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Hey my name is missy :) Umm...ask me a question and I'll try my best to answer.
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I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.
After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.
After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.
Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.
Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.
What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.
I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?
Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please.
Well no offence, but it's not as big of a deal as you think. Most guys look at porn, it doesn't make him a bad person. It showed he really loves/likes you, HE TOLD HIS FREAKING PARENTS ABOUT IT!!!!That shows he was truly sorry. Sometimes when you start kissing your hormoines get all crazy and you want more. He knew he wouldn't be getting it from you and probably didnt want to ask you too. Kissing isn't that big of a deal either, just because you kiss doesn't mean your going against God in anyway. It's showing affection for your boyfriend, it's not like you were doing it to be dirty or show it off to other people. Talk to him, ask him why he looked at it. Forgive him, he wasn't trying to hurt you!! Yeah I know it hurts when you see that your boyfriend is looking at other woman naked and you get a little jelous too, but we all make mistakes. If you think he's worth all this trouble then forgive him and make him promise not to do it again. It's pretty normal for teenaged guys to do this. So don't worry, take a breather and talk to him!! Good Luck & I hope it works out!!!
i need a way to cope with stress i have no one to talk to know one gets me im emo and im 14 female and all alone i'm a cutter and i hate myself and it seems like im the only one thats like this because everyones so preppy help also i get depressed alot
I know how depression is, I'm there too. I just try to stay busy and do things to get my mind off of what's making me depressed. You could watch a movie or invite people your not good friends w/ over or go do things w/ them. I understand you taking your depression out on yourself, but you really shouldn't. What happens if you finally get over your depression and have scars on your arms reminding you of what you did to yourself. I've always thought what if I do get better and someone sees these scars and everyone starts rumors about me being a cutter and making me depressed again. Or what if you parents found out they'd make you go to a therapist or something. I'm not saying it's a bad idea but personally I wouldn't want to go to one. Sometimes when I get depressed I try to go to sleep or go walking w/ a cousin or friend. If you need anything my email is missmiss09@hotmail.com Don't hesitate.
My Best friend has had problems with an eating disorder and with cutting for some time now. She is in therapy and recieving treatment for both, however she still sometimes relapses and doesn't eat or cuts. Her boyfriend seems to think it is apropiate to say things to her when she doesnt eat like "If you don't eat tommorrow then I'm not going to either" Or if she ends up cutting he cuts himself. I think that he is making her feel worse when all she really needs is support... What should I do...Opinions? Advice?
I would suggest taking her boyfriend to the side and saying I think what your saying isnt helping. He seams like he's trying to help her stop, but I'd tell him it is working in reverse. Maybe suggest to him to talk to her and see why she's so unhappy, reassure her so she won't feel so insecure. Just be there for her when she is feeling down. You can also do the same, if you both are doing this maybe she'll stop. There's nothing much you can do, because she's already receiving help, but just be there for her. I'm sorry bout your friend, and good luck to you and her!
right ok ive got a weak bladder and wet the bed its really embarrasing and sometimes im scared to sleep at anyones house incase it happens i dont know what to do and i dont want to go to the doctors or anything cause its really embarrasing. please help
Well I would see a doctor, but I think they have these type of pads u can put in yur underwear for leaks for peeing the bed and probably have other stuff you could wear. Hope that helped.
I think i might have OCD
-Ive got a habit of washing my hands after everything or whenever touching something. Even when im by a sink i wash them.
-If a word comes into my head, i have to say it otherwise i panic, no word in particular just anything.
-I brush my hair every 5 minutes.
-I look in the mirror all the time
-If somethings out of place i have to move it back.
-I have to double check everything like make sure the doors are shut.
-When i touch something i have to touch it with my other hand aswell so its equal.
and so much more
what do you think?
You are either have some pet peaves, or you have a slight case of OCD. It's nothing you need to be treated with though. It's OCD if you have a habit of doing something and you freak out if you don't do and something inside of you is making you do this otherwise you feel all wrong and your going to break down. It's also OCD if your habits change from obsessing over one thing to the next. Well..hope that helped!!!!