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I've grown up with depression. Literally. I cannot remember one moment when I never experienced it.

Some months ago, I found out about Lexapro and suggested it to my psychiatrist. I took a low dosage of it for a few months, but lately, I've been taking 30mg (about to start taking 40mg). My happiness has soared higher than my depression now! :D

Before this 30mg, I never EVER wanted to get out of bed and take care of myself. I looked absolutely HORRIBLE.

But now, I have an obsession with taking care of my appearance which makes me genuinely happier the more obsessed with taking care of it I am.

So does anyone have any detailed tips on how to take PERFECT, PURE care of my hair, skin, body and teeth?

And I'd appreciate about health too if you can. Thank you SO SO SO MUCH! I can't put into words how much I'd appreciate any tips and help!!!! _(link)

Hiya! Dr.D here!
Before I say anything else. I just want to say,I am so happy for you that your happy! :D
for hair products. I have no clue.
But I know a lot about health, of how to have better skin, body and teeth. It makes me excited because, I can talk a little science! EEEEEE!!!!
sorry my nerdy side is kicking in.

Skin: get more then seven hours of sleep. See the minimum amount of sleep a human needs is seven hours, and the max amount is eight hours. But going for the max amount will not only get rid of bags under your eyes, it will give you more energy. I suggest moisturizing yourself once a day, and in the shower use tough body wash. But none with funky ingredients you never heard of. Natural stuff is better.

Body: SO...... by body do you mean like healthy, and in shape? or in the sexual way? if its sexual, imma just leave that to others, but having a good body I'll be talking about in health.

Teeth: Its great your thinking about your teeth. Many people just dont brush their teeth today and thats not good. For clean and healthy teeth, I suggest brushing in circles on each side of a single tooth. Of course use dental floss, i dont suggest every day, but every two to three days. Its good for the gums between the teeth and cleans bacteria there. Also your gonna wanna brush your gums. Keeping them strong keeps your teeth strong to. Finally I suggest mouth wash. Not only does it get rid of bad breath but it kills bacteria and some give a little removal of the yellow layer on our teeth. brush your teeth at least twice a day. But a third time like after you eat lunch I bet after a week your teeth will be shining beautifully!

Healthy and life style: So imma just give you pretty much my daily routine. When you wake up, its good to get some excising, to get the blood going and exercise your muscles and you can sweat off some fat. I do planks, crunches, and jumping jacks. Thats just when I wake up. When having a breakfast. I suggest some fruit, it prevents scurvy and it does miracles for your teeth and skin. Ever seen a pirate? if you look at their teeth and skin, thats because of lack of fruit. So i suggest fruit when you wake up. Try to stay away from drinks that give sugar and junk food in general. for a lunch if you get one, feel free to eat whatever you want, I'm not prescribing one because I am pretty sure your fit and dont need to worry about the one meal. Then later you should probably go outside for a while, go for a walk, a swim, a bike ride, what ever, get a little energy out and enjoy the outdoors. Finally for dinner you should have something from every part of the food pyramid. fruit, vegetables, grain, dairy and meat(I suggest fish for your meat product). Also I recommend you indulge in activities you like. Something away from electronics that you like to do. puzzles, reading, writing, anything that challenges the brain. makes it stronger and smarter.

Well thats it. I hope I helped. I wish you good luck. Remember this is only recommended!!!! Good luck, and have a nice day :-)
-Dr.D

P.S. Maybe if you want, try to do a little zen. Have a nice day!

