I'm a first time mom and I feel so lost. I have no idea if and when my baby is hungry. :( and I feel like such a terrible mother.
My baby is 7 weeks old, and he will breastfeed for around 10 minutes. and then come off and latch back on. but once he latches back on he just cries and cries. so i feel like maybe hes still hungry but hes just not getting enough from me. If i give him his pacifier though he happily sucks it. but then i feel guilty thinking well maybe hes sucking it because hes hungry.
I just would like a straightforward answer as to how to know when my baby is hungry and how to know when hes full and just crying for the sake of crying.
because now whats happening is he'll cry and i'll check his diaper..and its fine. and then try to feed him and he will latch on.. i dont have to coax him. but once hes latched on he starts to scream.
PLEASE please please someone help me!
I used to freak out too... Whatever you do, dont stop breastfeeding because of this... Just feed him till he stops and sit him up and rub his back till he burps. No more then 15 minutes then offer him the breast again. If he takes it let him suck for as long as he wnts. If he doesnt then he is full.
Just relax. If you're freaking out so is he. He gets his emotional que from whatever he feels from you.
If he cries do all the checks. If you just fed him, burp him... then check his nappy (diaper) then check to see if anything is poking him in the wrong place...
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to babies...
I dont know if i have helped or just confused you more... But good luck!
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First things first, I would like no comments on my age, and no comments regarding whether or not I am ready to conceive because only I know whether I am, and I haven't come here to ask about my age.
Sorry if that sounds rude.
Basically, I have been trying to conceive with my partner for quite some time now.
A few facts regarding me and my health status:
Age - 19
Health - Perfect, never really suffer with sickness or colds etc
Menstrual Cycle - Perfect, always on time, medium flow for 5-7 days.
I cannot understand why I am unable to currently conceive, I do understand from various research that focusing on conceiving whilst having intercourse can affect the chances by quite a high amount, however although sometimes I do find I concentrate on that a little too much, most of the time I completely forget because I'm having to good an orgasm!
My partner is 22, and he also has very good health and is generally a very healthy person.
We have intercourse fairly often, sometimes we get so frustrated with not being able to conceive that we give up for a week or so, but we do normally try to ''baby dance'' on a regular basis, we don't do it every night, as I understand this can decrease fertility, and we don't normally skip loads of days, or ''save up sperm'' because that also decreases fertility.
What do you think the chances are that my partner or I cannot conceive? (Considering we are very healthy, and not exactly old).
The main question is, does anybody have any advice that may help us conceive? Thank you for taking the time to read.
Have sex every day on the 14th 15th and 16th day after your period started...
If it doesnt work after a couple months, or if you just wanna be sure about when you're ovulating, buy a test kit or 4 and test for when you're ovulating.
Try not to stress about getting pregnant. Its hard, but just think of it as something that will happen when its time to...
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i was just wondering how to whole breastfeeding works..like do they just suck on ur boob? i dont get it..
Ok, when you're pregnant your body has hormones that make the breasts ready for making milk. When the baby is born you put it to the breast and with careful manipulation get it to suck on the nipple(and as much of the surrounding area as possible so not to cause PAINFUL cracks) which causes the pre-milk substance Colostrem to be releases which is what the baby will drink till the actual milk comes in.
So yeah, basically, the baby just 'sucks on your boob'.
Its a wonderful bonding experience for mother and baby and i'd recommend it to ANYONE who is having a baby.
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You answered my question on to parent or adopt, thanks I had a few more questions over the past few weeks.
How can I finish high school and raise a kid?
Also I know how people treat me now at school with the rumors and drama and all does that settle down at all?
And should I let my teachers know, so maybe they can help me get my grades back up to where they should be?
