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ok this is probably the dumbest question you'll ever come across but i can't help wondering and i am sure other women have been wondering too...
so i watched "p.s: i love you" right.... and me and my gals fell head over heals for the dead husband dude and were arguing whether he's just a conjured ideal fantasy or if men like that truly exist. not to sound like a pessimist... all the men in my family are chauvinistic bastards who believe that if their girlfriends or wives or whatever get raped they'll be too disgusted to touch her again... (i know boohoo for me lol) and most of the men i know if not all have cheated in some way or another (even without actually committing the dead) on their lovers.. so thats something i am convinced, or even more so, believe is an unchangeable fact about the nature of men... but hey it doesn't necessarily mean they are bad or that i am a man hater..... anyway i know not all men are like my family men coz my boyfriends are sweet hearts... but the latter is true (about the cheating)....thing is i am not convinced that perfection exist and frankly that guy was perfect in every way... i mean even his flaws make him perfect. so i argued for fantasy...
a friend of mine told me something that i feel too uncomfortable to say again that made me think of the possibilities .... do men like jerry exist???? seriously... what man still loves a women who throws shoes at his face and yells at him every single minute of their presence together?
please give me ammo to slap her back to earth!
Oh my, I saw that yesterday and yes, he is my new fantasy husband. First of all, you have to realize that this is a MOVIE we're talking about. But yes, there are many men like that out there; and you don't really know if she did that all the time. All relationships are meant to have arguments (especially since Gerry and Holly had been married for 9 years). Perfection is in the eye of the beholder, therefore, YOU may think Gerry was perfect... depending on what "perfect" really means to you. I'm sorry for what you have perceived of all men due to the men in your family, but all human beings (including men! lol) are different in many ways. In conclusion, the character of "Gerry" was pretty much meant to portray all the different characteristics in a typical man... and keep in mind that this is a chick flick. But hey, EVERYTHING is possible, so don't put yourself down, and frankly, you should truly believe that there is that PERFECT man out there waiting for you & that you'll be his perfect woman.
:]
xoxo,
L!
Okay so I had NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend of almost a year for Christmas. But he's really religious, so i got him a little $10 woven braclet with a cross (its not girly, or anything. haha). But, he keeps dropping hints that he's getting me some really expensive jewelry. Should i get him something more?
My dad said guys dont take that personally. They just think its the thought that counts, and he wont mind at all. But, I still feel really bad about it. Do you think i should spend a little more?
thank you for ANY help.
xoxo. (:
ps. he's not materialistic at ALLLL. just fyi.
Ok, well, I think what you got him is very thoughtful- I believe he'll take into consideration that you remembered that he's a religious person.
I don't think you should worry about spending more $$$. You should maybe try making him a nice scrapbook. Or, a tiny book about all of you "Remember the time we..." moments. That's just pretty much a little notebook of cute moments you shared together. And to top it off, write a card. A warm, heartfelt, sincere card. Since he's not materialistic, I believe he'll adore any of these gifts PLUS the bracelet you got him.
Good Luck!
Happy Holidays!
xx
L.
for a while now ive been planning to break up with my man but ive never gotten the courage to do so , and today i wish i had cuz this black guy, cameron came up to me and was like so are you single, and i had to tell him no cauz my boyfriend just walked up beside me, adn cameron was like oh then he yelled across the room "sorry man but she's taken!" i tried to se who it was but everyone had turned in our direction since he yelled! i really want to find out who it was cauz hello camerons only freind are black and ive just wanted to know what its like dating a black guy! how do i break up with my bf with out him thinking i dumped him for my mysterious black guy!?!
Ok so first of all stop calling Cameron "the black guy". The color of your skin shouldn't distinct who a person is, but I should be a part of them. If you're not fully committed to your bf, then break up with him, but if yur only dating him because he's African American, that's messed up.
so i was at starbucks today and the barista is really cute and i go there a lot and we chat and today he was telling me how it was slow there that day and he was doing a crossword puzzle and was asking me for help w/ some of the answers. so next time i go i wanna let him know i'm interested. i am thinking about getting him a book of crossword puzzles and in the front cover like putting my nuumber?
any opinions on this idea?
