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Q: why are some guys are players? and do you think nice guys arent that attractive because they are"nice"?
i think that the nice guys can be attractive to some girls

but then players
mainly it's like
girls sometimes like guys
they feel they cant have
and that's they "players'
message
to me anyway

and i know what you meann
but i think nice guys scare some girls away sometimes because they are nice and think maybe they'll get to attatched?
but usually most guys aren't like that

but i do not like players
they jus go around and hurt girls
for no reason
it's pretty pathetic if you ask me

but that's my answer =)

stick with the nicer ones
just try to see who they really are.
not what they seem to be.

Q: all the coverup stuff i get stays on for like an hour and then wears off
does anyone know of a good coverup/foundation that stays on for a really long time
because i got this 24$ stuff from ulta and it only stayed on for a while the first day i wore it
and now it stays on for like an hour
sooo help!
to tell you the truth
the make up is going to wear off
eventually... =)
but
if you use like covergirl foundation
and take your finger or a sponge and DAB
it on where you need it
it'll take a while but if you just rub
it'll come off quicker
if you dab it stays on atleast 2 -3 hours
longer

what might work is using a matte mousse
you've heard of it i bet
that works really wel but again just dab it

i've heard that there's this lotion or spray that you can put on your face to keep the makeup for wearing off or spreading. i'm not sure though

my advice:
try take an oil tissue [the tissues that take up oil from your skin] after you wash your face
then apply the concealer; dab it with your finger or a makeup sponge; then after that use some blush or what ever else you use and afterwards use some shine free or just plain powder [don't cake it on just use some to help blend in stuff]

hope i helped!
-stephh

Q: Well im 14 and i have been with my boy friend for 9 months. and lately he hasnt really been talking to. kinda like avoiding me. i dont know what i should. i mean i call him and try to talk to him. and normally we talk for a couple hours. but he tends to be like "i gotta go bye" after like 15 minutes on the phone. i dont know if its something i did.

what should i do?!
ok, well just take a deep breath and relax. Maybe he just needs some space for a little bit. You might need some too. Like not breaking up but just talking every-once in a while. Maybe he's busy and can't talk long.

If worst does come to worst
he might be interested in someone else
which is scary. Just ask him like the first 5 minutes you talk ask him and be like

hey is everything alright?

you know don't be too concerned or worried just be calm about it.

good luck!
-stephanie

Q: I'm 13/m There's this girl who I really like, and she likes me, but i don't know how to tak the next step, because I don't want us to break up and end up hating each other. Should I ask her or just let us be friends? need help plz reply
Well if you really like her and you know she likes you too just ask her. She'd proly be really happy. But don't like scare her type thing just go slow; she might not want a real fast relationship. And that's really good that you don't want you all to break up! I think you should ask her...unless you don't really like her then just be friends and see what happens from there!

-stephanie

Q: My closest female friend is always with me. We spend alot of time together. More recently when we are alone we just talk and look giddly at eachother. When laughing, she tends to lean on me and if a song or somthing comes on and we're not talking, she'll lay her head across on my lap (we're in a car). She may even move my hand so that I am holding her, and she gently takes my hand. When we are talking like this or just looking at eachother we are very close (physically). I dont know if she would want me to kiss her, in fact I think about it all the time! Whenever there is an awkward silence and we just gaze at eachother instead of doing anything we just laugh giddly. I am so unsure of what she wants. I know what I want ;-). I would have no problem hooking up with her at the every impulse or at least whenever I read the situation that asks for it. But I don't know if that is what she wants too. I don't want this to be awkward but the constant punding of my head with this confusing situation is driving me crazy! I can't just say, "hey want me to kiss you" because that would destroy any mood at the moment, and who knows! Maybe she is just expecting me to kiss her, and know what she wanted. what does she want, why won't she just say "kiss me" if she really wanted me to. Does that mean she wants to keep the relationship the way it is currently?! Should I just make the move at her and see what happens (We have hooked up before, but she always initiates). It's not that i'm afraid or anything, I just have no 'friggen clue what she wants!

*please also, don't say talk to her about it. because i've tried this. doesn't turn out properly.


so - do i make the move when i think she wants me to kiss her? even though she really hasnt made any suggestion that she wants it

any help at all is much appreciated
yea...she wants you too kiss her...it's pretty obvious. She just as worried as your are about "breaking the moment" so just follow your heart and you'll do fine.

