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My name is Sam. Im 15 years young and yes i do enjoy giving people advice. No im not afraid to ask for advice for myself because i have and i will. I'm not going to lie to you about something when im answering your questions or giving advice. I'm going to tell you straight up the truth about how i feel. But if i offend anyone or hurt your feelings just tell me and i will appologize. I do have a life other than this and please don't expect me to be on 24/7, cuz i probably wont be.
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16/f.
alright well ive liked this guy brad since my homecoming after party. well i wouldnt ever see him except at partys and he was always really nice to me. at the last hotel party in november he was all nice to me and we cuddled and made out. well me & him are friends kinda now. but he isnt as nice as i thought he was. he hooks up with all kinds of chicks in front of me but when i hook up with a guy he sits there and makes fun of me. he will repeat the name over and over and he always calls me names like a bitch and a whore and stuff. i know hes playing around it just bugs me because i like him. he will always say stuff like "i know your jealous you cant have my body" and he always winks at me and stuff from across the room. he will come up and poke me and turn the other way.. second grade stuff. when he hooks up with other chicks and makes out with them he is like all about sex and shit. before with me.. he was the nicest guy. i know he liked me before. there were all the signs like him staring at me all the time and flirting with me and he would call me for stupid stuff like asking if i wore contacts because he lost his. but now that i got to know him better i dont know if he still does. it was just that he acted different with me then i see him act with different girls. me and him constenantly fight. my friend keeps saying that she thinks he likes me but i just dont know. at a party the other night me and him were arguing and she was like "will you guys admit that you like each other" and i just stopped talking and brad was like "what'd you say? what are you talking about?" so do you think that he likes me back?
guys have very stupid ways of flirting. some being calling you stupid names and making fun of you. he wants to make you jealous by hooking up with other girls infront of you but if you do he gets mad and shit. hes a typical guy. He got to makeout with you and stuff and now he thinks that hes got you. Guys change all the time when it comes to girls. I went out with a guyfor like 6 months and he was the greatest guy ever then we broke up and i realized that he really isnt that great of a guy. Honestly i think he has feelings for you but either doesnt want to admit it to himself and to you or he knows he has feelings for you and that is he stupid way of getting your attention. We all think guys grow up and mature but really some of their ways of flirting are definately kindergarden-ishh :] lol :] hope i helped oxxx Sam
alright so there is this boy in my life who i am maddly in love with and ive been dating him for a month on todays date. Well the other day i met this other guy who kept layin on the pick up lines realy strong corney i know. But he told me i had real pretty eyes which i guess flattered me because i started getting all excited when i found out he was talkin to all his friends about how hot i am. Well me and my friend are going to hang out with this guy i met at the mall this weekend. Do you think this is the best idea?
honestly i dont think it's the best idea. i mean im not going to tell you not to go hang out with him but does your boyfriend know about this? does he know that you are going to go hang out with this guy? if he doesnt then why didnt u tell him? maybe you should ask your boyfriend how he would feel or ask your boyfriend to go with you while you are hanging out with him so that atleast you have him there to remind you of what you love.
- ive been in a similiar situation before and i ended up breakin up wit my boyfriend to go out with the other guy and it totally wasnt worth it. and i hurt the guy i loved and a guy that liked me as well as myself in doing that. so just think about what you are doing before you do it and i know that its nice to get compliments but if you really love this guy then tell him what you just told me. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam
Okay, I'll cut right to the chase. I've had this best friend for like over a year and a half now and lately i just can't stop thinking about her. Like when I'm all alone I'll even go on her mypsace and just stare at her pictures for hours. I'm beginning to think I've developed more of just a close friendship with her. I don't know why though. Like when I'm around her I get butterflies and I a have urges to hold her hand. Is there a possibilitiy that I could be a lesbian? WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
from: "confusedd&abused"
well if you are lesbian there is nothing wrong with that. but i wouldnt suggest holding ur friends hand if your friend isnt lesbian or bisexual, she might freak out and not want to talk to you anymore. If you are attracted to your friend in a way that is more than just wanting a friendship you should #1 think about the fact that she might not feel the same way. #2 - she might not want to think about you having feelings for her that way. Some people dont want to hang around with people that make them feel uncomfortable. but if you two are truely friends then tell her how your feeling and hope for the best. If she stops talking to you for any of these reasons then she wasnt your true friend to begin with. but it is natural to want to experiment as a teenager. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam
I've been talking to my exboyfriend a lot lately. I made a vow not to fall for him but, I think I am! I want to talk to him and he's so funny. I tried staying away from him but it made me relieve I can't stand being without him or talking to him. He's one of my best friends and I've known him my whole life. He's a big part of my life. What should I do?