That's brilliant!
I would totally go with that :]
There isn't much to be said except for good luck, love, and let me know how it goes!
xoxo
L.
hey so theres this guy... and we went out for like a week. hes indian but hes pretty good looking. but anyways we both kindaa like each other and were wicked good friends. however i feel bad because if he asks me out, i would say no... and this sounds really mean but it might be because of his looks.
like i thought to myself, if he wasnt indian and he was amazingly good looking then i would probably go out with him. i swear im not racist!! is this really bad??!
14/f
Don't be so shallow.
Look past that stupid stuff!
But if you really don't feel comfortable with im, then don't be bf/gf with him. Stay good friends, there's nothing wrong with that. You have to be REALLy comfortable with your boyfriend, so yeah.
hey so my boyfriend and i have a great relationship. we are never awkward at all and we talk ALL the time. but today i was feeling really tired and just not that talkative and i noticed after i got home from school that we didnt talk at all. and i feel like the only reason we didnt was that i didnt talk to HIM. i doubt he did it purposely but like.. he could have said something to me without me having to come up to him and say something. also he really shows he likes me when we just hang out alone, (kissing/holding hands) but at school he just like treats me like a friend and most of the time when we are around other people even out of school. i dont want him to be all lovey dovey around me when other people are around.. but it would be nice for him to do some things to remind me that he really likes me. what are some ways i can tell him this but like.. joking around kind of way. cause i dont see it as a big deal i have to confront him about really. or do you think i should just let it go?
thanks
Well first of all, he porbably doesn't show affection around you because he probably isn't into PDA {public display of affection}. Also, if you TOLD him not to do anything like that, even in a joking way, then he won't do it at all, which is a sign that he really does like you and respects you. And maybe he sensed that you didn't feel like talking, especially if you told ANYONE, because they may have told him.
I think you should talk to him. Like you mentioned before, you guys are really close and both like each other a lot, and it takes WAY more than a little confrontation to mess that up.
Hope I helped! Let me know how things go!
xoxo
L
Ok me and my GF have been going out since halloween, we were talking for like a month and half before that and I love her so much. She said that she doesnt like public display of affection. But here is the thing she hugs everone of her freinds guy or not right before class, and barley ever hugs me:S, im confuesed here cause isnt that there hugging somone affection? But sometimes i feel like she doesnt even know im alive help me??? Oh and the othere day at my house she offerd me a hand-job but how can she show her afferction for me by giving me a handjob but she cant even give me a hug?
Dump her. She OBViOUSLY isn't worth it. One of my friends had this guy that she liked/loved but she stopped. She didn't want to dump him so she tried to get him to dump her by flirting with the other guys and stuff. Girls do that; we're bitches, sorry!
xoxo
Lola.
HI,,
I really really like this guy, and he says he likes me too,, but he likes my friend,, and my friend doesnt know i like him. We have been getting on really well, and i love him, and he says he does too, but because he likes the friend of mine aswel, and my friend like him, i am stuck in the middle, and i have no idea how to sort it! I would love to be with him more than anything, but how do i tell my friend i like him??
PLEASE HELP!!
ANNA =]]
Tell Your Friend.
Simple As That.
If she is a true friend, she'll understand, and plus, if the guy finds out she likes him too, he might go out with her and if he is going to do that, that neither of him are worth it.
xsoccermaniac4x
Ok. I'll add you soon :]
there's this girl that I can't talk to well I mean I don't have enough confidence to talk to her. I don't know what to say to her but I really like her a lot give me some advice to help me.
please
do you have aim?
so i totally had a crush on this guy for a few weeks, since like, may... like 27th or something (it's june 14 today). so like, his bff is on my bus, and he's never really talked to me before, but lately he's been like acknowledging me & talking to me more.. idk why... but today, i asked him to sign my yearbook, and he wrote, "to my dearest (my name here)" and i was like omfg, do i like him?... cause yeah guys like me and all but this kid is kinda cute... and what about my crush? i think my crush hates me anyway now cause of my friend hahaha but seriously. Help.
