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E-mail: stefana3@hotmail.com
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Location: Ontario, Canada
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Age: 17
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how can i stop being depressed.
All i want to do is sit home
and listen to music..and imagine if i was thinner and prettier..
i havent had a boyfriend in 3 years and my mom told me today that she thinks im wasting away the best years of my life
i dont want to do anything..i think my weight is holding me back im 5'3 and i weight 176 pounds..
i have been gaining weight left and right because i dont want to do anything..yeah sometime i go out with friends and with my family..but right now they went to see the miley cyrus movie..and i didnt want to go..my mom said that i need help and i need to snap out of it..but i dont know what to do..HELP what can i do..i dont think i can afford mental help..! (link)
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Well first of all, you have to stop wishing that you were thinner and prettier!!
It's not the weight that's holding you back...it's the low self-esteem.
If your weight is bothering you that much, then you can start dieting by eating healthy and exercising. But if you just sit around the house all day, you can be 100% sure that you're gonna gain weight because you're not being active.
Second of all, as for the whole boyfriend thing, my advice to you is to just go out with a group of friends and have a good time. Go places! Meet new people! And you know what guys love more than anything?...confidence!! So when they see you enjoying yourself and having great confidence, they'll be all over you!
You have to force yourself to get out there and have fun! That's how you beat depression...by forcing yourself!
Hope this helps! And good luck! :)
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latley i have been feeling like the world is out to get me. i feel like this is the worst year of my life. and ill tell you why. the boyfriend of almost a year broke up with in the beginning of the school year b.c well he said he doesnt know. so thats great then like a week after that i find a new guy from our school and hes just wikid hott and being upset as i was i made out with him. and the ex thought i didnt love him so he didnt ask me to be his girlfriend again. then the hott guy i hooked up with is flirting with other girls and my parents hate him and are arguing with me about him so i just forgot about him was hurt that another guy hurt me but w.e....then my ipod got taken away by some teacher i got it back with out getting a detention or iss or phone call home so it was all good but made me nervous as hell. through the year i have made new friends they are known as the popular girls and when im with them i dont know who i am im not acting like my old self i miss me i dont even know me any more. then a couple weeks lata a teacher for some stupid reason thougt i lied to her so she called my parents so they grounded me until febuary 11 now if thats not pissing me off enought they are always yelling at me to do this whats wrong blah blah blah and yesterday we got the report card and fisrt semester i had social and i almost failed and it was the only class that i was doing horrible in i tried my hardest to do good but apparently not i could of done better my dad says so now im not alowed to do sports get a job go out nothing. from what he says so im stuck froever my mom messages me on facebook and i dont know if she says im grounded or wat but but she had the topic of the message GROUNDED and the message saying report card? what the hell. so thats just great. and my mom is having all these secrets and i dont want to hear them idont know what they are about but they are worrying me. so im just sick of it and you know its been the worst year ever when someone says to you "wow you are having a bad year". i try to be happy putting a stupid facke ass smile on when really i just want to scream for help i dont know what to do my gpa for school needs to be over a 80 to get a phone and rite now its a 74 and its pissing me off to no limit im trying hard i have 80s and above in all classes except fucking social nd social is over with but i have a feeling if i dont have like a 90 in all classes now that the grade average is going to keep me the same and that means no phone. which scuks i need something good to happen im sick of this i want to cry all the time. and my dads always like wheres the smile whats wrong but if i tell him hell just get mad and ground me some more wich is o so fabulous they are yelling at me for stupid shit and grounding me like i just murderd a cat and left it in the middle of the living room for all to see. i have a problem and i dont know if its something i can control but i dont like the way im living i just want it all to stop but one thing comes to another and its all coming down on me like bricks. what do i do. plz help i cant do this ne more. :[ i need to be my laughing old self again where is she.? (link)
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Whoa, I also used to be like really depressed before and everything, but I helped myself become happy again! The trick to it all is just to always think positively and be optimistic. I know it sounds like no use, but if you just focus on your studies and forget about the boys or whatever then your parents will be proud of you and you'll be happy again! Just never give up and you can get through this! You could try talking to your parents and explaining how you feel. I'm sure they'll understand! It doesn't hurt to try after all...and remember there's always some1 out there who has a WAY worse life then you. So just relax, breath, and take each day as it comes to u...step by step(roll with the punches)lol...you will get better...and here's another cliche for you, 'when there's a will, there's a way', but it's SO true!
*Good Luck!*
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Yeah. So I'm over life if I don't get a boyfriend by the time I'm 16 because everyone I know got a boyfriend by the time they were 16. I want to find my true love. i want a guy to stay with me forever not just while we're having sex. Forever! So, am I ever going to find my true love??? or is this just not real. I really need to know.. (link)
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Well, right now I can tell you that one day you will definatly find your "one true love" because I believe that there is one in this world for everyone...but I can't tell you when that will happen because I'm not psychic..lol..if I were you, I just wouldn't worry too much about it because you know it will happen sooner or later and the more you wait and the more patient you are, the better it will work out for you because all those people that rush into relationships are less satisfied than the ones that wait!
This certainly is NO reason to give up on life! Imagine if everyone gave up on life when they couldn't find love at 16 years old!...Than that would be a sad thing and there will be many people dying.
