I have been single for 10 months because my past relationship was with a guy I truely loved but he wasnt willing to devote himself to atleast calling me once a day to talk to me.
I have found this guy that I really like and He recently told me he liked me to. hes really nice, and not like most of the other guys i know. He is rude, he doesnt party much and hes not like most of the guys ive dated. I really like him but for some reason I get really shy around him (which isnt normal). The only thing Im afraid of is that Im going to push him away Like i do with alot of guys and i dont want to do that.
I think i push guys away when the treat me well but i dont understand why.
my question is. How do I try to losten up around him so that he knows i like him and so maybe we could move further and start dating. And how do I not push him away when this starts to happen?
Please help!
You need to be confident, and not think about your ex boyfreind, which i think is one of your problems. even if yopu dont think it is, it might be a sub-concious problem. anyways, just pretend you dont like him more than a freind and act around him like you would if he wasnt the guy you really really liked. When you feel yourself putting a wall up or push him away, open up and dont bottle anything up. let it all out
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hey silent whispers,
i like this boy and hes a total nut. hes so conservative and he's basically crazy and such. I am a total liberal and our views are so differant but i love his perosnality and his music interests and what he looks like.
what should i do?
love,
politcally confused
i dont think you should even try because it will end quickly. why? because you will get in tons of fights over the stupidest sh*t and you both witll get sick of eachothyer and want to hit eachother in the face after like 4 minutes.
are you still looking what to do?
nothing, you should not try with him
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14/F
Hey. I moved in my house like 7months ago and wen i moved in this street i saw these two guys that lived like 3 houses down. My mom is very strict so i couldnt talk to either one of them [[they are brothers]]. then about a month ago, when my mom wasnt home i had the guts to go up to them and talk to them. It lasted like 5min but we exchanged each others myspaces and we started to talk on there, and i found out they both had girlfriends because it was all over their myspace.and then after talking to them for a couple of weeks...i began to have feelings for the younger one. The older one is going off to college and has been with his girlfriend for 3 years so im not gonna go ther. But today was the younger ones one month anniversary with his girlfriend. but what really sucks is that i met them 3 days after the younger one started going out with his girlfriend. He's supposidely in love with her. but i dnt believe you can be in love after going out for a month. He flirts with me and i flirt back but i dont know if i should make a move because he has a girlfriend. My best friend told me i shouldnt because karmas gonna come back and bite me in the butt. but to tell you the truth, i think shes only saying that bcuz i think she kind of likes him too...he rated me a 8.5 based on looks and i guess thats good. My best friends birthday is next week and hes invited and he's bringing some of his friend with him. I dont know if i should dance with him and make a bold move or if i should just go for one of his friends :/ im tired of being single and i really like him and i feel that we could last a long time together but i dont want to ruin a relationship. What should i do?
i really believe you should deffinitly wait until he doesnt have a girlfriend. You dont want to be known as the boyfreind stealer, and you dont want him to cheat on her because you will be called "a whore" or a "slut" all the time by everyone. I'd wait it out or find someone else.theres other fish in the sea.
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I've been dating this guy for 3 months. The first day I met him, I already knew he just broke up with his ex. I don't think I was that interested in the beginning, but he somehow grows on me.
The other night, he was in a bad mood and all the sudden telling he's not over the ex yet. I think back to my head, I knew that the whole time when we are dating. (come on, who can honestly to say they get over the ex in a month?) However, my feeling still hurts, hurts even more than I thought would be.
I want to tell him how I feel, but if I did, I know I would never talk to him again. This will be over. (which I don't want to.......)
What should I do?
I would tell him how you feel regarding him loving his Ex still. it isnt fair for you to be lead on by him. You might be thinking that the relationship is going to go far but he might think that hes just with you to cope with the pain. He might not get over her for a while, and you dont have to deal with him. He is obviously not over her, and you cant love someone else and still be in a relationship, because as your relationship progresses,maybe for a year, what if he still lovesher and she wants to get back with him, he might end things with you to get back with her. that would be harder to do then breaking it off now. Stay freinds with him and maybe one day, he might like you more than his ex..
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I was just watching the new episode of the hills and heidi gives spencer a second chance to proove himself and to build a trust. shes been going out with him for more than a few months..well
ive been going with my boyfriend for 5 months and hes been flirting with my ex best friend (from middle school) for about 2 months and me and her just became friends again, so she decided to tell me that hes a scum bag. so then i caught him flirting with this girl in school whos know for being 'easy'. and he denies he said anything sexual, but she even told me he was saying that he wants to see her on girls gone wild and for her to strip for him. I really really love him, but watching the hills made me see me and heidi are in the same prediciment, *except her boyfriend you can tell is a scumbag, my boyfriend is really nice...* but she gave him a second chance, but i want to know, should i give him a second chance. we've been not together for 2 weeks, and he really wants to get back with me, espiecally before feb. vacation...Should i give him another chance, or should i go on and find another boyfriend, maybe not as nice or cute, but one that doesnt flirt with others...I'm sooo confused!
deff. dont stay with him. he will break your heart. hes done it once, what will stop him from doing it again. I watch the hills, and i HATE spencer, hate him... getting back together with him was the worst mistake, so if you want to look foolish like she does,than fine do it, but if you want to make a good decision, than dump him...
my theory: 1 person says hes a cheater/scumbag than he might be, a little yellow warning flag. 2 people do, than thats a red flag, dont get with him anymore. Probably his ex girlfriends would say the same.