-dying slowly wihtout him...
well "dying slowly without him..." my advice to you is ... you cant stop yourself from falling for someone. its not possible. TRUST ME. i know. ive tried to stop myself from falling for someone and i ended up falling harder. loves hard and it makes you do stupid things. try talking to him about how you feel. if you cant stand being away from him, dont be away from him. i could tell you to just forget him but heyy, its not as easy to forget people as we may think it is.
- take me for example. im sitting here completely upset because my ex "coughskaterhomiecough" :] is being a complete jackass to me. and says he wants me to leave him alone. and i hate him right now but on the other hand im completely in love wit him and i dont know wat to do... but thats a different story.
- if you care about him that much. be wit him. or dont. if he doesnt like u or something. i dont know. move on. shit happens. move on. :]
i think i totally screwed up my friendship with my ex. [i yelled at him and called him by his fullname (which is REALLY bad)] i think i might still ahve feelings with him. im not sure. but i still wanna be friends with him but he wont even talk to me! wht shld i do?!?!
~heartbroken~
Appologize. But honestly if you had a good reason to be mad and yell at him then he deserved it. It's understandable to still have feelings for an ex. I still do. But if you're not sure i think that this may help you see that you do. If you are this upset over him being mad then you do still have feelings for him. but seriously appologize. tell him that you're sorry and that you didnt mean to hurt him, and tell him how you feel. if hes really your friend he will understand. :] oxxx Sam
So, there's this guy. I thought I really liked him, but I heard all this stuff. He likes other girls, other girls like him-thats the stuff I heard. I don't think that I can compete with those other girls and I don't know if I should give up. I'm always thinking though, even if he did like me I don't know if I'd want to be in a relationship or anything with him. I think I still care about my ex. Not like I would want to date him either, but it's almost like I don't really 'want' either of them but I can't pick which one to like. help!
i think you seriously need to sit down alone and think about if you truely have feelings for this guy. i kno ive felt the same way about a guy before and it relle sucked cuz i heard that he liked other girls and other girls liked him too. but sometimes you just have to forget wat other people are saying and do what your heart wants you to do. and its natural to still care about or have feelings for your ex. i kno i still do but i dont want to date him either but i still care about him. its what happens when you care about someone or love someone, you cant just make those feelings go away.
everyone doubts themselves when it comes to guys. "those" girls probably are nothing compared to you. if your friends with this guy talk to him. find out the truth from him. not from other people. find out the facts from him. if your not get to know him. it will make everything muchh easier.
and maybe you do like this guy but not enough to date him. get to know him better. and then make your decision. maybe you still have feelings for your ex and your afraid to start liking someone else. loves tough.
but you always need to remember that confidence is key. i think you might need to stop thinking about this so much and just see what happens. your heart wont lie to you about how you feel. if hes right for you. you'll know. hope i helped :] oxxx Sam
ok. there's this guy and he always flirts with me. we're friends but idk if i like him and all. or if he even likes me. wht shld i do?
well you first of all need to think about if you honestly have feelings for this guy at all. because theres no point in stressing about a guy if you dont like him. and if he flirts with you then maybe he does like you, but you need to talk to him about it. because im obviously not him so yeahh. but dont go straight out and be like do you like me. find a way to hint at what you're tryin to ask him. and if you're friends you need to think about possibly changing a friendship because of this. :\ hope i helped :] oxxx Sam
okay, so theres this kid alex who ive liked since 6th grade. now, i still go on and off about liking him. i think he likes me but its really hard to tell. he is the type of boy who is into alot of girls at once. anyway, so when i hang out w. him its always fun. and i like him but idont know what ppl would say. ah! i dont know what to do.
