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Well, I have a serious problem! I keep slitting my wrists to relieve my distress and anger and stress and pain and to get away from life. And every time I do, I faint. I have a friend who cuts herself too and she always tells me not to cut myself and that it will get me nowhere in life. Can you please help me and her with that? By the way, I'm thirteen and she's fourteen.
Yes, that is a very serious problem. What I would do is: instead of putting all your distresss, anger, and pain into more pain (on your wrists), find another safe way to release all your frustrations. Whenever you feel the urge to cut, think about something that makes you happy. I know it may sound crazy, but there is something in everyones life that will make them/you smile. Think of the time when your friend helped you do something, when you ate lunch together, or when you listened to your favorite song. Smiling or finding something to accomplish will help you and your friend to stop cutting. Why? Because you will be focusing on that one moment when you were having fun and accomplished something.
Start by making a list of all the things you and your friend like to do together or want to do, such as: walking in the park, laughing at silly jokes, painting a t-shirt, going camping, having a party, jumping on your beds, giving eachother makeovers, watching the stars or traveling to Hawaii. Anything you have done or want to learn, you could put in a scrapbook. Try taking pictures with her and write on it "this is me and my friend on a boat", then paste your pictures onto a ship. Wherever you want to go, you can imagine yourselves there and put yourselves there.
As long as you have something positive to occupy your time, you won't even think about cutting. Imagine a dream, have a dream, then make it happen. You and your friend have so much good in you! And you can use that good to help yourselves along with others. Your friend is definately right you know; cutting will get you nowhere in life. So, support eachother and ignore what others say that might bring you down; you are much better than them! Remember to have fun with your friend, talk to someone you trust if you need to and you will both make it through this
Are you able to e-mail me at skittle4992yahoo.com? i need to talk to someone. I don't have very long, im not hungry though it is my lunch time. please?
Sorry I didn't reply yesterday. So hey, I tried e-mailing you, but it keeps saying "delivery status failure". I'm confused why it won't send to your address..?
I was molested by my dad when I was 3 by my dad and I dont know who to beiieve anymore becouse my dad's side of the family says that my mom's liying ad my mom says they are lying and I can't even ask my dad about it becouse he died when I was 12 and he probally wouldn't tell me the truth anyway. Iam still having nightmares about a little girl who was eating supper on a man's lap and the police coming and the cops arresting him and putting her in a different cop car and I wake up screaming every time I have that dream.
Hey,
I would think that your mom would tell you the truth. Your dad's side of the family could just be trying to save your dads reputation and dignity if he did do it. I know it is hard, but I think you should ask your mom what exactly happened. She should be able to get the facts out since she was the one who was married to him and had to deal with it, if it happened. Tell her about the dream. Mom's are suppose to be there to comfort you and support you. If you find out the truth about this, and understand that it was a mistake if he did.. your dreams should start going away
i think that i am fat and i weigh 109 i see all these skinney girls and the guys like them im 5'2 is my weght normal and i dont like to eat i actuly staopped eating luch and brekfast what should i do?im starving and i dont want to eat!!!!
please i need help
Hi,
It sounds as if you are developing an eating disorder... I could be wrong, but it kind of sounds this way. Know that, just because you are skinny doesn't mean you are unlikable. There are a ton of girls that have a normal weight and think they are really skinny and there are a ton of girls that are skinny and have friends/boyfriends. I personally am about 110 pounds and I am 5'4. Which is not much different than you. So NO, you are NOT fat.
When I read your question, one of the things that popped into my head was anorexia. People with anorexia think they are fat and they will do anything to try and prevent themselves from gaining weight, which includes: stopping eating, eating then puking the food up, and basically just starving yourself. There are many harmful things that can happen to you if you do not eat food. You will become sick, you will not be able to function properly, you will have drained energy, and you could possibly die. So YES, you must eat the proper amount of food for your age to sustain a healthy lifestyle.
If the reason why you are not eating is because you think guys don't like you or that you are fat... that is not true. There will always be a guy you haven't met that is waiting to meet you and be with you. You cannot rush having a boyfriend, for they will come when you are supposed to have them. When he does come, he will love you for who you are inside and out no matter what. You have to learn to love yourself before a guy can love you too.
What I would reccommend, since you said you do not like to eat, is a protein shake. One that I think would be good for you is called: 'Breakfast Anytime!' made by Nestle/Carnation. They do not cost too much and they come in a powder form or an already premixed drink in the grocery store. They also come in several different flavours such as: strawberry, chocolate, vanilla, and ice cappuccino so you won't get bored. I think if you drink one in the morning and one in the evening, this should help keep you in pretty good health even if you don't eat anything else. They will fill you up and give you the daily protein that you need to have energy and function well.