I'm an eighteen year old girl and I still don't know how to talk to people. I know it sounds pathetic. I haven't had much (close) friends because of it. I'm SO bad with words. I can't even have a real conversation with my boyfriend because of it. I'm really insecure. I never know the right words to say. Is there something wrong with me? Help would be much appreciated. Thanks so much. _(link)

Hiya! Dr.D here!
Its okay.
I hope you know that you are a beautiful person. And there is nothing wrong with you. You shouldn't lower your self esteem like that. Dont worry. Now let me see if I can help you. :-)
Hold your breath. It slowly grows uncomfortable right? to the point you want to release and breath in new air. That's whats happening. You just need to let out all your air, give and smile and go out into the day with happiness.
Words are hard to form in our mouths. And when I am nervous, I start messing up on the pronouncing of words. But you shouldn't be afraid. I say that if you mess up how can it hurt you? It may stab you in the moment, but then later it becomes a distant memory. Look at life knowing that if you mess up, why care? There is no need to because you may never see those people you mess up in front of again. And if you mess up in front of those who you do stick with, then its okay. Because I bet they wont care about your mistakes, but about the real you.
Just think life like that. When I stutter or make a mistake in front of people. I'll laugh, and continue on to what I was doing.
I hope I helped. Don't be afraid to mess up, because everyone has made plenty of mistakes.
-Dr.D :-)

20/female.

I have struggled with MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR depression and MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR anxiety for practically my whole life it seems. And when I say MAJOR three times, I mean, I can't even IMAGINE anything worse. Frankly, my anxiety is FAR WORSE than my depression. EVERY single second of EVERY single day I am anxious. There's never been JUST ONE moment where I feel no anxiety. I constantly wish upon death, for example I was turning on the oven for my parents' and I's dinner PRAYING it would blow up JUST ENOUGH for it to kill me, but not hurt the house too much or hurt my parents or my dog at all.

My parents want me on disability because EVERY SINGLE TIME I've tried to work, I had ongoing anxiety attacks that WOULD NOT END UNTIL I left. And BELIEVE ME, I tried my hardest to stay and work so I can help my parents pay their bills (they have a hard time paying bills, because they don't make a lot of money).

My anxiety's far too bad for me to work. I can't even DRIVE, because I have ENDLESS anxiety attacks when I'm behind the wheel. I can't breathe when I'm behind the wheel. I can't even SEE it's so bad!!!! EVEN in the PASSANGER'S seat I'll have anxiety attacks, which is why I'm home practically 98% of the time.

I have a fiance who proposed to me a few months ago. We're going to be living with my parents because I'm too anxious to leave them. They stress FAR TOO MUCH for it to be healthy... my dad's known to heart attacks... and both my parents have high blood pressure terribly. My dad smokes too much and drinks too much. He has diabetes and sometimes gets carried away when he eats sugar and sweets and then his sugar goes up and he starts feeling sick.

I'm honestly terrified of leaving them. I don't want to move out of my parents' house because I'm terrified something bad will happen to them. I LOVE THEM SO FREAKING MUCH AND I CARE ABOUT THEM MORE THAN I CARE ABOUT MYSELF.

I don't want them to die from too much stress or disabetes or heart attacks or so forth. I want to live at home with them so I can care for them and make sure they don't stress too much... that my dad doesn't eat too much sugar (sometimes he can't control himself; he won't listen to my mom, but he'll listen to me)... I'm trying to get my dad to stop smoking so much, because he's had heart attacks from it and I'm scared one day he'll die from it... so I send him random texts telling him how much I need him and how he's my rock... he said it's helping him to stop, but I want to be here to make sure he's stopping for good.

I'm ***NOT*** living off them, I swear. I never ask for anything, unless it's things I need like cheap, simple foods and water... cheap shampoo... cheap toothpaste... sometimes they'll buy me gifts here and there, but I always say that I don't need it. But they buy it anyway and I feel horrible. D': But thank God it's not expensive stuff at all.

I wear clothes that I've had forever, because I can't pay for more and I don't want my parents buying me new clothes. Some of them I've grown out of, so I just wear my dad's shirts a lot which I love because I feel closer to him.

I do all the cleaning at home so my mom doesn't have to stress about it.

I do the yard work, except for the poisonous stuff because my dad says he's scared it'll hurt me.