If you dont know an answer thats fine just curious thanks:)
I wont lie, its not going to be easy. The people at your school will probably never stop teasing or harrassing you. But you need to be strong for your baby and hold your head up high. Yes, you got pregnant and thats something you may regret but it happened and you cant change it. Im not sure what services they have where you live but in some places they have specialised schools for people who are young with kids and they can take them with them to school. Telling your teachers might be a good idea. Maybe there are places that can help with schooling and they can refer you.
Maybe for some people adopting out their baby is the best option. You need to think hard about it though. If you give your baby up, you wont ever see it again. If that is something you can live with then maybe you should. Being a parent isnt easy. But having a child and not being a parent is something i couldnt imagine!!
Good luck!
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So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help.
I think you would regret giving your baby up. If your boyfriend is doing the right thing and money wont be an issue then i would say go for it. A child is a wonderful gift! I am a mother, and i fell pregnant at 17 and i wouldnt change anything!!
People say you have your whole life ahead of you to have kids... Well i say you have your whole life ahead of you to have a career and further your education. You're having a child RIGHT NOW. Its a magical time and people should be supporting you. I guess your parents would be shocked at having their 15 year old daughter pregnant but once they see their grandchild in the flesh their whole world will change and they'll love it like their own.
DO NOT let anyone force you to give up this child, because you will regret it!
As soon as you begin to accept and embrace your pregnancy you will start to feel better about it.
Good luck. Im also due in October with my second child.
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Ok so i'm pregnant with my first child..and I am 35 weeks pregnant.
My due date is March 12th..as the days get closer I get a little more panicked about the whole thing.
I want to do it the natural way..no epidural..but I'm starting to really freak out about the pain and the unexpected.
I guess what I'm looking for is not really an answer but more like comfort and support from people who have experienced this.
I'm also worried that I won't know when I'm going into labor..i kno everyone says I'll know.
I'm just panicking about everything...
I've had one child and am 5 weeks pregnant with my second, so i'll give you the best advice i can. I was induced, so im not sure if i could tell you about going into labour, because i gradually went into labour over a number of hours. The key is to relax about it. Labour and birthing hurts, there's no doubt about it... but you just need to remember that you're going to have a beautiful little baby at then end if it. Your own little miraculous creation. Us women were born to do this, pregnancy and birth. When my pain got intense i used the gas and it worked wonders for me and helped with breathing.
So keep focused on the goal... Your little baby... and you will have a reason to stay sane.
And the main thing now, is to relax for the last few weeks and just let it happen. If you're stressing then the baby could possibly come early or there could be complications.
Good luck!!
xoxo
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Okay im 17 and i love my boyfriend to death! We have talk about babies a few times and we both want one but our only problem is that we have no money so we dropped the subject, well atleast he did. I really want one but i dont know why. I thought it was just a faze but i been wanting one for awhile now! I love babies. Im going to college to be a midwife and ultrasound tech. Its a possibility that i may be pregnant now but i wont know til this weekend. I dont know how he will react if i was but if im not i may be real upset. I dont really like kids though lol well kids that im not use to. They all seem so bad but my lil brother is one of the baddest kids i know and i love him soo much! Maybe because he was raised around me so he listens to me. Hummm i think i would be a good mother and i know i would love my kid even as it grows cause i mean its mine. What do i do? Do i talk to him about having one? Or just keep praying that the subject pops up and he tells me that he's ready? Im young but i know i can do it. i dont know help? =]
I was in the same position as you when i was 17. I was desperate for a baby. So i had one. Things were fine for a while but i fell out of love with my boyfriend because he was never home, and lost alot of my friends and things like that. You really need to be sure this is what you want. I wouldnt trade my little girl for anything in the world but if i had waited another few years it may have been different.
