Name is Rebecca. I live in the great ATL. People always seem to come to me for advice and I have not figured out why yet, so I decided to give this a shot. Be warned, if you ask a question, I will and only will give the honest truth. The truth may hurt like hell.
Voltaire (french philosopher) once said:
One of the chief misfortunes of honest people is that they are cowardly.
Gender: Female
Location: Oklahoma but live in Georgia
Occupation: school/looking for full time job
Age: 22
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k theres this guy lets call him eric, and were like bff's but 2 days ago he said he loved me more than a friend &&i reacted badly and told me ididnt see him that way && a day later he started dating anotehr chick and tells her he loves her but never tells me he loves her is it just me or dusnt this make sense ?? is he just somneone to avoid b/c he tells people he loves them regardless or is he doing it to get over me? idk. help.plz! x0x (link)
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He is trying to make you jealous. Just be happy for them and stay his friend.
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my boyfriend thinks its hot when i call him daddy, but i feel wierd calling him that, but i want to cause he likes it, how do i get over it and jus be able to?? lol (link)
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Try changing it up a bit! Like instead of "daddy", call him Big Papa, Big Daddy, Papi (if you aren't Hispanic) and other words that can go with daddy
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how long does it take for a guy to say he loves you when you know he truly cares for you?
The first time I fell in love I told the guy I loved him after a month, I was also 14 and probably didn't know what love was. But the point is he got freaked out.
Now with my current boyfriend we've been dating for a month and a half and he is the most classy respectful guy I have ever met. I didn't even knew they existed in this decade. Flowers, candles, cooks for me..the whole 9 yards. He's told me how crazy he is for me and he told me that he could picture being with me for life. His best friend is my best friend's boyfriend and even he says that he's never seen him like this before.
I know people don't fall in love overnight and we're not the type of couple who date for a week and start saying things like "I love you, you're my everything, I can't live without you"
anyway..so I was just wondering. How long did it take your guy to say it..and mean it? (link)
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Depends on the guy, I think he is telling you he loves you through what he does...he is just not ready to openly admit that he has more of a soft, squishy side to him that he never thought he had. He will tell you when he is ready and it might freak him out or he may feel very relieved he got it off his chest! Just be happy with where you two are in the now and don't pressure him into saying it. =]
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i cheated on my bf. he forgave me and it has been 5 months since the cheating. he is having a hard time trusting me but is doing his best. i dont want to rush him with it. but i do want him to let me hang out with my guy/girl friends, without worrying. i dont want him to let me go to parties and trust me because thats silly. how can i help him or make it easier. (link)
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I give him high credits for giving you another chance and trusting you [or attempting to trust you again]. It is hard to gain back the trust of someone you love and you, let's just put it out there as it is, stabbed them in the back. Yes, it has been 5 months, but this takes time. Call/text,invite him to tag along. If he says no, then text him and let him know what you and your friends are doing, or call him and say things like "I wish you were here". If you find yourself about to cheat again....here is an awesome tip...get the hell out of there. =)
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Here is my story. Sorry this is long, pls bear with me.
I was in a long in a 7-year relationship with my ex. He is a good man and loyal but I felt taken for granted in the relationship. After 7 years I decided to break-up. He ended up sending me txts msgs though I never replied. Two months after I met my current boyfriend. He is sweet, makes me feel so important, special and loved. We are happy together but since my current and I are both living in a country different from ours, he was sent home due to some immigration problems. He is not back until now (over a yr now) but we commucate evryday thru chat and phone. He has been doing successful business before but things has changed, now he is financially broke and his attempts to do business again always failed. Six months after I met my current boyfriend, my ex came back being more persistent, almost crying and begging to take him back. He said, he has now relaized all the mistakes he has done and he has now changed and even proposed a marriage. At first, I ignored him but as several months passed by becoz of his persistence and my confusion with my current relationship I open the communication with my ex again. I am already 30 yrs old and I want to get married soon, I don't want to play games, this situation is making me crazy. I know my ex is obviously the better choice but I feel I love and miss my current boyfriend BUT his financial situation is scaring me. I don't mean to depend on him, I have a good job and can take care of myself but I also want a husband who is financially stable and can help me build a good family financially. My ex, is a good man, financially stable, ready and available right now but my feelings for him has changed, it isnt like before. I really don't know what to do. I know the best thing is to leave them both, be by myself but I am just so scared basically of everything (of hurting any of them, of maybe realising I made a mistake and will regret my decision(if I choose the ex or current) forever , of being guilty to leave my current in his lowest, of deciding to choose one and finally realize I still love the other and be in pain of missing him, of being alone. I am petrified. I just feel sick and crazy. I sometimes really have no idea who is the one I love anymore, I don't know love and complete happiness anymore and I really dont know what to do! Help pls..Thank you!