-stephanie

Q: 15/f
me and my best guy friend started a friends with benefits relationship but we want to keep it a secret and that was a mutual decision. this has been going on for about 5months now. it has been rediculously hard not to tell my best girl friend and normally i tell her EVERYTHING. while talking to a friend of both of ours i accidentally sliped and spilled the truth to her. she was fine with it and she's a very trustworthy friend and i know she would never tell anyone about us. for about 2weeks i hadn't told my guy friend that one of our friends knew about us. finally yesterday i told him because i don't want to keep things from him. he got mad but played it off just like "w/e doesn't matter" but then when he was leaving he didn't say goodbye. he doesn't know it but i really like him alot, more than just a friend. im in love with him. i don't want to screw anything up because i really believe we have a good chance at a romantic relationship. i apologized to him many times about spilling the beans but i dont think he understands how hard it is to keep it a secret that long from my best friend either. i can sense that he's still mad and i don't know how to show him how much i really love him because we've said "i love you" to each other but it was just as friends. i know this probably sounds confusing but all im asking is how to have a meaningful apology so he'll know i'm really sorry and i really care.
Wow,

ok well just tell him. Even though we're friends with benefits i can't keep that a secret from my best friend. It's impossible. And if he gets mad then maybe he's not worth it because if he wants it a secret what's the point?

You could just tell him i'm really sorry for telling my BEST friend but i really do love you and i'm sorry i messed up. People make mistakes and i'm really sorry. Please forgive me...and what ever else you want to say

just make sure you tell him EXACTLY what you're sorry for; cause guys don't always get the point.

If talking to him doesn't work then give him space and time. And if you both really love each other...you'll figure it out.

Hope this helps!
-stephanie

Q: Hey what qualities do girls look for in guys. I have some basic ideas but just wondered.
Well i don't know. They have to be nice lol uhm understanding. I'd say kinda like a friend but u know. Uhm being a little funny helps. Not being afraid to show the girl off in front of his friends. You probably know just not thinking hard enough or something.

It's kinda hard to explain..
Hope i helped..

-stephanie

Q: im 13 and i havent kissed anyone yet.now that im going out with my b/f im a bit worried encase i do it wrong.if my b/f knew i was worrying about kissing him he would just say theres nothing to worry about.i really dont want to do it wrong.if you can give me any advice please give it. xxaoifexxx
ok well i'm 13 and i never had my first kiss...i'm just waiting for the right guy. But my friends tell me exactly what they're telling you. relaxx! just take a breath and let your heart do the talking...or kissing :D

if you want more detail the all you have to do is just lean in close your eyes and walaaa!

my best friend told me that if you want a nice 1st kiss control yourself just a little like gently kiss his lips you dont' have to be a sucktion thing. lol

www.myjellybean.com that's a good site if you need any help or tips on kissing!

Hope i helped

-stephanie

Q: so me and this guy have been best friends for about 7 years. and hes liked me before, but i didnt like him then. and now i like him...a lot, but he has a girlfriend and shes one of my good friends. i'm happy for them, and i wouldnt do ANYTHING to ruin their relationship, and i dont want to tell him because i dont want to make things awkward between us or anything. so, how can i put aside my feelings for him, and just be his best friend, without liking him, until hes available? any advice would be helpful. thanks
yea, i know exactly what you mean! Well i mean you can like him. You can't control that! If his gf is a girl you trust you might want to to tell her or just keep it a secret. Uhm...you can't "not" like him you can't control your feelings...well you can but it's hard. You can always did what i did just not think about it OR maybe MAYBE it's a thing where you just need to look for a different guy. What i did was i waited and then figured out he's a jerk but the difference is you know the guy so it might just be worth the wait..

Sorry if i didn't answer this.

-stephanie

Q: ok so i really think this guy is hot...hes from another town and i saw him at the rink when i was w/ my friends and him and his frends was lik checking me out...hes at the rink everytime we go so i really wanna talk to him...im not sure if i should tho...plz help...what should i do??
*LUCKY13*
yea...talk to him...why not? but just be careful. i know how you feel. I really liked this other guy from another town also and i thought i knew him really well and then he told me that he liked me and he kept askin me if i was single and then my best friend saw him makin out with ex. It turned out i didn't really know him at all because he was going out with her..

yep. but make sure you have a friend with ya just in case he's a total creep...*suggestion*

hope i helped.