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okay so there are these 2 boys. They are best friends and they both like me, and i like them both too. but i don't no what to do? which one do i choose? one of them is soo sweet and everything but the other one kind of has that "bad boy" ish ..something about him and the way he flirts..
i don't no what to do, but like ughh this is really confusing.please help
'bad boys' are called bad boys because they break girls hearts, badly. get to know both of them first though, the 'bad boy' might really just have the image but not the personality. Ask the right questions..besides, i dont think you you wanna be writing an advice question on this site a week later saying a guy broke your heart and you regret dating him and not dating his freind...
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okay so well there this guy i really like. and then i found out one of my close friend likes him too. [she didnt tell me though]. and now she wants him to be her valentine. should i just give up on him or what?
-Tasha
are you even supposed to know she likes him. if not, then dont give up, whoeever he wants more, he will go for. and besides, he might not want either of you, and thats the harsh reality of it. so dont give up on being freinds since in the end he might not want either of you gals.
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ok 18/m
shes 17
going out 4 months
then she tells me she loves her x
we break up
2 days later she comes back cryin sayin she made a mistake blah blah blah
wants me back blah blah blah
doesnt want him or ne1 else blah blah blah
i ask her if she has even kissed any1 else. she says no
i say ok
we get back together
Then i find out through trusty lil myspace that in those 2 days she fucked a 20 year old and lied about it.
Confronted her. She admited it. Shes crying over it. Shes givin me all the "im so disgusted in myself, i hate myself for it blah blah blah"
i cant take this pain anymore, every time i look at her i break down cuz i picture her and him.
But i also cant walk away from her. I love her.
And i also cant go on a break with her, becuase im to afraid of what she will do if shes not with me cuz i cant trust her whatsoever anymore. HELP
you cannot possibly be in a relationship where there is not trust and honesty in both sides of the relationship. I just talked about healthy relationships vs. bad ones today in health...last block, and your relationship does not seem that healthy. Also it seems she just wants a 'friend', if you know what i mean..
If she wants her Ex and breaks up with you for him, then its her problem, not yours, you dont need to get hurt by her again. What if she decides that she likes the 20 yr old. she could end up hurting you again. I would break it off before it gets more serious.
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we went out for a year and a half and he cheated on me with some other girl then he cheated on her with me and told me we were gonna get back together.. we had sex and everything and he told me he loved me then out of nowhere he told me he doesnt think our relationship is gonna work out and told me he doesnt want to see me anymore. i told him i didnt wanna talk to him anymore because theres no reason because ill just keep falling in love with him and never get over him. the problem is he wont stop calling.. and he calls from private numbers. and he tries to be my friend! i dont get it does he still love me?
He's using you for sure. He knows that you will basically do anything with him to get back with him. He is probably manipulating you and using you for the times when he cant get a date.
i would tell him to stop once and for all and that you have no feelings for him whatsoever.
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Age- 15
Gender-Female
okayy well i went out with this guy for like almost 4 months, and then i found out that he smoked and lied to me about it, so the next day, i broke up with him. and i really dont even know if it was because of that, or if it was because i didnt like him like that anymore. because i did go out w/ him before i knew even if i liked him because everyone was like "just do it!" so i did..and it was good for a while.. and then i just wasnt happy anymore.. and found out about that smoking stuff.. so i broke up with him. and he still really likes me. and tried so hard to get back with me for like a month. and then he basically just pretty much stopped because i said no. and blah blah he was all like i still like you.. but then a couple days later.. he goes and almost makes out with a girl..and i got pissed. beause i mean, how can you say you like someone, then go and almost makeout with someone? and hang out with girls like every night? and i defintiely asked him about it, and he was like " well if im with other girls do you really think im going to be thinking about you? its just to get my mind off you" blah blah. so yeah i really dont know what to do, because i think if i got back together with him it'd be for the wrong reasons like..just to have someone there ya know and knowning someone cares about you and just things like that.. so yeah i really dont know what to do and i guess if i wait to long.. he'll be like over me. even though he said he wont. but i mean, you probably think hes an asshole, but thats the crazy thing. usually hes really sweet, but hes like bi-polar or something! i dont know what to do!
please help! =[
IM SORRY THIS IS SO LONG! =[
he's not bi polar. bi-polar affects mood+thoughts. not actions. he may be sweet, but there are millions of sweet guys, who are pigs. he just doesnt want to have a free friday night. most guys are like that at this age.
basically all guys in my school do the same thing, but im one of those girls who is picky and doesn't take anything from anyone, so if i was in your situation, i would not go out with anyone who basically will cheat behind my back, and who doesnt keep his word. the quote 'theres other fish in the sea' applies here. use it =]
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I'm a fifteen year old girl and I have been together with my boyfriend for almost three months. I love him and he is just about perfect. But sometimes, I just want to act out for attention when I'm with him. I don't know why I do it, but I just feel myself starting to throw a fit sometimes and then it is hard to stop. I feel like it is making a strain on our relationship, and I want to know what you think I could do to stop. Thanks.
before you start making a fit of things, tell yourself "this last hissy fit could be the last with him. so let me not do it' because most guys, DO NOT like girls who start things or call too much attention to themselves, unless its good attention like winning something, or doing well on something. or keep something of his in your pocket when you go out (like a chain of his or his picture), so when you feel like your going to explode and yell or whatev. you can take it out and remember guys dont like when girls throw fits or fight with other people, or complain.