I brush my mom's hair to make her feel good. I scratch her back. And I do things like taking her trash to the trash can for her. And I tell her she's the most beautiful woman in the world and that I wish I looked more like her everyday.

I tell my dad that he's the smartest man I've ever known and that he dresses nice for work everyday.

I make sure my fiance's happy. I watch his "guy movies" with him all the time and give him massages and make sure he feels like he's the most special and important man out there.

I never get mad at my parents, my fiance or my three friends that i have. I'm super nice to everyone, and i give people compliments wherever I go.

its just my terrifying depression and anxiety keep on telling me that im lazy and a bad person because i LITERALLY cannot work or drive and i cant have children because i cant get off my antidepressants and anxiety meds. if i got pregnant and had children then the meds would give them scary birth defects and stuff. plus anxiety and depression is genetic in my family.; im not going to bring someone into this world if theyre going to go through what i go through.

i just feel meaningless and such a bad person and lazy. i dont want to live off disability, because a lot of people think mentally disabiled people are "just lazy" and "don't want to work". I want to work MORE THAN ANYTHING. I would have LOVED to be a psychiatrist and followed in my psychiatrist's footsteps and helped SO MANY PEOPLE with mental illnesses, but I can't work at all. my anxiety literally won't let me do it.

its not like im going to buy stuff i dont need like get my nails done or dye my hair or buy clothes/shoes/jewelry, etc with the disability check. im not like that. i only wnat it to help my parents with their bills and buy food for us all.

im SO sorry for the long question. its just i hear in my head that Iim lazy and a bad person all the time and that i should just kill myself. im so mentally ill and no pill or treatment or hopsital or therapist has ever helped EVEN IN THE LEAST.

am i a bad and lazy person? :'( _(link)

Hiya! Dr.D here!
No, no, no, no, no, no.
You are a beautiful person from what I can tell from your writings. You are kind, and think of others, you are selfless my friend. You shouldn't worry your little heart(which is the size of your fist). :-)
Now, sit down and get comfy, relax a bit. Because stressing yourself will only make it worse. If you want, I can give you a few tips to controlling your anxiety and depression. I get nervous when I speak in front of large crowds of people, but I bet you do to. What I do, is I go out with my most professional look, and I give a smile and speak with as much boldness as I have. I try not to focus on the crowd, but I focus on what I am about to say. If you feel that you can't get a job in life because of your flaws. Don't worry about it. Because there are people worse out in the world. But you are a good person. Dont forget it. If you want to work and help your parents with getting money. I say you start your own job. You can become a babysitter and watch kids for money. Or you can do lawn work for people like trimming bushes or raking leaves, mewing lawns and so on. Just put your name out there. And tell the world you are looking for work.
Now for dealing with Depression, there are ways to help you lose some of it. Make a system. by doing things you slowly destroy your depression. I suggest running, biking, swimming, eating healthy, get the healthy amount of sleep, do chores, think about your loved ones and try something new. If you can make a system of things to do everyday, and incorporate some of those things in it, then I promise you, you'll start feeling better. Trust me.
And if you think your alone in being depressed, there are 350 million people suffering depression today. And that number keeps growing. But, you and I are actually part of that number. I suffer depression to. I find life hard, and I lost someone very close to me in the past and it changed me. I had therapy and all this other stuff. But I just want you to know, that your not alone out there. If you need more information about how to deal with your depression and other problems. I am here. consider me your friend. Dont be afraid to message me, I am always willing to talk.
I hope you have a good day. And I hope I helped. Good luck. :-]
-Dr.D

I'm seventeen and live in Kentucky. So, I'm supposed to be taking several psychiatric medications, and I've been diagnosed with bipolar, anxiety, ADHD, and potentially OCD. I got in trouble recently and now my parents refuse to take me to the psychiatrist or pay for the medication. They also won't allow me to have a job anymore so I can't pay for it myself. Just so you know, it's not like I'm just trying to get pills or anything. I've actually struggled quite a bit with the idea of having to take medication, but I've kind of accepted that it does help a lot and I can't handle this on my own. I've attempted suicide before and I become very depressed and very manic without this medication. I don't like being dependent on drugs for any reason, but I'm just worried about what I might do without it. So I guess my question is, is what my parents doing legal? _(link)

