Hello my name is Diamond, I am currently a third year psychology major. My passion in life is to be of aid to mankind in any way possible which why I aspire to become a Psychologist no matter what it takes. I find complete and utter joy in helping others through giving them advice or by simply being an open ear for someone you just need to talk to or express your feelings to. I love to make others happy in anyway possible, it brings joy to my heart like nothing in this world. I have given advice to a large amount of people, usually people I barley know. The people I meet tend to open up to me and share their feelings and/or problems whether big or small. I have been the ears for many people who just want someone to talk to,when they feel no one else is there to listen or atleast cares enough to hear what they have to say. I have been a shoulder to cry on and I must say it is very fulfilling to have people see this sort of security and comfort in me. I am open to any questions, I am open to listen to anyone that is feeling alone or scared, I care about everyone in this world even if I have yet to meet them, I know that every human being is special,unique, and beautiful in their own way and I just want to be there for anyone who doesn't know or believe this. I want to install the importance of positive thinking into everyone I encounter in my lifetime. I am even here for those who aren't going through any particular hardship but just wants advice. Advice is always good because it is always good to have a second persons opinion to weigh your options and decisions even if you choose to use the advice or not. I am looking forward to your questions,conversations, or anything you would like. I am just a message/ e-mail away. Please do not hesitate to contact me. You will never be ignored or simply forgotten about.
E-mail: princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: I was born in Ohio,however I currently reside in California
Occupation: Current Psychology major
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I need help, I need confidence and secerety, so help me what should I do! (link)
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Hello,well just to let you know,you are not alone...lots of people have this issue and you wouldnt even know it.You cant magically get self confidence over night but you sure can wrk at it. Sef confidence is simply beleiving in yorself and feeling comfortable with you as a person. You ave to know that no one in this world is perfect,you just have to work with what you have and make the best of i. Right now your thougts are negative whichis effecting your confiedence in yourself. You first have to change this faulty thinking int a more positive view of yourself. You have to know that you are special,beautiful and capable beyond meaure and no one can take that away from you,nly you can elp yourslf to gain self confidence...NO ONE ELSE.Everyone is special in their own way and has tons of special qualties and beleifs..once you realize how special you are your problems wit self confidence will diminsh, als yu find security within yourself,once you gain that self confidence you will find that security you need. Simply maintain a positive attitutde about yoursef and life as a whole and things will appear so much better in a numerous amout of ways. I hope this helped and the best of luck to you!!! If you wuld like to contact me you can always send me a private message or send me an email!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND :)
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I think that I may have anger problems. Because lately I had been getting in situation where I had said something bad about my family members and people. And I am scared that I might get in trouble for it. One time in class a long time ago I cursed at someone and this one girl went after me for it. And asked who I was saying it too. I really don't want people to think I am wrong. I feel like someone will not put up with my back talking and beat me up or shoot me. (link)
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Hello,well yes you are right anger nad bad mouthing will get you no where but in trouble. There is no need to be rude or have a foul mouth but if you were raised that way then you almost have no choice not to be :(...In your situation I think your anger stems from some where else.No one is angry for no reason.You should analyze things that went on in your life and are currently going on in your life and see how it is effecting you.The first step to havign an anger isssue is admitting to your problem and you did this which is awesome(you deserve a pat on the back lol)The next step is to figure out where this anger is steming from..you can tell me things that are going on in your life currently that maybe affecting your actions,but only if you are open and comfortable with dsiclosing that kind of information with me,just to let you know I am here to help only and not to judge,I have your best interest at heart and whatever you need or want to discuss I am here :) Since I dont know your exact situation I can give you some tips that in general may help.When you feel the need to release anger in a negative way such as a derogatory use of words and or violence try to breathe deeply in and out to get the oxygen flowing to your brain and to help your mind be focused on breathing rather than releasing your anger. You can also try to thin of something positive when you begin to have jegative thoughts or feelings,this always help to change your frustrated state of mind. You can also relaease anger by doing activities you like,by running, maybe reading a book,talking to someone about why your angry, a punching bag is helpful because all of your anger is put towards a tangible object. Remember it is always good to have someone you can talk to when your emotions go array,talking to someone helps you to release these unsettling feelings and is very helpful they may be able to help you with an alternative way of dealing with a situation.If you have no one to tlak to that you can discuss this issue with you can send me a message on here or email me any itme(princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com) I would be more than happy to listen and help you through what you are going through. I hope this was helpful and the best of luck to you I am looking forward to hearing from you so I can be of aid to you in any way :).Just know that you are not the only one dealing with this problem and I am honored that you came to me for advice I just hoped it helpes you in some way,you can contact me anytime you would like..you will get through this in no time!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:) :) :) :)
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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees (link)