plz help=]
f/13
i know a guy just like that. its very hard to tell if he really likes you or not because he's always trying to flirt with another girl. but if you have fun with him and you like him then you shouldn't care what other people think. If you're happy then they should be happy for you. and since you're not sure if he has feelings for you ask him about it. or maybe have a friend talk to him for you. it can't hurt to ask. if your friends then you should stay friends even if he doesnt have feelings for you. but definately find a way to communicate what you said to me with him. I'm sure he'll be happy to know how you feel :] hope i helpedd
Ill cut it short.
I love him.
We dont talk anymore , we used to be really good friends.
We had sex and all that stuff .
He has a girlfriend, they have a horrible relationship.
He stares at me at lunch.
Why why why?
ps, we dont talk alot anymore becuase we dont live as close anymore and a few other reasons.
he still has feelings for you which is why he stares at you. he might just be afraid to make a move and he might not know that you have feelings for him. so maybe you should make the first move and try talking to him . Maybe tell him how you feel :] hope i helped. dont hesitate asking me for advice oxxx Sam
14/f
okay well i like this guy and he is really great funny, smart, and way cute.but i found that he was 11 turning 12. one i am an eigth grader and he is a seventh.what do i do i want to talk and flirt with him but what is stopping me is that he is 11. he doesnt look 11 he looks 13.
age is only a number. you shouldnt worry about how old he is. Yeah right now you being 14 and him being only 11 seems like a big deal. But you shouldnt let that stop you from talking and flirting with him even if you dont start a relationship. if you thinks hes all those things and more then you should just accept that hes that old and try to be happy and flirt with him. hope i helped :] oxxx Sam
My ex & I speak once in awhile. I'll be great for a few weeks, getting over him and not contacting him, but then he'll call me out of nowhere. We'll catch up, laugh about our memories together, and he slips in a few i miss yous. Then, he won't call for another few weeks. He hurt me badly but hearing his voice feels amazing. What am I supposed to do? The minute I feel like I'm moving on, it's like subconciously he knows and brings me right back to where I started. Do I tell him how I feel or will that sound pathetic? I feel like saying I want it all or nothing at all, but I don't want to lose him completely.
I know what that's like. i have an ex who is the exact same way. The question you need to ask yourself is do you still love him enough to possibly go through more hurt and pain? Ofcourse you dont want to lose him completely. Nobody wants to lose somebody they love. But guys do stuff like that. My ex literally did the exact same thing. I'd start getting over him and I'd be soo happy then he'd call and act like everything was great and i'd fall all over again. It sucks. He may still have feelings for you but not enough to be with you again. you need to make a decision do you really want the possibility of getting hurt again? :] hope i helped oxxx Sam
14/m
a pretty good friend of mine told me she loved me last year and kinda asked me out. i told her it would be better if we were just really good friends and she said ok its cool. now im almost positive she moved on because at school dances and stuff shes dancing with other guys and flirting with other guys and she never used to do that when she liked me. but now i realized i have feelings for her and i wish i would've given her a chance. i just don't know what to do. i really really like her. any advice? like anything im so desperate.
You should try talking to her. Ask her how she feels about you now. It can't hurt to find out if she still has feelings for you, because girls sometimes use other guys and flirting as a way to try and make you think that they don't like you anymore. Maybe she still does "love" you. You'll never know unless you ask her :]
its been 3 months since me and my ex-boyfriend have broken up...long time...and i already found a guy that i really, really like....but i still have feelings for my ex.....its not just strong feeling, their just feeling.....how do i deal with or try to get over it...how did you get over it??..please help...thanx :)
You can't just make feelings go away. There's really no exact methods to get over a guy. I know i went out with a guy for over 5 months and then we broke up and it took me over 5 months to get over him, and i've had other boyfriends. But having feelings for your ex is natural. Ofcourse your still going to have feelings for someone you cared about, and if you found a new guy be with him and be happy dont let your feelings for your ex get in the way of your new found guy interest. :] hope i helped