-xLiiSTEN2URHEART

Q: 14/f , Okay so ... I like this boy that my friend likes too, this ALWAYS happens to us. Not to be mean or anything , but a lot of guys dont like her cause their really immature , cause shes uhmm kind of bigger ... But don't get me wrong .. her face is sooooo pretty, like she'd get every guy if she were skinny. Anyways, I think he might like me but I'm not sure.

Okay we were at a highschool football game and he stole my cell phone from me. I couldn't get it back for like 45 minutes , it was pretty funny but I got kinda mad at him. Anyways so I kept trying to get it back and I finally got fed up with it , so I just stuck my hand in his pocket , and I guess she saw me do that ... But he gave it to another person && so I kept on doingg that to get it back. So she got all mad at me , but I apologized so were all good.

Anyways and I was talking to him on IM and I am really hyper sometimes , so I just IM people and say their names .. but anyways so I did that to him && he goes SHORTYYYYY!(i'm like 4'11" , and hes so mean he'll get Kyle or someone to stand behind me && they have conversations over my head and he'll be like HEY WHERED MELISSA GO I CAN'T FIND HER ANYWHERE!) && then we were talking and I was like why do you have to go to your schools stupidd dance(we go to different schools and you cant go to their dances if you dont attend that school) and hes like i'm sorry to leave you there && stuff. && then i asked hey do you like emily , like as a friend? && he was like whos that? && i was like emmie ... && he goes uhm no not really , but dont tell her I told you that. So i was like okay i wasnt going to ... well what about me? && he goes OF COURSE! your my best friend! && i was like ha really? & hes like yeahh ... && then we talked a lil more && hes like hey sorry i g2g take a shower .. i'll try to get back on soon hopefully. cya bestfriend && i was like byee bffae
your friend should be ok. i was in that problem before too! it's annoying because she's my best friend and we're both really skinny and we look a lot alike but she got the guy and she had her 1st kiss with that guy!i got really jealous but when we talked it over she was tryin to tell me sorry but it all worked out. and about the guy thing it sounds to me like he likes u. i'm in 8th grade also and when guys talk to u like that it's usually meaning "hey i like u but i'm not telling u! type of thing" it makes me feel back because now i like one of my other friends crushes and it's difficult but just talk to your friend she should understand if she gets mad then just let her calm down before you try talking to her again...

hope i helped

-xLiiSTEN2URHEART ♥

Q: I am aiming for teenage guys because my question is about them and I'm hoping they can properly and honestly answer these questions...
Ok...to get to the point...I like this guy alot and we're really, really good friends...I'm wondering if I should tell him because I can't spend one day without thinking of him...and well I know that if I told him at the wrong time/place and how I say it could make all the difference...so...what I'm really asking is "Should I tell him?" and if I do..."How?"...
...any help is appreciated...thanks soo much...
i'm not a guy..but i think i might be able to help. if you really like him tell him how you feel...[it takes a lot of guts i kno!!! i'm in the same situation] and just be like at lunch or when ever you 2 are pretty much alone just tell him "hey yea u kno we're good friends? i just wanted to let you kno i really like u" something like that you don't have to use the same exact words but i hope you get the picture :] or just stay friends and just make sure he know he can tell u anything chemistry should flow pretty soon and things could start heating up. if i didn't help that much i'm sorry you could try going to this site it's helped me out a lot.. www.myjellybean.com it has like everything for teen girls i love it.

hope i did help

-xLiiSTEN2URHEART ♥

Q: and he has a girlfriend.
Me and him had kinda a summer fling and we hung out ALOT! and got really close.
I know he doesnt like me, but he does alot strange things.
For example, he used to IM me all the time online [before he had a girlfriend] and he would say "hey"
but now when he IM's me , he LOOOKS for ways to start a conversation , like he would ask me stupid questions or say random things.
Then in front of his friends he soo mean to me , but at lunch all his friends will be sitting at one table and maybe like one of his friends will be sitting at my table and he will sit at my table instead of with his girlfriend, but he wont sit next to me, he sits a few seats down.
And then he always does things to like talk to me, like he spits on me sometimes and i chase him around to hit him.
And he prank calls me with one of his friends!
But he makes fun of me in front of alot of his friends, but he like tries to be around me.
Whats the deal??
i had pretty much the same thing happen to me. guys always act different around their friends they either wanna show of or i don't know just be guys. he sounds like a major flirt to me if you wanna go out with him sometime just flirt back EVERYONCE in a while he'll eventually break up with the girl. just give it some time i wouldnt be surprised if he liked you too by the way he talks to you.

hope i helped

-STEPHANiE ♥_xx

Q: I met this boy and I really like him. Sometimes when I talk to him he seems really interested and other times he doesn't. It's like hot and cold and I don't know what to do. Should I ask him if he likes me? or should I just let him tell me eventually in his own time if he does?
oh. that's hard. here's what i would do just be his friend and eventually the romance should kick in. if your his friend both of you'll get to see the diff. sides of each other. and go for it [asking him if he likes u] life's way to short not to take chances!!! but if not because i know exactly how you feel just be his friend ; talk to him he might ask u!

hope i helped!!