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Hello,Well as you may well know life throws horrible things at you sometimes.Unfortunatey some of theses horrible things occur back to back but just know that everything in your life happens for a reason good or bad. you are exprienceing these things to make you a better person in the future and as an adult.Just think if you dont go through things in your life you wont know how to handle certain situations. You go through things as a learning experience,you have to try even though I iknow it is extremly hard to find the good in every situation because there is always a shinning light in the darkest of situations. Please so not think this of yourself you are a beautiful person inside and out.Everyone is special and unique in there own way and everyone has something to offer this world whether they know it or not.You have a purpose and you will find this purpose in tiime.Just think about it there is no one in this world like you,you have specific attributes and charactrisitics that no one has.Do not in any way blame yourself for the way others treat you and put yourself down because of this.Right now you dont beleive that you are a beautiful and special person and until you realize this and fully beleive it you wont feel as good as you should.Things happen in life and life can be hard but there is no way you can change the past,the only thing you can do is live in the present,try to enjoy yourself as much as possible and change for the better. Love and relationships are a very sensitive topic and unfortunatley people get hurt when it comes to things like this because your emotions are on the line.Know this,everyone is put in your life for reason and most are put in your life temeporarily,you will have to deal with loss and pain to get to the good it is just a way of life. When people put you down or are rude to you it is because they are hurting within and want to take it out on others whether what they say is true or not which it most likley is not. You have so much potential and you have so much to offer,you shouldnt let what others say effect you,you know who you are and you know what you are not,if you truly beleive this then no one can change that EVER.I am sure you have a beautiful spirit and mind and you have the potential to change within to know that you are worth so much more than the words people say use against you,remember they are just words. Because all of the things that went wrong in your life you have no choice but to have this negative attitude towards life because that is what you know and how you have coped with what you have been through.Those things are in the past now and this things from the past are bringing you down in the worst way possible,your life is so special and you should be happy everyday just being alive. Each day is an opportunity to try new things and learn new things.You should try and do things that make you happy whatever it is,little things can make you happy just looking at a pretty flower,enjoying the fresh air outside,reading a book that you have been wanting to read or watching a movie,try to find things that you like and utilize that to boost your mood.Also say encouraging words to yourself such as "I'm special in every way" “I am beautiful” and the most important “I DESERVE THE BEST” This is vital in many aspects,when it comes to the whole not respevcting yourself when it comes to guys you have to live by this. You are a great person and you do only deserve the best,you deserve a guy treat you with respect,to care for you,be honest with you and be there for you no matter what.The guys that you are seeping wiht could care less about your feelings or what you want they are focused on there pleasure.From now on you should only do the things that make you happy and dont worry about anyone else or what anyone else has to say because it really doesnt matter. It will take time to get out of this stage in your life but you have to have the will power to want to change and think more positive. THhinking positive and being optimistitc is the key to happiness and if negative thoughts consume you on a daily basis it will alter your thinking. You will contuinue to think that what you do is not good enough and that you have no self worth. But the truth is you do whatever you can to the best of your ability and if that is not good enough for others then that is too bad because you tried your best,there is however always room for improvement and if you recognize your faults then they can easily be altered and fixed. You are worth so much and you shouldnt give a guy the time of day if they cant see how special and unique you are and everything that you day and do.You can have sex with any guy but it is so special when you have a guy that understands you and accepts you for you,you dont want to ever settle because I promise you there is someone out there waiting for you,you are still young honey and you will have plenty of experiences with guys,just try to make those experiences special.Don’t feel bad if you dont have someone you care about currently because he will find you,he will see something inside of you that no one else see’s and will be there for you in evryway,some people who are in there 40’s still dont have that special relationshp either,it just takes time and patience! I know it is hard to change but once you make that first step you wont regret it, if you try to your best ability to ignore the remarks people say and beleive in yourself then you will go far. Your thoughts are powerful and can bring you up or down and you obviously want to go up. If I know you are such a beautiful,intelligent,special,and unique girl then it wont be hard for you to beleive this and NEVER EVER forget it.I know right now you may feel like you have no one to talk to or that understands you but I am here to listen to you I care so much about what you have to say and how you are feeling because it is very upsetting to see others upset and sadden by all of the trials of life. I promise you things will get better,this is only temporary and you are garuanteed to have a bright and beautiful future,dont worry about it.I am open to talk to you and listen to you whenever you want,you can send me a message or email me anytime(princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com) I know how vital it is to have someone to talk to at times like this and I want you to know that I am here for you,If you have any further questions,just want to talk,or need someone to listen to you do not hesitate to contact me.Good things are going to start happening for you and you are going to feel so much better in time!!! I hope this helped and I am looking forward to hearing from you!!!YOU ARE AMAZING!!never forget how much potential you have and how greatly special you are!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:) :0 ;) ;) :) :) :0 ;) ;) :) :) :) ;) :) :0
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What do people mean when they say "Don't do too many mind-stimulating activities before bedtime. That's the reason you're having trouble sleeping."
Isn't THINKING a mind-stimulating activity? Because you're like...using your mind?