Hiya! Dr.D here!
Soooo... it really depends. See, if you over the age of 18 then you have all rights to take your medication that you think you need. But if your doctor prescribes you something, its only recommended, so your parents may call the shots, and if they say they dont think you need it, then they are allowed to. Doctors are not allowed to force patience to take medicine. Not unless the patient is however not allowed to make decisions of his or her own, and has a history of crime and other bad acts, therapists, and the police can force you to take medicine, if they believe that the person is a danger to people around them, or to his or herself.

But hey, if you want. I can help you :-)
I know a lot about dealing with these kind of things. I know how to handle situations and help you compress urges, and release all that bad mobo jumbo you got. Just message me privately, and I will gladly help you. I am here to help :-)
Good luck, and have a nice night :D
-Dr.D

So im not sure if i have avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety disorder but i do know my anxiety and mental health is starting to control my life and i want it to stop. My symptoms are.. not being able to take criticism or negative feedback, i always end up crying, any change of actions or change in peoples tones of voices make me feel uneasy as if the person is mad at me and again makes me cry. I dont like being the centre of attention, if something embarrassing happens to me in front of people i start panicking and my heart starts racing faster, i cant take rejection especially when its in front of people again it will make me cry, i cant deal with confrontation all it does is make me run away,and also to this day the confrontations ive had are still haunting me in my dreams im over them consciously but i guess not subconsciously. I was always the quiet kid in class at first it was shyness but then in highschool whenever i would talk people would say "why do you talk like that?" or why do you have no emotion in your face? (Apparently i have a monotone voice and my face has no emotion at all) so now i fear people are judging me whenever i talk so i dont and when i do talk in public my voice is automatically soft-spoken now so that people dont detect my monotone voice and i cant control being soft-spoken sometimes my voice is so low that it sounds like im mumbling. Also i dont know why i do this but whenever i talk to people,even if theyre the same age as me i always treat them like theyre superior even though theyre not. My anxiety got really bad in grade 12 when i did a group presentation and i was the centre of attention i was prepared for it but as soon as it was my turn i was shaking, my face turned hot and my eyes were blacking out and i could just feel one of my group members annoyed with how i was presenting, if i talked any longer i wouldve fainted. My first year of university i had one class where the teacher forced us to talk in front of everyone and my anxiety made me avoid going to that class.i finally got a job and the job requires me to interact with customers and so far it has been so hard,i dont know why im afraid of people. I can talk to people if they talk to me first but i wont talk to them first. My sister at her work made tons of friends and shes only been working 3 days meanwhile ive been working for 3 weeks now and ive just now made 2 friends at my work. I also avoid entering rooms by myself that are already filled with a lot of people because i hate being looked at, and if theres a crowd of boys thats when my anxiety kicks in the most. I dont want to compare myself to my sister shes 2 years younger than me but shes already been in almost relationships with guys at least 3 times and at her workplace her new friends all complimented how she looked. Meanwhile i dont get any compliments or male attention, my dad said its cause i always have an angry expression on my face (resting b face) but i use that as a defense mechanism. Any tips on how to overcome this? I know none of you are doctors but i just want some advice thanks im 18 turning 19 year old female. _(link)