-xLiiSTEN2URHEART

Q: okay well a few years ago i was going out with this kid and we broke up. well all of a sudden he starts talkin to me again. he says that he still likes me & wants to give us another shot. the problem is he lives kinda far away. i do really like him but i've been hurt so many times before that i'm not sure if i want to commit to another relationship. i do really like him though. im just really confused & anybody who can help please!
I have a friend who's in the same situation. You just have to listen to your heart (note that's my column name lol) but you have to remember that you did go out before. and what ever the reason you guys broke up was for a purpose. and if you really like him then go out with him...but no matter what you will get hurt...every guy hurts you...i've been hurt many many times but it's part of life and everytime you get hurt you get stronger and you start choosing a better guy. and i can tell you is you need to clear your mind first and then come to a conclusion. Go out with some friends and don't think about it. and then when he asks you or call you again then you can say yes or no.Well i hoped that helped!!!

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: Im 16 and ive never really been kissed. I have..but not a full makeout session or nothing. All my friends are very experienced in that department..and it makes me feel like awkward when they talk about that stuff because i dont really know. Is it bad that im 16 and still havent "madeout" with a guy?
This is my opinion but honestly i don't think that making out is like all that great. ya you do it but it's over with after that so i mean it's just a kiss...just more deep. and if u haven't "madeout" with a guy you will....eventually...it just might take some time so don't give your hopes up and trust me your lucky to even have been kissed like kissed i know some people who haven't even had their first kiss yet and they're 14-17 so don't worry...it'll happen...but kissing is kissing and like i dont' know to me making out with a guy isn't real important.

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: im 16, male. i have been out with this guy before, andi broke his heart. i still love him and he says he still loves me but he has a boyfreind. i would do anything to have him back but he says he just can't trust me. were getting along great now but i still want him back.
hmm. i would just keep it going and like don't push it or anything cause you dont want to loose him. and i dont think you broke his heart if he still loves you!

-Steph

Q: i might get some really stupid immature answers to this but whatever
i was wondering what guys think about girls who are naturally a bit more hairy than other girls, like darker hair on their arms for example. usually among girls its understood as being beyond your control since its because of your background, but i dunno if guys only see it as like 'eww, gross, shes hairier than me'. i just wanted to know if they are, in general, bothered by it or if they dont care. (doesnt only have to be guys who answer this, by the way)
thx!
No! I don't have dark hair but i do have a little more than normal (i was a preme lol) but we can't help it plus guyz shouldn't really care "how much hair you have" that's just plain weird if they're only looking ont he outside beauty...if you talkin about a certain guy he ain't worth it if he's judgin u by how much hair you have!

Q: Ok i've been stuck on this one thing scense september i like this guy and i've only talked to him twice sence september and friday is the last day i get to see him and i really am trying to work up the courage to talk to him and it sounds easy in my head but it really isn't personaly so if you could tell me what to do that would really be great!
Ok well first just like take a deep breath and tell yourself you can talk to him. I liked this guy and his locker was right by mine! Lucky me lol but i mean i would just say random things like what book do we need for 5th period? stuff like that and after a while i actually told a friend that i liked him and she asked him out and he said YES! but eventually we found out that we didn't have that much in common but first i would just like talk to him and see how he acts to certain questions. keep them within school functions and i'm still friends with my ex but i have his cell number an we still talk so you never kno you could be good friends or "friends with benefits" lol but just one thing to remember;:
BE URSELF!

hope it all goes well!!!
-steph

bio
xLiisten2urheart
alright well 1st off my name is Stephanie.
i'm 13... in 8th grade


i cheered my 8th grade year. i didn't cheer 6 or 7th [that was volleyball]

i love sports



i love God!




uhm. anything else i guess just i.m. me


-Stephanie


p.s. i'll proly get a new column soon. xLiisten2urheart the name is getting boring. lol...but then again i might wait a while.

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