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Q: im 19 yrs old, college sophomore, i met my ex "james" when i was a senior in high school. strangley enough my friend "pat" put my pic up on hot or not and "james" saw it and clicked meet me. come to find out he went to my high school and graduated a few years ahead of me. his brother was also one of my high school friends.
he was in the army when i met him, (this was in december of my high school year) he had been over seas for 2 years. we talked online and on the phone to eachother every chance we got and he came down on leave for his brothes grad party which i was invited to because his brother and i were friends.
we started hanging out and eventually dating. i broke up with him before i left for college because i didnt want to worry about having a bf and his school and mine were 2 hours apart. he told me he loved me but i broke up with him reguardless
he now has a gf "kerry". he started dating her 2 months after we broke up. apparently he used to date her before he left for iraq. they have been dating ever since.
well the reason i am writing is because after him and i broke it off we still continuted to talk and even hang out on occasion. he has been cheating on "kerry" with me for the past month and 1/2.
"james" tells me that he is probably going back overseas to fight in october. he told me that i should get over him because he isnt sure when or if he is going to come back. and i deserve a guy who is going to be there for me(he is sched for 2 years over there. i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he is still with "kerry" because he loves her or if its not the right time to break up with her or if he is going to break it off when he goes, if he loves me still i just dont know what to think. i need someone to look at the situation from another stand point and give me some advice, i am at a total loss.
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Well, my first concern about your relationship is probably the fact that he is "cheating" on his actual girlfriend with you. It seems like this should bother you, and you should be concerned about the feelings of the other girl. Not to branch off, but have you really talked to him about the fact that he's dating someone else? If not, then you definitely should.
If a guy thinks that he can get away with that kind of a betrayal, no matter who the girl is, he's got another thing coming to him. My opinion is that you shouldn't let this happen--if he really does love you, then he should tell this "Kerry" what's happening.
From my standpoint, it doesn't really seem that this guy loves you. If he loved you, he wouldn't be dating another woman, and if he breaks up with you, and doesn't break up with her... not to be blunt, but I think he probably doesn't have true feelings for you.
All in all--there are definitely better fish in the sea, don't date any guy unless he means it; and if he tries to date two at the same time, he obviously doesn't.
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Q: I was just curious to know if it was wierd that Im in 8th grade and have never had a first kiss? Part of it is that I am too nervous but I just wanted to know...ThAnX I RaTe HiGh!! Maddie 15/f
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Of course it's not weird! Lots of people don't even get their first kisses until High School, or even College, and it's completely normal. A lot of young girls assume that since their friends, or the people in movies or books and telivision seem to always get their first kisses at ten or twelve, that's when they should have their first kisses at that age too.
Well, it's not true. I didn't get my first kiss until last summer, and that was after my sophomore year in high school. You definitely don't have to push yourself to kiss some guy that you don't even like because you want your first kiss over with.
Just don't worry about it, and when it happens, you'll have a good memory--not a bad one.
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I am lately known as the siberian headcheese of all meat bi-products, if life were the deli section of a supermarket.
Except not really.
I reside in a little house in extreme-northern california, and sometimes I come out and play the trombone. I am also seventeen. And a bookworm hockey playing extraordinare.
I suck at these things, really. So just take my word for it.
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Norcal. The wild suburbian northwest. Occupation: licenced assasin Age: 17 AIM: Yahoo: MSN: musicalgumball@hotmail.com Member Since: May 14, 2005 Answers: 12 Last Update: August 13, 2005 Visitors: 2247
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