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hello :)my name is amanda.
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im so depressed. and i want to cry but i hate people asking me whats wrong. i bottle it all up. and my brother is the reason. my brothers all reason for pretty much all my depression. its to the point to where it hurts everywhere. but i pretend to be happy and i just forget about it. and be happy. but it hurts. and my brother doesnt help at all. and i snap rubber bands on my wrist.
it hurts inside. but i cant tell anyone.
-Depressed
dear depressed,
please don't bottle up all of your feelings. it only makes it worse. and the thing is, you can cry if you want you. crying is good. it's ok to feel and be emotinal. you also have to talk to your brother. you have to tell him how you feel. or you have to tell your parents, a grandparent, a teacher at school, a friend, ANYBODY. you just need to vent and let these feelings out. don't feel like you can't tell anyone. because you can. you can tell anyone you want. try journaling to let it all out. or, you may even want to consider getting a counselor. they really can help with depression and help you work out your feelings in a healthy way.
ok, another thing. please don't hurt yourself. trust me, it's really not worth it. something like snapping rubber bands can lead to using erasers and then eventually cutting, which can get so bad so please don't ever ever do it. if you ever need any advice or anyone to talk to i will be here. i know how much depression hurts, but it can never get better unless you talk about it.
i hope everything works out =]
i cant see my best friend ever again. except school but were going to different schools next year... so never again and if she goes some where, i cant. we're in the same group of friends and i can never go with them. my mom always screams and yells at me on how much she hates her. all because she made my neighbor and my mom get in a fight over stupid shit, and she says shes disrespectful but shes not. the last time my mom saw here was like a month or two ago. my mom says so much bad stuff about her and she ends up thinking its totally worse or something thats not. i say anything about it and she yells at me then i end up pissed off and cryin for the rest of the day. well my friend is the only person to really understand me. we get along so good and she really did save my life. i used to cut and was in really bad depression and she helped me threw it. then my mom comes and screams at me and it gets worse. the only reason i feel like shit and got into depression and everything is because of my mom. i lost all my old friends they didnt understand me at all they would avoid me and im in so much trouble for that to. and how i act she blames my friend and she blames her for EVERYTHING i do which has nothing to even do with my friend. my mom blames her for me gettin depressed and likeing all the gothica stuff and style and so much that HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY FRIEND. my moms making me loose the only person i really care for and i live for and she helps me and i started loving life for a while till my mom said i was seein her to much then my life went straight down to hell. my friend is the ONLY person to understand me i love her. im crying my eyes out so bad right now even me and my mom got in the biggest fight because i saw her today and got so happy. i just feel dead i hate my life so much now but if i say anything about this to my mom or a counselor it will only get worse. i did tell my mom all this well yelled it and thats why im screamin and cryin so hard right now. i dont no what to do. im 14 female please help me its serious.
ok, well you have to sit down with your mother and you both have to calmly talk about this. there is no way you can ever get this resolved if all you guys do is yell at each other. you just have to sit her down and tell her "mom, i love this friend so much. she is the only one who understands me. i tell her everything. she holds all my trust. mom, i really need to see her again. i know that you don't like her, but right now what i need is my one true friend." besides that, you have to come clean and tell your mom about how you feel about *her*. you have to tell her about how you blame her for your depression and how she makes you feel horrible when she yells at you. if you can't say all this to your mom, you can tell your counselor and then she'll tell your mom. i hope that your mom realizes how much this means to you because it seems like this girl you're not allowed to see is a true friend. i really hope that you can fix things =]]]]
iam having trouble iam over weight but have managed to lose 40kgs but have about 30 kgs to go and just cant get my head around losing the rest i also have bulimia so can sombody please help me with a few words to try and get back on track and what does having bulima do to my body
other than psychological things, like low self-esteem, and a constant body-bashing cycle, it's also really, really harmful to your health. if you end up throwing up hard enough, your can tear your esophagus and you might end up having surgery. you may notice little black specks when you throw up. this is not food. it is actually really hurting your stomach and esophagus. and of course, you are basically not really eating. just because you eat something and immediately throw it back up, that doesn't mean that your body is getting the vitamins, nutrients, and calories that it needs. if you go from being bulimic to normal and back and forth multiple times, you can actually do some serious damage to your heart. by fluxuating from a healthy body weight, to a dangerous body weight, you are weakening your heart and you could actually end up having a heart attack. please stay healthy!! =]]
ok so im tired of being someone im not. im not a prepy joke. but id rather be myself. the EMO joke. who has prepy friends. and i just figured out im tireing to be something im not. but i dont know how to cross all the way. because my friends wont like it. and im scared of what my mom and my family will think. and what her friends will think.... and i just want my brother to leave me alone about it all...
just be yourself. don't try to be something you're not either. be the person you want to be. if your friends don't like you just because you rather be more emo than preppy, than they're not your real friends. and your family should love you no matter what!! just be yourself!!
good luck!!
tell me how it works out =]]
i need to know how to convince my mom to get me contacts early.
she said i could have them if i wore my glasses consecutively for a year, which is going to be in november. but i just hate glasses, and they limit me to what i can do. i cant join sports teams at school because of my glasses, and they just make me feel really self conscious and i hate them. so my question is, how do i convince her to let me get them before summer instead of in november? thanksss.
ok, so what I would do is just wait a while. i had glasses and i really wanted contacts, but the more i asked for them the more my parents said no. i think that you just have to wait awile and let everything cool off. you can maybe even so some research. then when you have some positive information about contacts, sit your mom down and tell her about it. just don't complain. calmly explain her why you want contacts so bad, the reasons why, like how you can't play sports and they make you feel self-conscious. she'll see how responsible you are, and (hopefully) let you get contacts early!!
Hope this helps ya =]