I know that you're upset about this, but my advice to you is to just not worry and live life normally because the moment when you're not looking for love...that's when love will find you!:)
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Things have happened to me and everything sucks. People hate me and I feel like everyone else fits in and I really lack that. I don't know anymore but I've never been happy and its starting to make me want to end everything and not have to deal with guys that don't like me and girls that hate me and yeah guys that hate me. I really need help I think. (link)
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I went through exactly what you're going through! The trick is to always be positive...I know it can be hard sometimes, but you have to try. Never think that everyone hates you! Why do you assume that both guys and girls hate you??? I'm sure you didn't do anything mean to them..so why would they, just out of the blue, hate you? If you wanna get on everybody's good side...just be really friendly, smile, and give lots of compliments! Then, I'm sure people will like you because they'll see how nice you really are. Now, in order to be this friendly, you have to be a positive person...a optimist! You think you can do that?...I hope so!
*Good Luck*
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So, usually I'm used to answering these type of quetions. but, I guess I need your advice. because i'm not sure how to help myself.
[its not as long as it seems, i just skipped alot of lines, PLEASE i beg you, read]
14/f
You know how some people will say, 'there having a bad week' and they either tell you, how they got grounded, or got a F on a big test.
Well imagine this..
Imagine losing your whole group of friend, because they ditched you, for a huge graduation dance, when they were all going out to dinner together, and they didn't invite you, and you've been friends with all of them for atleast 4 or 5 years.
So, right now, your probably thinking.. that sucks. but its not the end of the world.
ok now imagine you just lost your best guy friend, who you were like madly inlove with, but a couple mistakes, mess up your friendship, and you were friends with him for 4 years. not friends actually, best friends. like the kinda guy you tell everything too.
now, your probably thinking, that sucks even more. but you can always make new friends.
OK. now imagine, your dog, your dog, not the family dog, your dog, dies. and gets hit by a car, early in the moring before you going to school.
now, i bet your saying wow now this really does suck for her.
BUT. wait theres more. now imagine, before ALL this happened, you talked about switching schools, just to one person, but they told everyone. So, now that the whole school knows, you decide you gotta go and switch. because if you don't, it will most likely just get worse at your school and people will call you a liar.
So, now your out of your comfort zone, your in a place, where things are way different.
this didnt all happen over a long period of time, it happened to me in a week. 1 week. how would you deal with it?
I'm asking for your advice. In the beginning of all this when it all happened, I covered up my sadness, I smiled and laughed, like I always normaly would. But, its starting to hit me now, hard. I'm not smiling too much, and i find myself losing track of my grades. I'm no longer focusing, and starting not to want to do normal activities. Since I took a class in depression, I know these are early signs of depression. I want to stop it before I get worse.
But, I do not, do not want to see a therapist. My mom would freak. And it would make me feel uncomfortable around my family. So, thats a total noway. I'm strong when it comes to things like this. I can make it, if I just know how to. But, as of right now I don't. I'm normaly a A and 2 Bs [rarely] student. My grades have dropped tremendosly.
I need your help. Your advice will mean a great deal to me. Please help me in any way possible.
thank you very much. (link)
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Wow! and I thought my life was bad..lol..I am so sorry that this happened to you! I think it's really not fair how your friends ditched you just for a stupid dance...they weren't real friends if they did that. Just try talking to someone in your family because you need to talk to someone! Just hang in there and things will get better soon. Always stay positive, but if you really feel like you need to cry..just cry it all out and you'll feel way better after. I am REALLY sorry about you losing your best guy friend and your dog dying...I know how you must feel. Maybe you could try writing out your feelings on paper, that always works for me or just relax, listen to music...that'll help you deal with the problems. I hope my advice helped!
*Good Luck!*:)
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Ok well when you're sad they say you should like tell someone and stuff but when i tell my best friends it seems liek it doens't matter much to them or they don't really feel any sympathy or they're not good at like cheering up.
And I can't jsut write all my feelings on this site and stuff you know, what can i do?
I feel so down and not even my best friends know how I'm feeling. And every part of my house is occupied so i can't even try to phone the kids help line thingy that I've always wondered what it's like.
Is there a site where you write all your feelings and people write stuff for you? I dunno I just feel so weak! I always need my spirit to be up and people to cheer me up. I'm sick of it! (link)
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OMG...I have the same problem! My friends also aren't good listeners! Do you have anyone else you can talk to??? Like a family member or good reletive...Also, when you feel sad, just cry it out..you'll feel way better after...or try writing out your feelings on paper. If you need anyone else to talk to, email me at stefana3@hotmail.com or you could ask me a question in my inbox...I hope my advice helped!:)
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is it normal to feel depressed sometimes, without any reason...you just feel depressed, and sometimes, you cry but you don't know why, you just feel like crying sometimes, and you get very depressed... (link)
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Yah! I think it is normal because the same thing happens to me sometimes too. I think you should try talking to someone...like parents, doctor, counselor, and even your friends can help...now that I think about it, maybe there's something deep down that's bothering you, but it's just too deep that you don't even know what it is...
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okay so lately my confidence has been dropping more and more. and i just feel like people keep saying crap about me and stuff. and like i always feel like people are staring at me when im walking down the street. and i feel really ugly and fat. so now ive ended up being bulimic and i cut and i pop pills. i dont know what to do though cause i cant tell my parents. and i keep looking for a boyfriend and i cant get one so it makes me feel worse cause i feel like no one wants me. so please help me (link)
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Don't let your confidence dtop! Just always think positive things and say positive stuff about yourself. Also, try not to care what other people think...I know it's hard because I'm the same way(I care too much about what others think)and you have got to stop being bulimic and stop cutting yourself and taking pills..it's not healthy and it's certainly not the answer to your depression...try taking to your friends about this if you can't tell your parents. Surround yourself with positive people and do what you love doing that will make you happy..(what are your favorite hobbies???)..As for the whole boyfriend thing, just don't worry about it, just relax and the guys will come to you!!!;)!!! I hope this helps! Good luck!:D
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