Hiya!... ahem. *cough cough*. DR.D
just highlighting that first bit. *cough* DR.
just joking around.
I'm Dr.D. And its nice to meet you! :-D
You may not be experiencing any disorder, though I could name a few. I am actually very very understanding of this stuff, because my older sister has autism. Its not bad. Its natural. But it can effect her. It makes her shy, and nervous, and she has hard times talking with people she is unfamiliar with. For you, I doubt you have any kind of disease. So don't be scared! :-)
To me, it sounds like all you have is a case of shyness. For suggestions of how to overcome this. I suggest you practice on your customers. For Example. When you see a customer, introduce yourself. Say your name and then ask how may I help you. If your job is to interact with people then practice on them. Start talking with them while you work. Ask them questions like hows your day. Or about the weather. Just simple topics that you'd bring up with a customer. And remember. Depending on what you do as a job, you'll probably never see that one person ever again. So be calm. And try your best :)
Then when you feel comfortable talking to customers. Try to interact with your coworkers. Find out what some of their interests are, and try to bond with them that way. The more you talk to one another, the more you'll get closer.
By the way, I dont know what you look like. But I can tell from what I've read from you. You have a beautiful personality. And you are perfect the way you are. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
I wish you good luck! and you have a good day :-)
-Dr.D

First off. Im 26 female. Full-time job. I have not had a significant other in 4 going on 5 years. My last guy left me very heartbroken. And kept reappearing in my life . which allowed him to fully move on but not me. Last august i started therapy for depression, loneyness, panic attacks and anxiety. On a good day, things are good and hopeful. On a bad day.. Im very unconfident. I feel like my friend's dont put any effort in to invite me to things, And i feel like i will always be alone.I am on 3 dating websites and it seems like no one wants me. Most of my friends are hooked up so they do not want to go out past 9pm or they dont want to go to events that i might meet people at.
I try to be strong. To be hopeful. But my some days my love keep being just that.. Somday. I know im missing that part of happiness. I just dont know how to be happy with being alone and not having friends or someone to share my life and different events with. Im almos to the point of love will never happen to me again. I had my chance and it failed. I also keep hearinf my brain say somepeople just dont get their happy endings. But i hate saying itbbecause it makes me realize just how sad i am. And theres nothing i can do about it. Does anyone have advice or things i can read to beleive. It hurts being alone. Its so quiet. :(:'( _(link)

Hey! Dr.D here!
Don't be sad. Its okay. Let me tell you something.

A few years back, something like 4-5. I had a girlfriend. She was the light of my day. She was beautiful, funny, smart, always happy! One time she caught me crying before we had been dating because I lost my grandfather. And as I sat in this dark room, she held me tight and pet my head and kept telling me all these happy things, and when I felt better. she stared making jokes and made me forget! She made me so so so so so so so very happy... Till she died.

After that, I went into a deep deep depression. I had to go to therapy, I had to take pills. I even checked myself in asylum. I was a harm to myself. I brought clouds everywhere I went.

To this day. I remain single. I try my best to keep up a smile, and make jokes and be the light that she was to me. I will always remember her, and I will keep what she gave.

Now your probably thinking: Why is this dude telling me this depressing story of how his life fell apart? Because I know where you are. Your sad, your alone. You want a friend. Someone to love. I dont even know what to say. But, I can be your friend. I can help you, if you have questions, or if your feeling lonely or sad. I know the pain. So let me help you. If you want, feel free to message me privately and I will help you.

Life is hard. And we make it harder. But we also make it, a little better. Trust in me. And let me help you. If you ever need to talk. Go ahead and message me. And I'll help you, almost like a friend. :-)
-Braden Dwinell

I've gotten into a terrible rut with procrastinating all the time on everything and now my sleep schedule is messed up because of it.

I have two jobs, one of them is a work at home and the other I travel to the next city over for usually twice or three times a week.

My issue (although lies in me) stemmed from my first job. It consists of working on projects that are on time as long as they're turned in before my boss gets to work the next day (I send them in online). My boss usually sends over my work around 3pm. I'll start on it around 4 and then usually take a break at around 6. However, I then procrastinate on finishing it until really late at night just because I know that technically I can. Sometimes I don't even start on them until 1 or 2am in the morning and then I'm awake working on them until usually 5 or 6am. Then this turns into me sleeping until 1:30pm in the afternoon or on really bad days like today I slept until 3pm.

