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Q: In the last 15 months since my bf has been with his gf, he has poured out his feelings for me, came over, talked smart about wanting to "do me", mentioned dumping his gf 5 months into their relationship, wanted me to call him, wanted me to come to his work, ditched the 1 he so-called "loves" to hang out with me, and wanted to have sex with me.
The night we hung out(him and his gf were broken up at the time) he begged me to let him "stick it in". I said no to him, and he kept asking like 4 more times after. I just kept saying NO. We both said that we still loved 1 another.
The next night he tells me that he went to his (ex's)at midnight-3am to "talk" and then he said he fell asleep. (imagine that)
We went out for lunch the next day (i owed him) then i didnt hear from him anymore after that. I finally contacted him 5 days later, and he tells me that i made him realize just how much he loves "her".
So i try talking online to him and i can tell that hes just not the same as he was days earlier.
I kept asking why he wanted to have sex with me sooo bad, and he says he didnt! He says that he just wanted to see if ive changed, and if i was easy. I told him that wasnt true because he kept asking me to do it, and he kept talking about it days be4. He keeps saying that he was just testing me, and that he wouldnt have done it if i would have said yes!
Everything that he has done, he has given me gay reasons for why he did/said it. He says he told me all those things because im so gullable and that he really didnt mean them. He told me he came over because he just wanted to talk to my dad.
Then after that night he begged me to do it, he tells me "sorry things didnt work out for you, i know you have feelings for me, but its just not gonna work out for us"!
Im not the 1 whos made any of the moves here, HE HAS! So why does he throw all this in MY face acting like im the 1 that was trying so hard to get him back or something?
Im not the type of girl to have sex, especially with some1 that i still have feelings for just so he could hurt me even more by running back to his little ho!
(We did everything, just not intercourse).
The girl hes with now had a bf at the time him and her had sex(their 2nd night) he never hung out with her be4 that, and barely knew her.(shes a 15 year old nympho, started when she was 13)
He never wanted anything to do with girls like that until he got in her pants. Then he would brag to me on how long they did it and what they did.
How could he have the guts to say everything and do everything hes done to me, without any heart feelings whatsoever?
What exactly were his intentions?
I rate 5s for sensible and logical answers.
I would love to have the guys opinions, so i can understand what goes on in their twisted little minds!!
Thanks!
hey
alright well i read that and this guy sounds like a major asshole. and seriously no guy would be like oh if you woulda said yes to lettming me stick it in i wouldnt have. maybe he liked you, but no matter how much it hurts i think he was just trying to use you and try and get over his ex. this has happend to me before and it sux i kno =( but you gotta get over this ass and find someone wayy better and when he comes running back to you shove it in his face because no one deserves that.

screw him let him go hang out with that slutty girl

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Q: ok. well im a girl. im 14. and i wanna know how do you know when your bi, because...i think i am. cause i like girls and guys. but i dont know. cause i like guys a lil more. but im craving to make out with a girl. cause i never have. and anyways. please help me!!
hey. maybe you just want to hook up with girls and not date them. am i right? because the idea of it would be fun.. lol yeah i think a lot of people go through that stage so just expierement with other girls and have fun!! xoxo

Q: I met this guy alex a couple days ago. He flirted with me almost the whole night then 3 days ago i went to a party and we made out. He said he would call em afterwards but he never did. I dont know his number or sn . I dont know how to get him to liek me becasue im pretty interested. DO u think he just wanted ass?
well, he might have just wanted ass. give it a little time and maybe he will call you to hang out again.. if he does dont do anything farther because you dont wanna be used..i had that situation one time and i ended up going out with the guy so hey it could happen to you! if not move on and find someone better ♥

Q: Hey,

Actually I have two problems...1) I still like my ex-boyfriend and Im not sure if he likes me. Some of my freinds say he does, and I dont want to ask him because I might get hurt and then he might not want to hang out anymore. But I dont want to loose my chance. What should i do?

2) Whever Im around the guy I like, my friend feels left out. And I dont like them to feel that way. But he really doesnt like him that much, so I cant get them to hang out. What should i do?

thanks so much
1) i think you should wait and see what happens with your ex, if you really really like him still.. ask around.. and if you guys are talking still you should be like 'so who do you like these days' or something like that. if not, then you should explore and stuff with that new guy you like. give him a chance and see how it goes from there :)

2) have them both at a party! or a big group of people that you can all hang out with so they get to know each other more. and tell him how you feel and you really dont want him feeling like that and you'll try not to do it. maybe you could find your frienda girl that he could like, and he'll want to ang out with her too (i think there both guys because you said him) hope i helped.. please rate!

Q: can anyone tell me what the appropriate amount of time would be until i should start dating again? there's this guy i really like.. but me and my bf just broke up today and we'd been going out since october 30, 05. please help! how long should i wait?
anytime you feel you are ready to take the next step go for it and dont hold back!

Q: What's it like to make out with someone? Because my boyfriend said he wants to make out with me. We've never kissed so is that all he means? I guess this is kind of a stupid question but please anser anyways.
hey hun, thats not a stupid question when you get in the heat of the moment, just let it happen and trust me you wont do it bad unless you are viciously moving your tounge lol... it jus kinda happens naturally and you feel lke you know like how to do it. start kissing then if he starts to open his mouth then open urs but not too wide and wait for the tounge lol hope i helped

Q: Alright .. well word is that my boyfriend is cheating on me.. whenever i ask him about it of coarse he gets defensive and ends up mad at me for even thinkin it...but whatever he's a guy.. i've heard this alot but now it's just pushing me over the edge... i like him alot but im starting to wonder if its worth it.. he isn't at school toda and last night his mom called my house looking for him...i like him and this is like half of all the drama going on ... what would you guys do?! i'm not willing to break up with him so something other than that...
are u FORSURE hes cheated on you? well what i would do, i would break up with him because if he was being gay like that you deserve wayyy better and no one deserves to be treated like that.. but, since u dont wanna do that you could be like hey you tell me the ful out truth and if its not the truth were done and see what he says... if hes a jerk about it then i dont think you should be with him because guys arent worth it if theyre assholes. theyre are plenty of other guys out there uve proly heard it before but theree is.. hope i helped if you have any more questions just ask!

Q: I have no clue what to get my girlfriend for christmas. I don't want to get her makeup or cosmetics because i know nothing about that stuff, and I don't want to get her clothes because I don't know if she'd like it or what her size is. So with that said, what are some gift ideas that girls like?
you could stick with the old teddy bear that says i love you and chocolates :-) or get her a somewhat expensive neckalce/ jewlery

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