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i'm 15 and in highschool. my boyfriend of about 10 months is 18.
he's graduating this year and going off to college.
now i know this sounds stupid because so many young people say, "i'm in love" and don't even know what it means, but i really really really see myself with this guy in the future.
the only problem is i don't know if i'll be able to handle him going to college and then into the air gaurd and possibly off to iraq for 2 years.
do you think i should break it off before i fall deeper...or keep trying?
do you think you are totally in love? because me? i dont believe in true love yet, because i mean, everyone of my freinds have boyfriends and they are like 'love youuu' and then the next day they arent even toegether,
have you ever been in a long distance relationship, i have, and they are/arent fun. i hate not being able to see them, but the anticipation of those '4 days until i see him' days are a dream. because it just repairs all the sadness that you felt for so long.
i would like to help you alot on this but i cant. i dont want to say yes break up, nor say no dont. you have to do what your gut tells you. i dont wantt to end up telling you one answer, and then you regretting it.
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F/16
One of my guy friends REALLY likes me. I know this because he talked to my best friend about it. Anyway, he really likes me, but he seems obsessed and i don't know if i REALLY like him like that, and we have kinda been flirting. How can I tell if i really like him like that and if i should let this continue or not?
if your not comfortable, then heckkkkk no. never let a guys liking for you take over your thoughts about him or your comfort zone. a boy i became best freinds with last year told my best freind at the time that he wants me and wants to have sex with me and all, and i wasnt comfortable with that so i started giving him signs that i was pissed off that he liked me like that and said those things, so i ignored him, and when he talked to me id give him alittle additude, my friend later told him that i was made that he said he wanted to have sex with me and that he liked me. so maybe you could do something like that.
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I'm 13 and i'm a girl. i like this one boy in my grade. Everyone thinks that he is, well, weird because he has big ears. My friends think the same and i don't know if i should tell them i like him or not. I think he's really sweet because he's always nice to me and to none of the other girls. some of my friends even think that he likes me. Should i tell him and my friends that i like him or should i keep it to myself?
well...i dont think its right to judge someone on ears. my ears are big, well im not like ugly, but he doesnt really seem ugly. but like i would get a little defensive when they make fun of him, tell them that hes sweet and that he never did anything to them. and not to make fun of him. they will probably get the hint. but if they continue, it means they are basically not listening to you. so then i think it would be good to tell them that you sorta have a crush on him. a good time would be like at a sleep over or when your all hanging out.
don't bring it up randomly like 'OMG I LIKE...', maybe when they are talking about guys they like or embarrising times when they liked someone, well embarrising. you can say you liked _______, and if they ask when, say 'i do ... now'.
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I'm a 14 year old female and I've been dating a boy for about 4 months now. And I really like him. But my best friend in the whole world whoes like a sister to me keeps hitting on him and flirting with him in front of my face. I really want to keep my realtionship with this boy but cant if my best friend is going to be doing this. So what do I do?
There are a few things id need to know first. does he flirt back? have you confronted him? her? and do you think shes hitting on him intentionally, or is she just being friendly.
but id deffinitly confront her, like ask her like
"heyy, are you flirting with him" and if she denies *which most likley she will* tell her something like "why are you being overly freindly to him. i mean hes my boyfriend and your my best friend and all."
and then you can talk to your BF about it too. i mean if you cant talk to him or your bestfreind about anything, than what would the point of having one. you know.
and then take it from there
dont yell at your friend or call her any names or anything. because that will just make it worse. trust mee. its happened to me before.
good luck.
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i am having a party this saturday and my ex (whom i am in love with lol) is going to be there. and i was just looking for some tips on what i can do to make him want me back. i really care about him and i really want to get him back and i know he cares about me but i really want to try to get him back.
15/f
during a song with some of your freinds with you, go towards him and start dancing, not necessarily like 'on him' or noticable, but dance near him that he'll probably be like 'dannnggggggg'. and then if you feel he's watching you, start dancing alittle closer to him and maybe, just maybe, he will make some sorta move.
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i am a fifteen year old female. the boy i have been making out with recently wants to step up our relationship. he wants to finger me which i am totally ready for and excited for. the only concern is that i have a lot of pubic hair, so i wonder if he will be grossed out. should i shave it for him? Thanks.
i wouldnt use a razor because razors cause pumps, but you should use maybe nair or something that will get it off, other than shaving, since it will create stubble and bumps.
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