This of course ruins my entire schedule and turns into a pattern because now I don't get tired until around 4am.

Another example is that last night I worked for my first job until 5am then went to bed and I knew I needed to work a night shift at my second job today so I made plans with a friend in the same city to meet up with him before I went into work, but that didn't happen because I slept until 3pm. Then I had to get up, take a shower, get ready, get something to eat, check the mail, and get gas. I KNEW I also needed to do laundry, but I need to be at my second job around 6:30pm which means leaving at 5:30pm and I don't have time for laundry now because laundry takes two hours and it's already 4. Now I'm wearing some dirty clothes (mixed with clean) for the second day in a row because I keep procrastinating on doing laundry. That means I'll be wearing dirty clothes tomorrow too because I won't get home until 1am tonight and the laundromat closes at midnight.

This kind of madness gets extremely aggravating on Sundays because by the time i wake up everything is closing within two or three hours so I can never utilize those days to their full potential.

Ideally I want to be going to sleep at 2-3am and waking up at 10 or 10:30am. I keep setting my alarm for these times, but I just hit snooze without even thinking about it every time until it eventually turns off altogether.

Help! How do I fix this!

_(link)

Hiya!
uh... That was a lot to keep track there. haha XD
But I think I can help. What you need to do is simple. What I do when I got a lot of papers due at a certain date, I dont wait. I do it all as soon as I get it. Because I know that if I do it on the last day, it will be rushed, sloppy, and stressful. Get what you need to do done soon as possible. And then right after, you can relax a bit.
Now for your sleeping problem. Living on this kind of schedule is very dangerous. A human needs 7 hours of sleep, no more or no less. Because if this continues there are consequences that develop, like depression, hunger, drowsiness. One day of little to no sleep raises your blood pressure. If this continues, it can cause heart problems which then could lead to death.
So this is what I prescribe to you, go to sleep eight hours before the time you do get up. You need a few hours of actual sleep to stay healthy. So get the amount of sleep needed, then slowly go up in your times so you can wake up at a more reasonable time.
I hope I helped. Sweet dreams!
-Dr.D

I have been cutting now for a while. Before you start hate typing please finish reading. I have had a series of my mothers boyfriends be abusive to me and my siblings since our dad left when I was about five (14 now) I have been moved all over the country several times for my mothers countless lovers and cutting seems like the only thing I have control over. But now it is getting a bit out of control any ideas on how to stop would be helpful. _(link)

Hey! Dont worry, Doctors on the case! cutting issue, aye? I can tell you one thing. your life is valuable, you shouldn't inflict harm to yourself. A friend of mine got caught cutting and now she has to therapy every three days a week, all her sharp items in her house have been confiscated, and even when doing her work, she cannot have a pencil after her working hours. trust me. Its not the way to go with your struggles.
Their are other ways to get out your inner pain, I personally like to punch punching bags. Another way is crying(i dont know if it works but it might). or enjoy a hobby you do, like drawing, singing.
I know life is difficult. But we all can get through it, we are here for each other. If you want more advice, go ahead and message me back. I'll be here to help. :-)
-Dr.D

16/f
Me and my bestfriend have been bestfriends since we were 13. My best friend was bulimic when we were 13 qnd didnt really eat much. She was a model so she had high self esteem problems. We dont live in the same city anymore but im here now on vacation and she eats alot more now. But i know that bulimics eat a lot and then vomit it. So far everytime weve eaten shes gone to the bathroom straight aftereven if she just went before we ate but she says she just pees alot. How can i know if shes bulimic if i dont live in same city? How can i find out? _(link)

Hey! That is a great question. But really its a long long list of signs that can show you have Bulimia. But here, go to this website. It will show you what your looking for:
http://www.bulimia.com/topics/bulimia/
Good luck!
-Dr.D

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