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If you truly love your current boyfriend, you will stick by him no matter what. But, if you are looking for a man who will provide you with financial security and a family, maybe your current one isn't the one for you. You have to ask yourself this: "Why did I feel like I was being taken for granted from [ex boyfriend's name here]?" "Will I feel the same after another 7 years?" Sometimes the hardest things we need to do are the things we must do to ensure OUR OWN happiness, and sometimes you do need to be selfish and take care of yourself first. The question is...what do you want out of life and who is best to give you what you, yourself, wants?
Nothing in this life is ever easy, if it was easy...we would all be bored out of our minds.
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everytime i really like a quy i work so hard to qet him. he eventually starts likinq me then i stop likinq him. i know im not akward around quys because i only have like three err four chick friends then the rest are quys. i love hanqinq out with quys. its like my comfort zone. ahha. butt i dont know whats up with that. i just randomly stop likinq the quy &nd he thinks i was just tryinq to waste his time &nd stuff.
any ideas what miqht be wronq with me ? (link)
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You are 14. That is what is wrong. You should be focusing on your future and school not on who the next guy will be your boyfriend and the next week or so, you are tired of each other. I say, sure go ahead and like each other...as you get older it will become more and more clear on who and what you want. Don't worry about it now.
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when something goes wrong between my boyfriend, M, and me, i totally lose it. i just get so depressed and pissed off and it gets on everyones nerves. the thing is, i really love him. but im so scared that if something goes wrong, ill lose him again. (he broke up with me twice before..)
im pretty sure hes sick of his high maintinance girlfriend anyways. im sick of being a naggy bitch, but i dont know what else to do. how can i talk to him about this without him thinking im totally obsessed? (link)
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stop being high maintenance. simply put.
he is with you.
he dumped you twice...figure out why...change it if you don't want to lose him. men will not keep chasing you if you keep pushing them away, they eventually get that shit out of their heads and move on and find someone new.
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please dont judge me.. but i have a boyfriend and i care about him soooo much. the problem is before we were official i was getting some from this guy i also kinda liked but it would never work for us to date. and we had txt sex pretty often. i went official with my bf but ive still been having some txt sex with the other guy. i feel SOO bad and after trying to stop but getting pulled back in i finally said NO MORE. if i told him hed hate me and dump me and it would break my heart. weve only been dating so far for 2 weeks and we see so much potential i couldnt have that happen. the reason i did is because he and i r pretty conservative and idk the guy would txt me late at night and be all horny and so was i. but now im sitting here crying feeling so awful. what should i do? please help me. and please dont judge. please..it hurts enough. but i kno i dont deserve him. :( (link)
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*sighs* This is hard. I know if my man cheated on me, I would NOT want to know because him and I have such an amazing thing going. But, sometimes things come out of the open when you are not wanting it to. Guilt is a horrible thing, if you think your guilt is eating you up enough and your guilt is putting you through enough punishment to the point where you know for a fact you will NOT do it again, I would keep it quiet. Some people are different though, sometimes the guilt is so bad they cannot eat, sleep, function daily through life so they need to get it off their chest. It just always depends on who you are as a person.
Personally, I beat myself up enough damn times when I know I have done something wrong and I ALWAYS come out and apologize to whom ever I done wrong to.
Hope this helps.
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I AM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT MY BF. TO START OF WITH he is 11 and i am 16 and WE STARTING GOING OUT LAST AUGUST TILL EARLY THIS MONTH WHEN HE DUMPED ME AND A WEEK LATER HE TOLD ME HE DIDNT WANT TO DUMP ME HIS BRAIN TOLD HIM TO AND HE STILL LOVED ME AND WE TALKED AND GOT BACK TOGETHER AND HE TOLD ME HE HAS ADHD AND IED. Then now he keeps saying he hears voices telling him to join them in hell and how he hates his life and wants to kill himself and he worried me the other night cause we were talking and then he changed and started saying stuff like i hear the bells ringing hahaha bye im goin to kill myself and he went and i was worried and i even had to phone his sister to see if he was alright as he switched his phone off and she said he was unhappy. then last nite it happened again me, him and his mate were talking and he changed and started saying stuff and then didnt rember and then he went he was coughinh up blood and his mom was talking with him and he went off and i am so worried about him cause i love him so much and i dont know what to do i just wanna be with him and help him but i dont know how........ (link)
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Problem one: you are 16. he is 11.
Problem two: you need to tell his parents or his school counselor.
Problem three: if you are with an 11 year old BOY. you need help.
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How can u knw if a guy realy like u? (link)
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Broad question.
Men are confusing, not as confusing as women because let's face it...we work on emotions. Men, however, do not. Like Victoria said, men are all different in their way of handling the crush thing. If he texts you, calls you, asks to hang out, wants to know how your day is going....it is a sure sign that he does like you. If you get those punk guys who tease you a lot for the simple things...maybe a sign of him being into you or not.
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