- sined, confused
Well, even thought that guy said "TO my dearest...", that doesn`t necessarily mean he LIKE_likes you. He probably realy likes you as a friend and heard that you like his best friend, which is why he STARTED acknowledging you. Get it?
Even if he DOES like you, you shouldn`t just like him because he likes YOU. So don`t be all "omfg do i like him?!", hang out with him a little more then see where things go :]
You should forget about your other crush; he seems like old news. Try his bff instead :]
Good luck!
Let me know how things go.
I have been with my gf for about 4 months and when ever we are together its really quite! We always run out of ideas about what to talk about?
we really love each other!
ohh and by the way i'm 14/m.
does anyone have any ideas on what to do about that?
thanks so much!
Well, sine she really likes you, she`s probably just shy.
just be as crazy as you want to be with her. she won`t judge you. put your arm around her, tell her she`s beautiful, make jokes, talk about thiings she likes...
make her feel like a princess. girls love that. i`m not saying bow down and be whipped, i`m saying treat her like a piece of glass because we girls are so fragile.
talk about movies, music, shows, school, etc.
You see smart, i`m sure you`ll come up with something :]
im a 13/f and i have never kissed a boy in my life. I have never even gone out with a boy in my life. I have wavy brown hair and am about 5'4 with an athletic figure. I want to know if theres somthing wrong with me and why i cant get a bf. plz help me
There is NOTHiNG wong with you.
If you don`t liek a boy yet, that`s fine!
It doesn`t mean yer like lesbian or anything, haha. You just don`t have that intereset yet! You have bette things to do than that, right?
Hope I helped, love! But if there IS a boy out there that you fancy, then make a move and tell him!
how do you make out i know this might sound weird but i would like step by step instructions so that i will be thought as a good kisser.
-Make sure you FLOSS. No boy wants to eat and kiss at the same time [ew!]
-Do not have a mustache...wax that upper lip hair!
-Take a few mints before doing it, but don`t make it too strong.
-Apply a delicious flavored lip gloss [bubblegum, mint, cotton candy, candy apple, etc.]
-If you are going for an close mouthed kiss, practice holding your breath, because if you breathe [through your nose or your mouth] you WILL be labeled a dragon.
-If you want to OPEN mouth kiss [makeout, macking, french kiss, etc.] then when you start to slide your tounge into his, relax your tounge...no one wants a stiff, had thing darting/poking around in his mouth.
* stick out your tounge right now- relax it. then, gently move your tounge right, center, left, center and REPEAT! *
-Let the guy lead [;
-Always tilt your head RIGHT. If you haven`t already noticed, you two will be facing each other -_- and when you are, his head will be tilted right too, which would be YOUR left.
If you have any more questions, just mail me!
Hope I helped!!
Let me know what happens, love!
oh & congrats.
i`m sure he`s a hottie!
My friend (age 20 girl) that I like told me that our friend chirs (age 22 boy) ask her out over the phone. I played it cool and ask her if she seems him in that way. she said "no" I relpyed "it'll be odd and its sick to picture it" she laughed and said "i wounder how it'll be like?" "uh i dont want to know, its giving me the chills" I said. "are you sure its not the wind?" (cause I said before the I was getting chills cause the wind was blowing.) she said with a teasing smile. I rolled my eyes "no" in a whisper.
Was she making me jealous?
She want`s trying to make you jealous; she was FLiRTiNG with you. If she told you that chris asked her our & she said no, then that`s a sign that she wants you to make a move.
trust me; girls like that.
So ask her out & see [=
Good Luck babe!
16/f so there's this guy that i really like... i'm about 80% sure that he likes me... i used to be 100% positive... but latly i don't know... well anyways me and him were supposed to get together over the weekend but he stood me up... and never called... so i decided to ignor him and just blow him off... but i really like him and it really makes my day when he hugs me or anything... but i don't want him to think that he can ever do this again... so what do i do? how can i teach him a lesson while being close to him?
First of all, i`m sorry that happened to you;
no girl deserves to be treated that way.