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I have 3 children ages 6,2, and 4 weeks. This morning I was taking a nap with my newborn in his bassinet next to the bed. "Grandma" was supposed to be watching my 2 yr old daughter. I had woken suddenly hearing the baby cry, and realized the baby was not in his bassinet. I immediately knew something was wrong and called my daughters name and ran to where I heard the baby crying. My daughter had dropped her brother on a pile of laundry and ran to a corner when I called her name (she knows she isn't supposed to be anywhere near the baby without supervision). It turned out "Grandma" has fallen asleep watching TV, instead of watching my daughter. My daughter has picked up the baby by herself multiple times without out us even hearing, she does it very sneaky. She knows its wrong, but I can't seem to make her understand she can severely injure or even kill her baby brother. She has her own baby dolls we got her to play with, but she ignores them and wants to play with the real baby. Any advice please? This is very scary, it had me in a panic almost in tears.
One of the answers says that your daughter isnt old enough to understand... But i disagree. She is probably feeling jealousy towards the new baby. Or perhaps she just wants to play with him. You need to be firmer with your 2 year old, i think. She needs consequence and punishment.
I'd be seriously coming down on grandma. You're the one with the new baby, you're the one needing your sleep. Grandma should have been doing her job!!
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Okay...
Basically I'm 18 & have been in a 2 year relationship with my partner.
I DO NOT want any advice saying ''Your not old enough, Your not ready etc etc.''
Because in my eyes, your never ready to become a parent until it happens.
We have decided we would like a child, I'm coming on 19, and I have very supportive and some what well off parents who would be there for me in any situation.
What I am actually asking for is some advice and some signs of pregnancy, coming from someone who has experienced it.
I have joined up to a website that tells me basic dates that are best for falling pregnant, according to my menstrual period, however is there any particular things that may ''encourage'' pregnancy??
Sorry if this is too graphic but..
I had sexual intercourse with my partner on 25th/26th & 27th (today) December, and on the 25th I felt something almost instantly, and that feeling I have carried with me for the last 2 days, its like a heavy feeling in my stomach, and like a constant bloated feeling, is this my mind playing tricks because I'm so desperate for a baby?? Or is it a tell tale sign??
I don't think my chances of falling pregnant just at the minute are very high because I only stopped taking the pill 3 days ago, however I had forgotten to take it here and there beforehand, so the chances of me being completely protected are very little.
I haven't ever felt this heavy bloated feeling (along with the weird pains and noises) before ...
Can anyone help me and suggest things to encourage and recognise pregnancy?
Thank You!
Wowee you've been slaughtered... Good on you for making the decision to be a mum. Its a tough one, and i made it at 17. It was the best thing i ever did and i stick by it. I think that the best thing to do is to just live life normally. Dont stress about getting pregnant. Im currently trying for my second (at age 21) and im taking it as it comes. The more you stress the less likely you are to conceive. Your body wont think you're ready if its stressing about it.
Good luck..
xoxox
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I'm fifteen years old and I had some questions about parenting.
Now before anybody jumps to conclusions:
1) No I am not pregnant
2) I am not thinking about getting pregnant any time soon
I was just wondering, how do you know when you are ready for a baby? Me, personally, I can't wait to get married and start my family...but how do you know?
Mothers out there, I'd really like to hear from you. Did you all of a sudden just know you wanted to have a baby with your husband (or boyfriend, depending)?
And a stupid question, does it hurt? Pregnancy, I mean. I know that you must feel so great after finally having the baby since now there's this person that you've created and it's special and wonderful.
Did you have any worries? Any worrying during like the 8th month that you're just not sure? I'm worried that when I do get pregnant (when I'm ready of course) that at the last minute I'll feel too scared and wonder if I really will be a good parent.
And I know I'm only fifteen, but I really just wanted to know, and to hear from some of you. I am not going to run out and get pregnant just because I want a baby because obviously at fifteen I am nowhere near emotionally/physically ready to bring a child into the world. Just had some hypothetical/theoretical questions that's all. =]
Thanks.