This said: food is always better than no food. Also, I am not a doctor and if you are feeling sick, are losing excessive amounts of weight, and stop eating altogether... you should see a doctor right away (even if you think you shouldn't). Try eating little snacks throughout the day instead of a full meal (veggies and dip, fruit, crackers and cheese, nuts, a granola bar, yogurt). This will be easier on your appetite and will keep you from feeling starved. Remind yourself everyday that you are beautiful, for you are beautiful. If anyone can help you, it will be you. Do what is right for your health
ima 17 yr old fm i got everything i could possibly want and so unhappy and idk y someone plz help me
Hey there,
If you have everything, yet you know of nothing that makes you happy... then you don't know what true happiness is. Everyone has something in their life that makes them happy, whether it is a friend, family, music, or a hobby. No matter who the person is, there is something there that they don't notice and should be grateful to have. Happiness can be found anywhere. Only you can figure out what that one thing is. So until you find out what it is, no one here can help you. Search outside your boundaries and you will find happiness
I often find myself (after It's already to late) Doing other things instead of what I was told to do. I don't have any cases of ADHD or anything like that, I haven't had a reports of mental sickness or abnormality. When some tells me something I often forget what they said and when they said it. It's like I never heard before. I believe that I am lost within myself and am soooo tired of being here in this confusing life. I'm down to the point to where I just don't care about anything anymore. Have I gone crazy, or am I an Idiot with a high IQ? Please help!!!
Hey there,
It sounds as if you may have short term memory loss..?. Forgetting what someone told you or not remembering where you put something can be signs of this. But, you may also just be tired. When someone is tired, their body just cannot focus on one thing for a long period of time. I know, because I have short term memory loss and at times I forget what people told me earlier in the day or where I left something. I know how crazy it is to say to yourself 'I am going to put this here so I remember it', only to forget where you put it :p Believe me, sleep does help with this. Also, eating healthy, having your protein, and doing things like sodoku/crosswords/puzzles will help you build your brain/mental strength.
To help yourself find you again, leave sticky notes around your house or in places that you go to remind yourself of things you need to do, what you plan to do next, or what someone told you to do. They are a great reminders. Another thing you can do is have a friend remind you beforehand of what you want to be reminded of. Tell him/her that you just need a reminder before the time you are going to do something and I am sure they will try to help. Friends are always a great way to find support and positivity.
Also, get out there with people and have fun again! Go have a pop/coffee/lemonade with someone you know, go check out a new movie, have a gathering in your house with yummy snacks, meet someone new, or do something you have always meant to do but never got around to doing. Listen to your favorite music, dance around the house, call your best friend for a walk, or just find someone to talk to. Smile, even when you don't feel like it. It will help you feel better.. as will giving hugs :)
No, you are not going crazy, this is more common then you probably realize. And no, you are not an idiot. Try the things I've told you and see if they help. If they don't help much, ask your doctor what may be causing this, for I am not as knowledged as them. You can find yourself again... just find support, do the things you love, and you will find the path that will lead you there
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i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks
Hey there,
I really hope you can help yourself to stop.
God loves you, your mother loves you, your friends love you.. the list goes on.
Dont ever think that no one loves you, or that you can't get over something that is frustrating you. You have good power and strength to overcome anything! You are Beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise :)
Please scroll down a little on this site and read the peoples stories:
http://www.43things.com/things/view/52116/stop-cutting-myself
I love you
Pills are my bestfriends life. she takes so many pain killers more than i thought possible. she says its all the pain in her life pain of heartbreak, screw ups and anything else. she is always gone everyday out with her friends or anyone, but she is totally different if she doesnt take any pills that day. she is just like staring into space and very sad looking and feels empty. i can always see deep pain or sorrow in her eyes even if shes so happy. she used to cut for two years and smoke for like half a year but stopped both. she drinks but refuses to get drunk she has like one every few days but I still dont want her to have any. She says shed die with out them but she can also die with them. She is a very strong in emotion spirit or physical and pretty and a great girl and the nicest girl youd ever meet and is always there for me. she gets along with anybody and is so easy to make friends with altho some people are afraid of her she wears black with colored hair but its not chains or spikes or anything so who cares. so thankful im trying to help and she stopped the other things with the help of her old best friend but he hates her now and they loved eachother. She is a depressed 14 year old girl. Always yelled at for what she wears wich she says is the worst thing someone can do to her, she wears black everyday but it doesn’t look bad. Any advice about her or for her?
GET HER HELP BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!! CRISIS LINES COUNCELLORS AT SCHOOL, HER PARENTS, OR A GROWN UP SHE TRUSTS. Pain killers are a serious thing, that could kill you at any time. Taking too much can stop your heart. It may not be able to keep up with the adreneline rush. Fourteen is too young to even know what pain killers are. Im eighteen, have never tryed drugs, but i know what pain killers and other drugs can do. I watch renegadepress.com,degrassi,and these shows deal with real teenage situations includin the one your friend is in right now. My advice, is get her help BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. because in the end, all can not end well.