid o__O or both, which can be a bad thing. Try to show that you and the boys don't do anything 'stupid'. You might not be comfortable talking to him, but that's pretty much the only answer. Sit down with him and talk to him calmly that you think he is over reacting to your relationship with the guys, then explain that you guys have done nothing wrong and if he wants proof, invite him to hang out with you guys. It may be awkward, but if it's the only way to prove your point, then you might as well do it. Good luck with your dad =]
ok i dont know how to word this but i will give an example like today i got some headphones from around the house to see which would have the music come out the loudest from my ipod and like i took these pair of headphones from our family room and my dad started yelling at me saying im not supposed to leave the room with the head phones when i didnt and and so he was like i thought i told u to put them back when he never did so i yelled back at him so he came like running over to me and like almost broke my finger and he said if i did it again he would beat the $h!t out of me and a couple of times he has hit me and i dont know what i should do cause my mom never believes me when i tell her this and when he hits me it never leaves any bruises and he says if he goes to jail for beating me at least he would have found the enjoyment in it
When my parents beat me, no matter how hard they hit, they never leave bruises...how strange. Seeing that i've had several experiences similar to yours, i can tell you that you should get help. My parents use to tell me that if I got them thrown in jail, they'll hunt me down after they get out and beat me even more... but don't listen to your dad. You should talk to a school counselor or something. GET HELP. Don't be like me and suffer by yourself for years. That's child abuse and if it continues, things can end up seriously wrong. So the main point of my reply is, dont keep it to yourself. get help. now.