I knew i was ready for a baby when i was 17. I dont know how or why, i just knew it. I got pregnant and then the morning sickness set in. I was tired all the time, and stressed too. I had so many tests cos doctors said i was wayy too stressed. My morning sickness went away then i got leg cramps. They stayed throughout the whole time. I had heartburn alot, which is cos the baby had lots of hair. I couldnt breath a whole heap during the last month or two cos of my size. I felt huge! I got stretch marks everywhere... I wasnt nervous coming up to the birth at all.. but gee it was painful!!! BUT........, the end result... OMG!! No one could imagine what it feels like to bring a miracle into the world... Nor could anyone explain... Its amazing.
My philosophy was: I didnt know how to raise a baby, but i knew how not to... Now my daughter is 3 and shes so damn smart!!! Im a very proud mum and i'd go through all that pain and uncomfortable months of pregancy to do it all again...
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Hello...
I have a teen daugter she is 13 and she goes to the mall all the time which I don't mind.But she always brings home clothes and says their her friends or something like that and I found 1 price tag in her room...she has a history of shoplifting but do you think shes at it again ?
Signed,
Questioned
I was doing the same things when i was that age and used the same excuse. I would almost guarantee that she is shoplifting. It is so hard to get out of, because it is extremely addictive. She needs to get caught. I have no idea how you can achieve this but once she gets caught it might snap her right out of it.
xoxoxo katie
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i got my preriod very late.. so my boyfriend think that i am pregnant. we went to the clinic for five times and i took five urine test. it all came out negative. i am really scared because my stomach is getting big than it was. after that clinic that i took five urine test, i went to a different clinic. when i took another test. it came out negative.
does this means that i am not pregnant? or the test is just messing up. i've been hearing that the urine test is not accurate and also the blood test. i dont know what to do. they wont let me have a ultra sound so i know if its in there or not.
can someone tell me.. if im pregnant or not. i am really scared and i dont want to have a baby.
Yeah i'd say you are 99% not pregnant. Because you are so worried about it your body could be tricking you into thinking you really are by making your stomach bigger. Blood tests are usually pretty accurate so if you haven't already had one i'd suggest you do.
If you are not using any protection then start using it. Condoms and the pill are a good idea. However nothing is 100% effective in birth control.
I hope i answered your question
xxoo katie
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For a project in health we have to research stuff with babies...and i can't find anything!
we need to look up stuff on a baby from birth-10 months
we have to do 3 charts on Parents Sleep before/after the baby
Diapers used monthly from 0-10 months
and 'parental free time'
it's soppossed to not make us have sex or something idk but i cant find info on that ANYWHERE
and i asked my mom and she was like "i dont remeber. too many diapers not enough sleep"
HELP! PLEASE!
Ok, well i'll tell you about experiences in the first 10 months of my daughter's life, but everyone is different so this isnt what everyone experiences..
She woke up twice a night for the first month then started sleeping right through, till about 6 months when she started teething and was waking 3 or 4 or 5 times a night. She got used to the pain at around12 months and started waking only once or twice. At 19 months she now has all her teeth and sleeps through the night again and its wonderful.
I call diapers nappies because i'm an aussie, but i didnt go through that many nappies. About 6 or 7 in 24 hour period. If they stink, change them. If they feel wet, change them.
Parental free time is wonderful. I love my daughter more than anything BUT going out with my friends once a month is fantastic.
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I am 17 years old i have a 2 month old daughter but i am married and have been for a year to the babys father. Well i have just come across a very serious problem. My husband and i have been sleeping together but we used protection but i think i might be pregnant again is that possible. I am very scared. I know if i am everyone is going to say i am a slut and im so worried but we both have jobs and stuff but i am scared of what our families will say what do i do.
If you are pregnant then you need to weigh up your options. You can have another baby and have two kids close together, or you can (if you believe in it) have an abortion. I dont think anyone will think you're a slut. I dont. You are married!! It is possible to get pregnant but if you are breastfeeding it isnt AS likely but still possible. No protection is 100% effective! Dont worry what your families think.. Seriously, its your choice what you do.
xoxo Katie
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