Ok, so I think you should ignore him for two days STRAiGHT.
Then, talk to him.
Be straight up with him & tell him like it is.
Boys like that.
But the two or one day thing is a must.
But when you talk to him about it, don`t sound desprate.
Ok heres the deal my sister has been going out with his guy marlon for a couple of monthes she says she loves him, but i don't really care i don't think she is happy, cause the only thing their relationship is based off of is humor, and that they are funny people and even funnier together. But i think she should stop going with him, i mean they always agruing and why would you want that! But he's cool and everything i just want her to be with chris brown they are a lot like each other and she knows if she could she'd take him over marlon any day! But should i just leave this situation alone or take action right away!? She said that chris brown is still awesome and everything,but she would never get the chance, but i am saving up all my money so that when chris brown new cd come out in august i can buy two copies one for her and me and then tickets to when he goes on tour for the album and maybe even backstage passes so that she can see that she was wrong and i know i'm exaggerating a little, but who cares! I don't even know if they will still be together by then,but if so and i save up my money and get this and my plan don't work i'm going to hurt marlon! Just kidding! Hahahaha!
...wait what are you kidding about?
Well, I think it is NONE of your buisness what your sister does.
Leave it alone.
It`s her life.
me and my boyfriend play this game on the phone where we ask each other questions like "have you ever been in love?" and stuff like that. i need a list of questions i can ask him. thanks :]
how much do you love me?
if you were to be on an island with one person; who would that person be?
what are somme things you like about me?
they aren`t much but it`s the quality that counts, not the quantity.
Me and my boyfriend been dating for 2 years and im 16 i got pregnant and he started having phone sex with this girl and my baby is due any day now so what should i do
First of all, you have to figure out if you want to keep this baby or not- if you CAN keep this baby or not. Since you`re due any day, i`m guessing your parents already now about it. You have a few options;
-fix things with the boy; talk to him
-get a job and keep the baby; it`ll be hard though.
*at this point, abortion is not an option*
^^ obviously
OR; when you have the baby [IN THE HOSPITAL; DON`T GIVE BIRTH BY YOURSELF] give it up for adoption >> this isn`t necessarily a bad thing; if you can`t care for this baby, someone who can WILL..
to me, it sounds like your boyfriend is just running away from the problem.
tell him to think about the baby and YOU. find out who the girl is and talk to the girl, too. POLITELY. don`t go crazy mad. just be calm.
everything is going to be okay, just decide what would be good for you.
in my opinion, you can give up the baby to maybe A COUPLE you know, or someone you KNOW will be a good home for the baby.
i`m really sorry for your situation, but you can TOTALLY work things out; don`t lose hope.
please, let me know what happens & thank you for asking me this question
Hope i helped
Hey im a 13/f and i have a boyfriend that is almost 14 and he is like the sweetest guy ever. and i love him to death !! But We bolth have this thing were we wanna kiss eachother but we dont know how long we should or how intament it should be so can you help me??? should iit be a peck on the cheek or like lip locking ? we wanna lip lock but yeah can you help??
-Make sure you FLOSS. No boy wants to eat and kiss at the same time [ew!]
-Do not have a mustache...wax that upper lip hair!
-Take a few mints before doing it, but don`t make it too strong.
-Apply a delicious flavored lip gloss [bubblegum, mint, cotton candy, candy apple, etc.]
-If you are going for an close mouthed kiss, practice holding your breath, because if you breathe [through your nose or your mouth] you WILL be labeled a dragon.
-If you want to OPEN mouth kiss [makeout, macking, french kiss, etc.] then when you start to slide your tounge into his, relax your tounge...no one wants a stiff, had thing darting/poking around in his mouth.
* stick out your tounge right now- relax it. then, gently move your tounge right, center, left, center and REPEAT! *
-Let the guy lead [;
-Always tilt your head RIGHT. If you haven`t already noticed, you two will be facing each other -_- and when you are, his head will be tilted right too, which would be YOUR left.
If you have any more questions, just mail me!
Hope I helped!!
Let me know what happens, love!