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hmm mind-stimulating activites are usually as in the phrase activites, such as something that really cause you to work numerous parts of your brain to complete them, this could range from homework, espcially math problems, crossword puzzles etc.. these activities are concious activities meaning you are full aware that you are trying to complete these tasks at hand and this activates a copious amount of brain areas causing your mind to be fairly active before sleeping, you don't want this because it can hinder your sleeping process. Thinking is preformed unconciously, aw are constantly thinking all day about the smallest amount of things which takes less energy and brain activity. Thinking is relaxing and is encouraged before sleep to help you to relax.It is important to take the time out to think about your day, things you want to do, rather big or small, thinking puts your mind at ease and is extremly comfortable..So all in all the main difference between the two is simply utilizing the concious and uncouncious mind and the energy level needed to complete the two.I hope this was helpful and comprehensible,I wish you the best of luck!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND
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ok sometimes i get really angery when I see thing undo when i asked them to get done. i also get the feeling of being over whemled when i see stuff that i need to do. like if someone makes a mess of one of the cabinets i get over whemled by it like it is too much to handle. I get mad an angery. I start to freak out and everything. and i really get upset when things dont go my way. i think i have a mental problem. sometimes i start something and do finsh it like i have alot of great ideals but never start them i want to stop this behavor so i can chill out i hate getting like this and i hurt the feeling of the ones i love. i make nasty comments and everything what is wrong with me (link)
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Hello sounds like you may have a mild case of anxiety when it comes to getting things done, I wouldnt lean more toward a mood disorder because you mainly get frustrated when things dont get done or do not go the way you want. Sounds similar to a form of perfectionism,impatience, and feeling bogged down bye the simple things in life. What i would advise for now is to try to realx and go with the flow. Everything is not worth getting upset over, their is so much going on in the world that the small things you frustrate yourself over are not worth it at all. You sound like you might be overwhelmed by your job, family issues..etc which can cause you to get very frustrated over little things when you are in actuality overlooking the real problem.It is a defense mechanism know as transference you transfer your anger into different things and all of your anger spills over to little things and unfortunatley to the people around you. Try to sit down and think about what might really be bothering you it can be extremly helpful! I hope this was helpful, If you have any further questions and or comments I am here..the best of luck to you!!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i have a TON of pet peeves. like i have a list that fills up over a sheet of paper. some are the weirdest things too like wet paper towels. if something oocurs that i cant do something about (like throw away the wet paper towel) i end up on the floor crying and shaking and being extreemly mad. why is this? are they just pet peeves? (link)
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Hello, I would say you may have a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as well, it is an anxiety disorder which explains the anxiety/panic attacks you have when you are unable to do anything about it..when did this behavior begin? These are definatley not just pet peeves, if you didnt end up upset and shaking on the floor I would say it was a pet peeve. I would say you show all the major signs of OCD I know a great deal on this subject from tips to coping with this disorder through behavioral therapy to the proper medication to ask for when seeing a psychiatrist..A good start is to write down all of your compulsions(actions you cannot control) to get a general idea of all of your symptoms and the amount of time you spend on them daily.I hope to hear from you soon, I have lots of informaion on this topic, you can ask me any question and I will be open to answer, do not hesitate to contact me..i hope this was helpful and I wish you the best of luck!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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I'm going to start seeing a psyciatrist. In the past four months my life has been falling apart through multiple horrible ecvents. I don't want to get in detail about it, but basically I'm depressed. Ive started taking Xanax because my dad has them (he let's me don't worry)... They're the only way I can stop myself from crying at night and help me fall asleep. I also hurt physically all the time , like someones been punching me. For this, ive been taking oxycodeine. This I got from my friends, but I'm careful and only use whatsnecessary. So when I start going to see the psychiatrist, what should I say to him so that he'll give me a prescription to both? Please, don't say there are other ways bc I needthis help at this time in my life. Thanks
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Hello it is a great step to know you have a problem and realize exactly what it is..have you ever spoken to a professional Psychologist or Psyciatrist before. It is unsafe to utilize others medicine,it may help but you may have a totally different problem/illness than can effect you in unforseen ways..medicine is very complicated and specific. Everyone is affected differently by different medictions whether you have the same illness as another person,becareful. When you begin your sessions with the Psychiatrist you should be very detailed in your description of your symptoms and be up front, try not to hold back although it may be hard,but the doctor needs to know exaxtly what is going on with you so he/she can properly diagnose you. The doctor will know what method of treatment is best,in your case it may be medicine but medicine is not always required,there are a number of different methods of treatment. I know sometimes life is so hard that it seems like medicine is the only way out but medicine is a temporary aid that you can become reliant on. What you want and need is mental growth,it is always best to deal with issues in the present so they wont have a huge effect on you in the future..whatever has happened to you in the past can be worked out,it may take time but it will be well worth it in the future, and hardtimes do not last forever,everything is temporary in this life and everything definitley happens for a reason. I know it is hard to be optomistic at a time like this but just know that things will get better in time,dont hesitate to contact me anytime,I am interested in hearing of your progress.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you! SINCERLY DIAMOND:)
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